@jennyleigh16 I totally understand where you're coming from! 3 people rsvp'd yes for my shower and then cancelled because they were "sick" but not too sick enough to Facebook about being at the bar for a basketball game. Side eye. I think it's lame and inconsiderate. I'm sure all of your guests that went to your shower had a great time and that's all that matters. That's what I've been telling myself
Had one of my baby showers today. My mom hosted but we held it at my place because we were anticipating 18 people and my house is bigger. A bunch of people rsvped no, and then a few more cancelled the week of. One cancelled without a reason and I saw pics of her and her sister on fb celebrating their spa day today, and an aunt of MH said she couldn't make it because she'd be out of town, and posted photos of the farmers market in her town from this morning. Then my coworker and her wife rsvped yes, and an hour into the shower hadn't shown up so I texted her and she replied that they had to work and weren't coming... I get that people have different priorities and no one really owes me any explanation, but these all felt like douchy moves to me. If you're going to lie, don't post it on fb, and if you know ahead of time you're not coming, don't wait until I text you during the event to tell me you decided not to come.
It just makes me feel shitty that only 7/18 people like me enough to follow through and show up...and one of them was my mom.
Make sure you like their photos of them doing non shower things instead!
@givemepenguinss My mom said I should comment on them. "Great day for a farmers market" "Aren't spa days awesome? Glad you had fun" but alas I'm being the bigger person. (Physically and metaphorically). I am tempted to post on my own wall "Had a great baby shower this weekend, a big thank you to everyone who made the long drive out, you guys made me feel special!"
Sadly I'll probably do nothing and just stew about it, because I avoid confrontation like the plague.
@jennyleigh16 I had an old coworker that did crap all the time. Liked called out of work for a funeral, then would post beach scenes with her in a bikini and a drink. It got to a point no one talked to her, or would switch shifts. Just shady.
@BecauseBabyIamAPug Ugh that crap is just bad karma. Plus you get to the point that no one wants to cover for you so when you really do need a legit day off, you can't get it. Boy who cried wolf and all that jazz. I have a coworker like that too. Drives me crazy.
@LilLambie I feel your pain! One of my co-workers has had a cough for a while. Finally went to the drs about it and it could be several different things, one of which is whooping cough. She has been coming to work the whole time, thinking its probably just allergies. She still hasn't gotten an update as to what it could be, but go figure I have been sick for almost a week now... and gosh I wonder who I got it from. Crossing my fingers it wasn't whooping cough, and also keeping you in my thoughts that you are ok and don't get it from your co-worker!
@jennyleigh16 I understand what you mean about avoiding confrontation. I'm the same way when it comes to stuff like that. It just stinks that people have to be so shady.
@jennyleigh16 I agree that does suck. But you do have people there that did make it and clearly care about you. I think you have the right idea in acknowledging those that made the effort to make your day special. Don't waste any more breath on those who didn't, you have more important things to worry about like your expanding family
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Me: 32, DH: 38
Married 1/14/12
NTNP Since 12/13, TTC Since 1/15
BFP: 11/4/15 Found out we were having TWINS 12/9/15 EDD: 7/11/16 Born: 6/29/16
My husband went out of town this weekend for a friend's bachelor party. He said that when he gets home we will go to Buy Buy Baby so we can make returns, order the rest of our furniture, and get the last few big things we need. This morning he texted me and they left late and they're stopping for breakfast and lunch so he won't be home until this evening. Which means no BBB. I just wanted to go and get everything finished today.
@Schmooie730 Ugh!! I am such a child in that if you tell me you're going to do something and it doesn't happen, there is potential for meltdowns. That would make me so upset!!! Maybe you can go with a friend or family and take care of some of the things together?
@calico34 you're absolutely right. I guess I'm just blah about it because it just happened yesterday. But I did get to celebrate with some amazing people who were generous with their time and gifts, and I'm so grateful for that.
My cousin gave us an assortment of children's books that she and her sisters loved growing up. I realized as I was opening them that they were all my favourites growing up too and I'm so excited to share them with my son. I was showing them to MH afterwards and he was laughing at how giddy I was.
Those moments are the important ones, not who didn't show up.
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Sadly I'll probably do nothing and just stew about it, because I avoid confrontation like the plague.
It got to a point no one talked to her, or would switch shifts. Just shady.
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My cousin gave us an assortment of children's books that she and her sisters loved growing up. I realized as I was opening them that they were all my favourites growing up too and I'm so excited to share them with my son. I was showing them to MH afterwards and he was laughing at how giddy I was.
Those moments are the important ones, not who didn't show up.