My UO I don't think work is for making friends, it is for work. I do not talk to anyone I worked with a previous jobs still.
my coworkers would totally side eye this one. We work in a very fast paced, long hour, young professional environment. I am one of the oldest people on my team at 29. I AM the oldest woman on my team.
Because of the hours we work (late nights and many weekends) and so many people at such a young age, to say we wouldn't become friends is just crazy to me. However I recognize this is not your normal work environment.
My UO: Zipper merges. If the road signs are telling me to merge 2 miles in advance, I do it. It slows down the flow of traffic too much to try to sneak in at the last moment. Theres a huge push in my state to not merge til the last possible moment and it drives me nutso
(stuck in the box) Actually, research/experts say that the zipper merge is faster and safer for everyone than getting over early - use the available lanes until you can't anymore. UO?
I have no clue how this could be true. Every time someone decides to use the zipper merge it stops traffic and whenever no one decides to be an asshole that day traffic just keeps flowing (these days are very rare). That might be because for some reason in my area they take a single lane and about 1000ft from the light make it 2 lanes that then have to merge back together again within 200ft of the light. It makes no sense and seriously ends up just screwing over the flow of traffic. If someone is trying to merge in from using a zipper lane next to me I will let them hit me before I let them get in front of me.
and this is exactly what makes for traffic problems upon merging I think the evidence supporting the late merge (which I am admittedly NOT interested in looking up/reading) probably has to do with it being effective when everyone does it right. I.e. An alternate merge with everyone taking turns. But when do drivers ever do everything right??
My UO is going to be very unpopular. I'm tired of hearing about all of these police shootings. Yes, I think they're terrible and awful and very sad but I think it's media bs. When there starts being equal airtime for good things that people do then maybe I will care more. Flame away.
My UO is going to be very unpopular. I'm tired of hearing about all of these police shootings. Yes, I think they're terrible and awful and very sad but I think it's media bs. When there starts being equal airtime for good things that people do then maybe I will care more. Flame away.
So....I'm trying to think of the right way to word this.
Are you saying that you don't care about the shootings that happen because they aren't being balanced in the media with good things? You will only care if you hear more good than bad?
I'm tired of hearing about these shootings too. Because they shouldn't be fucking happening. Not because I don't care.
Ugh stuck in the box
It's not that I don't care. I absolutely do and my heart breaks for the victims. However, I feel like our media only portrays the bad side of the world. Everything negative is forefront. Yes, the police officers that are shooting innocent people should be punished but I also feel that by only portraying those stories that all the good police and all the good things that are done by police are swept under the rug like they dont matter. I guess my UO would be better stated as I feel like there's two.sides to everything and it's not fair to only see one.
I'm tired of hearing about these shootings too. Because they shouldn't be fucking happening. Not because I don't care.
Ugh stuck in the box
It's not that I don't care. I absolutely do and my heart breaks for the victims. However, I feel like our media only portrays the bad side of the world. Everything negative is forefront. Yes, the police officers that are shooting innocent people should be punished but I also feel that by only portraying those stories that all the good police and all the good things that are done by police are swept under the rug like they dont matter. I guess my UO would be better stated as I feel like there's two.sides to everything and it's not fair to only see one.
Maybe they are being focused on because it's become a huge freaking issue, not because the media is intent on making us all miserable with tragedies.
I'm sure my UO is way overdone, a touchy topic, and probably the subject of an existing thread -- or ten -- already. But I hate the Randoms thread. I don't want to page through 5+ pages just to see if there is something I want to chime in on. I wish there were more individual threads. It would be so much easier to see whether there is something I am interested in if there were just a few more individual threads. I think it would also be more fun to see more individual threads each day. I recognize that this can go to the other extreme and end up like that other major board out there, where threads get lost within minutes because they get bumped down off the bottom of the page. I'm not saying go all the way that direction. A little organization is nice and so is a little bit of fun.
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I'm tired of hearing about these shootings too. Because they shouldn't be fucking happening. Not because I don't care.
Ugh stuck in the box
It's not that I don't care. I absolutely do and my heart breaks for the victims. However, I feel like our media only portrays the bad side of the world. Everything negative is forefront. Yes, the police officers that are shooting innocent people should be punished but I also feel that by only portraying those stories that all the good police and all the good things that are done by police are swept under the rug like they dont matter. I guess my UO would be better stated as I feel like there's two.sides to everything and it's not fair to only see one.
Maybe they are being focused on because it's become a huge freaking issue, not because the media is intent on making us all miserable with tragedies.
I mean....really?
Yup. Again, I said it was a huge UO. Point of this post.
I'm tired of hearing about these shootings too. Because they shouldn't be fucking happening. Not because I don't care.
Ugh stuck in the box
It's not that I don't care. I absolutely do and my heart breaks for the victims. However, I feel like our media only portrays the bad side of the world. Everything negative is forefront. Yes, the police officers that are shooting innocent people should be punished but I also feel that by only portraying those stories that all the good police and all the good things that are done by police are swept under the rug like they dont matter. I guess my UO would be better stated as I feel like there's two.sides to everything and it's not fair to only see one.
Maybe they are being focused on because it's become a huge freaking issue, not because the media is intent on making us all miserable with tragedies.
I mean....really?
Yup. Again, I said it was a huge UO. Point of this post.
Welp, I'm sorry that the senseless loss of lives isn't important enough for you to be bothered with.
What happiness and good doing are you putting out into the world that's newsworthy? Let me know when it airs and I'll tune in.
I'm tired of hearing about these shootings too. Because they shouldn't be fucking happening. Not because I don't care.
Ugh stuck in the box
It's not that I don't care. I absolutely do and my heart breaks for the victims. However, I feel like our media only portrays the bad side of the world. Everything negative is forefront. Yes, the police officers that are shooting innocent people should be punished but I also feel that by only portraying those stories that all the good police and all the good things that are done by police are swept under the rug like they dont matter. I guess my UO would be better stated as I feel like there's two.sides to everything and it's not fair to only see one.
Maybe they are being focused on because it's become a huge freaking issue, not because the media is intent on making us all miserable with tragedies.
I mean....really?
Yup. Again, I said it was a huge UO. Point of this post.
Welp, I'm sorry that the senseless loss of lives isn't important enough for you to be bothered with.
What happiness and good doing are you putting out into the world that's newsworthy? Let me know when it airs and I'll tune in.
Ok. Guess that my UO was too unpopular. Should have kept it to myself.
Since I need to stay out of trouble today, I'm just going to say that I agree strongly with @Gingersnap and @BumpasaurusRex. Extremely important issue for the media to cover because it should not be happening. Arguably one of the most important ones in the current news cycle.
@16isyourluckynumber I think in general this BMB is pretty tolerant of individual posts compared to most other BMBs. I personally really enjoy the Randoms thread but if it's not for you, no harm no foul. I think the most important ones from an organizational standpoint are Symptoms, Appointments, Ultrasounds, etc.
My UO is going to be very unpopular. I'm tired of hearing about all of these police shootings. Yes, I think they're terrible and awful and very sad but I think it's media bs. When there starts being equal airtime for good things that people do then maybe I will care more. Flame away.
Blown away by "equal airtime for good things". What does that even mean?
I'm tired of hearing about these shootings too. Because they shouldn't be fucking happening. Not because I don't care.
Ugh stuck in the box
It's not that I don't care. I absolutely do and my heart breaks for the victims. However, I feel like our media only portrays the bad side of the world. Everything negative is forefront. Yes, the police officers that are shooting innocent people should be punished but I also feel that by only portraying those stories that all the good police and all the good things that are done by police are swept under the rug like they dont matter. I guess my UO would be better stated as I feel like there's two.sides to everything and it's not fair to only see one.
Maybe they are being focused on because it's become a huge freaking issue, not because the media is intent on making us all miserable with tragedies.
I mean....really?
Yup. Again, I said it was a huge UO. Point of this post.
Welp, I'm sorry that the senseless loss of lives isn't important enough for you to be bothered with.
What happiness and good doing are you putting out into the world that's newsworthy? Let me know when it airs and I'll tune in.
Ok. Guess that my UO was too unpopular. Should have kept it to myself.
I guess I understand wanting to live in a blissfully-ignornant bubble, but if no one is aware that atrocities are being committed, there is no one to stand up and speak out against them. It is incredibly important that these incidents be filmed and publicized so that the general public knows what tf is going on outside of their suburbs in order to collectively say that we won't ignore this and won't stand for it.
I'm sure my UO is way overdone, a touchy topic, and probably the subject of an existing thread -- or ten -- already. But I hate the Randoms thread. I don't want to page through 5+ pages just to see if there is something I want to chime in on. I wish there were more individual threads. It would be so much easier to see whether there is something I am interested in if there were just a few more individual threads. I think it would also be more fun to see more individual threads each day. I recognize that this can go to the other extreme and end up like that other major board out there, where threads get lost within minutes because they get bumped down off the bottom of the page. I'm not saying go all the way that direction. A little organization is nice and so is a little bit of fun.
So then my UO would be I would rather have 5+ pages of a Randoms thread to look through than 5+ pages of AW posts about every single thing that we all feel like sharing. ::shrug::
I'm glad there is so much in the media about the shootings. God forbid we forget the fact that this atrocity is happening in this day and age. It's insane to me that this is still happening after not just 1 or 2 but SO MANY senseless shootings. Imagine being afraid of the people who serve to protect simply because of the color of your skin. It's not right, it's not OK, and something has to be done to put an end to it.
I hear what you're saying that there are always two sides to a story and there are good police officers out there, but we don't need to fix what is right with this country. We need to remember each and every person and hear about them in order to make those changes happen. This world continues to become more and more scary and reading happy news is not going to make me feel better.
I'm glad there is so much in the media about the shootings. God forbid we forget the fact that this atrocity is happening in this day and age. It's insane to me that this is still happening after not just 1 or 2 but SO MANY senseless shootings. Imagine being afraid of the people who serve to protect simply because of the color of your skin. It's not right, it's not OK, and something has to be done to put an end to it.
I hear what you're saying that there are always two sides to a story and there are good police officers out there, but we don't need to fix what is right with this country. We need to remember each and every person and hear about them in order to make those changes happen. This world continues to become more and more scary and reading happy news is not going to make me feel better.
@CAndrada I feel like this reply may be unpopular, but you don't happen to be white are you? Like, wow. If "no uterus, no opinion" is a thing, then maybe "not black, no opinion" should be. The end.
@CAndrada I feel like this reply may be unpopular, but you don't happen to be white are you? Like, wow. If "no uterus, no opinion" is a thing, then maybe "not black, no opinion" should be. The end.
Whoaaaaaa....I don't agree with @CAndrada AT ALL, but factoring race into who should or should not have an opinion is racist in and of itself and IMHO using racist behavior to fight racism is counterproductive.
I have 2 today. 1. I'm not stressing about saving to pay for my kids college. Maybe they'll go, maybe I'll help them, who knows. I actually don't know anyone IRL whose parents paid for their college and have lots of successful friends. 2. Pregnant people who say their hormones have nothing to do with how they act are in denial, IMO. May not be the sole cause, but it definitely plays a part.
Agree with you on the college front.
We do not plan to pay for college for any of our kids, at least not 100%. While we value their education, we also value instilling a sense of responsibility in them. If they want the degree, they will have to earn it. It's not going to be a free ride.
Of course, if we can help out financially, we will. But we aren't footing the bill.
Nope.
Agreed! My dad paid what he could and I graduated college with a degree and loan. I am all about helping where you can, but today's kids are showing less and less responsibility. I attribute this to kids being too "privileged." A coworker of mine has a 17 year old that is nothing but disrespectful, but expects her to hand over the money anytime he calls. The bad thing is, is that she does it. Make the boy get a job.
@CAndrada I feel like this reply may be unpopular, but you don't happen to be white are you? Like, wow. If "no uterus, no opinion" is a thing, then maybe "not black, no opinion" should be. The end.
Okay, I feel like my anger had overtaken me. I am just tired of hearing Caucasian people that I know (friends, family, etc) trivialize what is going on with African American people, First Nations people, and the growing number of refugees in our country. Most of what I hear comes out of lack of not only understanding, but empathy as well. Yes, we should be involved in taking a stand with people groups that are being victimized to end the injustices that are going on and I think that one of the biggest ways to do this is by creating awareness through the media. I just feel that it is white privilege to not want to hear about these cruelties happening because there's not enough fluffy stuff in the news to counteract it. I apologize if I came off as racist. That was in no way my intention. I did not think before I replied and I promise that I wil be more thoughtful in the future.
Okay, I feel like my anger had overtaken me. I am just tired of hearing Caucasian people that I know (friends, family, etc) trivialize what is going on with African American people, First Nations people, and the growing number of refugees in our country. Most of what I hear comes out of lack of not only understanding, but empathy as well. Yes, we should be involved in taking a stand with people groups that are being victimized to end the injustices that are going on and I think that one of the biggest ways to do this is by creating awareness through the media. I just feel that it is white privilege to not want to hear about these cruelties happening because there's not enough fluffy stuff in the news to counteract it. I apologize if I came off as racist. That was in no way my intention. I did not think before I replied and I promise that I wil be more thoughtful in the future.
I don't like that you use "white privilege" as a reason for a person's lake of empathy and caring. It's not the color of someone's skin that makes then not care, it's ignorance and being ignorant isn't limited to any specific skin color. You can have a white, middle class or upper class upbringing and still be a thoughtful and understanding person.
@MrsDramaK I definitely agree with you. I just think that it is common (not guaranteed) for people who fall under "white privilege" to be blind to the fact that not every race has the same privileges. Maybe I just know too many people who fall under this category and I need to surround myself with new ones...
I'm pretty sure that's not what "white privilege" means. Caucasian people need to have an opinion on this issue, or it won't change. I recently read "#blacklivesmatter is not saying that other races don't. #blacklivesmatter means that the lives of black people should matter, too."
I don't have any UO's of my own this week so I'll just piggyback. I can't even with the wanting less media attention on these shootings. How ridiculous. It's a conversation that needs to happen or things will just stay the same. Sweeping it under a rug is not going to solve anything. Chipotle is gross. I'd much rather have Moe's. While certainly some board organization is nice the random thread is really strange to me. While I'm happy not to see a million of the same question it's odd not to see the board move faster. But I haven't been around since 2012.
I actually enjoy the random threads. I think I just put in the recent one that my nephew guessed I was having a boy. It was cute and I wanted to share it with the girls, but it really isn't important to have its own thread. I'm sure maybe some people don't care at all that my nephew guessed a boy but I enjoy reading randomness like the announcement shirt ( @HeatSparks ) and seeing cute pictures of tots "mowing the lawn" next to their dad ( @angeltennis3 ) . I think it's a nice place for extra stuff and I don't mind scrolling through them, I might be guilty of quickly scanning and not always reading carefully but it works for me. Edit tag fail
I get sick of tv media coverage over politics (specifically election coverage)...I prefer to spend a little time educating myself from trusted sources vs tv media.
I am not going to touch the karma over saying how much is too much media coverage over (any type of) shootings. There is clearly an issue, since it keeps happening, so let's spend our energy finding a solution instead of rolling our eyes at the media. It's a human race problem not a color of your skin problem.
Chipotle is delightful...but I don't favor it more than Qdoba or Moes. Pancheros is where it's really at.
I am am late to the UO game and stirred the pot a little last week, so that's all I really have today. Back to cleaning my DD's car seat...
My UO is going to be very unpopular. I'm tired of hearing about all of these police shootings. Yes, I think they're terrible and awful and very sad but I think it's media bs. When there starts being equal airtime for good things that people do then maybe I will care more. Flame away.
@MrsDramaK I definitely agree with you. I just think that it is common (not guaranteed) for people who fall under "white privilege" to be blind to the fact that not every race has the same privileges. Maybe I just know too many people who fall under this category and I need to surround myself with new ones...
I think it is a manifestation of white privilege say that you'd just rather not know what's happening to "others" around you, but WP =\= ignorance of privilege and disparities. WP = white. Period. You get it automatically, want it or not. But plenty of people with WP are aware that it has been bestowed upon them.
@MrsDramaK I definitely agree with you. I just think that it is common (not guaranteed) for people who fall under "white privilege" to be blind to the fact that not every race has the same privileges. Maybe I just know too many people who fall under this category and I need to surround myself with new ones...
I think it is a manifestation of white privilege say that you'd just rather not know what's happening to "others" around you, but WP =\= ignorance of privilege and disparities. WP = white. Period. You get it automatically, want it or not. But plenty of people with WP are aware that it has been bestowed upon them.
I intend to pay for nearly 100% of our child's education if I can - but I also intend to tell the kid to go to Canada to get an education if they can. The cost is subsidized like I think that it should be, the kid will be Canadian and therefore eligible for the reduced tuition, and we have some of the best educational institutions in the world (win win).
My parents paid for my education and I'm financially stable because of what they taught me and what they helped me with. Ideally the kid will have a summer job but during the school year their job will be studying. If instead of working they do volunteer work or something along those lines that will be ok by me. Alternatively, they should go visit family in Italy (nearly all of my immediate family is there - and to know them requires visiting).
I can see how some kids are growing up entitled but to say that it is because their education was paid for is so frustrating to me. I had my education paid for nearly completely, and I'm not entitled. I'm forever grateful that my parents were able to do that for me - and part of my cost is that my parents were older and I never met my paternal grandfather and don't remember my paternal grandmother. I'd give so much to have memories of them.
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Re: UO Thursday 7/07
Because of the hours we work (late nights and many weekends) and so many people at such a young age, to say we wouldn't become friends is just crazy to me. However I recognize this is not your normal work environment.
I can't even....
Because they shouldn't be fucking happening.
Not because I don't care.
Are you saying that you don't care about the shootings that happen because they aren't being balanced in the media with good things? You will only care if you hear more good than bad?
I'm kind of stumped on this one.
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I mean....really?
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
What happiness and good doing are you putting out into the world that's newsworthy? Let me know when it airs and I'll tune in.
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Little Bro 2/6/17
if UO makes me sound like a shitty person, don't type it...
@16isyourluckynumber I think in general this BMB is pretty tolerant of individual posts compared to most other BMBs. I personally really enjoy the Randoms thread but if it's not for you, no harm no foul. I think the most important ones from an organizational standpoint are Symptoms, Appointments, Ultrasounds, etc.
BFP #1 8/4/2015, MMC 9/24/2015
BFP #3 8/24/2017, MC 9/20/2017
BFP #4 11/14/2017, CP
BFP #5 1/5/2018, MC/BO 2/17/2018
BFP #6 7/15/2018, CP
BFP #7 12/15/2018, EDD 8/28/2019
It's like an old AIM chat room.
I'm glad there is so much in the media about the shootings. God forbid we forget the fact that this atrocity is happening in this day and age. It's insane to me that this is still happening after not just 1 or 2 but SO MANY senseless shootings. Imagine being afraid of the people who serve to protect simply because of the color of your skin. It's not right, it's not OK, and something has to be done to put an end to it.
I hear what you're saying that there are always two sides to a story and there are good police officers out there, but we don't need to fix what is right with this country. We need to remember each and every person and hear about them in order to make those changes happen. This world continues to become more and more scary and reading happy news is not going to make me feel better.
Well said.
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BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Caucasian people need to have an opinion on this issue, or it won't change.
I recently read "#blacklivesmatter is not saying that other races don't. #blacklivesmatter means that the lives of black people should matter, too."
I can't even with the wanting less media attention on these shootings. How ridiculous. It's a conversation that needs to happen or things will just stay the same. Sweeping it under a rug is not going to solve anything.
Chipotle is gross. I'd much rather have Moe's.
While certainly some board organization is nice the random thread is really strange to me. While I'm happy not to see a million of the same question it's odd not to see the board move faster. But I haven't been around since 2012.
Edit tag fail
I am not going to touch the karma over saying how much is too much media coverage over (any type of) shootings. There is clearly an issue, since it keeps happening, so let's spend our energy finding a solution instead of rolling our eyes at the media. It's a human race problem not a color of your skin problem.
Chipotle is delightful...but I don't favor it more than Qdoba or Moes. Pancheros is where it's really at.
I am am late to the UO game and stirred the pot a little last week, so that's all I really have today. Back to cleaning my DD's car seat...
My parents paid for my education and I'm financially stable because of what they taught me and what they helped me with. Ideally the kid will have a summer job but during the school year their job will be studying. If instead of working they do volunteer work or something along those lines that will be ok by me. Alternatively, they should go visit family in Italy (nearly all of my immediate family is there - and to know them requires visiting).
I can see how some kids are growing up entitled but to say that it is because their education was paid for is so frustrating to me. I had my education paid for nearly completely, and I'm not entitled. I'm forever grateful that my parents were able to do that for me - and part of my cost is that my parents were older and I never met my paternal grandfather and don't remember my paternal grandmother. I'd give so much to have memories of them.
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017