I confess..sometimes I look at my family and wonder how in the hell I am actually related to them. It's not small things here and there - it's EVERYTHING. We have NOTHING in common and our belief systems are completely opposite. How does this happen?
@HenchBytch I feel you on this. I have a very strange, dysfunctional family run by a narcissistic father and I read that it's common for one child to emulate the narcissist and the other to completely disregard the narcissist. That's totally true in my family! My sister even married a guy that looks just like my father... right down to his nasty beer gut hanging over his belt. I feel like throwing up every time I think about it.
I embrace my black sheep status, as I'm sure you do too. DH is the black sheep of his family too so unfortunately for us, we aren't very close with our families. It's been awkward answering well-meaning people's question: "Are the grandparents excited?!" Well... ONE of them is...
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@HenchBytch Me too! the only person I can actually relate to is my dad. My mom and her entire psychotic family are on a separate realm than I am, and it's not one I have a desire to be part of. How am I one of them?!?!?!
@joleri23 Yes! My sister has definitely fallen into my mother's footsteps. She's the only family member I talk to but we clash on everything. I love her in spite of all of that but I am definitely the black sheep. I was even labeled as the cause of our family "breaking up" and I couldn't even respond to that accusation. I have embraced this role but I long for a family that isn't quite this dysfunctional. My husband's family is dysfunctional in a completely different way but like you, only one grandparent is really involved with my son's life. At first this broke my heart, but then I realized that it's better for my children to have one loving grandparent than the alternative of those insane people being a part of their lives. Being the black sheep is painful but I would much rather be an outcast than be completely ignorant to an extremely unhealthy situation.
I'm dreading spending the weekend with my stepkids. I swear I'm not a bad stepmom but I just can't even right now... Also DH and I are disagreeing about some of the house rules during their stay. He wants to allow his 11 YO son to play GTA with him and I'm saying NO WAY!! We haven't even started having real talks with him about sex yet (DH seems to think this is unnecessary also, I think the sooner the better!). I get that he's technically not my [biological] son, but he is staying in my house for an extended period of time alongside my children, so therefore I will treat him as my own. I need someway to get through to DH about this GTA crap without it seeming like I am personally attacking him but I don't know how. Men can be so dumb!!!!
@Henchbytch@joleri23@samantha06 yep I feel your pain y'all... My mother has been a crazy controlling, manipulative betch her whole life towards me until she started developing early signs of alzheimers/dementia. It's only a matter of time before that whole situation deteriorates. My only sister and I barely speak every few months and she's been struggling with adderrall addiction for the past few years. DH is the black sheep of his family because he got a divorce from his ex-wife (his family is Mormon), and all of his 5 siblings live in Georgia near his mother's apocalypse-ready compound. Meanwhile we live by ourselves in Texas and feel like we are not even a blip on any of our family member's radar. Breaks my heart that my sons won't be around grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. but what can we do? We can't let these toxic people into our lives either...
I hate being pregnant. I HATE it. I want this child to be healthy, therefore I will do everything in my power to continue this pregnancy until he is safe to come out. I am just done.
The only thing that makes this bearable is knowing I will never had to do this again.
My mom was the black sheep of her family. So much so, that when my parents got married, they ran away and eloped. Don't get me wrong... her siblings/dad all meant well.. just dysfunctional. My sisters and I look at them and always wonder how the heck my mom came out so "normal". It's pretty mind blowing. My family isn't without its issues but all in all, but we all have a great relationship. Even though we have some differences in our belief systems our core values are pretty common. So all that to say to the black sheep- THERE IS HOPE FOR OUR FUTURE FAMILIES!
This one is really gross, but I claim the hell out of any flack I get.
I 'store up' my overnight pee and only flush after my husband gets up for work. Our bathroom flows freely into the bedroom (no door) and he sleeps like crap, so I don't want to risk waking him. I also live in Cali, so the drought conditions make me want to save on the flushing. Now that I am home full time I've started daytime 'storing', so that my toilet probably gets flushed 3 times a day total. I don't do this in the downstairs bathroom in case of unexpected guests, but my toilet is fair game. Gross I know, but I'm too pregnant to care.
@kellz14 DH and I eloped to Jamaica and it was awesome!! We would have loved a regular wedding but when I told my mom I was engaged she just laughed at me. My sister also eloped with her DH because she doesn't get along with my mother either. DH's family didn't care what we did or didn't do so it just made more sense to elope.
I hate being pregnant. I HATE it. I want this child to be healthy, therefore I will do everything in my power to continue this pregnancy until he is safe to come out. I am just done.
The only thing that makes this bearable is knowing I will never had to do this again.
when I first found out I was pregnant so many people kept telling me that pregnancy is such a beautiful thing, and although growing another human being and bonding with it throughout the pregnancy is absolutely wonderful, It is not as beautiful as everyone says. my back is always sore, I cant sleep for shit, I cant eat or drink whatever I want, stuff leaks out of unmentionable places, you gain a bunch of weight, always cranky, always crying. what the fuck is beautiful about this?!
@Nerdchild I do the same thing! (We have the same bathroom situation) and honestly why waste water if I am up all night peeing and why wake up DH if I don't have too?
This one is really gross, but I claim the hell out of any flack I get.
I 'store up' my overnight pee and only flush after my husband gets up for work. Our bathroom flows freely into the bedroom (no door) and he sleeps like crap, so I don't want to risk waking him. I also live in Cali, so the drought conditions make me want to save on the flushing. Now that I am home full time I've started daytime 'storing', so that my toilet probably gets flushed 3 times a day total. I don't do this in the downstairs bathroom in case of unexpected guests, but my toilet is fair game. Gross I know, but I'm too pregnant to care.
if it's yellow, let it mellow, if it's brown, flush it down!
@Nerdchild I used to do that at our old apartment because the damn toilet is too loud!!
my FCCC is I'm kinda annoyed/ jealous of my husband. His staff (all the people who work for him) are throwing him a baby shower on Sunday and then the management team is hosting a lunch for him/us to celebrate the baby. And instead of being happy and grateful my husband is so annoyed about it! He's like, "I don't like talking about my personal life at work. Ugh I don't want to go to this baby shower. I feel awkward". And I can't help but tell him to STFU and stop being an ungrateful little shit. My work didn't even acknowledge my pregnancy. I definitely didn't expect a baby shower or anything like that from them but can we acknowledge I'm growing a human? Other than our secretaries, no one asked me how I was doing, when was I due, what I was having, NOTHING. It was seriously the elephant in the room until I left. My husband is constantly asked about this baby! He should be glad the people he works with care about him and his family.
The only way I can sit comfortably lately is knees wide, belly nestled snugly between legs, and leaning forward. Needless to say, my co-workers come in my office like o.O. Thank goodness for maxi skirts!
Add me to the list of people that feels nothing like her family. I really hoped when I found my husband that he'd have a different relationship with his because I've always been so envious of awesome close families!! Nope, his might be even more distant than mine, thanks to his giant B of a mom. Luckily he's fully aware of what kind of person she is and in no way defends her. So it's a lot of he and I....and my mom when she doesn't bug the crap out of me.
My FFFC: I am so ready to start buying some fun cute clothes for myself. I am over these maternity clothes!!! I've browsed the mall a lot recently for baby and running errands and hate seeing all the fun summer fashions and knowing there's no point in bothering with any of it.
@Nerdchild same here. I felt bad for our state when I started peeing 6-8 times per night. Now i flush after every 3 or so pees. My husband is totally on board with this, which was surprising.
@nerdchild I'm on the "don't flush until morning" bandwagon. My husband thinks it's gross but come on..I pee so often that it just doesn't make sense to flush so often. It mellows until I get up for good.
It's 2 in the afternoon and I'm still in my PJs, sitting in bed watching Bob Ross. I did do the dishes earlier....does that redeem me? Moving is hard and it's hot outside, I've officially given up on being a useful human being.
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It's 2 in the afternoon and I'm still in my PJs, sitting in bed watching Bob Ross. I did do the dishes earlier....does that redeem me? Moving is hard and it's hot outside, I've officially given up on being a useful human being.
Maybe this is a FFFC, maybe not....I find it a bit odd when parents refer to their walking, talking, potty trained child as "the baby." I kinda feel like once kid can do at least 2 of the three of those things, he/she is more of a toddler and less of a baby. But maybe I'm missing something!!
We always call the youngest in our family (I have 1 son, four nieces, and three nephews) the baby until a new baby starts growing in someone's belly. The longest break we have between kids is 2.5 years, so my niece was the baby until her my sister got pregnant. So it's less about the child itself and more about it's relation to the other children in my family.
We always call the youngest in our family (I have 1 son, four nieces, and three nephews) the baby until a new baby starts growing in someone's belly. The longest break we have between kids is 2.5 years, so my niece was the baby until her my sister got pregnant. So it's less about the child itself and more about it's relation to the other children in my family.
Not sure if that made sense at all....
Makes sense to me because that's what my mom's family does... Mainly to irritate the "babies" that are turning 20 this year! My dad's been joking that they are required to go to all of my baby showers as the current "babies" of the family. Add in the fact they are teenage males, it's been hilarious.
We always call the youngest in our family (I have 1 son, four nieces, and three nephews) the baby until a new baby starts growing in someone's belly. The longest break we have between kids is 2.5 years, so my niece was the baby until her my sister got pregnant. So it's less about the child itself and more about it's relation to the other children in my family.
Not sure if that made sense at all....
Yes. I'm the youngest in my immediate family. My mom called me "the baby" until I was probably about 26. *facepalm* To which people would always reply "Well, that's a big baby..." Now that you mentioned it, @LadyFleck it was probably around when my sister had her kid, the first grandchild of the family when she stopped doing it...
Haha!! Well I think your family's name calling is a bit different than the friend I'm thinking of. In stories she'd say things like, "I told Jason to go get the baby..." Jason being her husband and the baby being their 3 yo son.
I'm so over writing thank-you notes from my shower last weekend, and I've only written one line in one card. I'm super grateful to all the people who came and brought gifts, but writing these is my least favorite thing to do.
Yeah....that's weird calling a preschooler a baby to other people. I caught my husband doing it a few times when I first met him. His daughter was 4 and I'd catch him calling her the baby. My son is six months younger than her and it always struck me as funny.
I refer to DS as 'the baby' I need to stop it because i feel like it's stalling our potty training efforts. I tell him that only babies pee and poop in diapers and he's a big boy, but than I call him 'the baby.' I'm hoping once 2.0 is here I knock that shit off.
All of this...^^^ @Y0urm0m I refer to DS as baby but also talk about the baby in my tummy. I bet he's a little confused. Plus he has a little stuffed doll we call baby as well. Hopefully when baby#2 makes his arrival, I kick the habit too.
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I embrace my black sheep status, as I'm sure you do too. DH is the black sheep of his family too so unfortunately for us, we aren't very close with our families. It's been awkward answering well-meaning people's question: "Are the grandparents excited?!" Well... ONE of them is...
Me too! the only person I can actually relate to is my dad. My mom and her entire psychotic family are on a separate realm than I am, and it's not one I have a desire to be part of. How am I one of them?!?!?!
At first this broke my heart, but then I realized that it's better for my children to have one loving grandparent than the alternative of those insane people being a part of their lives.
Being the black sheep is painful but I would much rather be an outcast than be completely ignorant to an extremely unhealthy situation.
The only thing that makes this bearable is knowing I will never had to do this again.
I 'store up' my overnight pee and only flush after my husband gets up for work. Our bathroom flows freely into the bedroom (no door) and he sleeps like crap, so I don't want to risk waking him. I also live in Cali, so the drought conditions make me want to save on the flushing. Now that I am home full time I've started daytime 'storing', so that my toilet probably gets flushed 3 times a day total. I don't do this in the downstairs bathroom in case of unexpected guests, but my toilet is fair game. Gross I know, but I'm too pregnant to care.
If its yellow, let it mellow.
my FCCC is I'm kinda annoyed/ jealous of my husband. His staff (all the people who work for him) are throwing him a baby shower on Sunday and then the management team is hosting a lunch for him/us to celebrate the baby. And instead of being happy and grateful my husband is so annoyed about it! He's like, "I don't like talking about my personal life at work. Ugh I don't want to go to this baby shower. I feel awkward". And I can't help but tell him to STFU and stop being an ungrateful little shit. My work didn't even acknowledge my pregnancy. I definitely didn't expect a baby shower or anything like that from them but can we acknowledge I'm growing a human? Other than our secretaries, no one asked me how I was doing, when was I due, what I was having, NOTHING. It was seriously the elephant in the room until I left. My husband is constantly asked about this baby! He should be glad the people he works with care about him and his family.
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My FFFC: I am so ready to start buying some fun cute clothes for myself. I am over these maternity clothes!!! I've browsed the mall a lot recently for baby and running errands and hate seeing all the fun summer fashions and knowing there's no point in bothering with any of it.
We always call the youngest in our family (I have 1 son, four nieces, and three nephews) the baby until a new baby starts growing in someone's belly. The longest break we have between kids is 2.5 years, so my niece was the baby until her my sister got pregnant. So it's less about the child itself and more about it's relation to the other children in my family.
Not sure if that made sense at all....
Now that you mentioned it, @LadyFleck it was probably around when my sister had her kid, the first grandchild of the family when she stopped doing it...
My toddler is the baby, for now. But my 5 year old is still my baby. She will always be. They need to stop growing up.
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