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BumpasaurusRex

SSCmomma said:

The whole premise of the gender/sex thing is that labeling a child prior to their personal decision is wrong.  So far as to say that using the term gender to describe how a child is born is offensive.  Although you have to wonder if this horrific error that seems to be so frequently made by new members of tb it is in fact a hypersensitive issue exclusive to tb since most people make it 20, 30 even 40+ years without ever having to address it in the real world.  What if a bump member is having a girl and wants to be team blue?  Should they be obligated to clarify the distinction in their preference because they don't identify with the correct team color?

Sincerely, the Scarecrow of straw.

I don't believe I've read anyone saying that labeling a child prior to their personal decision is wrong.  For me, the argument has always been to use the terms gender/sex correctly.  Sex is between the legs, gender is between the ears.  And if someone knows the sex of their unborn child is male and want to buy a wardrobe full of blue clothes, it's not going to break what the child will grow up to identify with.  It's simply the parents' preference until the child can/does make that decision for themselves.  

But the bottom line is simple: you do what you please with your child and others will do the same.  I don't know why you're so intent on harping on this when it's not really an issue to do with you or your kid. 

MrsDramaK

OP I don't get your problem.  If you want to ID your child with whatever color you want no one's stopping you.  Just be tolerant of other people's right to ID their children with the standard pink or blue based on their sex.  If the decide later that their gender is something different, I don't think they're going to be all that mad they were dressed in the "wrong" color as a baby.  My cousin wore blue her entire childhood because her mom loathes pink, it didn't affect her gender identity at all, however we all frequently confuse childhood pictures of her with childhood pictures of her brother.  So again the color is just an easy way to ID sex before gender comes into play.

Seriously, it seems like your trying to start trouble to start trouble.  We've all explained our points.  You disagree, whatever let it be done.

cheymarie29

Omgoodness. I can't. Listen. If I have a girl it will be raised as a girl and if I have a boy it will be raised as a boy. Sugar and spice and snakes and snails and all of the above. It's not my place to judge that apparently some kids are told ... (how does a young child even process that they are a neutral gender till they decide differently?) Buy anyway it's not my place. If my child shows gender confusion issues while I'm raising it to be matched to thier sex yes I will support and love them through figuring that out. But I'll be darned if anyone decides I can't use pink or blue because it offends them because it's not neutral enough to not be offensive. This world is going crazy. Sorry not sorry.