Been up since 1am, it's 0610. to make matter worst, dh has class today. He can't get out of it. He won't be home until after 8pm. My mom has a Dr appt followed by PT. That means I am on child duty all day. I see a lot of Nick Jr in my future.
I will join you on the insomnia train. Last night it was 4:30-6:30 and today I've been up since before 6 and I didn't have to wake up for work for a few more hours. This is only making my last few weeks at work harder.. but I do see breakfast in my near future.
I was told not to take melatonin while pregnant, just in case. I looked at the bottle the other day and it said you shouldn't take it while nursing, either.
I join everyone with the WTF insomnia. I know I slept last night, but it sure as hell didn't feel like it. I woke up still ragey from work yesterday and here I go, back at it again today. I'm so over this. I'm crabby as hell and convinced I really will be pregnant forever and will have to deal with everyone's dipshit questions for the rest of my pathetic small-planet life.
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wtf to my mom, who called my son a brat while talking to her on the phone yesterday. My son is two. Yes, he is a brat sometimes. But, she said it in a condescending way as usual. She also thinks there's something wrong with my son because he's a picky eater. Again, my son is two years old. Also, she sees my son about once per year, so I'm not sure how she has the ability to judge his character. All in all I think my son is a great kid, with two-year-old tendencies. Then, she gets on the phone with my stepkids, and starts talking to them in this fake, high-pitched, can you understand me-type voice. Ummm, my stepkids are 9 and 11. She can talk to them like they are regular people, not dogs!! STFU betch.
*Edited because dogs are also considered "sentient."
The 'issue ' with melatonin is that since isn't considered a herb (even though it's not), there is not official research regarding it and pregnancy and nursing. There is some research that does say it crosses the placenta, but nothing that says what it does. Therefore there is no drug class for it.
Some providers argue that since it's the synthetic of the natural hormone, it's ok. Others are being cautious.
Melatonin is also secrected naturally by the same gland that stimulates oxytocin release and therefore there's some minimal research that taking exogenous melatonin could cause contractions, but I've taken it every day of my pregnancy with no problems.
Like pugs said, because it's homeopathic the FDA won't research it.
Wtf to my tiny house that already feels like it's closing in on me. Had to get up to pee a million times last night and I trip over out playststation 3 remote charging cord and pull the thing down on top of me. Thankfully it fell on my back/shoulders not my head. Though now my shoulder hurts and it took me forever to g back to sleep on to have to wake up an hours later for my alarm. *sigh*
Insomnia ladies, I recommend the Benadryl. My wtf is thinking that maybe my son had dropped because of all the pain in my vag and how it feels like he's been making a home in my hip joints, was excited because I didn't have heartburn, woke up heartburn.
Major WTF to my husband. He's gone for two weeks and comes back grumpy, moody and short tempered...so we finally had a blow out (about what to have for dinner, FFS) and I squeezed out of him that he's depressed and thinks our life is so routine and boring that it's hardly worth living. Oh, and I'm a stick in the mud that doesn't ever want to do anything fun anymore, even our sex life is boring and routine.
What the actual EFF, man. I am due in TWELVE DAYS. This is not the time to have a crisis. I am sympathetic to depression, I really am. I know it can be a struggle. But this is like the total opposite of what I need from him right now and i want to slap him upside the head for the amount of empathy he lacks to be bitching at me at 38 weeks that I'm boring and no fun and so is our sex life. Way to be a supportive partner.
I'm hoping it's just that he's worried/stressed out since we're so close to delivering. I'm not sure I can juggle everything like this plus a newborn on top of it.
WTF to numb hands. The past few weeks it has gotten progressively worse and I now have to wear wrist braces on both hands all day long. The doctor says fluid / swelling causes pressure which causes carpal tunnel. My hands literally feel like they are falling asleep anytime I don't have them resting flat on my arm rests of my chair and it hurts! It's torture all day long.
@oandmplus1 yes!!!! I wake up in the middle of the night in pain from both of my wrists! I only have one brace, I guess I should invest in another. My mom suggested I wear mittens at night and that might ease the pain. I thought she was kinda crazy, plus it's way too hot but I tried it last night and it worked! I still have a little pain and soreness but definitely nothing like the pain I had the night before.
Let me preface this by saying that I have absolutely no negative feelings toward super feminine females. I am just not one of them..
One of my fears after we found out we were having a girl was that people would go overboard with the frilly, pink, lacy stuff. We had a shower this past weekend and everyone there knew me well so there were only pink items here and there. I washed everything and put it away.
Yesterday my husband comes home with a pink gift bag - a gift from a coworker. There are two outfits that could win a damn award for being "girly." I was telling people how I wasn't sure what to do with those because they are so out of my element. The outpouring of, "get used to it", "dressing girls up like dolls is fun!", etc. was SO obnoxious.
It irritates me that just because she's a girl, it's expected that she'll be this really frilly, delicate thing. The feminist in me is raging but I know that it's just not worth the effort to get upset about it at this point. She's my child and no matter who she decides to be, she'll have all my love and support. Children are not your dress up toys. UGH.
@erin7264 ewe I'm sorry. It sounds like your H is being a jerk right now. What I've learned is that men can really be like delicate flowers...when men act in this kind of insensitive way, they are really just wanting to be heard. He probably is very nervous/anxious about the impending birth of your child, which will be life-changing, and he is thus lashing out at you. I'm not saying he's right but...
He says your sex life is boring? Suggest that you guys go pick out a new "toy" or go on an impromptu date night and flirt with him like you did when you first started dating. Discuss someone who can be a reliable babysitter after LO is born so you can continue to have time away from the kid(s) in the future.
Reassure him that life doesn't have to be boring even with an infant. Do you plan to do baby-wearing? With the kid strapped to your chest, you can pretty much go about your business. Can you think of any new activities either you or your H have been wanting to try? Or new places nearby that you haven't visited yet? Try to imagine some fun FAMILY activities you will be able to do together as your kid grows. Gently remind him that you are severely pregnant now and thus you've been limited from doing some activities, but you are looking forward to doing more fun things again once you are no longer pregnant.
It sucks to be the better person sometimes but if you validate your H's feelings it will make him feel respected, and then he will be falling all over you in the next couple of days. Positive energy is contagious! Good luck, mama.
@erin7264 Ugh that's no fun. Sounds like he's having a bit of a freak out. Honestly he might just feel better after getting it off his chest. Hopefully he can hold it together until the baby is born and the two of you can reconnect on a whole new, deeper level.
@HenchBytch I hate that dress up shit. So weird. Before we found out we were having a boy I had several people, including my MIL, say they hoped he was a girl so they could "dress it up". It was so dehumanizing and sexist.
Thanks, @rnyland1 and @LadyFleck. He apologized because he's been a jerk lately but he says he wants to figure out what the solution is to his problems on his own. It was just a slap in the face to me, because I feel like I've been a pretty good sport for the majority of this pregnancy, trying to stay active and come up with activities and maintain some sort of decent sex life even when I feel huge and uncomfortable and I'm not really into it. I even try to encourage him to go work on his hobbies independently, but he always says he has chores to do or that he should be spending time with me instead. It's difficult. I guess I just have to try even harder.
@HenchBytch you know what's great, you don't have to put her in any of those outfits. I was the only girl on my moms side with 7 boys till my sister was born, guess who got all the frilly shit? Guess who played all the sports and didn't talk to my mom for a month because she wouldn't let me play football. I went to all my brothers Cub Scout things and no one cared. You can always donate those frilly tutus .
@HenchBytch I'm the same way. I told people I wasn't really into super frilly pink stuff and we have a ton of neutrals which is nice. There are some cute outfits but not a ton of overboard "girly" items. We did get this random ass outfit, I want to say it's 18 mos which I don't really understand why they thought we needed it, but it's this denim dress thing with a huge horse head on the side and these ugly pants. Why on earth they thought we'd want that I'll never know.
My WTF is these pointless meetings we have every other week at work. We talk about things we've already discussed, then there are a select couple of women who will literally ask questions about something we JUST went over.
@HenchBytch along the same lines as the overly girly/frilly stuff, I returned every single item people gifted us with a saying like "purrfect like mommy" or "adorable" and random cutesy animals...I'm more of a simple dresser myself and want the same for my daughter.
@HenchBytch girly/frilly things doesnt go against Feminism. My girls wear what they want. They want Tutus. As they play soccer (Dh is the coach), and help Daddy with the car. They have remote control cars, plans and trains. They make robots, and play racing game on the PS#. DD#1 says she wants to be a engineer, like her daddy. While she wears a tiara. She has has broken bones, and dislocated joints from playing rough. We are totally a science based family, and talk about science, medicine, technology and math. DD#1 favorite subject is math. I couldnt be more proud. Being a Feminist means that they/you can pick. Not that things are limited due to their gender.
@erin7264 aw man I'm sorry to hear about you and hubby. What a stressful time to have this sort of conversation. Hopefully he just needed to express some word vomit and can climb back on the horse. Likewise if it's depression that he is facing hopefully he can find some solutions and include you in the process. Just keep doing what you're doing!
@BecauseBabyIamAPug I know what feminism is..my problem is that people assume that girls are little dolls to be dressed up and that's it. That shit does not sit well with me.
@HenchBytch that's the same age demographic that if their husbands beat them or say try to drown them in a bathtub nothing would come of it because that's the way things were. That little girls were told at 3 to sit like ladies with their knees together because of the devil. Not once was anyone questioning a girl in a tutu with a lab coat, the issue is an antiquated way of thinking that is down right annoying to modern forward thinking woman.
WTF intern.... I told you to leave at 5. Now, I'm anxiously awaiting you to leave so I can go get dinner, especially since I've missed it with the rest of the team.
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My mom has a Dr appt followed by PT.
That means I am on child duty all day. I see a lot of Nick Jr in my future.
I join everyone with the WTF insomnia. I know I slept last night, but it sure as hell didn't feel like it. I woke up still ragey from work yesterday and here I go, back at it again today. I'm so over this. I'm crabby as hell and convinced I really will be pregnant forever and will have to deal with everyone's dipshit questions for the rest of my pathetic small-planet life.
wtf to my mom, who called my son a brat while talking to her on the phone yesterday. My son is two. Yes, he is a brat sometimes. But, she said it in a condescending way as usual. She also thinks there's something wrong with my son because he's a picky eater. Again, my son is two years old. Also, she sees my son about once per year, so I'm not sure how she has the ability to judge his character. All in all I think my son is a great kid, with two-year-old tendencies. Then, she gets on the phone with my stepkids, and starts talking to them in this fake, high-pitched, can you understand me-type voice. Ummm, my stepkids are 9 and 11. She can talk to them like they are regular people, not dogs!! STFU betch.
*Edited because dogs are also considered "sentient."
Some providers argue that since it's the synthetic of the natural hormone, it's ok. Others are being cautious.
Like pugs said, because it's homeopathic the FDA won't research it.
My wtf is thinking that maybe my son had dropped because of all the pain in my vag and how it feels like he's been making a home in my hip joints, was excited because I didn't have heartburn, woke up heartburn.
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What the actual EFF, man. I am due in TWELVE DAYS. This is not the time to have a crisis. I am sympathetic to depression, I really am. I know it can be a struggle. But this is like the total opposite of what I need from him right now and i want to slap him upside the head for the amount of empathy he lacks to be bitching at me at 38 weeks that I'm boring and no fun and so is our sex life. Way to be a supportive partner.
I'm hoping it's just that he's worried/stressed out since we're so close to delivering. I'm not sure I can juggle everything like this plus a newborn on top of it.
My hands literally feel like they are falling asleep anytime I don't have them resting flat on my arm rests of my chair and it hurts! It's torture all day long.
I hope your pain eases up!
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One of my fears after we found out we were having a girl was that people would go overboard with the frilly, pink, lacy stuff. We had a shower this past weekend and everyone there knew me well so there were only pink items here and there. I washed everything and put it away.
Yesterday my husband comes home with a pink gift bag - a gift from a coworker. There are two outfits that could win a damn award for being "girly." I was telling people how I wasn't sure what to do with those because they are so out of my element. The outpouring of, "get used to it", "dressing girls up like dolls is fun!", etc. was SO obnoxious.
It irritates me that just because she's a girl, it's expected that she'll be this really frilly, delicate thing. The feminist in me is raging but I know that it's just not worth the effort to get upset about it at this point. She's my child and no matter who she decides to be, she'll have all my love and support. Children are not your dress up toys. UGH.
@erin7264 ewe I'm sorry. It sounds like your H is being a jerk right now. What I've learned is that men can really be like delicate flowers...when men act in this kind of insensitive way, they are really just wanting to be heard. He probably is very nervous/anxious about the impending birth of your child, which will be life-changing, and he is thus lashing out at you. I'm not saying he's right but...
He says your sex life is boring? Suggest that you guys go pick out a new "toy" or go on an impromptu date night and flirt with him like you did when you first started dating. Discuss someone who can be a reliable babysitter after LO is born so you can continue to have time away from the kid(s) in the future.
Reassure him that life doesn't have to be boring even with an infant. Do you plan to do baby-wearing? With the kid strapped to your chest, you can pretty much go about your business. Can you think of any new activities either you or your H have been wanting to try? Or new places nearby that you haven't visited yet? Try to imagine some fun FAMILY activities you will be able to do together as your kid grows. Gently remind him that you are severely pregnant now and thus you've been limited from doing some activities, but you are looking forward to doing more fun things again once you are no longer pregnant.
It sucks to be the better person sometimes but if you validate your H's feelings it will make him feel respected, and then he will be falling all over you in the next couple of days. Positive energy is contagious! Good luck, mama.
Married May 16th 2015
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outfits but not a ton of overboard "girly" items. We did get this random ass outfit, I want to say it's 18 mos which I don't really understand why they thought we needed it, but it's this denim dress thing with a huge horse head on the side and these ugly pants. Why on earth they thought we'd want that I'll never know.
My WTF is these pointless meetings we have every other week at work. We talk about things we've already discussed, then there are a select couple of women who will literally ask questions about something we JUST went over.
We are totally a science based family, and talk about science, medicine, technology and math. DD#1 favorite subject is math.
I couldnt be more proud.
Being a Feminist means that they/you can pick. Not that things are limited due to their gender.
Married May 16th 2015
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