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1faceinacrowd

It's FRIDAY (before a 3-day weekend, no less)! Let's hear those confessions!

emmeline714

my confesion is that lately i have been having lots of sweet things and i need to cut it out but it is just too good.

1faceinacrowd

My Confession: My husband is sick and I feel absolutely ZERO sympathy for him. Why, you ask? Because he has been coughing like crazy and feeling ill for THREE WEEKS and I have been telling him for at least the last week and a half to go to the flippin' doctor. But has he gone yet? No, of course not, and as luck would have it, my throat started hurting on Monday and now I'm getting all the same symptoms. So when he was lying on the couch feeling cruddy last night, I literally couldn't even force myself to feel bad for him. Not only has he refused to see a doctor but he's managed to give whatever illness he has to me. 
He did FINALLY agree to go to the doctor this afternoon, now that I have it and he's realizing that he's not getting any better. So thanks, Husband, for waiting until you probably have pneumonia and you've given your illness to me before seeking out medical treatment. 

bearsandbeets7

Part of the reason I haven't done much to prepare for this baby yet is because I'm secretly hoping nesting will kick in and I'll get everything done. I also have a list of things that I want to clean once I do start nesting. I could easily do it now but why waste all that great energy? 

Curls919

I have nesting brain but not the motivation.  I want things cleaned and organized but I'm too lazy to actually do it. 

lucypod

@Curls919 me too!  all i want to do is make lists and I think I have maxed out Google Drive.  When I look at the room full of stuff to organize I'm just like "nope. the real nesting bug will kick in soon i'm sure."  I'm starting to doubt that at this point!

charmedlifex3

I've found if I start doing something my husband takes it over, while scolding me to sit down with my feet up and drink water. Honestly, this is the reason the baby's nursery is done...

I may have started projects I know I couldn't/shouldn't do specifically because I wanted him to do them... Yeah, I was totally going to clean the tub.... I can absolutely reach it, and chemicals are great for pregnant people... Oh, you mean you'll do it? Thanks dear! It's honestly more effective than asking....

Shhhh don't tell.

lotsofsunshine

Allisun85 said:

I've found if I start doing something my husband takes it over, while scolding me to sit down with my feet up and drink water. Honestly, this is the reason the baby's nursery is done...

I may have started projects I know I couldn't/shouldn't do specifically because I wanted him to do them... Yeah, I was totally going to clean the tub.... I can absolutely reach it, and chemicals are great for pregnant people... Oh, you mean you'll do it? Thanks dear! It's honestly more effective than asking....

Shhhh don't tell.

I love this! My husband works a LOT and is out of town all the time. So a lot of things fall to me to get done. But when he is home, I totally play the pregnancy card. I think he's on to me. But he plays along anyway. 

alyssajrob22

I kind of really dislike my husband right now. My anxiety is extremely high right now. I almost had several panic attcks yesterday because he has a disgruntled employee where he works. Well, my mind goes to the worst case scenario possible and said employee (who is very mentally unstable) targeting my husband first if something happens and then me having to raise the baby by myself. Then it doesnt help that Im having recurrent nightmares about miscarrying (which Ive been through before). I wake up crying a couple times per night and have to go to the bathroom just to check and make sure everything is okay. 

Tell DH about all of this and his response is either "Dear, you are fine." or "Hmm." HMM??? Are you kidding me??? I just want to say something to him like, "You, sir, are a dick!" 

Sorry to be the Debbie Downer!

JournoGrl23

I have a clean load of laundry sitting in the dryer that's been there since Tuesday. I walk by it every day and think of putting it up. But I just don't feel like it...

@alyssajrob22 I'm sorry your anxiety is high and you're worrying about your DH and miscarrying. I would be doing the same thing if my DH worked with a disgruntled employee. I've also had the fear of losing the baby this whole pregnancy after my previous loss so I know it's hard to relax.

charmedlifex3

@alyssarob22 It may be that you are giving him a problems he can't *DO* anything about. He can't fix it, so he doesn't know how to handle it...

I was having anxiety (and panic attacks) over him being laid off, and that is something he can DO something about. He's had dozen's of interviews because he's been so proactive about applications and follow up. When I freaked out about being puffy, and gaining 10lbs in 4 days, he was on the phone to the doctor. These were actionable... While scary, he is just as helpless with the things you named as you are, and can't make it better for you. And that probably bugs the crap out of him.

alyssajrob22

@Allisun85 Thanks.. Thats exactly what I needed to hear and really probably is the case. DH doesnt like to feel helpless in general, so you are right. He probably doesnt know what to do or say besides what he is doing right now. 

alyssajrob22

@Allisun85 Thanks.. Thats exactly what I needed to hear and really probably is the case. DH doesnt like to feel helpless in general, so you are right. He probably doesnt know what to do or say besides what he is doing right now. 

ashleybaker712

Bitchfest. Sorry so long!

I'm just going to say it: I don't really like my niece. She's going to be 8, is an only child, and annoying. Her parents and my IL's act like she's the best behaved kid ever. They don't really watch her because they think she's so good and just let her do whatever she wants. She tries to control DS (2.5 yrs old) and isn't good with him.

We've been having trouble with DS not sharing with other kids and being kind of aggressive toward them. DH thinks, and I'm starting to agree, he's seeing it from her. He isn't around many kids that often but he's around her quite a bit. The other day, she was just taking things out of his hands and telling him what to do. 2 of the problems we're having with him! She tried to tell me he was saying something, even though she was wrong and had no idea what he was talking about, and tries to tattle on him. We told my MIL about the new issues with DS and she wants to bring the niece in on role playing and helping him learn the correct ways to interact with other kids. I almost laughed out loud. 

We can't say anything to my SIL about the way the niece acts because she has this view that her daughter is perfect and they play so well together. They say the kid has set her own boundaries and doesn't cross them. Does that include ripping things from DS's hands? That's an odd boundary. I'm not saying she's 100% of the problem but when she's doing the things we want to stop, she's not helping!

I just got a call from my FIL saying the niece is at my MIL's house waiting for DS to come over so they can play. I told him DS is eating and we'll be over later. I don't like being around her and don't like the way she "plays" with him. I just said ok and hung up. I'm not rushing him. Maybe she'll be gone when we get there. Fingers crossed!

texasmama2014

Literally the only thing I have done to prepare for this baby is to go to the doc for prenatal care and I bought some swaddles a few months ago.  Haven't even dug into storage to find things like the RNP, clothes, etc.  Probably won't for awhile. Maybe July. Maybe.

pelorunningmama

@texasmama2014 Same. We've done nothing except buy a few onesies and one swaddle. DH has big plans to renovate the baby and DD's bathroom before he arrives. I can't do anything in the bedroom that is supposed to be his until all of the grossness from renovation is over (it's attached to their rooms, Jack and Jill style). Because of that, I've put off everything. 

kwilliams3402

My sister-in-law hasn't even bothered to RSVP to my baby shower that's Sunday, but honestly, every time they are in town for family things (pretty much just Christmas and funerals), they bring their terrors-of-yorkies, one of whom my angel dachshund Hans treats like a squirrel.  So while I'm super irked that she's so dang rude... I kind of don't mind if it means I won't have to referee between the yorkie and the Hans all weekend.

Also, we're going to try Babywise with Baby Boy... and I know that's not entirely popular.

Katienu

ashleybaker712 I can relate to what you posted. I struggle with my brother's step children and it is very hard for me to call them my niece and nephew.  They are just so spoiled rotten and disrespectful to my parents.  Now that they are pre-teen and teenagers, it has gotten so much worse! They are always on the their phones and complain about everything.  My SIL doesn't make them do one thing around the house and they get everything they ask for even if they can't afford it.  I dread when I hear they are going to be at my parents. 

jamiesc58

I wish I could get fired from my job without any future repercussions. I have no desire to be here at all and everything that has been going on with my appointments and FMLA and getting written up for said issues, makes it no easier to get out of bed and come here every morning. I know I could quit but I really love the people in the local office I work in and I feel really bad. I talked to dh about it and he wants me to at least go down to part time. 

Curls919

@texasmama2014 - we bought the carseat (only because I took advantage of the BRU trade in) and I pre-registered yesterday at my hospital.  I'm giving myself until July 4th to relax then I'll kick it into high gear and I'll go through the NB stuff and pull things out of storage.

Mrsrundell

@kwilliams3402 my SIL used a slightly less rigid variation of a Babywise schedule for her son (now 20 months) from day one and he really is so well behaved.  I am also going to implement a schedule that combines Babywise and baby whisper's EASY method as quickly as possible - I'm a FTM so I may be in for a world of shock but I think it will help keep me on schedule too and plan out what to do with little one .. Parent led schedules are definitely not an UO in my family!! 

charmedlifex3

@jamiesc58 You can use FMLA in pieces, if it is related to a larger, FMLA covered event. So TECHNICALLY you can file for FMLA coverage for all of your doctors appointments. It will reduce your full 12, if you were planning on taking that, but may save you some headaches.

From the .gov website:

LEAVE ENTITLEMENT

Eligible employees may take up to 12 workweeks of leave in a 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons:

• The birth of a son or daughter or placement of a son or daughter with the employee for adoption or foster care;
• To care for a spouse, son, daughter, or parent who has a serious health condition;
• For a serious health condition that makes the employee unable to perform the essential functions of his or her job; or
• For any qualifying exigency arising out of the fact that a spouse, son, daughter, or parent is a military member on covered active duty or call to covered active duty status.    

Under some circumstances, employees may take FMLA leave on an intermittent or reduced schedule basis. That means an employee may take leave in separate blocks of time or by reducing the time he or she works each day or week for a single qualifying reason. When leave is needed for planned medical treatment, the employee must make a reasonable effort to schedule treatment so as not to unduly disrupt the employer's operations.  

jamiesc58

@Allisun85 that is what I thought also. I am filling out more paperwork and fighting through it all now. In all other aspects, I love the company I work for. We don't even have maternity leave so I have to apply for short term disability and there is a 28 day waiting period. That means I will get 66% for 2 of 6 weeks. Luckily our company pays 66% for 2 weeks also, so I should only have 2 unpaid. We'll see. 

searchingforameaning

damn white shirts. I never wear white shirts. And of course the one day I do, I spill my lunch on it. So now the rest of my day in the office will have me walking around with Indian curry on my chest.

abern8

Eating all the ice cream before my glucose test results come back.

cal031686

It's a gorgeous day outside but I'm held up inside with the AC cranked bc this momma is hot and tired. I just want to enjoy doing nothing for a few more hours before I start on my weekend of deep cleaning, painting, and moving back to our house. 

tmk0325

Allisun85 said:

I've found if I start doing something my husband takes it over, while scolding me to sit down with my feet up and drink water. Honestly, this is the reason the baby's nursery is done...

I may have started projects I know I couldn't/shouldn't do specifically because I wanted him to do them... Yeah, I was totally going to clean the tub.... I can absolutely reach it, and chemicals are great for pregnant people... Oh, you mean you'll do it? Thanks dear! It's honestly more effective than asking....

Shhhh don't tell.

I am jealous of your husband. My SO said to me the other day, your only pregnant not disabled. I said yeah, but I'm also carrying not one, but two babies! He doesn't do anything around the house, but does own a business and works 14 hour days right now. So I give him the benefit of the doubt on some things...  The only thing he's said to me was you shouldn't be painting your nails, too many fumes. I was like its $50 cheaper than me going to get them done! I don't really have a confession, just get real annoyed with him, especially when I read how great a lot of your husbands are! 

JournoGrl23

@jamiesc58 I wish I could either get fired or quit without any repercussions as well and DH and I still have enough money. I have a fantasy of marching into my boss' office and yelling at her for everything that company has ever done to me and quitting. No two weeks notice.

charmedlifex3

@tmk0325 All my girlfriends keep asking if I can clone him

kwilliams3402

@Allisun85, last Friday my husband suggested I could help him move the new dresser we were planning to buy the next day inside (out of the uhaul, into the bedroom).  I just laughed at him.  Pretty sure half of that dresser was way more than I can carry not-pregnant.  It's cute that he thinks I have superhuman powers.

Snaps816

I am eating a sandwich right now that has roast beef and blue cheese! Bwahahaha. Deli meat and soft cheese!!

For the record, it's from a place that slices their own meats daily and the cheese is pasteurized, so I'm good. Somehow it still feels like contraband, though. 

Duffgurl

I have been buying items for myself rather than buying for our LO due in August. New shoes for me yes please...Ofra liquid lipsticks 4 for $20 but of course  Hey I justify it because we don't know the sex of the baby yet. Now hopefully this will all change tomorrow  

AMCooper000

Mine is such a humble brag, but I can't get flammed so.... I LOVE BEING PREGNANT!!

I am pooping more regularly now than when I wasn't pregnant, love how nice strangers are to me, love seeing my nephews interact with my belly, I love the kicks, I only threw up twice and it was because I got a bug, no smells bother me, I have gotten less headaches since being pregnant, my complexion is the same, my huge boobs are so fun, sex feels better, everything is great (excluding the small things like not being able to drink beer and eat certain sushi rolls).  

I told DH if it was guaranteed that every pregnancy would be like this then I would have 10 kids!  I have to talk about this somewhere because all of my friends and SILs who have kids had really hard pregnancies and I feel guilty telling them. 

lotsofsunshine

I just ate half my body weight in green Chile burrito. So damn good!

Samm116

@AMCooper000 I've had a great pregnancy so far as well.  I've made exactly 1 post to my Facebook page about "surrendering" my body for my child and loving every minute of it, and the first 2 comments I got were "that the only people that say pregnancy is beautiful is men, or woman who have no symptoms". I haven't said anything else about how much I'm enjoying it after that

the_other_mother

My confession is that I thoroughly enjoy lurking other BMBs and seeing a closed thread then just laughing at the drama. Now I know why when I first came on here I was told we were a "tame" board.

Snaps816

Lydiadiane said:

My confession is that I thoroughly enjoy lurking other BMBs and seeing a closed thread then just laughing at the drama. Now I know why when I first came on here I was told we were a "tame" board.

@Lydiadiane Got any good ones for us? I also enjoy being a drama tourist. 

bearsandbeets7

@Snaps816 in July there are 2 closed by admin. "Belly girdles" which has some pretty good gifs in there and I haven't read all the way through "dad in the delivery room" but I see it's been closed by admin so once I finish lurking our board I'm gonna go check it out

Snaps816

@Lynnlove28 Yikes, those ladies are harsh!

Jaspertheyoungturnip

@Snaps816 Agreed! They must have had a ton of catfishing going on, because they are so quick to jump on a new poster! And jeez, I wouldn't want an unsupportive partner during my delivery! The atmosphere surrounding your birth can have an astounding effect on how long and hard your labor is. Just glad that kind of toxic interaction doesn't really happen here..

the_other_mother

I find it funny how after the apparent drama that happened between June and July when a bunch of people were banned, June is still going over there stirring the pot. I like to read other boards but I'm not gonna go call people out on their "attitudes" on their own board.