I'm planning on DH and my mom being in L&D with me. My mom will probably be coming and going but I want her to have the opportunity to hold the baby first after me and DH. After that it will be my in-laws, my dad, and siblings/nephew, but they can work out that order among themselves. I would think my in-laws will try to let my dad hold the baby before them since it's his first grandchild but it will probably end up being like arguing over the check at dinner and everyone will try to be overly generous At the end of the day, they all live within 15 minutes of us and will be holding the baby a LOT. I'm not really too worried about it. My biggest concern is keeping people out of the delivery room until I'm ready for them to come in.
It will just be me and DH in the delivery room and then my mom and MIL will be the only ones to come visit. They will be living with us for 5 weeks. My dad will come visit about 3 weeks after her due date.
After dh and I, my dd and parents will be the next to meet the baby. Then anyone my mil or anyone willing to make the drive. I'm not sure if anyone else will make it since the hospital is 45 mins from us and 1.15-2+ hours from everyone else. We did a "0 bday party" (aka meet and greet) a week after dd was born so I'm sure will do it again this time.
I also wanted to add, my mom is a L&D nurse at another hospital, and at first I didn't want her in during labor just because I didn't want her taking over as a nurse and trying to control everything. But...the more I thought about it, the more I decided that I want her in there because, she knows a lot about labor and delivery. My husband told her though...that if she gets too controlling...that she is out! Haha! Other than her, my DH will not leave my side!
I want no one but the nurses and Dr during delivery and periodic visits from H. I don't like to be touched when I'm in pain or what not. I don't want him to see me at my worse, which sounds very vain....this should have been a confession. When the head starts to crown, he is more than welcome for the rest but I think I would be more comfortable with it being more clinical. I'm sure he will be in the room with me, it wouldn't be fair to him otherwise. Afterwards, I really want just us three as a family. I'm hoping to make any visitors wait until we are home or day one or two at the hospital. It will be the in-laws first since they live in town, hoping only the grandparents. Siblings will wait until we are home. My parents live out of town and own a farm, so they won't be able to drop everything at a moments notice and come, I'm assuming they will be arriving on the last day at the hospital.
I want my dh in the room during delivery, and possibly my mom because she is so calming and was the only person with me through my miscarriage last September (dh would have been there, but I sent him to work not realizing what was happening).
So dh and my mom first, then my in laws and other close family members probably.
**edited because TheBump deleted all but the first sentence of my post. Ughhh, not retyping all of that again lol
Re: Who will meet baby first?
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I want my dh in the room during delivery, and possibly my mom because she is so calming and was the only person with me through my miscarriage last September (dh would have been there, but I sent him to work not realizing what was happening).
So dh and my mom first, then my in laws and other close family members probably.
**edited because TheBump deleted all but the first sentence of my post. Ughhh, not retyping all of that again lol