@katm89 my god woman, rest your body and your mind today!! You don't even think about cleaning either. Relax, watch tv, snooze in bed and rest up because little one will be here before you know it and your house will go to hell in like 2 seconds anyway so don't worry yourself too much over it now. You deserve a break!!!
I had this whole plan of powering through work until it was time to go to the hospital but I reached a breaking point this week. LO is due in 3 days and I've been working tons of OT at work, which is making me swell more and causing more pain, as well as stressing me out. It's also getting more difficult to hide contractions at work as each day they seem to get stronger or hurt more! I went to HR and I officially start my leave on Monday, which is my due date! Saturday will be my last day at work. I feel bad I didn't hang in there until the end but I just can't do it anymore.
I was due on Monday and baby didn't come until induction on Wednesday. Like most of you I wanted to work right up until labor started. I finished things up in the office last Friday though, hopeful that I'd have the baby by my due date. When that didn't happen, I decided on Monday morning that I was just going to work from home and at least put in half days. Good or bad, I ended up being super busy (as expected they were not really prepared for my leave so I had to deal with a ton of last min stuff), I only ended up taking 1.5 hours of vacation time over those 2 days.
I told my job multiple times that I may go early for this pregnancy and they might want to consider staffing me as extra the last week or two. I suggested it more than once. Well I went two weeks early and I hear through the grape vine that they are having a hard time covering my shifts because of another unexpected FMLA. #sorrynotsorry
What is with the reoccurring theme with all of our jobs not understanding that we are all pregnant and that means we will A. At some point leave work B. Be absent for a long time after birth and C. No we don't know the exact date of when this will be (but it sure would be nice to know the exact date of our LOs arrivals).
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My boss has been awesome. Not gonna lie, I get pretty crap pay for all I do/education level/experience. However, the flexibility I have and support given to me make it well worth it while I'm pregnant. It's still a struggle to be at work tho. My mind doesn't want to work, and it's uncomfortable to sit. I've been trying to just do baby steps towards stuff I know needs to get done. It doesn't help that I'm in my "slow" season and I normally am on vacation right now...
I don't know how I will get through this week if baby doesn't come. I am mentally checked out at this point and have been for a while. There is only so much faking I can do.
@LWC1112 I think most people understand at this point.
@JournoGrl23 hang in there due date buddy... I have resigned to the fact that I will most likely start leave at 41 weeks even without the baby... I'm forcing myself to finish this week... but I'm not going to be a quality employee... Rest up.. I know I needed that friday...
@Mrsrundell I rested alot on friday.. and definitely needed it. I cleaned the kitchen and downstairs while watching greys anatomy... and DH came home and cleaned what I couldn't get to... it made it so much easier for me to relax knowing the place is clean... sucks to know it will be destroyed as soon as I get home haha... its going to drive me nuts while I recover.. and God help me if I have a c-section and need a longer recovery.
@emmeline714 I am at work... and my boss is going to meet with me this afternoon to give me a new project. I've been having back cramps since I got here... its so irritating... very much like period stuff... not painful... but like so irritating you can't stand it... and its making me nauseous...
its also like a huge tease... because I need to hide the contractions at work... especially if they aren't going to lead to a baby... but like what if they are!? who knows! ugh
So, my mother seriously wrote me an email today... ( since its my due date) asking my plans for working and how she hopes I'm not still driving... um.. thanks that's the email I wanted today when I already kind of feel sorry for myself because I'm still pregnant...
@emmeline714 I think I may work from home on wednesday because the pest people are coming back to spray for ants... haven't decided if I'm going to come in for a half day and then go home and work... do you feel like you actually get anything done while working from home?
Still working even though I'm now officially over due. However, I did take the entire day off today since I have a doctors appt. I just needed the day for my own sanity! I just have to remind myself that every day I go to work is a day I get to stay home with the baby!
@JEMN I agree about forcing yourself to keep going in order to spend more time with baby... its so tough.. taking a mental health day is so smart. I will be working from home wednesday and I am so looking forward to that.
@jemn that is exactly my thought process. I am exhausted and would love to say home but then I lose that day with the baby later, so I know I would regret it. I still have over a week left and am so over this. So sorry you are overdue. Hope things get started ASAP!
I go back to the Dr. tomorrow and if I don't get an induction date for this week, I'm going to ask my boss to put me back in for a couple days this week. I have an ultrasound this afternoon to see how big he is.
@Katm89 i have been getting things done but taking cat naps and then get waken from the phone ringing and also just on the couch watching the olympics lol my mom is here in case contractions get so close together been feeling crampy today and she is making lunch right now i can smell it
@Katm89 hahahaha i took several cat naps then i got busy and now I am not looking forward to work but have doc appt in the AM so hope water breaks at docs appt lol since i been crampy all day long and loosing mucus plug as i go pee each time crossing everything i can to have baby girl but not hopes held on high think just wishful thinking
@Katm89 yes same here, I seriously did not want to come in the office today almost stayed at home but i pushed myself the pastors daughter for the english service at church is also past her due date we are just like 4 days apart from due dates of eachother and she has had no baby either I told her we should go running up a hill maybe they will come out
@emmeline714 I tried everything last week to get the baby out... I walked... did ten squats everytime I peed... it did help me dilate more but it made my vagina soooo sore.. so be careful... the ladies at work asked if I wanted to go for a walk across campus( i had been going) but I turned it down today... I figure if I have one more week I better not get that sore again... I'm almost tapering off like someone does right before a marathon.. I don't want to be sore and exhausted the night I go into labor
@Katm89 so i thought going to the mall for a walk was a good idea yesterday, I was having contractions and cramps then today i just feel the worst I really want her out, I feel emotional today because she is just teasing me and the pains are too
@Katm89 i hope so, I feel like I am going to cry at this point and when I go to see the OB, feel like I can't hold much longer, hope you do have baby soon, all this work with carrying our babies the reward should be around the corner
@Katm89 I know in an hour I go see the doc and time is going slower than a sloth. I have to deal with complaints and a million things I am ready to just be so done coming to the office, the drive I dread as well and road rage is over the top with me as well
Ugh i'm working from home and i'm still miserable and not getting anything done. it's really me and my one coworker who manage a lot of projects so i definitely feel bad that he's getting the brunt of my current laziness, but he's also a friend and super understanding thankfully.
I wish i could guarantee that i'd deliver by Sunday and not work next week. If i could do that, i'd just take vacation days for the rest of this week!
@caitlinj187 Oh I wish we knew too... like if I knew I would deliver before 41 weeks I would just start leave now... I may start leave at 41 weeks... but it would suck sitting around waiting for a week.
@Katm89 i know!! i've been bombarded by texts this morning. the most hopeful from my mom saying she went into labor at 4pm the night before her due date, and had me at 1 in the morning. i would love to leave today as my last full day of work! FX for you too... I hope both of us are baby in hand by Monday!
@caitlinj187 I wish... My sister flies back to TX on Sat... and I just booked my ultrasound appt for monday when I'm 41 weeks... its so depressing... I just feel like I've failed everyone a bit... and may have to take a personal day monday...because the ultrasound will most likely be during the day
@katm89 I totally understand, but remember you haven't failed anyone! And the most important person you aren't failing is your LO. This is only the first of many sacrifices we will continue to make for our children, and they will come first compared to family, friends, work, etc.
Also remember, baby has to come out sometime... so no matter what you are in the home stretch!!
@Hannah0726 I was like... "its fine" lol... in the end I can choose what my baby can handle.. and other people are just going to have to respect that.. and he was like omg.. and I told him its about as loud as a vacuum cleaner.. and babies love that
Re: coping w/ working in 3rd tri
Good luck to you all, it's tough!!
What is with the reoccurring theme with all
of our jobs not understanding that we are all pregnant and that means we will A. At some
point leave work B. Be absent for a long time after birth and C. No we don't know the exact date of when this will be (but it sure would be nice to know the exact date of our LOs arrivals).
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@JournoGrl23 hang in there due date buddy... I have resigned to the fact that I will most likely start leave at 41 weeks even without the baby... I'm forcing myself to finish this week... but I'm not going to be a quality employee... Rest up.. I know I needed that friday...
@Mrsrundell I rested alot on friday.. and definitely needed it. I cleaned the kitchen and downstairs while watching greys anatomy... and DH came home and cleaned what I couldn't get to... it made it so much easier for me to relax knowing the place is clean... sucks to know it will be destroyed as soon as I get home haha... its going to drive me nuts while I recover.. and God help me if I have a c-section and need a longer recovery.
its also like a huge tease... because I need to hide the contractions at work... especially if they aren't going to lead to a baby... but like what if they are!? who knows! ugh
I wish i could guarantee that i'd deliver by Sunday and not work next week. If i could do that, i'd just take vacation days for the rest of this week!
Also remember, baby has to come out sometime... so no matter what you are in the home stretch!!