Hello, ladies! This isn't baby related, but it IS parenting related, and I really need to hear some of your thoughts on this. I don't want to bring it up in my local mommy boards because I don't like airing dirty laundry where people can actually recognize us, but I have been obsessing about this all day...
So my 12 year old stepson received a package from his bio mom yesterday, who he hasn't seen in 1.5 years, and it turned out to be a hair bleaching kit. My kid has been wanting to dye his hair white for ages, but I'm really not into the idea. I think he's too young to be dousing himself in chemicals, but I also think it would look downright awful on him. He brings up wanting white hair now and then, but was never really serious about it, so we were able to avoid it. Had he ever asked directly, we would have said no in a heartbeat. Then she sends him everything he needs: bleach, toner, conditioner. Ugh.
Ignoring the fact that blond isn't even white, I showed him what bleached hair actually looks like from at-home kits, and told him my hesitations, hoping he would think it over and realize it wasn't a good idea. He said he would do some research online and think it over. But then he brought it up at dinner and said he wanted to try it. Time for the big guns: I told him his father and I also gave it some thought and ultimately decided he isn't allowed to dye his hair (until he's older.)
But now I feel SO GUILTY. This is literally the first gift she's sent him in about a year that isn't just chocolate, and it's something he actually wants, and then mean step-mom comes in and tells him he basically can't have it. Maybe I'm overreacting because I've never dyed my own hair; is it really that big of a deal?