They're 3 & 1. I hadn't even thought about the safety of rental car seats (FTM ignorance much?). Maybe they can ship them over or check them in like any other luggage. I never thought about how best to travel with toddlers! I've seen strollers get tagged as checked bags but not really car seats. This situation made me wonder if families with babies/toddlers fly into another city and rent a car, what do they usually do?!
We've flown twice with DS (he was over 2 both times and in his own seat). We brought his car seat on the plane because he's used to being strapped into it and I am 100% sure that he would take the airplane seatbelt off when it's supposed to be on.
but another option that I know a lot of people do is gate check the car seat. They have protective bags, etc to put them in.
@AliKay20 If they're flying with little ones who require car seats, those car seats should also be used on the plane....therefore, they really should be traveling with their own, anyway. So they'll have their own car seats, they are grownups and can rent their own car that's large enough to accommodate their family - problem solved! I don't put up with people who are that dependent on others because I'm not like that at all.
I fly with DD a lot and always buy her own seat and bring her car seat, starting from when she was 9 mos old, even though I don't technically have to yet - I strap it to a Brica roll and go and bring it onto the plane instead of schlepping a stroller. I also agree with PP and would never check or gate check the car seat....I've seen how they treat strollers and I can't imagine what kind of trauma a car seat goes through, so I wouldn't chance it.
It's not Monday, but the grievance re-occurred yesterday, so I will complain!
My parents want to come help after the baby is born, which is very nice, and we're grateful, but it's totally all on their terms. For instance, my Dad says he can take a week off, which is nice, and wants to come separately than when my Mom comes... so (a) there is no way I want him coming by himself until Baby is at least a month old, and (b) he's not the most helpful or self-sufficient man, so I highly doubt he'll come and take over all chores, cooking, etc. I have 3 months of maternity leave, so why not spread out the company. So I suggest that it'd be really helpful if he used some of that time before Baby came to help prep the nursery, or perhaps in September, when we're hopefully moving to a rental for a renovation. Basically, man jobs that he can do unsupervised. He gets all offended because basically I'm trying to tell him how to help. Seriously?
And, my Mom wants to stay for a week to help after the baby is born... which will be great... but the latest is that they want to take a day trip for the birth (4 hours each way), then her come back when I get home from the hospital. We're scheduling a C-section at 39 weeks, so I get that I may have the baby in the middle of the week, but we do have two dogs, and it would actually be pretty handy to have them in town while I'm in the hospital. And, if they only come for the day of the birth, it's probably a little harder for me to say "Great, you've met baby and been here for an hour.... I'm tired and need a nap, so come back later." Last I heard, a C-section is surgery, and not a fun show. And, I don't get the feeling that they'll be of any use helping the day of except sitting at the hospital without getting all offended someone asked them to leave and do something ... and you know what we'll really need? Someone to let the dogs out midday so Husband doesn't have to leave the hospital to do it. The hospital is 5 min away from our house, so it'll take all of half an hour. They both have made clear that they have plenty of vacation days to use... it's all a matter of how they want to use them.
In start contrast, MIL has basically just said "you tell me how I can help," and I know that she'll do pretty much whatever we ask. Maybe this is selfish, but that's by far more of what I prefer and frankly expect.
So I had maternity pictures done on Sunday, and all week my SIL and I talked about them and her helping me do my hair and make sure outfits looked good with each other (I am not a girly girl, thank heavens I'm having a boy). Well here comes my issue and not sure if it's hormonal or not, but Friday night she texted me saying Im going to hate her. I ask why. No response. She just turned 21 and is enjoying that life- I understand!
Next day we had plans to get Mani/pedi's and to "curl" my hair- so next day it was softer. Well next day comes and goes, no response from her still. Sunday comes and I am on my own. No idea on how to do my hair, or anything. Then Sunday night she text saying her phone is acting up and "wont" send or receive text messages.
Now this isn't the first time she has blown me off for friends. Guess it just hurts, I have no friends or family in the area I can call on to come help me. So when she offered to help it was like having a sister of my own....
Am I over reacting about being mad/hurt by her. She let me down and I don't know how I should feel/say/react to her. Like she hasn't even said sorry for not helping me. If it was a lunch date I would care less, but this was a professional photo shoot, that wasn't cheap and I am just worried that it will turn out bad.
@bbyT - that really sucks. It's one thing to cancel helping you (which would have been annoying but you could have come up with alternate plans) but to not even actually tell you she was flaking on you?? That's so rude.
@bbyT That sucks! I'm mad on your behalf. People who just ghost on you are the worst. Since she's your SIL you obviously can't carry a grudge forever. But I think you'd be totally in the right to let her have it! She flaked on plans with you and left you high and dry! And it sounds like she knew as of Friday that she was going to bail and just didn't have the guts to tell you so. She may only be 21, but that's as good an age as any to start learning that you can't treat people like crap and get away with it. I'd make it clear she's in the doghouse until you get a real apology. And make it clear that you won't count on her for things in the future.
Thanks ladies!! Glad I am not just being hormonal. @Snaps816 Oh I will be letting her know. I just need to calm down still. And like my DH knows, I have a policy 3 strikes and you are out...don't care who or what you are to me. And she is on her second now, flaked on helping with the Gender reveal party decorations that was all her idea to begin with. And DH knows that I won't be counting on her for anything in the near future, and he is okay with it. Agrees that she will have to learn that her actions have consequences!!
kwilliams3402 I will tell you that after my C-section with DD, while I asked my immediate family to stay, I really was in no condition to see anyone for at least a few hours after. I was loopy from the opioids they gave me in recovery, so much so that I was nervous even holding DD. Plus, at that point you're still hooked up to the catheter, you have the compression things on your legs, they're checking you every 5 seconds, etc. This time I told my mom that I don't want any visitors, including immediate family, for at least several hours after baby boy is born and I'm out of recovery. I want time to come down from the high, maybe brush my hair, get in a couple nursing sessions, etc.
@SkiChic626 - Ftm, but totally anticipate not wanting anyone but my husband to be with me until we're out of recovery and into one of the suites where we'll stay until we leave. I'm hoping that's the hospital's policy, but if not, it'll be ours and hopefully the nurses will help enforce it! I get that grandparents will want to meet their first grandbaby, but I'm still undergoing surgery and get to have a say in it!
@bbyT you definitely have a right to be pissed and hurt! It would be one thing if she gave you a heads up, so you could make other plans or change the date, etc., but to just not respond is so rude! I'm glad you're planning on mentioning it, because it will be the only way she learns that her actions impact others.
It's not Monday anymore (well, it's technically my Monday because it's the first day of the week I work, so that counts, right?) but I have one today. One of my coworkers gets away with calling in sick ALL THE TIME and it drives me crazy. He works in the sports department and the guy who was promoted recently to sports editor is too afraid to lay down consequences for this guy and my company is too cheap to fire anyone because it can't afford unemployment. Well, not only has this guy who calls out sick all the time tweeted in the middle of a football game that he had to stop his coverage of the game due to "tummy" issues, but he's also called in sick every couple weeks for "tummy" issues or because he had a sore throat from allergies or because he's just to tired to work that day. He's even left work early or taken a 3-hour break because he said he needed to take a nap. Well today he called out of work and gave my favorite excuse to date: He couldn't come to work because he didn't have any clean clothes and needed to do laundry. WHAT?! I've never even heard of such a thing. Meanwhile I'm over here wearing the only pair of maternity pants that still fits me for the third day in a row. Maybe I should have called out sick because of that? Anyway, I think they should promote me to being this guy's boss for just five minutes. He wouldn't be calling out sick again unless he had a legitimate reason for it.
@SkiChic626 - Ftm, but totally anticipate not wanting anyone but my husband to be with me until we're out of recovery and into one of the suites where we'll stay until we leave. I'm hoping that's the hospital's policy, but if not, it'll be ours and hopefully the nurses will help enforce it! I get that grandparents will want to meet their first grandbaby, but I'm still undergoing surgery and get to have a say in it!
Oh yeah, DH was the only one allowed in the OR and him and DD were the only ones with me in recovery, as well. I'm talking about after all that once I was in my mother/baby suite where I stayed for the next 4 days. I was in 'labor' for two days, so our families were anxiously awaiting news, and once they knew I was in surgery I think that's when they all came to the hospital, I really don't know though because DH was the one giving them updates....I literally did a drive by from my bed of the waiting room when they were bringing me to my suite, and they all saw me LOL. They all did realize I was in no shape and volunteered to leave and come back the next morning, which thank goodness for that! Though, at that point, I was so mentally exhausted after what I went through that I sorta wanted my own mommy, if you know what I mean, so I asked her to stay. This time, though, it'll be planned and I know what to expect and timing of everything, etc., so I'm asking that no one come to the hospital until I'm good and ready. Once I was in my suite, I was still hooked up to the catheter and had the leg compresses on to prevent clotting - I think overnight (my C-Section wasn't until 5pm since it wasn't planned). I also had no idea the pain meds were going to do that to me, and after a dose or two I actually stopped taking them. I really didn't feel that I needed them, I wasn't in that much pain. The nurses kept pushing it but I declined because I wanted a clear head and, like I said, I really didn't feel I needed it.
@SkiChic626 - I just don't trust them to have the good sense to look at me and think, man, she looks rough and we should leave her alone... especially if they are only coming for the day of. My FIL was in and out of hospitals for two years after major heart surgery, so I trust my MIL to be skilled at being supportive for hospital stays, but my parents just have no real experience with it. So, my current plan is to get as much info as I can pre C-section and tell them that the hospital will allow visitors after I'm in the mother/baby suite, and to expect it around X time, and ask the nurses to help keep them out before then and kick them out after a couple hours.
@SkiChic626 - I just don't trust them to have the good sense to look at me and think, man, she looks rough and we should leave her alone... especially if they are only coming for the day of. My FIL was in and out of hospitals for two years after major heart surgery, so I trust my MIL to be skilled at being supportive for hospital stays, but my parents just have no real experience with it. So, my current plan is to get as much info as I can pre C-section and tell them that the hospital will allow visitors after I'm in the mother/baby suite, and to expect it around X time, and ask the nurses to help keep them out before then and kick them out after a couple hours.
Yeah, that's why I was giving you my story ;-) It might be better to tell them to come the day after since they're only planning to come for one day.
@SkiChic626 - Yeah... I would love to do that and think it would actually work. Instead, they would get all offended and I'd spend even more energy fighting with them about it. Just like my Dad got offended when I suggested that if he had time to take off and wanted to come help with the baby, that he come say, the week we'll be attempting to move with a newborn. #divaparents
@kwilliams3402 What if you tell them a little fiblet that your procedure isn't scheduled until the afternoon, and by the time you're out of recovery and allowed visitors, visiting hours will be over that day?
@JournoGrl23 those are the worst. Worst even if you called in how everyone would be all upset and say something to you for a legit reason, as this guy gets away with whatever. You must not have a tongue left from biting it so hard!!! I know I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. Especially being prego now, i have no filter, things just fall out. Shocked I haven't been fired yet!!! (Good thing I work with all males and they don't care.)
@bbyT I work with all makes now too! My only female coworker quit a few weeks ago. A few of us including me don't keep our mouths shut. We make fun of him a lot by saying things like. "I'm having tummy issues, I think I need to go home early." Or "wow I'm tired. I think I need to go take a nap for a couple hours." Now we've started on the dirty laundry jokes today since he's decided to return to work.
Re: Bitchfest Monday
but another option that I know a lot of people do is gate check the car seat. They have protective bags, etc to put them in.
I fly with DD a lot and always buy her own seat and bring her car seat, starting from when she was 9 mos old, even though I don't technically have to yet - I strap it to a Brica roll and go and bring it onto the plane instead of schlepping a stroller. I also agree with PP and would never check or gate check the car seat....I've seen how they treat strollers and I can't imagine what kind of trauma a car seat goes through, so I wouldn't chance it.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
It's not Monday, but the grievance re-occurred yesterday, so I will complain!
My parents want to come help after the baby is born, which is very nice, and we're grateful, but it's totally all on their terms. For instance, my Dad says he can take a week off, which is nice, and wants to come separately than when my Mom comes... so (a) there is no way I want him coming by himself until Baby is at least a month old, and (b) he's not the most helpful or self-sufficient man, so I highly doubt he'll come and take over all chores, cooking, etc. I have 3 months of maternity leave, so why not spread out the company. So I suggest that it'd be really helpful if he used some of that time before Baby came to help prep the nursery, or perhaps in September, when we're hopefully moving to a rental for a renovation. Basically, man jobs that he can do unsupervised. He gets all offended because basically I'm trying to tell him how to help. Seriously?
And, my Mom wants to stay for a week to help after the baby is born... which will be great... but the latest is that they want to take a day trip for the birth (4 hours each way), then her come back when I get home from the hospital. We're scheduling a C-section at 39 weeks, so I get that I may have the baby in the middle of the week, but we do have two dogs, and it would actually be pretty handy to have them in town while I'm in the hospital. And, if they only come for the day of the birth, it's probably a little harder for me to say "Great, you've met baby and been here for an hour.... I'm tired and need a nap, so come back later." Last I heard, a C-section is surgery, and not a fun show. And, I don't get the feeling that they'll be of any use helping the day of except sitting at the hospital without getting all offended someone asked them to leave and do something ... and you know what we'll really need? Someone to let the dogs out midday so Husband doesn't have to leave the hospital to do it. The hospital is 5 min away from our house, so it'll take all of half an hour. They both have made clear that they have plenty of vacation days to use... it's all a matter of how they want to use them.
In start contrast, MIL has basically just said "you tell me how I can help," and I know that she'll do pretty much whatever we ask. Maybe this is selfish, but that's by far more of what I prefer and frankly expect.
Rant over.
So I had maternity pictures done on Sunday, and all week my SIL and I talked about them and her helping me do my hair and make sure outfits looked good with each other (I am not a girly girl, thank heavens I'm having a boy). Well here comes my issue and not sure if it's hormonal or not, but Friday night she texted me saying Im going to hate her. I ask why. No response. She just turned 21 and is enjoying that life- I understand!
Next day we had plans to get Mani/pedi's and to "curl" my hair- so next day it was softer. Well next day comes and goes, no response from her still. Sunday comes and I am on my own. No idea on how to do my hair, or anything. Then Sunday night she text saying her phone is acting up and "wont" send or receive text messages.
Now this isn't the first time she has blown me off for friends.
Guess it just hurts, I have no friends or family in the area I can call on to come help me. So when she offered to help it was like having a sister of my own....
Am I over reacting about being mad/hurt by her. She let me down and I don't know how I should feel/say/react to her. Like she hasn't even said sorry for not helping me. If it was a lunch date I would care less, but this was a professional photo shoot, that wasn't cheap and I am just worried that it will turn out bad.
Thanks for listening.
@bbyT I know how it feels to have others disappoint you and I am sorry that happened! Big hugs!
@Snaps816 Oh I will be letting her know. I just need to calm down still. And like my DH knows, I have a policy 3 strikes and you are out...don't care who or what you are to me. And she is on her second now, flaked on helping with the Gender reveal party decorations that was all her idea to begin with.
And DH knows that I won't be counting on her for anything in the near future, and he is okay with it. Agrees that she will have to learn that her actions have consequences!!
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016