Bitchfest Monday

ballofmeat

Let it all out!

ballofmeat

Well my Monday is starting off just super great...not

We bought a new construction home last year and our bank was supposed to set up the escrow account for our home owners insurance and property taxes. Then the bank said last year the taxes could not be done because they didn't know what they would be assessed at, but they would go ahead with the home owners insurance. Ok fine, we set aside the money for the taxes and paid it at the end of the year. DH set up the escrow account TWICE this year with said bank for the taxes and it still didn't come out in Jan or Feb. We said screw it and have just been putting the money aside for taxes like we did last year. 

Fast forward to April, our home owners insurance which we have been told has been in escrow this last year is due. My dad is our insurance agent. Everything was taken care of on his end. I stop in the bank today and they tell me that it actually hasn't been in escrow with our mortgage payments all this time, whoops their bad. They accidently were mistaken and thought the escrow account for the PMI was for the home owners insurance.

To say I am livid is an understatement. The bank even has records of us submitting everything for the taxes and insurance for escrow and for some reason they never followed through on THREE occasions. So now we will more than likely have to come up with 500 dollars out of our butts to pay the insurance that the bank said was taken care of. The bank is supposed to get back to me with what happened or shall I say "lack there" happened. 

I am in tears over this because we will be taking money out of our savings which was supposed to be for my maternity leave. Needless to say we have an appointment to transfer our mortgage to a different bank this week. I also think the bank should eat this 500 dollars because they are morons!

lotsofsunshine

@midwestbaby OH no!! I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't even imagine dealing with that crap right now. I hope your meeting with the new bank goes well. I agree the bank should eat that $500. Hope your day gets better.

ballofmeat

@lotsofsunshine
 Thanks I think I am going to drown my sorrows in a bacon cheeseburger.

bearsandbeets7

DD has started throwing ridiculous fits if she doesn't get what she wants. She throws herself in the floor when we try to pick her up and scream/cries. She is also extremely persistent and I always give in before she does. I'm hoping that they've been happening because we were just really off of our normal schedule last week. 

Also if one more person tells me "they are just going to get worse", I will probably throat punch them and not think twice. That is my sister favorite thing to say every time DD acts out, and she doesn't even have kids. I do not have the patience for this right now. 

pelorunningmama

I shouldn't complain. I know this already, but I can't help it. MIL is in town to help watch DD this week until school starts again next week. She is a wonderful person and I love her, but I can never seem to get things just right at home. 

I try to prepare for days to have everything all taken care of so there is nothing for her to correct (clean out the fridge, no laundry anywhere, house moderately clean), but somehow she always finds something. She doesn't mean to criticize and I don't think she is trying to make me feel inadequate, but every time she manages. This time, within 24 hours of arriving, she has already re-organized DD's shoes because I still had pairs that were too small for her in her closet. MIL claims it was just too difficult to pick shoes with all the smaller ones there, so she was re-organizing. 

She will even sort through DD's clothes and pull out things that she deems too small because they don't match her age. Ex. DD wears 18 month size clothes, she is 2.5. Lots of stuff seems like it wouldn't fit, but it does. MAKES ME CRAZY!

End rant.

kristynmac

@LWC1112 My mom does this because she says she wants to be helpful....uh not so much! My mom is amazing at making things that I find on Pinterest (I am one of those Pinterest fail people) so I have started sending her pictures of things to make and when she does come. I try to have a project she can work on and its usually something that I don't want to do myself. She loves it and stays out of my cupboards/closets that way. Next up--Freezer meals!

bearsandbeets7

@LWC1112 this is part of the reason why I'm glad my MIL has never graced my house with her presence. 

pelorunningmama

@kristynmac THAT is a great idea! My MIL is not a great cook, but I bet she could follow a recipe. DD is in vacation bible school from 9 to 12 this week, so maybe I'll see if she wants to start assembling freezer meals for us. I'm a little nervous to go home from work today and see what else she has "re-organized." 

lotsofsunshine

midwestbaby said:

@lotsofsunshine
 Thanks I think I am going to drown my sorrows in a bacon cheeseburger.

I think that is a fabulous idea. Infact I think I will too after I take my glucose test this afternoon.  

ballofmeat

@LWC1112 That would drive me crazy too! I think the Pinterest project thing is a great idea!

@lynnlove28 I hate when people say it's only going to get worse. Seriously people, if you don't have anything nice and encouraging to say, zip it. 

Stephanie7693

I feel like I have been cleaning and organizing forever, yet my baby shower is this weekend and there's still so much to do. Lots of weeds to pull, the pool isn't exactly clean yet, and my house needs a good deep cleaning. It's going to be 94 on Saturday, and probably a little humid, which means people will want to be in my pool or in my house. I'm feeling overwhelmed, and my kids last day of school is Wednesday. That means I have to try to convince them not to destroy the house before the shower. And we're leaving for a camping trip on sunday, which means I have to have the camper and all our stuff ready by Friday too. Ugh, what did I get myself into?!

lotsofsunshine

Any other railroad wives on here? I am so grateful that my husband's job provides for us so that I am able to stay home. But his job makes me crazy!!!! There is no schedule.  We can never make plans. Anytime it looks like we have a couple house before he goes to work, he gets called five minutes later. He is either gone every single night for nearly a month or home for a week at a time. He's been there for 12 years and it has never bothered me as much as it does now.  I'm sure it's pregnancy hormones making me crazy. But I wish he didn't have so many year invested already so he'd consider going elsewhere.

Katienu

@lotsofsunshine Not a railroad wife but my MIL is.  My FIL works for the railroad and his schedule makes it very difficult to see the family and make plans.  I know my MIL struggles with it, especially when planning vacations and making plans with the grandkids.  I feel your pain!

Duffgurl

Ugh dentist visit....I swear every pregnancy messes with my teeth   

lotsofsunshine

@Katienu Thank you for the validation. I know I'm just being whiney and feeling sorry for myself. It just gets super old sometimes. 

Bookhousegirl

DS's daycare is closing early today for staff development, but it was also conferences so I had to drop him off at 8, go back for a 10:30 conference and then pick him up by 2. I can't get any work done! Now I have to wait for my mom to get to me by 3:15 so I can rush to my office to see a couple of clients. Ugh, so annoying. 

tresamigos

@Duffgurl I have a dentist appt on Wednesday and I'm kind of worried about being uncomfortable on my back. Did it bother you at your appt? 

@Lynnlove28 I HATE the "just wait" comments! I don't have kids yet, but I can't stand when I make a comment about pregnancy and someone says "oh just wait." It was annoying in the beginning and at this point it just makes me want to throat punch someone. 

SkiChic626

Why are companies so shady when it comes to talking about maternity leave???  Last time, there was someone in my office that I actually met with in person who explained my timelines and how I get paid and all that good stuff.  I even got a pretty letter with a timeline and last day of leave from the insurance company while I was out - it made it so easy!  Since then, we've changed insurance companies and still at almost 31w pregnant, I have had 0 of my questions answered.  I pretty much know all of the answers from last time, but I need them to just validate and confirm so that there are no changes I wasn't aware of or surprises once I decide I'm done working.  We've also gone through a downsize, and our HR department apparently no longer answers these types of questions, we have to call the insurance company directly, so I did that today and apparently they can't answer any questions without opening a claim.....and I can't open my claim until July 5th based on my c-section date.  WTF?!?  I'm planning for my last day of work to be July 7th, soooooo that doesn't really work for me.  And, actually, if they approve my leave for 4 weeks prior to my expected delivery date, my last day would actually be June 30th because I'll have Personal days that I need to burn so I don't lose them.  So I really need this info yesterday so that I can plan and schedule transition meetings appropriately, etc.  With DD, I was able to open my claim the first time I called with questions, and I was maybe 3 or 4 mos at that point.  I'm so agitated!

PeachGal23

It's been a rough month. DH was in Asia 2 weeks for work, so I was home alone with 20-month old DD that whole time. Then he was gone again this past weekend while DD came down with Hand Foot & Mouth disease. It started with a 105 temp fever, which freaked me out since she NEVER gets fevers, even with an ear infection. So I waddled her to the ER at midnight in a Saturday. Today we got the diagnosis from her pediatrician that it's HFMD, and thankfully DH is back in town and helping a ton. DD has been inconsolable with the mouth sores, and I've had no sleep. Oh and any time I take off to be home with her is time I lose for maternity leave - I don't have any paid leave or short term disability other than what I save up of my own sick and annual leave - yay federal government! I'm hoping she can go back to day care tomorrow as she is fever free, but she seems so miserable and in pain. 

Katienu

@PeachGal23 I am so sorry to hear this. I hope everyone is on the mend quickly 

ballofmeat

@SkiChic626

I am so frustrated with our FMLA resources as well. I spent over an hour on the phone with FMLA source and our HR department trying to get them to understand my intermittent leave which will switch to continuous upon delivery. I still have not been approved and plan on calling back tomorrow to light a fire under their butt.

Also I STILL not have heard back from our bank today. Over 6 hours later... They close soon and I am at work now. I guess I will be calling them again tomorrow too. Grrrrr!

emmeline714

@midwestbaby did you speak to someone above all the dummies see if they can do anything about it?? 

@SkiChic626 my skin would be boiling and i would be like ummm i am about to go on leave early mother suckers and i need all these questions answered NOW!!!!! 


today just needs to be over with..... i am tired was awake for 3 hrs, woke up at 3am this morning because baby girl was moving alot plus so much fatigue that i can't sleep comfortable my house is cold but i still tend to be hot in the middle of the night drives me crazy. I been swapping all over my house from the couch to the beds to the floor nothing seems to help anymore. I JUST WANT SLEEP!!!

Duffgurl

@rikopy not sure if your dentist office has the chair at a slant not totally flat... If it is slightly at a slant that helps. If I lay flat on my back for too long it gets very uncomfortable. Just be sure to let your dentist know if uncomfortable by raising your hand. Good luck. I have to go back. Trying to see if I'm going to get a root canal or extraction. Waiting for a call back. 

bearsandbeets7

@SkiChic626 that sounds incredibly frustrating! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this! It seems like they would want to go ahead and have the claim open and all the details hammered out given that, God forbid, but anything can happen once we get this far along. We've already had one baby born! It seems like it would easier for them to have things dealt with. 

I feel like the healthcare and insurance industry acts very secretive and is in no big hurry in general. When my doctors office called me to let me know I failed the 3 hour test all she said was "your numbers were a little elevated so we are referring you to the diabetes clinic." I asked back what "elevated" was. Did I completely fail or just one number? 

Maybe secretive isn't the right word, more like I'm incompetent and dont understand what they are saying. I've had this happen on several different occasions and it's frustrating. 

tresamigos

@Duffgurl Root canal or extraction? That sounds awful no matter which you end up with. I feel for
you! 

jksj1993

Today at work one of my co workers says to me "you're so big!" ..okay yes baby is growing.. Im aware I have gotten bigger. But um thanks? She asked if I get upset when she says that.. I told her no but it's annoying. Everytime I see her she says that! Everyone else tells me I look great for 30 weeks and they can barely tell I'm pregnant which makes me feel good like I'm not some whale. But like she needs to keep her comments to herself it's so annoying! End of rant. 

Duffgurl

rikopy said:

@Duffgurl Root canal or extraction? That sounds awful no matter which you end up with. I feel for
you! 

I have to wait to see if my insurance will cover the root canal. If not then an extraction  Are you getting something done or just a check up?

searchingforameaning

Came home from work and MIL had mopped the floor. Yes, helpful. And I am thankful but DH made a a huge deal about making sure we thank her for every little thing she does. Yet when I work hard and do things around the house there is never any gratitude. MIL lives in our house and we cover all her needs and we must still praise her for helping out around the house yet I who work 40+ hours a week and then come home to cook, clean, pay bills, etc and sorry to dh but I don't want to worship your mother because she did something to contribute to her free room and board.

No more Miss!

@Duffgurl
yuck, yuck, yuck! Sorry to hear it. My whole family has to go next week. I have a filling that's been bothering me. Hope I'm just being sensitive.
My DD needs a filling which we scheduled for right before my due date, eek. Fingers crossed for you! 

The electrical transformer across the street from us threw sparks all over the place. We had a brown out then a power surge. It killed my alarm clock, fan, keurig, microwave, and propane wall heater (probably a $2,000 unit). I've put in a request with our power company but it seems unlikely they'll give us anything. I checked my home owners and we have a $2,500 deductible, so that's pretty much out. Adulting sucks. 

We've been remodeling our upstairs bathroom for about a month-maybe 6 weeks now. I was mentioning to DH that I can't wait for the toilet to be in. He was like why?  Um, because I have to get up and go downstairs many times a night. Good old literal DH said it's probably good for my leg cramps to be up and moving during the night. Where's my sympathy? Haha. Anyways, I'm getting ready for all night cluster feedings I guess. 

What else can I bitch about? Business has been sucky this year and we're down a bunch from last year. Not a good time to be having a baby... Makes me feel guilty buying anything when there's so many business expenses and not much coming in. Hoping the summer season is awesome (as it usually is)!

lotsofsunshine

@searchingforameaning , Ugh! That sounds really annoying. So sorry girl.

bearsandbeets7

@duffgirl I'm a bad adult and avoid the dentist like the plague. That sucks!

@searchingforameaning I'm a little passive aggressive so I think I would just stop doing everything and see how long it takes your DH to notice that nothing is getting done. Also you are a special kind of Saint for being able to let your MIL live with you. 

mamaqdubu

Okay this is silly compared to other issues, but I just walked across the street to the convenience store to get ice cream sundae fixings for DH and I (yeah yeah, it's not good for me but I don't do it everyday) and the guy behind me in line actually said "that's an impressive assortment of junk food you have" ...... Who says that to a pregnant women?!?!? Ugh. 

AliKay20

My side of fam is coming to town for baby shower this weekend except they had all three months to plan for this trip but are now looking at flight tickets and hotel availability.

My nephews are coming as well but they'll need to be in car seats and with my SIL & mom, they're going to have to rent a car to get to places.

Now they're asking me if they can purchase convertible car seats on Amazon and have them be installed in our SUV for the weekend. Mind you, we have a Rogue so with 2 car seats in the back, there really is no other room for anyone else. 

The best way is for them to fly in, rent a car with car seats, and drive themselves. As much as I am looking forward to seeing them, at this point, I am beyond annoyed at their lack of travel plans. I cannot figure this out for them five days before the shower. Now it seems just more stressful than excitement. We have friends coming in from out of town as well. I already have this stress of being a host esp. to those who are coming from out of town. All while dealing with the worst swelling of my feet, legs, and just plain tiredness from pregnancy. 

At this moment, I'm over everything.

tresamigos

@Duffgurl Just a cleaning... and hopefully nothing else!

Stephanie7693

@AliKay20  that sounds awful! I would definitely tell them to figure it out with a rental company, you have enough to worry about already. My shower is this weekend too, and even though we don't have any out of towners coming, I'm feeling overwhelmed. I can't imagine having to deal with your stress! Hope it all ends up ok and you have fun

Sekerambo

@AliKay20 - Using car seats from a rental company is really not safe.  There is no record of whether the seats have been in an accident or if they have been mishandled.  I would not chance my child's safety in one.  Is there any way they can bring the car seats with them? Or can someone else bring the seats to them and bring them to the rental company? Or maybe even see if they can have the car seats shipped directly to the rental car company?  How old are the boys? 

beenabee

Wisdom teeth...when I first got pregnant my two bottom ones were just starting to come in and I had terrible pressure/pain on the top left of my mouth and last night I could feel that it finally popped through. I can't wait to get to the dentist and get them removed after I have baby. I also now feel so bad that baby is gonna have to go through teething and am so not looking forward to that. 

AliKay20

@Stephanie7693 & @Sekerambo thanks for the input.

They're 3 & 1. I hadn't even thought about the safety of rental car seats (FTM ignorance much?). Maybe they can ship them over or check them in like any other luggage. I never thought about how best to travel with toddlers! I've seen strollers get tagged as checked bags but not really car seats. This situation made me wonder if families with babies/toddlers fly into another city and rent a car, what do they usually do?!

mmclark10

It's not Monday anymore but this happened yesterday.  I take the bus to work, except for Mondays when I drive DS to daycare (in the opposite direction of my office) then take a bus to work.  Yesterday, I happened to pull in front of a state trooper on my way to pick him up and he proceeded to follow me to a block away from the day care.  Turns out our tabs were expired and oh yeah, I still haven't gotten my new license in our current state.  Which is supposed to be done within 60 days.  Between starting a new job, then getting pregnant, and not driving except for one day a week, a new license wasn't high on my priority list.  The tabs didn't arrive at our house because we moved from a rental in to the house we bought three months after moving.  Bad timing and bad luck resulted in an expensive day and me working from home today because I have to take a knowledge test to get a license in this state.  Even though I've previously held a license here...  I know it's my fault, but still can't help thinking that the trooper could have cut me a little slack since I wasn't endangering anyone...

Sekerambo

@AliKay20 -  I didn't think of it either, until I had to do it.  Your family is required to purchase a plane ticket for the 3 year old so it doesn't make sense that they wouldn't bring their own car seat for him.  They do not need to purchase a ticket for the one year old so they may not have planned on bringing a car seat for him.  Airlines don't charge baggage fees for car seats but it is recommended not to check a car seat because they have been known to crack. They can gate check a car seat which is slightly better than checking it in but still is an unknown.  If they don't want to chance their expensive car seats then maybe they can just purchase a cheap one for the trip.  If they are purchasing a ticket for both boys then it really is a non-issue and they should be bringing their own.