#Whymypregnantselfiscrying - July 2016

kmtz89

I feel like one of these threads once a month could be helpful. Plus everything still makes me cry and I want to to know that other people are crying over everything too. 

kmtz89

DH spilled half a cup of soda and it wasn't even a big deal but ...cue the waterworks

Kaytee1087

Watching the Little Mermaid with DD and Triton gave Ariel legs.

mothernorth

Because, as many of you know my 9-year-old DS is not biologically mine. Well, his stupid, dead beat, super flake mother decided she is coming to pick him up on Sunday since she still legally has joint custody even though we've had full custody of him for 9 months because she couldn't keep her shit together, enroll him in school where she moved to 2 hours away, and keep him until next July. We don't have the money for an attorney so FI can fight this and try for legal full custody. It sucks, it's not fucking fair that she just shows up and tries to do whatever she wants whenever she wants to do it, and it's not fair that even though she is a HORRIBLE mother, she has the upper hand because SHE has an attorney provided through her tribe. She only wants him because she gets money from her tribe for him, and I already know the shady bitch is going to try to go after FI for child support even though we have been DS's sole providers, AND paid for almost EVERYTHING anyway before she decided to take a 9 month hiatus... I hate her, I Hate Her, I HATE HER!!! He's  going to miss this baby being born, my LO has never been away from him for more than 2 days his entire almost year of life and they adore each other, my daughter doesn't remember life without him here at LEAST every other week, and to top it off FI has NEVER gone that long without him, and he is devastated ;(

Piperella

I'm so sorry, @AllyTheKid.  I would be devastated if in your shoes.  Sending you creepy internet hugs over this situation.  I hope she figures out she can't "handle" him and sends him back to you where he is loved and is in a safe place he knows.

The killings that are happening in the states are making me cry.  I want to raise my son with kindness and compassion for others and himself.  I want to do more and am not sure where to start.  I just can't bury my head in the sand over it. 

LMNOBaby

Aw, @AllyTheKid I'm so sorry.  That makes me cry! It's not fair when the good people get screwed! Hang in there!!

Kaessi

Aww @allythekid I'm so, so sorry to hear this! In my line of work I see this sometimes, and it is so unfair. I don't know if it will be helpful, but I'll PM you a couple of phone #s where you may be able to get some additional info if you want.

Kaessi

Last night I was cooking in a cast iron skillet and the kitchen got a little smoky. I mentioned to DH that I imagined the smoke detector would be going off at any minute.  He said, "Nah, I took care of that. I unhooked the wires last time that happened." Y'all I freaked the F out. We live in an old house with old electrical wires and one of my biggest fears is fire. He let me carry on for about 30 minutes before he finally told me he was kidding. I'm still mad at him.

mothernorth

@Piperella Thank you, and it's funny you say that because she has done something like this before, just not for as long. She claimed she "couldn't handle it and needed a break".

@LMNOBaby We're coming up with a plan, I know my hands are tied since we aren't married, but I can still gather up all the documentation I have of her BS and get it ready for FI.

@Kaessi I would appreciate that! We're looking into low income legal aid right now, and I know where my grant money is going once the fall semester starts.

ashleyp625

@AllyTheKid I'm sorry I hope you can get him full time very soon. 

I I cried buckets yesterday because H put a hole in the freshly painted nursery wall while putting the crib together, and then said, "it's ok because it will be covered up." No it's not okay because I know it's there! Then more tears today when I realized that the bookshelf that goes with our furniture set won't fit and we have to return it. I think MIL (who bought it) is going to be upset. 

CopperBoom86

@Kaessi - LOL, That so sounds like something my husband would do. Rude! 

amye102485

I've now gained 40 pounds and I am on bed rest, so I honestly can't do anything about it. I only gained 34 total with my daughter, so this is new territory and I just feel so bad about myself.

sjo_thetwins

I cried while getting my catheter put in.  But that's a catheter... Not really an emotional thing.. So... 

ibabyloveb87

I cried when I got pictures of my friend's new baby boy today. But that's totally cliche and obvious. 

MRSCORKER

Got in a huge fight with H on Monday because he has high BP and cholesterol and doesn't seem to care. I have anxiety that fixates on his health and admittedly nag him about going to the doctor and cleaning up his diet. Well, it blew up on Monday, I don't think he's ever been so mad at me. The next day he seemed to be taking some of what I said to heart by making better choices and then today, comes home with a T-bone to grill and told me he had a roast beef sandwich for lunch. I'm crying in the bathroom because I feel like I can't say anything without starting another fight but my anxiety is through the roof. He's such a stubborn hard head! He's allowed to slowly kill himself but I'm not allowed to say anything because it rains on his parade. 

amye102485

@MRSCORKER Aw, I'm sorry! It's so frustrating when your husband does something bad for them and you can't make them stop. I know you're coming from a loving place too, but men are so defensive! I hope you can work it out with him.

MRSCORKER

amye102485 said:

@MRSCORKER Aw, I'm sorry! It's so frustrating when your husband does something bad for them and you can't make them stop. I know you're coming from a loving place too, but men are so defensive! I hope you can work it out with him.

It's SO FRUSTRATING. I know I need to get my anxiety under control but he should at least meet me halfway. 

amye102485

@MRSCORKER Your husband's health is something have anxiety about! You love him and want him to be around to see his kids grow up and grow old with you. That is totally worth fighting for. Trust me, I get where you're coming from.

MRSCORKER

Thanks @amye102485. His appointment with the new doctor is in 3 weeks. I'm gonna keep my mouth shut until then and hopefully she'll put him on a strict plan. If it's coming from a doctor, he can't argue!

westcoastfoodie

I'm so sorry about the situation with your son, @AllyTheKid. I wish there was more to say, I hope that she does realize she can't handle it and you get him back. Sending hugs. 

Like you, @Piperella my heart is heavy over the shootings.

I am angry and sad and felt at a loss of what to do to help and make a difference. I found this article that I actually just shared on facebook too, for others who want to be comrades to the causes.

https://www.maximummiddleage.com/right-now/alton-sterling-philando-castile-how-to-be-an-ally-to-black-people#.V36s2SfLuU1.facebook

Kaessi

@MRSCORKER My H is a stubborn hardheaded as well & I agree that it is so, so frustrating! I feel that he thinks he's invincible & can just do whatever he wants. I nagged him for years when we were dating because he played in an indoor soccer league & would virtually kill himself every game. (3 a week). He was the goalie & would put his all into every play with no regard to the damage he was doing to his body. Fast forward to now, where he just had surgery on one foot in March, is supposed to do the other one in December, has arthritis in both knees, carpal tunnel in both hands & wrists and a bad shoulder that will also require surgery soon. Catch 22 in all of this is that he obviously had to quit playing, but now gets really no exercise at all but still has the same lifestyle as before, which includes not eating all day & then eating a huge, unhealthy dinner at night.  Nagging does no good so I try my best just to not worry & hope he decides to make a change for himself one day. But it's difficult to sit by & just watch. Lots of empathy & hugs to you!!

MRSCORKER

Thanks @Kaessi, hugs to you too! H's father, uncle and grandfather all died in their 50's of heart attacks. You'd think that would scare him straight but apparently not. I thought knowing he had a child on the way would inspire a healthier lifestyle but it seems nothing will convince him. 

blaf322

So sorry you're going through that @MRSCORKER. My H has that same sense of invincibility and it's maddening. Sending you hugs 

Schell2013

I got all emotional and sad when I left my girls for the night at my moms. I don't even know why cause we spend a lot of time there and they are happier than pigs in shit there. But I got all lonely and sad on the drive home. I have my GD test first thing in the morning so I should be happy to not have to drag them in for that but I don't know I'm loosing my mind. 

Schell2013

@AllyTheKid that is seriously shitty. I hate how people use their kids to get money. It infuriates me endlessly.  

AshleyGemini24

At a work in appointment, my honey surprised me by buying on of the teddy bears with Peanut's heartbeat inside. He told me he had to step out to use the restroom. He returned with the doctor who had the teddy bear in hand. I cried the whole time they recorded the heartbeat and continued to cry once i had  the teddy in my hands. FI can be so sweet. 

Kaessi

Listening to the press conference about the Dallas shootings on my way to work this morning. Tears were just streaming. I can't even fathom how this is now our reality. I stayed up way too late last night watching the live coverage on CNN and am still in such shock. We live 100 miles from Dallas and often frequent the downtown area so all the landmarks and places that were shown are places that I am quite familiar with, I guess maybe that's why it has hit me so hard? I just can't wrap my head around how/why this happened because there is absolutely no logic behind it.

UFJen

My mom sent me the book "Love You Forever" and my husband read it out loud last night "to the baby" and the tears wouldnt stop! 

mothernorth

I just submitted an application for Legal Aid for FI, we should hear back from them about whether or not they will represent him within 3-5 days... Fingers Crossed for good news.

kmtz89

fingers crossed all the way on this side of the world too! @allythekid

mothernorth

Thank you so much! @kmolleltz

Kaessi

Good luck @AllyTheKid! I have fingers, toes & all other parts I can crossed for you!

mothernorth

Thank you @Kaessi ! And thank you for your help!

queen_frostine

My cat whined this morning and I usually give her a quick snuggle before giving her the tuna she wants, but this time when I picked her up she bit me HARD. I burst into uncontrollable sobbing and it scared her. Which she deserved.

mothernorth

@RainMira9e bitch cat! She definitely deserved the scare.

simcal18

@AllytheKid FX for you hard!!!!!

@RainMira9e Cats can be such assholes.  I love mine to death but he has a feet/ankle biting problem that is annoying as hell and that doesn't seem to be going away.  I know he's just a young, high-energy cat who needs lots of playtime (he'll be 3 next month so I'm still hoping that in a year or two he will settle down at least a bit).  But it's hard to remember that when he makes a diving lunge for your ankles in the morning when you're trying to put on your pants, and I worry about how he'll interact with the baby.

amye102485

People in Dallas are lining up to hug police officers. 

mothernorth

@simcal18 Thank you!

Schell2013

Possible trigger.....



I am looking into donating my wedding gown to a charity that makes dresses and stuff for still born babies to be burried in. It hit me worse than ever cause it can happen at any time to anyone no matter what. 

rozANDbenSINCE2001

I spent 20 minutes looking at videos and pictures of my DD from last year and sending them to my DH at work. How is it possible she's grown so much in a year?! 

queen_frostine

@simcal18 I'm not worried about her with baby as she won't attack unless you approach her first. We just have to teach the baby not to touch her without supervision. Hopefully yours will mellow as she gets older! Ours is eight - she doesn't *usually* attack so viciously without warning (usually you can tell she's had enough first).