Between being diagnosed with gestational diabetes early at 15 weeks, working full time (all night shifts), getting twice a week NST, slight high blood pressure, to top it off I get a call this morning that I tested positive for GBS and need antibiotics during labor. Fuck you universe.
I'm just catching up on this thread now and I can't even articulate the rage I feel on everyone's behalf. Why the fuck are there so many stupid people that we are forced to interact with? From clueless cousins to stupid ass kids at the pool to dickhole medical professionals, WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK, people?
Its all gonna be over soon, ladies. I think the 35-40 week time is the WORST! We all should get a round of applause for even getting out of bed.
@nerdchild I say a big f**k you to your doctor. I've gained 30 pounds and I'm only 33 weeks. I'm blaming a big baby (he's already 5ish pounds) and water retention and if anyone tries to argue otherwise I will punch them. I'm the one who's going to be losing it so everyone can keep their bloody opinion to themselves.
If there's one thing I think I've learned with pregnancy weight it's that we have little control over it. I've known ladies that have busted their ass at the gym, ate right and still gained 50lbs! It is what it is. I've also known people that did nothing above and beyond and gave into whatever cravings they had and gained 25lbs. Our bodies are going to do what they want to do. There's no need to beat yourself up about it!!!
My mother sends me a text every day asking "How's Buddy?" Buddy is our older dog that she kindly talked us into doing further testing on and possibly saving well beyond what time we thought he had. I am forever grateful but a text every single day is ridiculous. What do you think I'm going to say?!? Man mom, today Buddy jumped across our bed and ran a marathon! He's an older dog. He has improved but nothing warranting a daily text for updates. She also told me she plans to hang on to some of the clothes she's purchased so she has things at her house. Newborn clothes. NEWS FLASH mom but the baby will not ever need newborn clothes at your house because he won't be staying there in the first month you nut!! Add me to the list of people that will need to remind my mother that this isn't her baby!!!
Then I sold something to a lady thru the FB yard sale site. She commented back Darn, looks like these aren't going to work after all I miss measured. Is that my problem? Do I now need to arrange a time to meet again and give her her money back?!? Ugh!!
@TiffRox81 man that all sounds annoying! The newborn clothes thing especially, I don't know why people think that's necessary. My MIL was freaking out about buying a car seat for her car and how she needed to know what kind of base to get so she could get it all installed before he's here. Like I get you're excited, but what makes you think you'll be watching, let alone driving around, my baby immediately after he's born? Cool your jets lady.
@Backbypopulardemand I hope you feel better soon! Illness on top of all this other crap is too much!
Thanks for the validation @victoria98 and @PinkLady2015. That's what I'm thinking. She didn't come right out and ask so I can assume no response is needed!
@Nerdchild sorry your doctor is such a douche bag. With having issues with eating disorders myself I def. Feel your pain! Don't let that fucker bring you down! Thankfully female doctors are more compassionate and understanding with weight gain, imo! Chin up, mama!
@TiffRox81@stellaluna14 Add my mom to that list. She has a pack and play both at her house and the family cottage, diapers/ wipes/ blankets, and a stroller cleaned up and ready to go at each place, even though I explained you can't put a newborn into a toddler stroller without support. She has mentioned wanting to buy a second carseat/base "for when I take the baby places" and has offered several times to take the baby to the cottage for the weekend so I can get a break...2 weeks after he's due!! There's no effing way my 2 week old baby is going anywhere without me lady!! I'm happy she's excited, but she's another one who has referred to him as "her baby". Cool your jets.
@TiffRox81@stellaluna14@jennyleigh16 I may be in the minority here but I'm glad my parents and my MIL got a car seat and a pack n play at their homes. My MIL has a crib, which I think is a little much but I really don't mind. I know she'll be providing child care for us and wants the baby to be comfortable. And at one point or another something may happen where my parents are watching the baby and I'm going to need them to bring him to me so I'm glad for the car seat. I don't mind their excitement.
However, I do NOT like it when my mom and MIL refer to him as their baby. Um no!!
@Kellyj103 I actually like that my mom has a decent set up at her house because I can come over there and not have to bring a bunch of stuff. What I don't like is my MIL putting pressure on me to let her babysit ASAP and acting like it's her right to have him "to herself" as often as she likes. If she wants a car seat it's fine with me, she just seems to think she will be using it right away which will not happen.
@Kellyj103 I don't disagree and I know I should probably be grateful instead, but my irritation is kinda two-fold. My mom is going to be our childcare as well, but I'm lucky enough to live in Canada and be able to take the year, so I really don't forsee the baby going anywhere without me for a good long while, and if we do end up planning to spend the night somewhere (which we rarely do) I'll just bring our own pack and play.
The other part is I don't think I would be so irritated if she wasn't so overbearing with everything else. A few weeks ago I was lounging on the couch at her place and she sat down next to me, laid her head on my belly and started telling my belly "Hi baby, it's grandma!" and shaking my belly when nothing happened. A week or so after that I was sitting on the couch again at her place and she came over with a bottle of lotion, and before I could stop her had lifted my shirt and started massaging lotion onto me while singing rock-a-bye baby to my belly.
Don't get me wrong. I am very very grateful that she's happy and excited and wants to be heavily involved in my baby's life. i just wish she would tone it down a bit because it's creeping me out.
Laughing too hard at the lotion comment and the replies to follow. I thought it was weird when my mom asked if my milk had arrived yet and poked my boobs, but the lotion/song combo definitely is the creepiest.
My god, you guys are making me realize how un-awkward my pregnancy has been in comparison. Although... The husband has a creepy grandpa who is getting a bit crazy. He is known as the "close talker." He has to be IN your bubble, leaning in, while talking to you. We were over for a big family dinner one night and I was in line getting my food. He walked up behind me, stuck his hand out, and hovered it over the side of my belly for a second. I swear it all happened in slow motion. I'm thinking in my head, "Don't you fucking do it." Then he makes contact. I've had people I know touch my belly but they have asked and it wasn't weird at all. This. Was weird. The gma said out loud, "Did you ask before you touched?" And he said, "Well, kind of." No mofo, you did not.
Ok @stellaluna14@jennyleigh16 I would get creeped out with both of those situations! I would probably be really annoyed. Especially the belly rub! Did you ask her to stop?!
@Kellyj103 I just cringed and let her do it for a minute or two, because I have a tendency to snap at her and then she cries.
MH is constantly telling me that she means well and to "be nice to your mother".
I've subtly mentioned in front of her that I don't really like to be touched and she has repeatedly said "I'm the grandma, of course I'm allowed to touch your belly." FML
@jennyleigh16 what on earth did you do?! I think I would die if my mil ever did that to me and I would never be able to sing that song without thinking about that.. So creepy!!
My bitch is that I'm heartbroken. I had to put my dog down yesterday after his paralysis started progressing and affecting his breathing muscles, which apparently is a thing. He was doing so well after his surgery but his little body just kept getting more and more limp. I got him as a puppy right before I moved to LA and we went through break-ups, moves, grad school, marriage, and residency together. I get to leave this sh*thole city in less than a month and I was so excited to give him a big yard for the first time and to have him meet our little girl and keep me company during late night feedings. He was my little shadow and I miss him so much already. This f*cking sucks and pregnancy hormones are not helping.
@mnkenned Omg I am so sorry for your loss and that you're going through that. There is nothing easy about going through a loss during pregnancy. I really am so sad for you....as someone that's struggling with an aging pet right now too.
@mnkenned So sorry about your dog. I hope you get enough time to grieve and heal before baby comes.
About the lotion massage. Shut that shit down. I'm lucky I come from a no-touchy family but DH is a very touchy Portuguese family and I have to find clever, inoffensive ways to avoid unnecessary contact. So uncomfortable.
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It seems like everyone's kind of dealing with really sh!tty people today! I'm with @PootsDragon:
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Its all gonna be over soon, ladies. I think the 35-40 week time is the WORST! We all should get a round of applause for even getting out of bed.
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My mother sends me a text every day asking "How's Buddy?" Buddy is our older dog that she kindly talked us into doing further testing on and possibly saving well beyond what time we thought he had. I am forever grateful but a text every single day is ridiculous. What do you think I'm going to say?!? Man mom, today Buddy jumped across our bed and ran a marathon! He's an older dog. He has improved but nothing warranting a daily text for updates. She also told me she plans to hang on to some of the clothes she's purchased so she has things at her house. Newborn clothes. NEWS FLASH mom but the baby will not ever need newborn clothes at your house because he won't be staying there in the first month you nut!! Add me to the list of people that will need to remind my mother that this isn't her baby!!!
Then I sold something to a lady thru the FB yard sale site. She commented back Darn, looks like these aren't going to work after all I miss measured. Is that my problem? Do I now need to arrange a time to meet again and give her her money back?!? Ugh!!
@Backbypopulardemand I hope you feel better soon! Illness on top of all this other crap is too much!
Add my mom to that list. She has a pack and play both at her house and the family cottage, diapers/ wipes/ blankets, and a stroller cleaned up and ready to go at each place, even though I explained you can't put a newborn into a toddler stroller without support. She has mentioned wanting to buy a second carseat/base "for when I take the baby places" and has offered several times to take the baby to the cottage for the weekend so I can get a break...2 weeks after he's due!! There's no effing way my 2 week old baby is going anywhere without me lady!! I'm happy she's excited, but she's another one who has referred to him as "her baby". Cool your jets.
However, I do NOT like it when my mom and MIL refer to him as their baby. Um no!!
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The other part is I don't think I would be so irritated if she wasn't so overbearing with everything else. A few weeks ago I was lounging on the couch at her place and she sat down next to me, laid her head on my belly and started telling my belly "Hi baby, it's grandma!" and shaking my belly when nothing happened. A week or so after that I was sitting on the couch again at her place and she came over with a bottle of lotion, and before I could stop her had lifted my shirt and started massaging lotion onto me while singing rock-a-bye baby to my belly.
Don't get me wrong. I am very very grateful that she's happy and excited and wants to be heavily involved in my baby's life. i just wish she would tone it down a bit because it's creeping me out.
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MH is constantly telling me that she means well and to "be nice to your mother".
I've subtly mentioned in front of her that I don't really like to be touched and she has repeatedly said "I'm the grandma, of course I'm allowed to touch your belly." FML
About the lotion massage. Shut that shit down. I'm lucky I come from a no-touchy family but DH is a very touchy Portuguese family and I have to find clever, inoffensive ways to avoid unnecessary contact. So uncomfortable.