New to board.. Taking a year and feeling alone

Kellyg39

Hi, I'm not new to the Bump but I haven't used the boards much before now.  I just feel so alone when it comes to having trouble TTC.  Like other people have said it feels like there are constant pregnancy and birth announcements.  My husband and I have been trying for about a year and I'm about ready to call a specialist.  I just got AF today and I'm feeling so down right now I'm afraid I'll start crying if I call now to make the appointment. 

AmberTensing217

Kellyg39 said:

Hi, I'm not new to the Bump but I haven't used the boards much before now.  I just feel so alone when it comes to having trouble TTC.  Like other people have said it feels like there are constant pregnancy and birth announcements.  My husband and I have been trying for about a year and I'm about ready to call a specialist.  I just got AF today and I'm feeling so down right now I'm afraid I'll start crying if I call now to make the appointment. 

TTC is hard, especially when you hit the year mark. Calling an RE is a big step. Instead of calling an RE now, I would call your OB or MW and ask for a recommendation. Typically RE's won't take call-ins without a referral from your OB/MW. Once you get the referall an RE will start with a SA to rule out a sperm quality issue and then do your cycle blood work

Ducks&Cats

Hello!  You are not alone, most of us on this board have been trying for over a year.  Once I started testing I felt like I had more control over the situation.  What part of the world are you from?  If you are in the states see if your insurance covers fertility testing.  If not, you may want to go to your primary or OBGYN to get some blood work and and u/s done so your insurance will cover it.  My partner had his SA done through his PCP.  Good luck, you are with friends over here who know what you are going through.

AmberTensing217

Ducks&Cats said:

Hello!  You are not alone, most of us on this board have been trying for over a year.  Once I started testing I felt like I had more control over the situation.  What part of the world are you from?  If you are in the states see if your insurance covers fertility testing.  If not, you may want to go to your primary or OBGYN to get some blood work and and u/s done so your insurance will cover it.  My partner had his SA done through his PCP.  Good luck, you are with friends over here who know what you are going through.

Although this is a good idea, some (actually both of my REs) won't accept outside test results. Many have to have results from tests that their lab/REs conducted themselves. So before wasting time and money doing tests with your OB/MW/PCP make sure you find out if the RE will even accept them.

hoffmanr7

I am sorry to hear how down you are feeling.  We have all been there and you are not alone.  That first step call is hard, I teared up when making mine.  I am glad you have made your way to the board.  It is a great source of comfort and support.

zigzag8412

Hugs friend!  We all know how rough this can be.  I'm sorry that you're down right now.  Know you're not alone and you're surrounded by many friends.

MandyBeeSLP

I'm in the same position and I just joined this group today. This week 4 of my friends had their babies and it is a lot to handle. Best of luck making your appointment. 

Megzb510

AmberTensing217 said:

Ducks&Cats said:

Hello!  You are not alone, most of us on this board have been trying for over a year.  Once I started testing I felt like I had more control over the situation.  What part of the world are you from?  If you are in the states see if your insurance covers fertility testing.  If not, you may want to go to your primary or OBGYN to get some blood work and and u/s done so your insurance will cover it.  My partner had his SA done through his PCP.  Good luck, you are with friends over here who know what you are going through.

Although this is a good idea, some (actually both of my REs) won't accept outside test results. Many have to have results from tests that their lab/REs conducted themselves. So before wasting time and money doing tests with your OB/MW/PCP make sure you find out if the RE will even accept them.

I definitely think it's a good idea to ask before you have your OB do any tests. My OB ran a bunch of tests last fall to rule out PCOS, thyroid/testosterone/prolactin issues, and Cushing's. My RE accepted those results without question, and he eliminated some of the "standard" bloodwork they do because I had good results last fall. 

harleyquinn0621

you are def not alone.... we've been trying over a year too. the RE is a huge step forward and as someone else mentioned i finally felt like i had some control once i started seeing him.... good luck to you!

ReesaAnne16

Welcome, we all know the pain you are feeling, it is so hard not to be let down every time AF comes around. Hang in there, and give yourself some room to feel sad, it's ok. 
Most of us are glad we made the call (either to our OB or an RE) to try to get some answers, so don't be afraid to do that at this point. 
We're here for you

Worldtravler0522

Welcome to the board!  Sorry you find yourself here but I hope your stay isn't long.  When I called my RE at first I felt defeated and like I had failed or done something wrong but I'm so happy I called. They gave me a pretty clear picture of where we were at and what we needed to do.  Good luck! 

Ducks&Cats

AmberTensing217 said:

Ducks&Cats said:

Hello!  You are not alone, most of us on this board have been trying for over a year.  Once I started testing I felt like I had more control over the situation.  What part of the world are you from?  If you are in the states see if your insurance covers fertility testing.  If not, you may want to go to your primary or OBGYN to get some blood work and and u/s done so your insurance will cover it.  My partner had his SA done through his PCP.  Good luck, you are with friends over here who know what you are going through.

Although this is a good idea, some (actually both of my REs) won't accept outside test results. Many have to have results from tests that their lab/REs conducted themselves. So before wasting time and money doing tests with your OB/MW/PCP make sure you find out if the RE will even accept them.

What?!?!  That's so rediculous! 

Mrs.RedHead

I'm so sorry, but I'm glad you are here with us. My DH and I are jusr past the year mark too and it was so difficult. I actually had a big messy cry at my OB/GYNs office and the staff were so amazing. Remember, they have seen it all (and worse) before. Don't be ashamed of crying in front of them. Sending you lots of love. Let us know how your appointment with the RE goes! ❤️

sarah0985

Welcome. That first step to even make the appointment is so hard. Please don't feel alone. This board is a good place. Lots of welcoming women. I hope you get some answers and your stay is short!

Lelo2006

Speaking from experience... Going to that first appointment is pretty exhilarating. It's nice to have a team on your side whose goal is to help you :-)

CrunchyBaby2

Welcome!! I had my first RE appointment yesterday after waiting for almost a whole year to get in. It was nerve wracking but good. We're glad we went and have a plan now. Hope your stay is short and sweet.

mrswifeytoad

So many hugs to you new friend. We are all here for you. 

BWhitta

Welcome!!!! This is such a comforting place to be!!!!! I cried when I called my RE to make that first appointment but I am SO happy I did, I am so much more relaxed and calm now!!!!!  FX that your stay here isn't long!!!!!