@PootsDragon I totally get the etiquette of thank you notes and all but I feel apathetic about cards in general. For my wedding it made sense because I didn't open gifts in front of people so then I thanked everyone via card. For the shower I'm still doing it but most of these people I saw and genuinely thanked for their gift in person when I opened it, so then sending a card reiterating the sentiment seems like a waste of paper to me. I'm totally grateful for the gifts we received, I personally just don't find thank you notes to be all that genuine feeling.
@elenabrent YES on the no to zoo's. I feel more hatred toward circuses but zoo's, and animal parks are climbing high up there....places like SeaWorld. I'm all for open space areas that have been set aside for the animals to live more like their natural habitat and definitely wouldn't knock rehabilitation. If I have it my way, my kid will never attend a circus!! Maybe that's a FFFC.....who knows.
@PhoebeJune1984 Thankfully our nursery/gear is pretty neutral and we have quite a few clothes that would work for either sex. I know my husband and I would be thrilled to have a 'surprise' boy, even though we are already thrilled and invested in plans for the daughter we've been told we are having. He would take it easier than I would, only because I plan for things and then REALLY hold on to those plans with every fiber of my being (because of way deeper mental/emotional issues). I think I will be able to bond with the baby either way, but any 'change of plans' sends me into temporary freak out mode and I worry about the hormone-change compounded on that will send me on a post-partum spiral for something that really isn't a huge deal.
@stellaluna14 I totally agree! I've never understood why I have to write thank you notes for a gift I received, opened and then THANKED the person for. But I do it because that's what my mom taught me to do.
My confession: I've been silencing my phone calls at work all week. I don't get phone calls too often to begin with, but I really am not in the mood to answer lately. Then, a call came in from one of my favorite locations, so I answered hoping it was one of my favorite people that work there. It was.
Oh, and the voicemails they are leaving? Those will be checked at 4:55.
I had this baby's name monogrammed on a Christmas stocking when they were on sale in February. Other than that and the few button downs I've bought all of our crap could go either way. Though I'm fairly certain I saw a nut sack and I'm not a trained professional ultrasound reader.
To top it off, my mom sent me a text that they had to put the family dog down last night due to cancer. The text just made me even more de-motivated than before, so here I sit bumping instead.
Something tells me I'm not getting anything else done before the workday is over and I currently give zero effs about it.
@Tatiana616 you are my hero! Back in February I bought some gifts for a friend of mine who is due a month before I am. It turned out that she decided not to invite me to her shower since she didn't want another pregnant woman to take the focus off of her that day. (Note that this same girl announced her own pregnancy at a friend's sex reveal party for their child) I ended up returning her gifts and gave her the prize that we won at the Babies R Us registry event lol.
@jwittwer I'm so sorry about your dog. That's terrible. I wouldn't be productive either. Also it's Friday. You deserve to have your work cut you a break.
@jwittwer I am so sorry to hear about your family pet. Can't blame you for being distracted. We're in the same boat right now with one of ours. It's definitely a real mood killer and has made my work hours less of a priority in my mind.
@Brittnic531 haha my related FFFC is that I've had Amazon student (which is just Prime at half price) for like four years and I definitely graduated over a year ago. I have no intention of ever telling them because half price is too good to pass up on.
@jwittwer Sorry to hear about your dog, the poor thing. Just do the basics at work, it's getting close now and it's just going to stress you out worrying about work.
FFFC: I think the US maternity leave is ridiculous, unless you choose to go back to work early, you should have at least 3-6 months paid time off work to bond with baby. I just think its unfair for those ladies who need to work as much as possible to support themselves financially. It causes more stress and worry, especially for those who have difficult pregnancies and could benefit from going on leave early and resting. Here in Ireland the maternity leave is for 26 weeks, you get a payment from the government (which has been partly been paid from your PRSI tax) and can legally take another 14 weeks unpaid. If you're feeling unwell or your job is to strenuous you can be signed off sick or placed on a health and safety leave and you will still get assistance. It may not be as much as my wages from work but it definitely takes the stress off pregnant ladies. I honestly don't know how some of you ladies do it. I couldn't imagine going back to work 4-6 after birth. Major kudos to those who do.
@yeezusbutters You're right. "Traumatized" is not the most accurate term. "Mildly uncomfortable with the negative attention I might draw from interwebz acquaintances" is probably more accurate.
@PhoebeJune1984 Thankfully our nursery/gear is pretty neutral and we have quite a few clothes that would work for either sex. I know my husband and I would be thrilled to have a 'surprise' boy, even though we are already thrilled and invested in plans for the daughter we've been told we are having. He would take it easier than I would, only because I plan for things and then REALLY hold on to those plans with every fiber of my being (because of way deeper mental/emotional issues). I think I will be able to bond with the baby either way, but any 'change of plans' sends me into temporary freak out mode and I worry about the hormone-change compounded on that will send me on a post-partum spiral for something that really isn't a huge deal.
Oh I totally get that. That is what my friend went through, because she had "bonded" with this girl that she was having, and picturing their future together, and then was handed a boy. She said even though she was happy with a boy as well, she kind of had to mourn the loss of that girl that she was expecting (and that future she had envisioned), and picture a little boy in that place. She also said that the hardest part, was going through that process while going through the hormone changes, and that if she found out towards the end of the pregnancy (instead of at birth), she thinks she would have had an easier time making the mental mind change when she didn't have to deal with all of the L&D/postpartum hormones that were raging.
@jwittwer sorry to hear about your pup!! my little guy woke up limping today and I am all kinds of worried. It's amazing how much love we can have for our furry ones. Hang in there. @stellaluna14 same! And now that I'm a teacher with a school email address I will never have to give it up!
If your post/response is longer than my iPhone 6 Plus screen and I have to scroll to read it all, it does not get read.. Completely bypass those every time.
FFFC: When I RSVP'd no to a "friend's" wedding (July 1st, may possibly even still be in the hospital having a baby or at home with a very much newborn baby) and she was not happy with me. This pissed me off, so I'm not even going to her bridal shower next weekend. Sorry, not sorry.
@LF93 My nanny kids preschool went back to work like 3.5 weeks or so after having a c-section. I have no idea how she did that, but she had to come back. She didn't have enough time built to take any additional time off, since she had just started the position in the middle of her pregnancy. I was shocked when I saw her back already.
@schaze That is annoying. I sure as hell wouldn't go to her shower and bring her a gift if she responded like that. My husband's cousin is getting married July 9th, and I am scheduled for a RCS on the 21st. I really could go into labor before then, but we RSVP'ed "yes" and then I sent her a message and let her know that we would love to come, but that obviously there is a chance things could change if I go into labor early or I am still in (or just getting out) of the hospital. Her response was just to say that she completely understood, hoped that we would be able to make it, and that she couldn't want to snuggle our new baby. Either way, we will send a wedding gift whether we are there or not, but if she would have come at me with a bitchy attitude, she would have got nothing.
Another FFFC: at this point I genuinely feel that if anyone has a problem with me or feels the need to be dramatic, they should probably keep it to themselves for the next month. (Looking at you MIL). I am too pregnant for this shit. So everyone should just be nice, offer me food, or leave me alone. Too much to ask?
If your post/response is longer than my iPhone 6 Plus screen and I have to scroll to read it all, it does not get read.. Completely bypass those every time.
FFFC: I've never opened the Names thread. I feel like names are a personal decision and I think reading everyone's opinions on everyone else's names would annoy me. And I didn't want the yellow notification staring me in the face every time someone posted. I'm a bad person for not wanting to participate but I'm confident you all will love the names you end up with.
@jwittwer - I'm so sorry about the loss of your dog My parents had to put down their dog in October and it was hard enough then without the pregnancy hormones raging. I really hope next week is better for you!
My confession I have no problem with lurkers who post and handle direction to better forums or fun poking in stride and don't get defensive. As seen in the name post.
But when people come in just to complain about how mean or exclusive it is and immediately get defensive when given suggestions or redirected I couldnt care less if they gbcb
My confession I have no problem with lurkers who post and handle direction to better forums or fun poking in stride and don't get defensive. As seen in the name post.
But when people come in just to complain about how mean or exclusive it is and immediately get defensive when given suggestions or redirected I couldnt care less if they gbcb
I'm just not sure why people throw around 'leaving and never posting again' like it's supposed to be some grand punishment for all of us.
My confession: I've been silencing my phone calls at work all week. I don't get phone calls too often to begin with, but I really am not in the mood to answer lately. Then, a call came in from one of my favorite locations, so I answered hoping it was one of my favorite people that work there. It was.
Oh, and the voicemails they are leaving? Those will be checked at 4:55.
This is my normal MO. I don't talk on the phone and it's totally normal for my work voicemail to be full. My boss is well aware. Whatever.
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Oh, and the voicemails they are leaving? Those will be checked at 4:55.
To top it off, my mom sent me a text that they had to put the family dog down last night due to cancer. The text just made me even more de-motivated than before, so here I sit bumping instead.
Something tells me I'm not getting anything else done before the workday is over and I currently give zero effs about it.
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FFFC: I think the US maternity leave is ridiculous, unless you choose to go back to work early, you should have at least 3-6 months paid time off work to bond with baby. I just think its unfair for those ladies who need to work as much as possible to support themselves financially. It causes more stress and worry, especially for those who have difficult pregnancies and could benefit from going on leave early and resting. Here in Ireland the maternity leave is for 26 weeks, you get a payment from the government (which has been partly been paid from your PRSI tax) and can legally take another 14 weeks unpaid. If you're feeling unwell or your job is to strenuous you can be signed off sick or placed on a health and safety leave and you will still get assistance. It may not be as much as my wages from work but it definitely takes the stress off pregnant ladies. I honestly don't know how some of you ladies do it. I couldn't imagine going back to work 4-6 after birth. Major kudos to those who do.
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@stellaluna14 same! And now that I'm a teacher with a school email address I will never have to give it up!
FFFC: When I RSVP'd no to a "friend's" wedding (July 1st, may possibly even still be in the hospital having a baby or at home with a very much newborn baby) and she was not happy with me. This pissed me off, so I'm not even going to her bridal shower next weekend. Sorry, not sorry.
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But when people come in just to complain about how mean or exclusive it is and immediately get defensive when given suggestions or redirected I couldnt care less if they gbcb