Randoms 5/20

jennbaylor12

@dmontgo -

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Yes! Go girl!

Edited: well obviously I cannot figure out how to insert this clip, but the sentiment remains!

beff12

queenklau said:

Is anyone dressing up the blump/little bump already? I tried on skin tight maxi dress and it was very obvious (and cute), took a pic but then I felt weird dressing up the bump this early on...how do you guys feel?

I think if you feel like dressing it up, you should!! My bump is still in the questionable "is that a baby or too many biscuits?" stage, so I've been trying to wear things that don't accentuate it as much. I think once we tell everyone our news I'll try harder to make it look like a human baby and less like a food baby. 

Lisa3379

queenklau said:

Is anyone dressing up the blump/little bump already? I tried on skin tight maxi dress and it was very obvious (and cute), took a pic but then I felt weird dressing up the bump this early on...how do you guys feel?

I'm totally cool with dressing up my bump, but as @beff12 said, it still kinda looks like I had a massive burrito instead of a cute bump. I'm looking forward to the day when it pops out a bit more! 

ea301

I'm not really showing yet, but I'm wearing a maternity shirt today because I wanna be comfy and wear something drapey, dang it!

My random issue is that I'm probably getting laid off or asked to resign at work this week. I've been sleeping like crap and even more sick than usual due to worrying. If it happens, it is probably a blessing in disguise because of the stress I've had to deal with for this job, but it still stings. Plus the weather still sucks here. Blaaaahhhh x100.

ea301

Also: @dmontgo i also applaud your response to that girl. What a twit.

cayaylonglegs

@dmontgo


To to making it count!

bakerstreetboys

@dmontgo Yes!  Nice!  Internet high five

Also, I started my kid book collection about ten years before I had kids  I  books

slartybartfast

OMG my husband comes home tonight. 8 days of taking care of the house, dog, toddler, and (most difficult) myself and I'm DONE. I even have things tidy and laundry done. I don't know how single moms do it. Do we have any D16 soloers? If so I want to know so I can revere them for their strength. Now I can have my half hour puke fests without worrying about getting toddler into a safe space without barfing on him first.

doodleoodle

slartybartfast said:

OMG my husband comes home tonight. 8 days of taking care of the house, dog, toddler, and (most difficult) myself and I'm DONE. I even have things tidy and laundry done. I don't know how single moms do it. Do we have any D16 soloers? If so I want to know so I can revere them for their strength. Now I can have my half hour puke fests without worrying about getting toddler into a safe space without barfing on him first.

I don't know how they do it either. DH went out of town for work for 3 days a couple of weeks ago and it was miserable. He's going out of town for a full week next month and I am dreading it. I'm considering staying with my in laws so you know it's serious.

jandd2014

Pregnancy brain has kicked in! I washed the sheets without putting soap in the washer and didnt realize it until they were already in the dryer and I went to put another load of wash in

phoenix870509

jandd2014 said:

Pregnancy brain has kicked in! I washed the sheets without putting soap in the washer and didnt realize it until they were already in the dryer and I went to put another load of wash in

OMG I did that last time I did laundry! The wash was halfway through when I looked at DH and was like, "Did I put detergent in?" I threw 2 pods in and started it again. It was the second of 2 loads, so not a big deal, but it was funny.

phoenix870509

Am I overreacting? Early on, DH and I compromised we would find out the sex of the baby and have a get together with close friends and immediate family and let them know the sex there. I don't want to know the sex but DH does, and he wants to be able to talk about it. So we came up with this. I'm not calling it a sex reveal, because of how much I hate them, but everyone there will know we're announcing, so it wouldn't be a surprise reveal. Well, on vacation my mom told my aunt we were having a gender reveal party, and my aunt went and mentioned it to my cousin, who then mentioned it to me. So I asked my mom about it and she said she had said something, not realizing my aunt was talking to my cousin (long, complicated story). I told her we hadn't been planning on inviting my aunt to this get together and clarified I would tell her the sex and all at a later time, but hadn't planned on inviting her. My mom got mad at me and said people there would probably let it slip in conversation, and I said the main thing was certain people not finding out. Well, now she's mad at me. So I tell DH what happened and he says technically your mom is right. I said she's not, because out of respect for me we're not calling it a reveal, it's not a big thing, and we're not inviting everyone; but most importantly I don't want people asking me why they weren't invited to our reveal. DH then said I was overreacting and sucking the fun out of everything. Am I overreacting when my biggest concern is drama over not being invited?

dmontgo

@phoenix870509 To me, it's your party (and DH). To me, that means you two dictate who gets to come to your little get-together. If you don't want someone there, then I'm not sure where they get the idea that they have a right to be there. However, I think it's a little unrealistic to try to keep the sex from some people when a large group knows--they are going to share even if you ask them not to, which sucks. It doesn't seem like your mom understood that you don't want your aunt there, but I don't think it was worth getting mad at you for. Again --it's who you and DH feel comfortable celebrating with.

I'm incredibly lazy at social party etiquette, but if people ask why they weren't invited, just say you and DH wanted immediate family and to keep it small. If they protest further, say that pregnancy is exhausting and you didn't feel up to entertaining a large crowd.

If they protest even further, kick them in the crotch.

jennbaylor12

dmontgo said:

If they protest even further, kick them in the crotch.

I look forward to your responses every day!! Lol, you Crack me up

phoenix870509

The only people we don't want knowing the sex is DH's father's side of the family. Other than that, I don't care who knows. If people ask I'll tell them. If someone slips up, oh well. That side of the family just wants a boy. If it is a boy, he will forever be the favorite and I'll be the vessel that brought the next generation to pass on the name. If it's a girl, well, at least I can have kids and the next one will be a boy.

DH and I cleared some things up. We will invite my aunt and cousin, because my aunt can use some good news right now and my cousin and I have always been super close (she's 8 years younger than me, I used to be her babysitter/playmate). We just needed to discuss what immediate family meant to us. I also cleared things up with my mom, and she apologized for overstepping. I told her if she wants someone there, ask me before telling them about it.

LinziLoo09

I'm glad you were able to work things out, @phoenix870509 . I agree with @dmontgo  - I'm a bull in an etiquette china shop and don't really care much about it. I also second the crotch-kicking.

beff12

Opinions please! We are having all of the family over on Memorial Day and are going to tell everyone that doesn't know yet about #2. My brother and SIL aren't coming because they have an itty bitty newborn. We are going to put DD's "I'm going to be a big sister" shirt on her and have a picture taken that we'll use in the future for our fb announcement. 

Soooo is it appropriate to send that picture to brother and SIL to tell them the news? Or would you be offended if you got a text rather than a phone call? 

Eta that I don't want to do anything that would earn me a crotch kick

ashleaf2018

@beff12 If you were just announcing with no media involved I would say definitely a phone call, but since you'll have that cute picture and they can always call you if they want to, I think a text would suffice.

DiFazette

S.O.S.!!!  DS tested positive for strep on Tuesday.  He's got a viral something on top of that which has set his asthma on fire.  Guess who woke up with body aches, fever, and a swollen throat?  Yay!  Just in time for the holiday weekend.  We're supposed to be traveling but we'll see how we feel tomorrow.  Of course H is all mopey that he's going to get it. 2/3 of us are sick right now.  Let's not borrow trouble. 

LinziLoo09

@beff12 - I don't think I'd be offended to get a text; however, a phone or FaceTime call might be nice. We bought a similar shirt for DD, and for my SILs who couldn't see us in person, we Face Timed with them and asked them what they thought of the shirt. To be honest, they were kind of underwhelmed, but at least they weren't annoyed for some crazy reason (as family tends to like to do...).

beff12

Thanks @ashleaf2018 and @LinziLoo09! Maybe we'll do a text and then follow up with a call if they want to talk. I think they're well into the no sleep newborn fog and they may not even know what's happening haha. We'll see!

@DiFazette, that's super lame. I hope he feels better soon and that by some miracle yours doesn't turn in to full fledged strep! 

LinziLoo09

@DiFazette - I hope you feel better soon. And I super hope your husband doesn't get sick, because "man-sick" is a ridiculous thing. DH and I have had food poisoning together two times, and who would have guessed that my husband was so much closer to death than I on both those occasions? Guess who had to wait on the other and drive to the pharmacy with a big cup under her mouth to catch vomit? Reminds me of a meme I saw on FB yesterday...

KatieJo1205

@Beff12 - I did the same thing.  My youngest brother lives out of state.  I took a picture of our niece and nephew wearing "Best Big Cousin" tshirts and texted it to him.  He thought it was really cute.  As soon as he replied to the text I called him to chat. 

beff12

@KatieJo1205 good plan! Thanks!!

DiFazette

Thanks ladies.  Results are in... Strep for me too.  I swear I will need every ounce of patience in the  world to not suffocate H in his sleep if he gets it.  Men are the WORST with the slightest illness.  Strep is not fun as a grown up.  It's been, like, decades since I had this dreadful shit.  

bakerstreetboys

@DiFazette That sucks!  Hope you get better soon and that H doesn't get it.  Man colds are cruel to women.

phoenix870509

Feel better @DiFazette and I hope your hubby doesn't get it. My hubby came down with the flu just before we got our BFP and he was just miserable. He never gets sick, and when he does it's the next plague and then I end up getting it and get even sicker! But I had my flu shot so I didn't get it, but taking care of a grown ass man who refuses to take medications is a trial.

R0824H

Oh no @DiFazette I hope you feel better soon!!!!

and @beff12 I don't see anything wrong with the txt but I do think a follow up phone call would be nice too

penelope4612

@beff12 - I totally emailed my dad and brother cuz I just didn't have the energy to have the "I'm pregnant" convo over and over.  So I think text is fine.

@Difazette - feel better

Does anyone have any recs for relatively seamless underwear (bikinis).  I have VS cotton ones that are usually comfortable but recently they have been giving me wedgies and I desperately need something that stays in place better... But I don't want crazy underwear lines.

bakerstreetboys

@penelope4612 I love Lulu's seamless underwear

Shwee25

This is randomly random so I suppose this is the appropriate thread.. but came across this picture on FB and just melted!!  Hope this brightens everyone's day like it did mine. Probably helps that I am a GB fan too

beff12

@Shwee25 that is one adorable cheesehead! 

@penelope4612, I bought some seamless underwear from Victoria's Secret several years ago. I went to their website and this was the closest thing I could find - it's a nylon/spandex material. I wore them while pregnant with DD and had a sweaty day and totally questioned whether my water had broken because apparently sweat travels very well on this material hahaha. Regardless of glamorous pregnancy stories, I really like them.
 https://www.victoriassecret.com/panties/no-show-and-seamless/no-show-sexy-cheeky-panty?ProductID=268180&CatalogueType=OLS

KatieJo1205

@Shwee25  - Love it!  I will definitely need that get up for our baby since BF and I are die hard Packer fans!

phoenix870509

@Shwee25 Too cute! DH and I are arguing about what team apparel we are getting baby. I'm a Yankee fan, he's a Rays fan and can't stand the Yankees. I like the Saints (and I always root for Green Bay when they play), he's a Jets fan. He threatened to buy Red Sox gear, and he's been doing that forever, and last week I just snapped and told him it really upset me when he said that because he knows how much I hate the Red Sox. I think the only team we agree on is hockey, the Lightning. Maybe I should just get someone to make a onesie that says "A House Divided" with Rays and Yankees emblems on it. Or tiebreaker, or something.

beff12

I feel so bad when I see people posting about already working on their new baby's room. Our extra room has so much crap in it (half of it probably needs trashed or donated) and we're honestly hoping to not be living here that much longer. I think we're going to drag our feet as long as we can. When I was pregnant with DD we had everything done so soon. Poor #2 is already getting the shaft.

zubenescamali

beff12 said:

I feel so bad when I see people posting about already working on their new baby's room. Our extra room has so much crap in it (half of it probably needs trashed or donated) and we're honestly hoping to not be living here that much longer. I think we're going to drag our feet as long as we can. When I was pregnant with DD we had everything done so soon. Poor #2 is already getting the shaft.

I had DD1's room done about 2-3 months ahead of time.  for DD2, 2 weeks before her due date we had just painted and still needed to put on her closet doors. I had just unpacked the dresser we ordered and figured I would try to piece it together but then went into labor that night.  hadn't even taken the crib pieces out of the box.
for #3?  s/he doesn't even have a room!

don't feel bad, there is plenty of time.  decorate the room on maternity leave, who cares? 

doodleoodle

zubenescamali said:

beff12 said:

I feel so bad when I see people posting about already working on their new baby's room. Our extra room has so much crap in it (half of it probably needs trashed or donated) and we're honestly hoping to not be living here that much longer. I think we're going to drag our feet as long as we can. When I was pregnant with DD we had everything done so soon. Poor #2 is already getting the shaft.

I had DD1's room done about 2-3 months ahead of time.  for DD2, 2 weeks before her due date we had just painted and still needed to put on her closet doors. I had just unpacked the dresser we ordered and figured I would try to piece it together but then went into labor that night.  hadn't even taken the crib pieces out of the box.
for #3?  s/he doesn't even have a room!

don't feel bad, there is plenty of time.  decorate the room on maternity leave, who cares? 

For real. Chances are the baby won't be sleeping in their room for awhile anyway. You'll want them close by. 

slartybartfast

Yea we'll probably figure out new baby's room a few months after he/she is born. Last time I didn't get any hint of a nesting urge. Luckily DH did and we had a nursery ready... this time they'll eventually share a room but at first, baby will be in ours.

beff12

That does make me feel better. I know we have plenty of time, I just felt so much more excited to plan DD's nursery. It doesn't help that we don't want to live here.

We're already planning on having #2 in our room - it's a long walk down the hallway where the other bedrooms are and I want to give DD the best sleep she can get. I feel like her sharing a wall with her little bro/sis isn't the best plan. I kind of don't even want that third room to be a nursery...the kids will share a closet anyways. 

Excuse me, I think my lazy is showing

manders803

New baby won't have a room in this house as we're moving a month or two after its born. I had a dream about a argyle wall and woke up thinking "maybe for the first baby, not the second" lol

DD is spending her first night in the toddler bed...crossing fingers for a smooth transition.