August 2016 Moms

BITCHFEST MONDAY!!!! 7/18

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Re: BITCHFEST MONDAY!!!! 7/18

  • Guess I'll start...  

    I love my job, I really do, but it is very demanding and can be stressful at times just bc I'm so busy.  I have projects assigned to me and for the last month I've been trying to get other people involved with my projects so that everything is covered when I'm out on leave.  This hasn't been working out very well, and I continue to be the main contact on everything.  I have mandatory meetings scheduled the week I'm due with no back up plan.  I have stuff that I know I need to get done before I'm out on leave bc I'm the only person who has the information, and I'm running out of time and energy.  I'm not one to ask for help, so I was hoping that my requests lately would have been taken more seriously.  Now I'm just adding the pressure and work stress to everything we need to do to get ready for LO, plus make sure I'm spending time with my 3 year old before his entire world changes.  

    I had to work over the weekend and I wasn't happy about it. I'm 37 weeks today, and I have my son about a week early, so...
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  • I went to my usual prenatal yoga class yesterday but they had a new sub teaching the class. It was horrible, and I am so sore today! This girl had never been pregnant before, and I think was new to teaching in general. The whole class was down-up-down-up-down-up (which is hard when you have shortness of breath and dizziness issues), and every time we went "down" she would have us do a plank and hold it.I'm sorry but doing that many planks is hard for anyone, but especially when you're pregnant and you have an extra 20-30 pounds around your midsection! I knew within about 15 minutes that I wanted to leave early, but I didn't because I didn't want to be rude. I eventually stopped doing the planks and went right into downward dog most times. But today my back hurts and my abdominal muscles (what's left of them) are so sore. I don't go to prenatal yoga to get an ass-kicking workout, and I don't think anyone else does either. You go to open up parts of your body that are cramped and scrunched from bearing extra weight, stretch out your back and hips, and get a moderate "flow" type workout. I am tempted to email the studio and complain, because they always say they welcome feedback, but I don't know. I want to keep going there and I don't want them to think I am a difficult customer or something.  
  • Snaps816Snaps816 member
    edited July 2016
    Edited because duplicate post... that's weird. 
  • @Snaps816 I'm super impressed you did any planks! I probably would've just sat there or left! I can imagine how sore you are today though, ouch!
  • @Snaps816 yea I'd be in pain on a good not pregnant day even if I was doing yoga regularly! You should email the studio so they don't let her sub again for prenatal, or let her know what is appropriate for the class. She was probably clueless and thought she was going easy. 
    I was doing yoga on my living room floor at 1am because my back hurt so bad last night. It really helped. I'm afraid this baby is going to give me back labor, which I didn't have with the first two. Hopefully little man moves enough before labor!
  • @kwilliams3402 That sounds tough! I hope you get a sympathetic judge. 
  • my bitch is to my hips and thigs they hurt a lot and is this day over yet, done so much already and just ready to go home
  • @kwilliams3402 I want to be you for a day!!! I've always thought being a lawyer must be so interesting. I feel you though, existing right now means a lot of crummy shit lol. I'll be thinking of you! Hopefully it goes quick and you aren't stuck forever miserable. 
  • @searchingforameaning... I think they changed it to keep docs from inducing before 39 weeks without good medical reason. And that a lot of babies born at 37 weeks aren't quite ready. And sometimes they're wrong on dates. But I'm pretty sure they still consider a premie to be 36 weeks or less, so 37 and 38 weeks are now limbo? My first baby was born at 37 weeks, but once she was born they decided she was really only 36 weeks. She spent 16 days in the nicu. 

  • sbelle474sbelle474 member
    edited July 2016

    Edited because I am idiot and posted on the wrong thread.  :)

  • Why did they change the rules. Old rules said that 37 weeks was full term. Now you have to be 39 weeks to be full term?!?!?!?!? I don't want to wait another 2 full weeks to celebrate being 'full term'. I am sticking to the old rules.
    It's been a few years. Technically 37 is term but 39 is full term. There's still plenty of growing left to do between 37-39 weeks (lungs are one of the last things to fully develope). DS was born in 2013 at 36w 3d and it wasn't until after he was born that they changed the terms. But I agree with it because at the time he was only a few days away from "full term" but his latch was awful, etc. 
  • @Stephanie7693
    My first two were born at 38 weeks and had no issues. 7lbs 10 oz for first. 8lbs 11 oz for the second. 
    I am hopeful that this baby got the 38 week memo too. ;)
    Married - 4/7/07
    Son #1- 2/15/08
    Son #2- 8/18/10
    Baby 3 due 8/8/16
  • Yep, my 2nd was born at 38 weeks perfectly healthy,  so I'm hoping for 38 weeks with this one! Which would be Wednesday for me!
  • I think 37 is now considered 'early term' and 39 is officially 'full term'. 
  • Thank you DH for the ... dramatic ... "lunch" break. He locked himself out of our house when he ran home for lunch. And of course his car keys were inside too...

    Feeling super stressed about it since he just started a new job last week and was 15 minutes late getting back from lunch (he called to let them know what was going on.) Unfortunately I am 30 minutes from home at work, so that was the soonest I could get there.

    Then I get back and my annoying co worker - who is going through menopause - has changed the AC temp again. It was 77 in my office. We've all agreed to set the thermostat to 73 and not touch it - except her. "I'm cold!" and it migrates up to 76 "Oh I'm hot!" and it's down at 68. Stop. Touching. The. Damn. Thing!





  • Mine is that a few playing cards went into the wash with my dd's clothes and most everything came out with blue dye marks all over it.  Almost her entire summer wardrobe and a few things for fall/winter are ruined.  I actually would have cared less if it were my wardrobe.  
  • My bitchfest for the day: We found out over the weekend that my husband's parents are both going to be out of town from August 6th to August 10th (I'm due on the 6th). They had previously agreed to help with our kids when we're in the hospital/in labor/etc. but now I guess their 16-year-old daughter was accepted into some national debate thing like 9 hours away, so they apparently both have to go with her because she needs someone to drive her there (side note: she has a license, and I see no reason that just ONE of them couldn't go, considering they can't actually attend the event and are literally just going to give her a ride). 

    I already feel kind of shunned by my in-laws because they were initially going to throw us a shower and then just...didn't. And I really just don't feel ANY excitement from that side of the family over this baby. So this, on top of everything else, is kind of a slap in the face. IMHO newborn baby grandson should trump 16-year-old's high school debate thing...or at least should be important enough that only ONE of them miss it. Now I'm freaking out because my daughter came 2 days after her due date, and I'm worried that this one will follow suit. If he does, I'm not sure what we're doing with our two older kids when I go into labor or on the night that we stay in the hospital. I started eating spicy food and pineapple today (I'm 37w2d) in the hopes that I'll miraculously go into labor before my EDD, but I know that stuff only works if your body is really "ready". 

    On top of all that...I just learned that the kids have a "back to school night" on August 8th where we're supposed to go turn in paperwork for school, meet teachers, etc., and then they start school on the 10th. So basically, I NEED this baby to either come early, or come over 5 days late. I really don't want to miss my daughter's first day of Kindergarten... Blehhhh.
    Me: 25  DH: 28

    Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
    BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
    BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
    BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16

    "Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
  • @1faceinacrowd Hope it works out! That is tough. I hate not knowing when he is coming. Oh you know - sometime between now and eternity. Aka, September 1st.




  • Yet another MIL related bitch. So DH and I haven't quite decided how we are doing the hospital visits yet. We are scheduled at 9:15 for a c section so we know that even on schedule it will probably be after 12 before we are back in our room. Then the hospital has quiet time from 2-4, so we told my parents(who will have DD) that they can just come up to the hospital after that to meet LO. DH told his parents that no one is allowed to be at the hospital waiting for us to come out of surgery because who needs that stress and also no one is meeting him before DD. Even if she won't remember meeting her brother for the first time, I will. 

    So so yesterday at my shower MIL was talking to my sister and said "well no one is allowed up to the hospital the day he is born according to me and DH." My sister replied with "well I work till 4 that day so it'll be after that before I can get up there to meet him" to which MIL replies "or the next day because no one is allowed at the hospital the day of."

    First of all we haven't even said anything to his family regarding visits at all except that no one is allowed to visit until after DD. I know DH hasn't said anything to his family about not coming up the day of because we haven't even discussed it but briefly and that was yesterday AFTER my shower. 

    I am not about to deal with stupid drama surrounding the birth of our son. If they want to act like children we will treat them like children and not allow them to visit at all. I am so sick of dealing with petty, childish in laws. And to top it all off, DHs grandma didn't end up coming to the shower because who knows why. 
  • My bitchfest for today is for baby. Had my weekly appointment--not dilated and baby hasn't dropped. I hit 38 weeks Thursday, but I am so ready to have this baby out, I almost started crying when the doctor told me it wasn't likely to happen soon. I think part of it is just being more and more uncomfortable every day and part of it is that I start work on August 22 at a new job (not working currently), so I would really love for baby to come before the due date (Aug 4)! I know it's silly, but once I hit early term last week and knew that if labor did start, we were having a baby (i.e., they wouldn't try to stop it and baby should be fine), I am so anxious to just get the baby out. 

    Married May 2014
    DD born August 2016
    Baby #2 due December 2017
  • @lynnlove28 - So sorry to hear about the drama.  My parents and MIL are all planning to come the day the baby is born and stay for a few days, and I worry they'll try to camp out in the hospital all day every day.
  • @cait5413 - Totally feel you... complete ditto.  I had hoped at my 36 week visit that having a baby measuring so big on sono the week before and being so uncomfortable would mean maybe I was a tad dilated or baby was making some progress, but nope.  I know it's better for him to cook longer, but man, am I over being pregnant.

  • I had my 37 week appointment today with the Dr. in the practice I don't really like. He casually mentioned that if I am still PG next week and want baby out we can induce at 39 weeks. I had DD1 early (36 weeks) due to pre eclampsia. I thought the goal with DD2 is to keep her in and both of us healthy as long as possible. Why would you bring up induction when NOTHING this pregnancy has given any indication of a problem? Yes, I'm uncomfortable and would love to have an "eviction date" but I also know she will come when she's ready and I don't want unnecessary interventions that could lead to complications. I absolutely despise this Dr. and wish I could completely avoid him but it's not how the practice and on call schedule works. 
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  • @mfuller76 I can sort of relate. We got an email last week that they are going to demo our bathroom on our floor and that it will take the next 5 weeks. We have to use the bathroom on another floor now. I go to the bathroom at least once an hour it seems and our elevators are ridiculously slow. So much wasted time and I have to be really careful because when it hits, I've got to go!
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  • @Snaps816 Oooh, I hope you're wrong, but I bet you're right. Let us know! I hate those things.
      


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  • @karasz I cannot believe your in laws. I am glad you stood up for your LO.  I agree that it is better to stop that behavior the first time. I hope that your DH agrees as it was his parents that were in the wrong. 
  • @jacmkelley That sucks. There is no easy way around it, and no good choices for anyone. You did the right thing for your family - It still sucks. 




  • @jacmkelley I'm so sorry. That's tough for all of you :(
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