@sagoon I did not know there would be butt swabs involved in this
There are but my OB was so gentle and quick about it that I honestly forgot that it even happened until just now. I'm sure there are some who aren't but last time around, for me, it really wasn't anywhere near as uncomfortable as it sounds.
The babysitter comment kind of kills me and simultaneously baffles me. Do many people have family that live that close to them to literally never entrust the care of their child to someone other than a parent or sibling? That must be nice! My opinion for today, which I hope is actually not all that unpopular, is that we all come from all different walks of life. I think for the most part, parents try to make the best choices for their families given their specific circumstances. I don't know any parent that has ever found a babysitter off of craigslist or not researched a "stranger" through a referral, interview, or some other kind of vetting process. But I do know plenty of people that are not fortunate enough to have family near by, or are single parents, or are effectively single parents, which requires them to utilize child care that isn't a close, personal relative.
My UO is that I think you should do your research and know when to "disagree with your doctor". Blindly following doctors has lead to the USA having the WORST maternal death rates in child birth in the 1st world countries. We are the best at taking care of premies but our mom's are not doing well. That in itself and the fact that almost 40% of births are c-sections is not something to be proud of and should be viewed as a problem.
By no means do I think all Dr are ignorant, but I do think America as a society has bred this. We are a very money hungry nation and the fact of the matter is c-sections bring in more money and leave the Dr with almost 0 risk/responsibility.
I am so so so beyond grateful that we have these life saving procedures available, and personally know many who have needed them. I myself however have been the unfortunate person to have an OB tell me that I'm too small to birth a baby and wanted to schedule a c-section for no reason than "I'm small". No. Just no. I went on to have 2 VBA2Cs perfectly fine. In that scenario I think the OB was either grossly misinformed, or just wanting me to schedule out of convenience for her.
Again, I think it is silly to question everything Dr say and do, they went to school for years and know their stuff, but I also think it is smart to be well informed.
The babysitter comment kind of kills me and simultaneously baffles me. Do many people have family that live that close to them to literally never entrust the care of their child to someone other than a parent or sibling? That must be nice! My opinion for today, which I hope is actually not all that unpopular, is that we all come from all different walks of life. I think for the most part, parents try to make the best choices for their families given their specific circumstances. I don't know any parent that has ever found a babysitter off of craigslist or not researched a "stranger" through a referral, interview, or some other kind of vetting process. But I do know plenty of people that are not fortunate enough to have family near by, or are single parents, or are effectively single parents, which requires them to utilize child care that isn't a close, personal relative.
I understand not everyone lives near close family - or even has a relationship with their family. I recognize that I'm incredibly blessed to live near family who can watch my daughter if I need them to. If a parent needs someone to watch their children, though, my *personal* opinion is that it's ideal if they found someone that they knew IRL, and had personal dealings with IRL, or at the very least someone that their friends/family/co-workers personally know and can refer them to. Rather than a total stranger on the internet, who's references you don't know. This baffles me. Clearly, there are circumstances out there, unfortunately, that would call for someone having to find someone on the internet. And in that case, all the parent can do is their due diligence It's obviously an unpopular opinion - but that's what this thread is all about
The babysitter comment kind of kills me and simultaneously baffles me. Do many people have family that live that close to them to literally never entrust the care of their child to someone other than a parent or sibling? That must be nice! My opinion for today, which I hope is actually not all that unpopular, is that we all come from all different walks of life. I think for the most part, parents try to make the best choices for their families given their specific circumstances. I don't know any parent that has ever found a babysitter off of craigslist or not researched a "stranger" through a referral, interview, or some other kind of vetting process. But I do know plenty of people that are not fortunate enough to have family near by, or are single parents, or are effectively single parents, which requires them to utilize child care that isn't a close, personal relative.
I'm with you. I don't know if we are talking about just like, babysitters for date nights, or child care in general. I am lucky to have family nearby, but no one who doesn't have a FT job and can just watch my child(ren) 50 hours a week while I work. If I was never going to leave them with anyone but family, I guess I would have to be a SAHM. Not that there's anything wrong with that choice, of course, but it's not ideal or even possible for some.
DS: June 2008 Married: July 2015 BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
My UO is that I think you should do your research and know when to "disagree with your doctor". Blindly following doctors has lead to the USA having the WORST maternal death rates in child birth in the 1st world countries. We are the best at taking care of premies but our mom's are not doing well. That in itself and the fact that almost 40% of births are c-sections is not something to be proud of and should be viewed as a problem.
By no means do I think all Dr are ignorant, but I do think America as a society has bred this. We are a very money hungry nation and the fact of the matter is c-sections bring in more money and leave the Dr with almost 0 risk/responsibility.
I am so so so beyond grateful that we have these life saving procedures available, and personally know many who have needed them. I myself however have been the unfortunate person to have an OB tell me that I'm too small to birth a baby and wanted to schedule a c-section for no reason than "I'm small". No. Just no. I went on to have 2 VBA2Cs perfectly fine. In that scenario I think the OB was either grossly misinformed, or just wanting me to schedule out of convenience for her.
Again, I think it is silly to question everything Dr say and do, they went to school for years and know their stuff, but I also think it is smart to be well informed.
well, all heathcare outcomes are quite multifactorial. obviously not caused by any one factor, and definitely not caused by excessive compliance.
obs have a huge risk in their difficult field. and this is a malpractice happy country. and there are crazy high malpractice costs.
i think educating oneself if a good thing typically. but people often turn to google, which isn't necessarily a reputable source. on the other hand i know there are people looking up and analyzing studies, which i have complete respect for.
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By no means do I think all Dr are ignorant, but I do think America as a society has bred this. We are a very money hungry nation and the fact of the matter is c-sections bring in more money and leave the Dr with almost 0 risk/responsibility.
I am so so so beyond grateful that we have these life saving procedures available, and personally know many who have needed them. I myself however have been the unfortunate person to have an OB tell me that I'm too small to birth a baby and wanted to schedule a c-section for no reason than "I'm small". No. Just no. I went on to have 2 VBA2Cs perfectly fine. In that scenario I think the OB was either grossly misinformed, or just wanting me to schedule out of convenience for her.
Again, I think it is silly to question everything Dr say and do, they went to school for years and know their stuff, but I also think it is smart to be well informed.
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DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
If a parent needs someone to watch their children, though, my *personal* opinion is that it's ideal if they found someone that they knew IRL, and had personal dealings with IRL, or at the very least someone that their friends/family/co-workers personally know and can refer them to. Rather than a total stranger on the internet, who's references you don't know. This baffles me. Clearly, there are circumstances out there, unfortunately, that would call for someone having to find someone on the internet. And in that case, all the parent can do is their due diligence
It's obviously an unpopular opinion - but that's what this thread is all about
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Married: July 2015
BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
obs have a huge risk in their difficult field. and this is a malpractice happy country. and there are crazy high malpractice costs.
i think educating oneself if a good thing typically. but people often turn to google, which isn't necessarily a reputable source. on the other hand i know there are people looking up and analyzing studies, which i have complete respect for.