That gif is oddly mesmerizing. Unstable confession of the day: Yesterday was national ice cream day. I cried in bed last night because hubby didn't know I wanted him to offer getting us ice cream after dinner and so I missed out. Yep that's where things are at here...
@theshannondee I cried because I wanted to get ice cream and DH didn't. That part was OK, what I was upset about was that I needed to either drive DH's truck or he would need to move it so I could use my car. Why this was a crisis I'm not sure, but I was REALLY upset that I needed to use his vehicle or "inconvenience" him to move his truck. I'm sure I'm absolutely lovely to live with right now.
@theshannondee - I was upset about National ice-cream day too because DH has gained a little weight and is very upset about it (as I would be too pre-pregnancy). I felt bad about being a bad influence so I skipped out on a Friend-Z last night.
Totally going to get one after my OB appt and induction talk today (without DH). I think at this point I deserve it. Hope you're able to get some today too!
When you're pregnant or postpartum, every day should be national ice-cream day. Don't be sad @schaze...no places near me gave out discounts or anything...make today your own personal ice-cream day!
My in laws for most of the pregnancy haven't bothered to get in contact or check in with us. My family lives halfway across the country and I'm pretty sure I've had daily conversations with my mom and aunt since I found out. It's a huge difference between the two families. About two weeks ago, we called his parents every day for like a week and no one called us back. It was very annoying because my husband is beginning to see the differences and it bugs him a little. Well now that I am within 8 days of my due date they call me every morning or shoot me a text asking if any baby sign yet. I know I should feel appreciative that they are showing interest now but a huge part of me just feels so annoyed that they haven't cared the past 8 months and now constantly text.
I'm currently sitting at urgent care. Decided I needed to come check and see if I have strep throat. I'm having sever pain so I haven't been talking at all today leading my DH to ask me if I was depressed today. I'm really hoping I come back negative. I wasn't wanting my first time leaving the baby to be to urgent care and I really don't want to have something so contagious that I'd have to keep away from him. The thought makes me cry.
So my family has this chocolate cake recipe that has beer and saurkraut in it. I know it sounds wierd, but it's really just tasty and rich chocolate cake. My mom said that she ate practically a whole one the day she went into labor with me. Of course, it's coincidental, but I just made one. Challenge accepted!
So BF has to do some work at his family house today, he could be gone 6/7 hours. I'm kind of hoping baby decides to mess with us and get things started while BF is busy.. 5 days Lorna, 5 days..
ETA: (I didn't want to make a double post) I'm just back from walking down town and it is so hot right now. Now bare in mind it's only 24 degrees (75 for you US ladies). I got back and went to go put some shorts on and I have so much sweat everywhere. My underwear had 2 big patches of what I'm assuming is sweat on them. I'm wearing a pad just for the very slim chance it's not sweat. I'm inside cooling off now. I don't know how you ladies who live in hotter places cope every day. This is disgusting!
@LF93 we're under a heat advisory starting tomorrow through 7 pm on Friday. They said something about temps/dew point hitting 110, which sounds utterly miserable! I think I would kill for 74 right about now, haha
Wishing I had the means to move away and start fresh. Just me and my son.
I truly hope that nobody on here knows firsthand the struggle of loving an addict. But in the same breath I am hoping that someone does. And that they reach out so I don't feel so alone.
I am 15 days PP and I can't deal with this right now.
@jjtruffles - My bio mom is an addict. Thankfully I was taken away from her and raised by my aunt/uncle (they're the only parents I've ever known). They never kept the truth from me, but they did their best not to taint the picture of her because they wanted me to decide things for myself, which I am really grateful for. I'm always around, even if it's just to lend an ear
@jjtruffles, I have never loved an addict as a romantic partner, but have experienced it as a child. My biological father is an alcoholic. We had a painful and toxic relationship. I'm so sorry, I hope you are able to find support in others at this time. Even though we are only an internet community, you are certainly not alone here.
@jjtruffles I also grew up with a parent who is an alcoholic and addict. You're not alone. Sadly I think addiction is becoming even more common in our society. I never found much comfort in support groups but I know Al-anon is available in most areas as a subsidiary of AA. And of course we're here for you as well.
@jjtruffles I cant even imagine how hard it is, let alone so soon after having a baby. You are incredible. Sending you lots of strength and good thoughts.
@jjtruffles hugs! I've lived with two addicts, one when I was a teenager (my sisters dad) and one of my closest friends in my early twenties (his addiction destroyed our friendship). In the first scenario I left and stayed somewhere else until my mom moved out and in the second I had to kick my best friend out of my house. Both were hard decisions to make but they were right for me. We are here for you! So sorry you are going through this, I know how devastating it can be.
@jjtruffles I am watching my dad go through a really hard time with his girlfriend who is an addict and it is breaking my heart. I cannot imagine having to deal with that and having a new baby. My heart goes out to you. I hope you can find strength to do what is best for you and your son, no matter what that might be.
Just got back from my weekly checkup. Apparently I have progressed from 1/2cm (from last week) to 1cm dilation and I'm 80% effaced. Doc did a membrane sweep and I was crampy for a little. I'm back at work sitting here thinking this kid just got a tickle on the head and it didn't phase him in the slightest....LOL we.shall.see!
Just found out I am not being promoted with my start class come October. Just awesome news to give to me before I go out on maternity leave. Could this week get any better?!
Thanks everyone. Here comes the word vomit because I don't know where else to get it all out.
It's so so hard to see the person you love struggle with something like addiction, and to see the type of person it turns them into. My husband had 6 years of clean time under his belt during which we met, fell in love, got married, and I got pregnant. We were that nauseatingly perfect couple. Then he relapsed the weekend before I got my BFP and things have been so up and down ever since. I left for the second time this past weekend and it's prompted him to make arrangements to go to rehab tomorrow, so for that I am thankful and hopeful.
Meanwhile, my family is so fed up with him and all of the drama he's brought to not only my life but their lives as well, and I can't really fault them for that...but this morning my dad sent me an email from work saying that he's ashamed of me for continuing to have anything to do with my husband. He told me that if I stay with him, I will have a hard life and he can no longer be a part of mine. Those words cut deep and they really, really hurt.
I know this is it for me. If my husband screws this up, there's no going back. But I want to give him this one last chance to make his life right. For his son. For me. And for himself.
But now I'm terrified that I'm going to end up losing 2 of the most important people in my life (my parents) because of it. I don't know how to even try and explain my thoughts/feelings to them because I know that no matter what I say they'll never fully understand it.
Pretty sure I'm going through the first round of cluster feedings with my son right now too. All he wants to do is eat and I'm barely pumping enough to keep up.
I feel like I'm just all around failing at life right now.
@jjtruffles You're not failing at life. Your father's actions are his choice and are not a reflection of you. They're designed to "wake you up," right, wrong or indifferent. He's trying to help you the only way he knows how. No one can fault you for giving your husband another chance. It takes a strong person to deal with a loved one's addiction, no matter how weak it makes you feel. Your husband sounds like he's taking the right steps.
By the way, I PMd you earlier and the app went haywire and sent the message four times! Sorry about that.
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No you are doing awesome!!!! You need to make decisions based on what you think is best to based on other peoples opinions. I recommend the podcast One Bad Mother to make you feel less crappy!
@jjtruffles, hang in there, that is all tough stuff. As hard as it is try to take it one day at a time. Will keep you in my thoughts and hope things take a turn for the better soon.
Why did babycenter just email me about how my baby is probably teething by now and how to deal with that? Uh he's not even 3 weeks old, I fucking hope he's not about to start teething already.
Just went to my 40 week appointment (due date was yesterday). I went from nothing last week, to 2 cm this week and was able to have a membrane sweep. I'm hoping and praying it works! It did with my son... Also, if all else fails, we scheduled an induction for Monday the 25th....I see the light at the end of the tunnel!
DH had to work through dinner and didn't see DD before bed today. He comes home to tell his wife who is 38.5 weeks pregnant in July with a toddler at home how exhausted he is. I love you honey, but tell someone who cares.
Anyone have a husband who has a physically demanding job? My husband is a concrete laborer and it has been in the 90s with 100s heat index this week and he comes home and literally does nothing. I know that I am off work all day (I am a teacher) but taking care of a 4 year old and 39w pregnant is also physically demanding, especially in the evenings when my feet and legs are so swollen. It hurts so bad to constantly bend down with the cleaning, bathing, changing etc. Am I being crazy feeling like he needs to help out more when his job is so demanding all day?
@mrsmommya my DH is not a laborer per se but he does work outside all day fixing all things pool and pool equipment related...and, we live in Houston, TX. He still helped with DS1 while I was pregnant although sometimes he needs to be asked to do specific tasks.
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Totally going to get one after my OB appt and induction talk today (without DH). I think at this point I deserve it. Hope you're able to get some today too!
Also, I was so sad to miss national ice cream day yesterday because of GD
This is going to be me at the end of this week:
No clue about ice cream day, but I'm weird and not a huge fan. We had some on the weekend so I'm good for a few months.
ETA: (I didn't want to make a double post) I'm just back from walking down town and it is so hot right now. Now bare in mind it's only 24 degrees (75 for you US ladies). I got back and went to go put some shorts on and I have so much sweat everywhere. My underwear had 2 big patches of what I'm assuming is sweat on them. I'm wearing a pad just for the very slim chance it's not sweat. I'm inside cooling off now. I don't know how you ladies who live in hotter places cope every day. This is disgusting!
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I truly hope that nobody on here knows firsthand the struggle of loving an addict. But in the same breath I am hoping that someone does. And that they reach out so I don't feel so alone.
I am 15 days PP and I can't deal with this right now.
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 since September 2015
It's so so hard to see the person you love struggle with something like addiction, and to see the type of person it turns them into. My husband had 6 years of clean time under his belt during which we met, fell in love, got married, and I got pregnant. We were that nauseatingly perfect couple. Then he relapsed the weekend before I got my BFP and things have been so up and down ever since. I left for the second time this past weekend and it's prompted him to make arrangements to go to rehab tomorrow, so for that I am thankful and hopeful.
Meanwhile, my family is so fed up with him and all of the drama he's brought to not only my life but their lives as well, and I can't really fault them for that...but this morning my dad sent me an email from work saying that he's ashamed of me for continuing to have anything to do with my husband. He told me that if I stay with him, I will have a hard life and he can no longer be a part of mine. Those words cut deep and they really, really hurt.
I know this is it for me. If my husband screws this up, there's no going back. But I want to give him this one last chance to make his life right. For his son. For me. And for himself.
But now I'm terrified that I'm going to end up losing 2 of the most important people in my life (my parents) because of it. I don't know how to even try and explain my thoughts/feelings to them because I know that no matter what I say they'll never fully understand it.
Pretty sure I'm going through the first round of cluster feedings with my son right now too. All he wants to do is eat and I'm barely pumping enough to keep up.
I feel like I'm just all around failing at life right now.
By the way, I PMd you earlier and the app went haywire and sent the message four times! Sorry about that.
to tell his wife who is 38.5 weeks pregnant in July with a toddler at home how exhausted he is. I love you honey, but tell someone who cares.