@HenchBytch as a "wash and wear mom" I ended up with a very prissy /frilly and tutu daughter. At 19 months she picks out what she wears and all hell breaks loose if her pink and frills aren't washed and ready to wear. It's exasperating but I know she sure as hell didn't get that from me and that is the beauty of having a child who came out with her mind made up. I would say choice is a great feminist quality.
My WTF is to work. I'm just done with working. My patient assignment was so ridiculously busy and I just didn't have a second to collect my thoughts or have a drink of water all day. I feel dehydrated and exhausted and cranky. I have incredible coworkers who stepped up to help me but it was still terrible. The worst part is that today was day 1 of 3 in a row, and I have to come back to the same crap tomorrow I'm just emotionally done with working. I have 10 work days left and it's just too many at this point.
I'll be honest, I am donating a lot of the *really* over the top girl shit. Does it say 'princess'? Donate. Is Minnie Mouse splashed across the front? Donate. Is it hot pink, leopard print, or covered in glitter? Donate. I have a lot of dresses for her (mostly because dresses in the summer are so nice and cool), but they are in downplayed prints and forgiving teals, or white and navy. My basic rule: Would *I* wear this outfit? If I wouldn't be caught dead in it, I won't put it on my kid while she can't choose. She has her entire toddler-hood to make questionable style choices.
Eta: Pictures for clarification
This is from the 'Yes' wardrobe. The smiling pineapple makes me so happy. These are all light cotton, not scratchy.
This is the 'Oh god, why?!' pile. The glitter, the Minnie, the bright pink. And that scratchy tutu material looks like torture to delicate little baby thighs.
Let's be honest. Until our kids are old enough to actually have an opinion they can express in some way, does it matter what they wear? It's all about our personal preferences and what we feel like looking at them in. Like pink tutus? Go for it. Like skulls and crossbones? Do it.
I returned several outfits with trucks and construction vehicles on them because I don't particularly think they're cute. I'm all about monster outfits. Will my son like trucks and want to wear outfits with them? Probably. Will I let him? Yes. Will he have any clue what he is wearing when he's a baby? No.
When our our kids have opinions that they can express, I think they should have a say. Until then, it's mom and dad's choice. Sorry, baby.
@DominiqueU My post was addressing others viewing baby girls as dolls to dress up. Obviously baby can't choose what she wears - I will. When she's old enough to choose, she can pick whatever she wants. Pink and frilly are not my thing but other people keep trying to force this notion on me that it's something I should get used to..they have no idea who my daughter will be so that's a ridiculous statement.
@HenchBytch Yes! It's another rude extension of other people thinking it's okay to tell you how to parent. 'Oh you formula/breast feed? You know you should really.....' -or- 'You haven't started solids yet?' -or- 'Why is she wearing that? You know she's a girl, right?' It's rude and we should give *NO* fucks what other people think our kids should look or behave like. Hey, if anyone wants the Minnie onesie or scratchy tutu dress, I will hand them over with a smile. I won't think anything about your parenting or your ideals. It's just not what *I* want to put my kid in.
I'm glad that we kept baby's sex a secret from everyone because we were able to avoid over-the-top clothing for both boys AND girls being gifted to us. I am not a fan of the frilly, sparkly, doll-like outfits for baby girls, but I also dislike the macho outfits for boys (you know, the onesies that say "stud" or "chick magnet"). Just like we don't need to perpetuate the idea that girls are dolls, like @HenchBytch said, society also doesn't need to feed the patriarchy.
@DominiqueU - totally agree. Obviously they aren't going to come out and argue with what you are putting them in. It's definitely a combination of something you as a parent like yourself, but should also be practical and easy to take off without smearing blowout poop everywhere. I like the idea of letting them choose when they are old enough to do so. My sister and I were raised by my dad for the most part - learned how to change a tire and our own oil, stuff like that. Our daughter will be raised no differently.
That being said, DH and I agree on no light-up shoes so hopefully the child never figures that one out. We'll cross that bridge when we get there lol.
@elldel When we didn't know the sex I found myself staring longingly at all of the seersucker suits and overall sets. I will still buy overalls for our little girl (when she is old enough to wear them in a practical sense, and not all tiny and floppy). She also has a ton of monster print sleep sacks and stuff from the boys' section.
@Nerdchild and @elldel LOVE the overalls. They have the cutest little overall shorts I saw at H&M online. But I'm not sure how small they come. One of the girly things I have is this teeny tiny little yellow swimsuit. Stuff like that just melts my soul.
Wtf self? I'm crying all the time because I'm so tired and I can't any sleep. Maybe this fits better in June symptoms but I hate that I'm crying so much. I feel like such a baby.
My WTF is pregnancy insomnia right now. It's 5:20AM and I've been awake since 3AM. DEAR BODY GO THE EFF TO SLEEP!
Have you tried Benadryl or melatonin?
Ugh I thought melatonin was in the naughty list for pregos?? Have I been wrong this whole time?
@LadyFleck, @BecauseBabyIamAPug and @HMcDade1 basically said all I would about the subject of melatonin. I'd also like to point out that melatonin is your body's natural sleep drug that's produced in the brain and keeps your body in sleep-wake cycles. So the synthetic stuff (IMO) just amplifies what your body is already producing. Like @HMcDade1 I've also taken melatonin regularly throughout my pregnancy in order to sleep. I work nights and would've gotten little to no sleep without using it.
I'm glad that we kept baby's sex a secret from everyone because we were able to avoid over-the-top clothing for both boys AND girls being gifted to us. I am not a fan of the frilly, sparkly, doll-like outfits for baby girls, but I also dislike the macho outfits for boys (you know, the onesies that say "stud" or "chick magnet"). Just like we don't need to perpetuate the idea that girls are dolls, like @HenchBytch said, society also doesn't need to feed the patriarchy.
Just my 2 cents.
Part of the reason I'm team green...I'm not the girlie type and like @HenchBytch said, as well as others, it's about what we believe in and how we want to dress our children until they can make their own choices. As much as I hate the frilly stuff I would never keep my child from wearing what they wanted (boy or girl). It kept people from buying any clothing at all so far for this LO. One of my SO's daughters is super girlie and the other isn't. We let them wear what they want because they are old enough. I think part of this stems from being forced to wear girlie things when I was young and feeling so uncomfortable. I don't want my kids to feel that way ever. I want to stay as neutral as possible until they decide for themselves.
And then there are the people who, despite not knowing the sex of our baby, gave us cutesy pink blankets and outfits... It's like, could it be any more obvious that you had this sitting around your house and just wanted it gone? Thanks buddy.
Re: WTF Wednesday 06/22
My WTF is to work. I'm just done with working. My patient assignment was so ridiculously busy and I just didn't have a second to collect my thoughts or have a drink of water all day. I feel dehydrated and exhausted and cranky. I have incredible coworkers who stepped up to help me but it was still terrible. The worst part is that today was day 1 of 3 in a row, and I have to come back to the same crap tomorrow
Eta: Pictures for clarification
This is from the 'Yes' wardrobe. The smiling pineapple makes me so happy. These are all light cotton, not scratchy.
This is the 'Oh god, why?!' pile. The glitter, the Minnie, the bright pink. And that scratchy tutu material looks like torture to delicate little baby thighs.
I returned several outfits with trucks and construction vehicles on them because I don't particularly think they're cute. I'm all about monster outfits. Will my son like trucks and want to wear outfits with them? Probably. Will I let him? Yes. Will he have any clue what he is wearing when he's a baby? No.
When our our kids have opinions that they can express, I think they should have a say. Until then, it's mom and dad's choice. Sorry, baby.
Just my 2 cents.
That being said, DH and I agree on no light-up shoes so hopefully the child never figures that one out. We'll cross that bridge when we get there lol.
Married May 16th 2015
July BMB June Siggy
Married May 16th 2015
July BMB June Siggy