Why my pregnant self is crying (7 May)

kmtz89

These probably don't need to be weekly but I didn't feel the need to revive the old thread and yet I'm still crying all the time about everything. 




Today I literally sobbed watching videos of the Canada wildfires even though I don't know anyone there and have never even been to Canada.

mrszoess

I decided not to go
to my brothers co ED bridal shower next month. we would have to spend 2 nights worth of hotel, give a gift, and dh would miss a busy saturday at work. 

background: my brother to this day has not acknowledged my pregnancy since I am due 11 days after his wedding. he does not speak to me and has never asked how I'm feeling or given two craps about this. I had 2 previous mc and I'm 34. I wasn't taking an entire year off from ttc for his wedding. so now I don't feel like I'm even welcome at this event and my belly will be the literal giant elephant in the room. 

/endrant

also: I've cried exactly twice this entire time and both were bc of him. jerk. 

BoyMom44

I pregnancy cried for the first time the other day when Starbucks didn't make my drink right. 

lmno304

I found out dogs can donate blood (to other dogs). I sobbed for ten minutes both because that is the sweetest thing I've ever heard, but also it's not like dogs can consent to that and that's not fair.

kelliott09

My son's math teacher mailed a postcard this week telling me how much she has enjoyed having him this year and how much he has improved in her class and that he was such a kind, caring, respectful young man. She probably sent one to everyone but it got me right in the feels. 

MRSCORKER

lmno304 said:

I found out dogs can donate blood (to other dogs). I sobbed for ten minutes both because that is the sweetest thing I've ever heard, but also it's not like dogs can consent to that and that's not fair.

My dog had a blood transfusion. The vet used her own dog and it saved my little girls life. I thought it was the sweetest thing that vet could have done. I never thought about the dog not being able to give consent but I'm sure glad it was an option! 

TNlove1027

mrszoess said:

I decided not to go
to my brothers co ED bridal shower next month. we would have to spend 2 nights worth of hotel, give a gift, and dh would miss a busy saturday at work. 

background: my brother to this day has not acknowledged my pregnancy since I am due 11 days after his wedding. he does not speak to me and has never asked how I'm feeling or given two craps about this. I had 2 previous mc and I'm 34. I wasn't taking an entire year off from ttc for his wedding. so now I don't feel like I'm even welcome at this event and my belly will be the literal giant elephant in the room. 

/endrant

also: I've cried exactly twice this entire time and both were bc of him. jerk. 

My older brother is the same exact way. He will only attend obligatory family functions (Christmas, Easter, etc.) or only if food is provided/paid for him and his wife despite them having enough money to pay for the group. And then if he does grace us with his presence, the only conversations he'll participate in are topics about himself, wife, and their life. Youd have to call him if you want to hear his voice, and even at that it is a very curt conversation. He will drive 4 hrs away on a weekend for a knife/gun show or car race but won't drive to the exact same town for my gender reveal party or tomorrow for Mother's Day. When we saw him at Easter my parents made sure NOT to spend the whole time talking about my first pregnancy, giving him equal attention, but he still never once said anything to me or DH about it. It was definitely unnecessarily awkward. Stupid thing is that there was never a catalyst/justification/big fight for this behavior, my mom has intentionally given him almost more attention than her other kids over the years thinking that would "solve" it, but he's just been a selfish, self-centered person since high school.

So, feeling your pain, I wouldn't attend your brother's event either if I was in your shoes. I still send my brother a birthday text with a picture or card or something, and give him a hug whenever I do see him (my attempt at "taking the higher road"), but I didn't invest anything in his wedding other than my presence and definitely wouldn't go above and beyond when it's his turn to have a kid.

 I'm sorry this has turned into tears for you, but hopefully you can just chalk it up to some people are just wired in an unpleasant way, and just do what you need to to maintain your happiness and sanity around him!

KenderTas06

I'm crying because our gender reveal is today and I have a cold/something. (Went to the doc and was told I'm not contagious but don't cough on people). 

I cried at walgreens because the man told me not to yell at him and he got busy after I left earlier. I was upset because the 10 minute wait for meds turned into over an hour wait. 

mrszoess

thanks @tnlove1027 I needed that I'm sorry you're in the same boat. at least we both know we are sane individuals 

MrsHudson2014

@lmno304  my dog had a heart problem that caused his blood to thicken. We had to have it drawn every three months to keep it thin enough, and donated what they took. It helped with vet costs, too, because when blood.is.donated they don't have to.charge us for the procedure. 

missmaehurt

I cried all day because I watched Sister Wives. I'm way behind so I'm in the season where they're building/buying their homes together, and I cried for Meri and Mariah's frustration since we were in a very similar boat. 

TurtleMomma

I (almost) cried yesterday because I found out I've been taking one of my meds wrong for years. The med makes me horribly nauseous and frequently I vomit (only while pregnant, just nauseous when not pregnant) and it makes me groggy, so I've been taking at bed on an empty stomach. My doc said that it needs to be taken on a full stomach and guessed that if I took it with food that I might not get nauseous or groggy. I took it with dinner last night. Barely 30 minutes later I puked and 30 minutes later I couldn't keep my eyes open and fell asleep. I'm so angry and frustrated and don't want to be mucking around with my meds while pregnant. 

samkins

I was ready to cry during prenatal yoga as ppl were introducing themselves and then again during some breathing exercises. Wtf!! 

mauishay

Every single sappy commercial & I feel ridiculous every time I do. My latest is the Land Rover commercial where they're getting married in the rain. 

mauishay

And it's not even once! I've seen/cried at that commercial at least 4 times. 

duckmay

I saw a little boy riding on his father's shoulders wearing a Batman cape.

lindzsers

On Wednesday I laughed so hard I started crying and somehow that turned into sobbing even though I wasn't upset. 

And today I shot a wedding and totally lost it during the father daughter dance to "I Loved Her First." A song I have heard a million times at a million different weddings but suddenly I was like "YOU DID LOVE HER FIRST. SHE IS A MIRACLE. FEEEEEEELINGS." 

twomommiestobe

Today I was eating cheetos crying bc I didn't want cheetos. So instead of getting something else, I just cried and kept eating them! 

missmaehurt

@lindzsers Daddy daughter dances get me EVERY time! Or dad speeches about giving away his girl. Hits me right in the feels. I'm a big daddy's girl though. 

ByeBabyBunting

My marriage, while filed with love, has always been challenging. I had a major melt down the other day because I'm so tired of waiting for things to be easier. Reality is that it may never be easy, even if it's always been worth it. 

ashleyp625

We went out of town this weekend, and our hotel room was dirty when we got there. The room they tried to give us was really small, had two double beds instead of a king, and the a/c was broken. I cried all the tears because I was so mad we paid to stay in a room that is worse than where we live- not the point of a hotel stay. They ended up changing the sheets in the original room for us at 11pm. 

kmtz89

one of my dearest male friends, who has been like a brother, got married yesterday and I'm seeing peoples mobile uploads on facebook and just crying 

ibabyloveb87

Because my in-laws drove me insane all weekend. 

booksandicecream

Yesterday we went to my good friends' wedding, where DH knew no one. He has been complaining about it since the day he found out we were invited and complained non-stop the entire way there. Once we got there he realized the other guests were a lot of fun and we had a great time - so great I let my guard down and just started having fun. Until everyone got up to dance and I grabbed his hand to go along. He literally threw a tantrum. I was so mortified he was making a scene and so disappointed because I was the only person who's partner didn't want to dance that I started sobbing on the dance floor. When the bride saw me and stopped dancing to ask what was wrong I started uncontrollably sobbing and ran out. An hour later I was still crying and left without saying goodbye to anyone. I have NEVER done anything like that before. 

Schell2013

kmolleltz said:

These probably don't need to be weekly but I didn't feel the need to revive the old thread and yet I'm still crying all the time about everything. 




Today I literally sobbed watching videos of the Canada wildfires even though I don't know anyone there and have never even been to Canada.

It is pretty horrific here right now. It's like living in a war zone. The sounds of all the explosions make you shrud in fear. Everyone is scared, several now homeless and jobless. The fire hasn't reached us yet, but it won't take long and we could be in the same spot. I've been a wreak this week. 

kmtz89

Schell2013 said:

Today I literally sobbed watching videos of the Canada wildfires even though I don't know anyone there and have never even been to Canada.

It is pretty horrific here right now. It's like living in a war zone. The sounds of all the explosions make you shrud in fear. Everyone is scared, several now homeless and jobless. The fire hasn't reached us yet, but it won't take long and we could be in the same spot. I've been a wreak this week. 

So sorry to hear that! I can't even imagine.... I hope a big rain comes soon and things can get under control.

kmtz89

Went to see Captain America Civil War last night (yes, even in Tanzania, and it was in 3d!) which was awesome

I don't want to do spoiler so vaguely saying--- a non main character died and I started crying in the cinema and could barely get myself together. It was not something non-pregnant me would have cried about, and it was a very short scene.

ladyshark311

@Schell2013 I'm so sorry to hear you are going through that, I can't even imagine how scary that must be. Stay safe, I will be thinking of you and sending my T&P!

depineta

samkins said:

I was ready to cry during prenatal yoga as ppl were introducing themselves and then again during some breathing exercises. Wtf!! 

I've cried during prenatal yoga multiple times. I can usually hold off for the restorative poses when everyone's eyes are shut, but I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one! 

Kaessi

books&icecream said:

Yesterday we went to my good friends' wedding, where DH knew no one. He has been complaining about it since the day he found out we were invited and complained non-stop the entire way there. Once we got there he realized the other guests were a lot of fun and we had a great time - so great I let my guard down and just started having fun. Until everyone got up to dance and I grabbed his hand to go along. He literally threw a tantrum. I was so mortified he was making a scene and so disappointed because I was the only person who's partner didn't want to dance that I started sobbing on the dance floor. When the bride saw me and stopped dancing to ask what was wrong I started uncontrollably sobbing and ran out. An hour later I was still crying and left without saying goodbye to anyone. I have NEVER done anything like that before. 

@books&icecream I can totally relate &I'm so sorry! I had a major meltdown at dinner with another couple friend & their son the other night. DH said something that took me completely off guard that was not what we had previously discussed about our child's daycare...he told me that his mom is going to keep her and I FREAKED out. She's insane and controlling and I cannot let her keep our child. I started shaking & sobbing & it was horrible. Made quite the scene. All my emotions come out that way now it seems. I'm still embarrassed!

MRSCORKER

Kaessi said:

books&icecream said:

Yesterday we went to my good friends' wedding, where DH knew no one. He has been complaining about it since the day he found out we were invited and complained non-stop the entire way there. Once we got there he realized the other guests were a lot of fun and we had a great time - so great I let my guard down and just started having fun. Until everyone got up to dance and I grabbed his hand to go along. He literally threw a tantrum. I was so mortified he was making a scene and so disappointed because I was the only person who's partner didn't want to dance that I started sobbing on the dance floor. When the bride saw me and stopped dancing to ask what was wrong I started uncontrollably sobbing and ran out. An hour later I was still crying and left without saying goodbye to anyone. I have NEVER done anything like that before. 

@books&icecream I can totally relate &I'm so sorry! I had a major meltdown at dinner with another couple friend & their son the other night. DH said something that took me completely off guard that was not what we had previously discussed about our child's daycare...he told me that his mom is going to keep her and I FREAKED out. She's insane and controlling and I cannot let her keep our child. I started shaking & sobbing & it was horrible. Made quite the scene. All my emotions come out that way now it seems. I'm still embarrassed!

Ugh, I just read your post on the other thread about your MIL and I feel you. I would have had the same reaction. Shut it down now before it's too late! My MIL is crazy too and is allowed no where near my child unsupervised and even then, on a limited basis. It's all about boundaries!

simcal18

Everything these days.  Everything.  Meghan Trainor's "Mom" song.  Most music with any real sentiment at all, actually.  A documentary about my favorite sports team winning a championship.  Our political climate.  I actually feel pretty good most days.  But I am normally not a crier, and right now just about anything will cue the waterworks.

scostel2

@Kaessi I'd feel the same way! (I read your post about your MIL in another thread). If she already feels so entitled to your baby and is not supportive of your decision making before the baby even arrives, she'll only get worse if she's given the authority of being in charge of your child. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! 

MRSCORKER

scostel2 said:

@Kaessi I'd feel the same way! (I read your post about your MIL in another thread). If she already feels so entitled to your baby and is not supportive of your decision making before the baby even arrives, she'll only get worse if she's given the authority of being in charge of your child. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! 

This! @scostel2, You put it perfectly. @Kaessi, She is proving already that she thinks she has a special "claim" on your child. I think it's very important that you and your H have a serious conversation about your expectations and boundaries when it comes to his mother and make sure you're on the same page and then he needs to have a conversation with his mother so she knows where she stands. If boundaries aren't established now, it will only get worse once the baby is here.

LMNOBaby

I just started crying because I can't remember what thread it was where people started discussing the swaddle sleeper things, the ones that zip and they love from their first babies - I've been clicking around and am starting to think I'm totally crazy and it doesn't exist.  I don't even know its correct name!  Does anyone remember this? Can you remind me where it was discussed? I feel like now I'm going to buy the wrong kind and start crying again when I'm fumbling with the most awful swaddle thing in the middle of the night with a newborn...

kmtz89

THIS ARTICLE 
Gahhhh
https://www.upworthy.com/this-kid-came-up-to-ask-how-much-the-food-cost-i-told-him-it-was-free?c=ufb5

mothernorth

I opened this thread just because, and was fine until I started reading some of these posts, now I'm getting a case of the feels...

westcoastfoodie

I went antique shopping with my mom yesterday for decor for the nursery (subtle vintage disney theme) and found a decorative plate from the 1930's with Mickey and Minnie and across the top it says "Happy days are here again!" We've had a rough time since the fall after our loss, and I saw this and lost it. BOUGHT the cute plate though! Along with a book from 1945 called "Donald Duck Sees South America" (DH is from Venezuela so this is perfect) and an amethyst ring from the 1920's, because damnit I deserved it lol. 

Kaessi

@mrscorker & @scostel2 Thanks ladies. This MIL thing is hard! And I always thought they were supposed to be the mature ones...

Up until now DH has said to "just ignore her & she'll eventually move on". Claims he has dealt with her & her tantrums for 34 years & this is the only tactic that works. However...she's very manipulative and has him where she wants him at the moment. He had foot surgery a few months ago & owns his own business so she has been up there every single day helping him with day to day stuff that's difficult for him to manage right now. So I guess he doesn't want to piss her off because he "needs" her which is exactly her ploy. And of course she's being sweet as pie to him. He is her only son & can do no wrong. He knows she's crazy, but he doesn't or somehow can't view her through the same lenses I do so it's been a difficult struggle. I think she's actually trying to drive a wedge between us because she's jealous of our relationship. Which is just so messed up on sooo many levels!

MRSCORKER

@Kaessi Ugh, I feel you. Luckily, my DH knows his mother is crazy and dislikes her just as much as I do. She is also insanely jealous of me! He was with her the other day and she, like the 12 year old she is, badgered the crap out of him to buy her this pink, plastic, diamond shaped key chain. She was seriously whining about it for hours until he finally bought the damn thing for $5. She goes "Does MRSCORKER have one of these?" asking if I have that keychain, he told her no (because they're made for tweens!) and she goes "Oh, so I have something she doesn't have!" all proud of herself. When he told me that, my first thought was, "And I have 2 things she doesn't have, her son and this baby." I mean, how ridiculously jealous of me do you have to be to be proud of yourself for having a key chain that I don't have? UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Seriously though, your H may not see what you see but you have to put your foot down about her being your day care provider if that is not something you're comfortable with. Don't let her bully him and by extension you, into allowing something that makes you uncomfortable. 

LGW2015

@LMNOBaby I don't remember where it was, but the swaddle is Halo. It's a sack so the baby's legs aren't bound. If I remember correctly, the person mentioned a different name because they were in the UK and they don't have Halo, but it's essentially the same thing as whatever the UK brand was. Hope this helps.