@sagoon I did not know there would be butt swabs involved in this
The babysitter comment kind of kills me and simultaneously baffles me. Do many people have family that live that close to them to literally never entrust the care of their child to someone other than a parent or sibling? That must be nice! My opinion for today, which I hope is actually not all that unpopular, is that we all come from all different walks of life. I think for the most part, parents try to make the best choices for their families given their specific circumstances. I don't know any parent that has ever found a babysitter off of craigslist or not researched a "stranger" through a referral, interview, or some other kind of vetting process. But I do know plenty of people that are not fortunate enough to have family near by, or are single parents, or are effectively single parents, which requires them to utilize child care that isn't a close, personal relative.
My UO is that I think you should do your research and know when to "disagree with your doctor". Blindly following doctors has lead to the USA having the WORST maternal death rates in child birth in the 1st world countries. We are the best at taking care of premies but our mom's are not doing well. That in itself and the fact that almost 40% of births are c-sections is not something to be proud of and should be viewed as a problem. By no means do I think all Dr are ignorant, but I do think America as a society has bred this. We are a very money hungry nation and the fact of the matter is c-sections bring in more money and leave the Dr with almost 0 risk/responsibility. I am so so so beyond grateful that we have these life saving procedures available, and personally know many who have needed them. I myself however have been the unfortunate person to have an OB tell me that I'm too small to birth a baby and wanted to schedule a c-section for no reason than "I'm small". No. Just no. I went on to have 2 VBA2Cs perfectly fine. In that scenario I think the OB was either grossly misinformed, or just wanting me to schedule out of convenience for her.Again, I think it is silly to question everything Dr say and do, they went to school for years and know their stuff, but I also think it is smart to be well informed.