@bnsmith85 Well that's really dumb. Lol. I mean yeah, we're all checking our registries, and receipts definitely help when returning, but still..... I'd be annoyed if I bought someone something and they were emailed the receipt for it!
I don't get how it works either....when MIL bought my furniture, I didn't, but this week I got two receipts, each with like 10 items on them, from the same day. I like looking at it too....I figure it will still be a surprise when I open it because I don't know who got what. And I picked it out anyway! Lol Thanks, @bnsmith85. I didn't think of it that way
I get emails when something on my registry gets put on reserve (I'm using a generic online registry versus a store specific one). I get so excited it's as if I'm opening the gift right there cause it asks me if I wanna be surprised or if I wanna know.
I'm definitely on board with everyone worried about not getting presents off the registry. I know it seems selfish, but we have already spent a lot on buying the furniture for the nursery and a few other big things one amazon prime day. Both our parents bought us our travel system, which was great. So far only 5 things have been bought off our registry. We do have a few more weeks before the shower, but I'm just worried about getting a lot of clothes too. I already have a bunch of hand me downs and I could care less if all baby's clothes are used. I feel bad but I've had to nicely set a boundary with my mom several times about buying random decorative stuff for the nursery. It's a nice gesture but the nursery is very small and there's really no room for extra stuff that I don't love or doesn't serve a specific purpose. She loves knick knacks and I'm very anti-clutter, and I hate feeling obligated to keep something I don't love just because it was gifted. For our wedding, most people got us awesome stuff from our registry, but we also got three personalized cutting boards lol, so I'm prepared for some of that.
@blonde1817 Ugh, and you can't return something that's been personalized! I'm from the South, but man, I don't personalize anything. My aunt got so excited when we hinted at the baby's initials - not full name or gender - but I'm hoping there's not too much they can do with that! (and since she's a hostess, maybe it will be limited to party decor?)
My shower is on 8/20 and I have had a good amount of people say that they can't make it.. It makes me so sad!
I feel your pain, mine is 8/13 and my mom is hosting one big one. Well all but 3 of my friends declined, even though they got the invite 6 weeks before the event.
@Sprinkels28 and @LauraPCOS I feel the same way. My showers next weekend and like all of my girlfriends can't make it, so I feel like it's just family. I understand things happen, but they've all known for a while and have lame excuses!
So we weren't planning in a shower. There was no one in our families that seemed like they cared to throw a party and with my DS1 I pretty much threw the whole party. I wasn't doing that this time. But I got a text from my future sister in law yesterday saying that the woman at our church would like to throw me a sprinkle. So I guess my party is 9/18. I cried when I found out. So now I gotta get ready I guess. I'm very excited.
So, I'm in the opposite - we have like 50 people coming!! We went the co-ed BaByQ route, so it's husbands and kids, not just ladies...but I was thinking with it being summer and people on vacation we'd get like 30 tops. I can't imagine where 50 people are going to go at my house! Not to mention my poor mother will have to increase the menu! I think we're going to contribute to some of the cost now, since I was not anticipating such a response. I'm grateful that so many people love us and want to celebrate our new addition...but it's a little overwhelming!
@LMNOBaby... we're doing the same theme and were expecting like 50-60 people (just based on who we thought would probably say yes. There's one week left to RSVP and we have less than 30 so far That said, a lot just haven't RSVP'd yet.
Just was told the final headcount is at 38 for my shower. Definitely looking forward to it! 3 more weeks!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
@LMNOBaby We went the co-Ed BaByQ route too. We invited about 50 but I expect about half to show. We will see. Lol
DH and I got pissed the other day when we realized that my BIL will probably bring his on-again, off-again girlfriend to our shower. We hate her and she knows it, but we're always nice to her. She super phony tho and she has the most obnoxious child. I'm hoping she's busy, cause lord knows I can't exclude her. To this day she bitches about how I didn't invite her to my wedding even tho my BIL had a different girlfriend at the time. I just don't understand why she insists on being involved in everything when she hates us just as much as we hate her?? Makes no sense to me.
@krzyriver ooh I have one of those too lol but it's my cousin's gf. She's been so nasty to the whole family so no one likes her and then she plays victim. She stopped coming to all family events but if you don't invite her she throws a fit to my cousin. I told my mom not to invite her, I'm done catering to her. Thankfully she didn't show up, but apparently my cousin didn't get the hint and was trying to get her to come.
For our wedding I only put my cousin's name on the outer envelope because they don't live together (why would I address something to her that wasn't going to where she lives?) but gave him a +1 and she threw a fit that she was "barely" invited. Then she proceeded to have a hysterical breakdown in the bathroom of our reception, presumably because she hates me and wants to get married and was upset it wasn't her. Pah-lease.
@LGW2015 Ugh, why are some women like that?! It drives me insane. If you hate someone, stay away from them. If they don't invite you, be glad you don't have to make an excuse to not go!
I can't believe she broke down at your wedding. Get over yourself girl! But at least she avoids you guys now! Lol.
I'm not sure what will happen at my shower. I haven't spoken to her since the most recent break up/reconciliation. But I blocked her on FB during the separation and never friended her again, so I'm sure she knows how I feel about her.
I just tried on every possible dress for my shower and I'm so depressed, I don't even want to go. My ass/hips/thighs have gotten so huge, I'm embarrassed to go out in public let alone be the center of attention. Pity, Party of 1 please.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
In the past week, I have had 4 people offer to throw me a shower. WTF?! Who waits this late in the game to try and plan a shower?! One person even suggested Sept 24th as a shower date. I will technically be FULL TERM the following Tuesday. WTF PEOPLE?!
On a happier(?) note, my SIL finally mailed out the invites to my shower that's next Saturday. They're all in town, so they should have them by this Saturday at the latest. One week notice is better than no notice at all, I guess. I swear, this shower business is going to send me over the edge!
I'm also worried about people not coming to my shower. It's not until 8/27 and invitations haven't been sent yet. I was really disappointed with the people who didn't show up to my wedding shower. My best friends spent A LOT of money and put a lot of time into it, and I think maybe 20 of the close to 70 something that were invited showed up, and 10 of those were the girls throwing the shower & their moms. I have thrown and attended many 'a shower in my time and I was just kind of upset that I when it was my turn, I didn't get the same treatment. That sounds really selfish, but it's honest! I would never complain IRL though. I truly was thankful for those who did show and it meant a lot to me that my best friends put so much effort into it for me.
This baby shower could go the same way, but I'm trying not to stress too much about it because it's out of my control so there's really nothing I can do about it anyway!
@bnsmith85 I had to "chase" down the last 10 or so replies... I sent a group email to "clear up any confusion that it was in fact open to the whole family, not just the ladies" and then casually mentioned if anyone hadn't RSVPed to my mother yet, that they could let me or my husband know and we'd get her the message. I think the little reminder worked - I had the rest of the replies in the next 2 days!
@Kaessi I don't think it sounds selfish at all. Its really disappointing when people don't come thru for you the way you have for them. That seems to happen to my DH and I a lot. We've even lost quite a few friends over the last two years because of it.
So we invited about 50 people. Half are people we barely talk to because we are always so busy, but they're old friends and we know they would want to be invited. The other half is people we (mostly DH) see all the time.... but Im not even sure how close he is to them. I honestly have no idea who will show up. So far the only yes responses are from the latter group. Lol
@LMNOBaby I have to do this for any event I've got going on. I think people get the invite, wait to make sure they can go, block the date out....and then forget to RSVP. It's an annoying trend. Lol
@Kaessi - That's exactly how I feel. Even people who have an excuse not to come sometimes still piss me off.
Like, DH's aunt- I went to her daughter's wedding shower just last year and she can't come to my shower because they're "on vacation that week." Or at least that's what she posted on the FB group.... DH's mom (her sister) called her to tell her we'd miss her at the shower and she said her and her husband were taking off work that week to get some stuff done around the house. WTF. If I could take back that $50 toaster I bought her daughter, I totally would!
I go to literally every shower I'm invited to, bring nice gifts, and smile pretty. It's time to return the favor, people!
I am also on the train if people who are getting emailed receipts for Babies R Us gifts that are being purchased, but mine aren't telling me what the item is. It's just shows my registry number and the price. Which, it doesn't really matter what people spend, I am thankfully for everything given, but I am pretty sure they don't want me to know.
I'm not having a shower because this #2 and both are girls that were born in the same relative season so we really don't need anything.
But I just want to commiserate with you ladies on the guest list. My dd was born in January so we had my shower in December and OF COURSE there was a huge snow storm that day. 3/4 of the guest list cancelled that day. I was so upset! I mean I understood but I also had family (including great grandmother) who came from Connecticut despite the weather but people who lived 5 minutes away didn't make the effort. Again, it was pretty justified of an excuse, but it didn't make me feel any better.
Rational or not, I completely understand the disappointed feeling that some of you ladies are feeling with lack or responses or people who can't be there. All you want to do is celebrate with loved ones and it sucks when you can't.
@CopperBoom86 I am trying to be as polite as possible with all of my people who are declining. Most of them have sent or intend to send a gift regardless. I just wish I would have known sooner it was going to be a much smaller affair, I didnt think half of the people invited would decline.
@CopperBoom86 How obnoxious. People never seem to remember the people who did nice things for them.
I've been pleasantly surprised on that front. Im not particularly close with anyone at work, but I've worked with them (off and on) for 5 years. I attended all their showers and bought them gifts. They're not throwing me a work shower, but they would have if my family hadn't. And they know they're not invited because my shower is small, but most of them (especially the ones I've bought gifts for) have gotten me something for the baby.
Man, here I am griping about my crummy friends, but I lucked out in the coworker front. They are a pretty awesome group of ladies.
Guise, my shower is in just over two weeks--and last I heard, only 16 of the 45 invited RSVP'd yes. Huge bummer. I know a lot of folks are out of town (my family is all over the Eastern part of the states), but I feel so unpopular. All the same people were invited to my bridal shower and there was maybe a dozen people there. I felt like such a loser. I don't have a ton of close friends--maybe three that I consider very close and 4-5 others I enjoy spending time with but just don't put the effort into being besties with. Talk about a pity party!! I'm sure it'll be great, I'm just super self-conscious about not having enough friends--a hang up from childhood because my brother teased me relentlessly about having no friends since I was always such a loner.
oh no @MRSCORKER! I wish we lived closer together. I swear I have dresses that would look great on you because my ass is definitely bigger than yours lol... I recommend a quick trip to a few places that have maternity in store. I had really bad luck with the online ordering, maybe that's what's going on for you. Don't be too hard on yourself. You look great!
oh no @MRSCORKER! I wish we lived closer together. I swear I have dresses that would look great on you because my ass is definitely bigger than yours lol... I recommend a quick trip to a few places that have maternity in store. I had really bad luck with the online ordering, maybe that's what's going on for you. Don't be too hard on yourself. You look great!
Thanks for the pick me up. I know I'm being dramatic about it, it's just so hard. I was heavy my whole life and lost 70 lbs a few years ago. For the first time in my life I could wear the clothes I always wanted to and felt great. I knew I would gain during pregnancy but I'm just so terrified of having to start all over. I was on a SUPER low carb diet when I got my BFP and was working out a ton. Since my last pregnancy ended in a loss, I freaked out and was basically afraid to move so I stopped working out. Then, I couldn't eat anything BUT carbs or I wanted to puke. I got my diet back on track during second tri and started walking but now even walking makes me want to die so I'm back to couch surfing and feeling sorry for myself. I know I'll find something to wear but I'm just feeling so embarrassed. I always imagined having a fit pregnancy but I feel like I've let myself go and everyone at my shower will know it.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
Aw, @mrscorker I'm sure nothing looks that bad! Our brain makes us see every imperfection in our mirror! What about the skirt/shirt option? You always look adorable in the maxi skirt and shirt in the HDBD photos!! Or just a simple maxi dress? Even if you can't find a maternity version, maybe hit the store and try a regular maxi in a size or two larger? I'm still wearing 2 of my non-maternity maxi dresses because of how flowy they are.... I've always had luck in JCPenney and Macy's for maxi dresses...and they definitely have sizes up to XL. Good luck, lady - I'm sure you'll find something and look gorgeous!!
Aw, @mrscorker I'm sure nothing looks that bad! Our brain makes us see every imperfection in our mirror! What about the skirt/shirt option? You always look adorable in the maxi skirt and shirt in the HDBD photos!! Or just a simple maxi dress? Even if you can't find a maternity version, maybe hit the store and try a regular maxi in a size or two larger? I'm still wearing 2 of my non-maternity maxi dresses because of how flowy they are.... I've always had luck in JCPenney and Macy's for maxi dresses...and they definitely have sizes up to XL. Good luck, lady - I'm sure you'll find something and look gorgeous!!
Thanks. I'm thinking of going the maxi skirt/shirt route. I'll have to go to mall and try stuff on, I don't really have time to be ordering things and sending them back. I appreciate the kind words from everyone, sorry I'm a bitter betty today!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
oh no @MRSCORKER! I wish we lived closer together. I swear I have dresses that would look great on you because my ass is definitely bigger than yours lol... I recommend a quick trip to a few places that have maternity in store. I had really bad luck with the online ordering, maybe that's what's going on for you. Don't be too hard on yourself. You look great!
Thanks for the pick me up. I know I'm being dramatic about it, it's just so hard. I was heavy my whole life and lost 70 lbs a few years ago. For the first time in my life I could wear the clothes I always wanted to and felt great. I knew I would gain during pregnancy but I'm just so terrified of having to start all over. I was on a SUPER low carb diet when I got my BFP and was working out a ton. Since my last pregnancy ended in a loss, I freaked out and was basically afraid to move so I stopped working out. Then, I couldn't eat anything BUT carbs or I wanted to puke. I got my diet back on track during second tri and started walking but now even walking makes me want to die so I'm back to couch surfing and feeling sorry for myself. I know I'll find something to wear but I'm just feeling so embarrassed. I always imagined having a fit pregnancy but I feel like I've let myself go and everyone at my shower will know it.
damn it.... that's such a tough feeling... knowing you go there and may have to do it all over again. Plus losing that confidence that comes with getting your body where you wanted it to be. I'm so sorry Easier said than done, but don't be embarrassed. I truly think you look wonderful in every hdbd pic you post. Really, I would just keep my mouth shut if I didn't believe it. Good luck finding that perfect dress and eff the exercise. You can do that when you're not carrying around another human all the time... that's hard work!
@mrscorker I already had big ass/hips/thighs so I feel you, so far I've gained 12 lbs but still sometimes I do feel weird... 2 years ago I was like 25lbs lighter and I know that I'll have to work hard to shed all this weight but who cares I'm having a baby and I'm happy for that. Even though some days I can relate so much to this:
Thanks for the pick me up. I know I'm being dramatic about it, it's just so hard. I was heavy my whole life and lost 70 lbs a few years ago. For the first time in my life I could wear the clothes I always wanted to and felt great. I knew I would gain during pregnancy but I'm just so terrified of having to start all over. I was on a SUPER low carb diet when I got my BFP and was working out a ton. Since my last pregnancy ended in a loss, I freaked out and was basically afraid to move so I stopped working out. Then, I couldn't eat anything BUT carbs or I wanted to puke. I got my diet back on track during second tri and started walking but now even walking makes me want to die so I'm back to couch surfing and feeling sorry for myself. I know I'll find something to wear but I'm just feeling so embarrassed. I always imagined having a fit pregnancy but I feel like I've let myself go and everyone at my shower will know it.
I totally feel you on all of this. I look at myself in the mirror every day and wince in disgust.
Girl, we've just got to let go of our insecurities. You did what you had to do to keep yourself sane in your first tri and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Mental health is important, too!
We lost the weight before and we can do it again. And it's not starting over. I seriously doubt you'll gain all 70 pounds back, right? I know you're planning on BFing and that will help, a lot.
You do whatever you need to do to make it through this pregnancy. Girl, you are beautiful!
Re: Baby Showers!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I like looking at it too....I figure it will still be a surprise when I open it because I don't know who got what. And I picked it out anyway! Lol
Thanks, @bnsmith85. I didn't think of it that way
It's a boy!
Our hostesses created a FB event and there are like 50 people that haven't said yes or no, I know
they are going, and our shower is on Sunday.
Me: 28 DH: 27
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
DH and I got pissed the other day when we realized that my BIL will probably bring his on-again, off-again girlfriend to our shower. We hate her and she knows it, but we're always nice to her. She super phony tho and she has the most obnoxious child. I'm hoping she's busy, cause lord knows I can't exclude her. To this day she bitches about how I didn't invite her to my wedding even tho my BIL had a different girlfriend at the time. I just don't understand why she insists on being involved in everything when she hates us just as much as we hate her?? Makes no sense to me.
Ok, I feel slightly better now that I vented. Lol
For our wedding I only put my cousin's name on the outer envelope because they don't live together (why would I address something to her that wasn't going to where she lives?) but gave him a +1 and she threw a fit that she was "barely" invited. Then she proceeded to have a hysterical breakdown in the bathroom of our reception, presumably because she hates me and wants to get married and was upset it wasn't her. Pah-lease.
I can't believe she broke down at your wedding. Get over yourself girl! But at least she avoids you guys now! Lol.
I'm not sure what will happen at my shower. I haven't spoken to her since the most recent break up/reconciliation. But I blocked her on FB during the separation and never friended her again, so I'm sure she knows how I feel about her.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
On a happier(?) note, my SIL finally mailed out the invites to my shower that's next Saturday. They're all in town, so they should have them by this Saturday at the latest. One week notice is better than no notice at all, I guess. I swear, this shower business is going to send me over the edge!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
This baby shower could go the same way, but I'm trying not to stress too much about it because it's out of my control so there's really nothing I can do about it anyway!
So we invited about 50 people. Half are people we barely talk to because we are always so busy, but they're old friends and we know they would want to be invited. The other half is people we (mostly DH) see all the time.... but Im not even sure how close he is to them. I honestly have no idea who will show up. So far the only yes responses are from the latter group. Lol
Like, DH's aunt- I went to her daughter's wedding shower just last year and she can't come to my shower because they're "on vacation that week." Or at least that's what she posted on the FB group.... DH's mom (her sister) called her to tell her we'd miss her at the shower and she said her and her husband were taking off work that week to get some stuff done around the house. WTF. If I could take back that $50 toaster I bought her daughter, I totally would!
I go to literally every shower I'm invited to, bring nice gifts, and smile pretty. It's time to return the favor, people!
But I just want to commiserate with you ladies on the guest list. My dd was born in January so we had my shower in December and OF COURSE there was a huge snow storm that day. 3/4 of the guest list cancelled that day. I was so upset! I mean I understood but I also had family (including great grandmother) who came from Connecticut despite the weather but people who lived 5 minutes away didn't make the effort. Again, it was pretty justified of an excuse, but it didn't make me feel any better.
Rational or not, I completely understand the disappointed feeling that some of you ladies are feeling with lack or responses or people who can't be there. All you want to do is celebrate with loved ones and it sucks when you can't.
I've been pleasantly surprised on that front. Im not particularly close with anyone at work, but I've worked with them (off and on) for 5 years. I attended all their showers and bought them gifts. They're not throwing me a work shower, but they would have if my family hadn't. And they know they're not invited because my shower is small, but most of them (especially the ones I've bought gifts for) have gotten me something for the baby.
Man, here I am griping about my crummy friends, but I lucked out in the coworker front. They are a pretty awesome group of ladies.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
Do my kids count?
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
@mrscorker I already had big ass/hips/thighs so I feel you, so far I've gained 12 lbs but still sometimes I do feel weird... 2 years ago I was like 25lbs lighter and I know that I'll have to work hard to shed all this weight but who cares I'm having a baby and I'm happy for that. Even though some days I can relate so much to this:
Girl, we've just got to let go of our insecurities. You did what you had to do to keep yourself sane in your first tri and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Mental health is important, too!
We lost the weight before and we can do it again. And it's not starting over. I seriously doubt you'll gain all 70 pounds back, right? I know you're planning on BFing and that will help, a lot.
You do whatever you need to do to make it through this pregnancy. Girl, you are beautiful!