@sweetlyuntied I had a different name then. I think I participated the most in 2nd tri but I don't really remember. It was short lived. I wasn't too popular. Certain posters kept jumping down my throat and then others would get on board. I didn't think the things I was saying we're that odd or devisive so I decided I didn't quite jive with the culture of the group and bowed out. I did lurk a bit here and there but not enough to remember specific people.
We did have a crazy on A14 back in the day. Her name was Poppy something - we just called her Poppy. We speculated catfish or just BSC. But reading this is making me think she was probably both.
I spent entirely too much time reading through all that nonsense.
I loved how everyone said they knew she was fake because she didn't have a FB page. I swear I'm real everybody (even though I don't now, nor have I ever, had a Facebook page)
I spent entirely too much time reading through all that nonsense.
I loved how everyone said they knew she was fake because she didn't have a FB page. I swear I'm real everybody (even though I don't now, nor have I ever, had a Facebook page)
Hahah! I think it was unusually weird for this person not to have one because she claimed to be in the photography business and connected with all of these other photographers. Not saying you can't be successful photography business without a Facebook but I would think it's pretty rare these days. Definitely a red flag
Or why didn't she just say she had a Facebook but it was private and she didn't want to share it because stranger danger? I'm still not sure if I'll ever be comfortable doing a Facebook group with people I've never met.
Or why didn't she just say she had a Facebook but it was private and she didn't want to share it because stranger danger? I'm still not sure if I'll ever be comfortable doing a Facebook group with people I've never met.
When the FB group becomes a thing I was thinking of creating a different FB account just for that. Is that okay to do? I am not comfortable with my real name floating around. We already deal with enough stranger danger with DH's job.
Or why didn't she just say she had a Facebook but it was private and she didn't want to share it because stranger danger? I'm still not sure if I'll ever be comfortable doing a Facebook group with people I've never met.
When the FB group becomes a thing I was thinking of creating a different FB account just for that. Is that okay to do? I am not comfortable with my real name floating around. We already deal with enough stranger danger with DH's job.
Or just.. Don't join the group? We'll still have this BMB.
A second Facebook sounds like it would be annoying to deal with. I'm sure if you wanted to do that no one would mind, but it seems like a pretty imperfect solution.
Or why didn't she just say she had a Facebook but it was private and she didn't want to share it because stranger danger? I'm still not sure if I'll ever be comfortable doing a Facebook group with people I've never met.
When the FB group becomes a thing I was thinking of creating a different FB account just for that. Is that okay to do? I am not comfortable with my real name floating around. We already deal with enough stranger danger with DH's job.
Or just.. Don't join the group? We'll still have this BMB.
Yeah except once the FB group is created alot of conversations will be moved over there, it happened to my TK month board like a mass exodus. It didn't take long for the board to become completely dead. I don't think a separate FB profile is that big of a deal to manage. I'll make the judgment call when it happens.
Or why didn't she just say she had a Facebook but it was private and she didn't want to share it because stranger danger? I'm still not sure if I'll ever be comfortable doing a Facebook group with people I've never met.
When the FB group becomes a thing I was thinking of creating a different FB account just for that. Is that okay to do? I am not comfortable with my real name floating around. We already deal with enough stranger danger with DH's job.
Or just.. Don't join the group? We'll still have this BMB.
Yeah except once the FB group is created alot of conversations will be moved over there, it happened to my TK month board like a mass exodus. It didn't take long for the board to become completely dead. I don't think a separate FB profile is that big of a deal to manage. I'll make the judgment call when it happens.
Ok. Heard. I don't have Facebook and I'm not creating one so I just hope people stick around!
Lol maybe I should go post this in UO but I really don't care about who sees my fb. I keep most stuff locked down and only make public things that I'm okay with strangers seeing. Maybe it's my mass communication degree but I really don't have a problem with groups with people I don't know in person.
Lol maybe I should go post this in UO but I really don't care about who sees my fb. I keep most stuff locked down and only make public things that I'm okay with strangers seeing. Maybe it's my mass communication degree but I really don't have a problem with groups with people I don't know in person.
I felt this way for a long time. I don't put super personal stuff on there, and really figured it was no big deal. Then like a month ago I had one of those "suggested friend" things pop up and it was the same (super creepy) guy with 2 different Facebook accounts/different names. It was weird, and when I looked at the extended list he had at least SIX different accounts, different pictures but obviously the same person. It really creeped me out that Facebook thought I should know that guy even though we had zero common friends.
Lol maybe I should go post this in UO but I really don't care about who sees my fb. I keep most stuff locked down and only make public things that I'm okay with strangers seeing. Maybe it's my mass communication degree but I really don't have a problem with groups with people I don't know in person.
That's how I feel. I go through my friends regularly and I never approve someone that I don't know, no matter how many mutual friends we have. Everything on my profile is friends only and I don't have any personal info, other than my high school that I don't share the same state with anymore. I guess I'm not too worried, maybe I should be lol
Lol maybe I should go post this in UO but I really don't care about who sees my fb. I keep most stuff locked down and only make public things that I'm okay with strangers seeing. Maybe it's my mass communication degree but I really don't have a problem with groups with people I don't know in person.
Honestly, I hardly post on my FB page and could care less if people can actually see what's on there. It's more my real name being known that worries me and that's really only because of DH. I've experienced stranger danger first hand and there are some creepy people out there.
I had my identity stolen on fb years ago by a crazy woman trying to break up my husband and me. It was super fucked up because she was dating my dh's close friend. She took my profile picture and put it on a new account with my name then she messaged herself back and forth talking about how I cheated on my DH with another girl. She then showed them to my DH and he believed her and confronted me. I then reported her, got that account banned and I bit my DHs head off for thinking I'd do something so out of character and wrong (he was only my bf at the time but I still expected better from him.) I've been cautious of fb since but he has never doubted my loyalty since. (I've also never given him reason to doubt it.)
I lurked my last BMB on and off and when the babies were like 6 months old, someone turned out to be BSC. She photoshopped PMs from someone else and showed them to people, turning everyone against the other poster. She was even in the FB group. It was crazy good reading.
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My first bmb created a FB after our babies were born and I can honestly say I don't know what I would do with out them. In the beginning we had some crazies and did some weeding but we've had an amazing group and so supportive. We've had divorces, cancer diagnosis, support through mcs, a house fire and the devastating loss of a sibling. We've donated money to some to get back on their feet. We've had local get togethers and a big one in Vegas. We have spin off groups for ppd and fitness. One mama in Indiana pumped and donated all her excess bm to a sweet special needs baby in Arizona and we all chipped in for postage. I got cards from ladies when I had a mc and recently a card the week my last mc would have been due. Seriously it's a magical group and I'm so grateful for them. So don't count a FB group out. It can really work.
My first bmb created a FB after our babies were born and I can honestly say I don't know what I would do with out them. In the beginning we had some crazies and did some weeding but we've had an amazing group and so supportive. We've had divorces, cancer diagnosis, support through mcs, a house fire and the devastating loss of a sibling. We've donated money to some to get back on their feet. We've had local get togethers and a big one in Vegas. We have spin off groups for ppd and fitness. One mama in Indiana pumped and donated all her excess bm to a sweet special needs baby in Arizona and we all chipped in for postage. I got cards from ladies when I had a mc and recently a card the week my last mc would have been due. Seriously it's a magical group and I'm so grateful for them. So don't count a FB group out. It can really work.
I agree with this, for many of the same reasons. But we started as a much bigger Facebook group, only to branch out into two separate ones, for various reasons. Since then, it's been great. We are all so close and I'm very glad I joined years ago. But, it would be quite a while before I would even consider a FB group.
EDK2010 it happened with my last board. You don't really think about convenience with FB vs. TB but it is so much easier to have everyone in front of you in a FB group. People completely stopped posting in my old board on TB, it's a ghost town and it was less than 2 years ago.
I will say, it's not that hard to lock all your profile stuff down. People only have your wee picture and your name, you can and probably should set everything else to private. You don't have to allow your entire profile to be exposed when you join the group. I also considered an alternate profile, it's not hard to keep FB queued in one app and then another loaded in a browser window. We shall see.
On the FB groups on my last board you weren't allowed to use a different profile. That being said, you can always get rid of your last name and usually you're good.
On the FB groups on my last board you weren't allowed to use a different profile. That being said, you can always get rid of your last name and usually you're good.
Actually, now that you say that that does make a lot more sense. That way everyone is more accountable in a way?
DH and I got rid of our FB accounts a few years ago. My sister's ex lost his mind on it and we got to see the destruction he did with little to no repercussions to him. He straight up did some stuff that if it wasn't FB he could have had jail time for, and FB never kicked him off.
DH and I got rid of our FB accounts a few years ago. My sister's ex lost his mind on it and we got to see the destruction he did with little to no repercussions to him. He straight up did some stuff that if it wasn't FB he could have had jail time for, and FB never kicked him off.
...? Like threatening people on FB or something? You can absolutely get jail time for that (or at the very least restraining orders etc).
DH and I got rid of our FB accounts a few years ago. My sister's ex lost his mind on it and we got to see the destruction he did with little to no repercussions to him. He straight up did some stuff that if it wasn't FB he could have had jail time for, and FB never kicked him off.
...? Like threatening people on FB or something? You can absolutely get jail time for that (or at the very least restraining orders etc).
Threatening others, posting naked pictures of her, threatening her and her/their kids, proof that he was stalking and straight up cyber bullying. The police refused to take any action against him, since were she was at the time they said they didn't have any laws against cyber bullying (laws might have passed since though) and her lawyers would not allow her to use any of it in their court appearances for their divorce. It has been hell, he's got a court order protecting his rights to the kids, and only a judge can over turn it and although he can not contact her any other time, he does see her when he picks up the kids and makes a point of screaming obscenities at her.
My March12 board is still going strong on Facebook. I don't know what I would do without that group of ladies. Like mentioned above we've gotten each other through m/c's, divorces, death, family drama, a house fire, one of our Marchie's was diagnosed with cancer and is just now finishing treatment and another family's new baby is on the waiting list for a donor heart. I talk to them more than I do some of my IRL friends. It is still waaaaay too early but I would definitely support a favebook group maybe after we've all delivered. Let's be honest there have to be a few crazies in here! They'll be weeded out before delivery or not long after!
@sweetlyuntied I had a different name then. I think I participated the most in 2nd tri but I don't really remember. It was short lived. I wasn't too popular. Certain posters kept jumping down my throat and then others would get on board. I didn't think the things I was saying we're that odd or devisive so I decided I didn't quite jive with the culture of the group and bowed out. I did lurk a bit here and there but not enough to remember specific people.
I'm from O14 too but also wasn't a regular poster. I don't recognize your screen names. I had a hard time getting on multiple times a day and I feel like if you don't post on every thread you get side-eyed once you get to third tri. Lol. Hopefully I can participate here more so that doesn't happen. So fun that we will all three have Oct 14 and Nov 16 babies!
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@banfrog That's bananas. I'm sorry! I can't believe they wouldn't allow her to use threats he made against their children as evidence in a custody battle.
Dang, I've heard this story many times but I've never seen the archived version. Shots freakin' FIRED on the first page.
TK had a suspiciously similar user in suspiciously similar circumstances not all that long ago. Now that I'm reading this again, I'm really wondering if it's her. Tone is not quite right though.
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@sweetlyuntied I had a different name then. I think I participated the most in 2nd tri but I don't really remember. It was short lived. I wasn't too popular. Certain posters kept jumping down my throat and then others would get on board. I didn't think the things I was saying we're that odd or devisive so I decided I didn't quite jive with the culture of the group and bowed out. I did lurk a bit here and there but not enough to remember specific people.
I'm from O14 too but also wasn't a regular poster. I don't recognize your screen names. I had a hard time getting on multiple times a day and I feel like if you don't post on every thread you get side-eyed once you get to third tri. Lol. Hopefully I can participate here more so that doesn't happen. So fun that we will all three have Oct 14 and Nov 16 babies!
4! I'm an O14 gal. I know Sweetlyuntied and I changed our screen names (and we are still in the FB group for that). I overshared way too much and didn't really want that to be searchable for a new group. (sorry ladies, I may overshare again in time!)
We had a girl that went a little cray on GBCB (which became Then Comes Family forum). But was this the post about the admin that stole the money for the PB glider???? If not that was a good one too.
@sweetlyuntied I had a different name then. I think I participated the most in 2nd tri but I don't really remember. It was short lived. I wasn't too popular. Certain posters kept jumping down my throat and then others would get on board. I didn't think the things I was saying we're that odd or devisive so I decided I didn't quite jive with the culture of the group and bowed out. I did lurk a bit here and there but not enough to remember specific people.
I'm from O14 too but also wasn't a regular poster. I don't recognize your screen names. I had a hard time getting on multiple times a day and I feel like if you don't post on every thread you get side-eyed once you get to third tri. Lol. Hopefully I can participate here more so that doesn't happen. So fun that we will all three have Oct 14 and Nov 16 babies!
4! I'm an O14 gal. I know Sweetlyuntied and I changed our screen names (and we are still in the FB group for that). I overshared way too much and didn't really want that to be searchable for a new group. (sorry ladies, I may overshare again in time!)
We had a girl that went a little cray on GBCB (which became Then Comes Family forum). But was this the post about the admin that stole the money for the PB glider???? If not that was a good one too.
No, though that was a good one. I finally went to the link (I can't click on links on mobile) and it's the catfish from July 14, which I also remember reading about on O14.
ETA: now I'm also really curious if I'd recognize your old screen names!
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On the FB groups on my last board you weren't allowed to use a different profile. That being said, you can always get rid of your last name and usually you're good.
Actually, now that you say that that does make a lot more sense. That way everyone is more accountable in a way?
That's what I was worried about. Maybe I'll get rid of my last name if I can't do a second profile. I'm not really that worried about my pictures or my actual FB profile that's private anyway. I'm more concerned about my name being accessible, we have too much damn info on google. I own a business with a public website and DH has a public profession. I'll see how this all plays out when the FB group is started.
Just spent waaay to much time reading through that. And now Im terrified of posting anything! Ive obviously heard of catfishing but never really thought someone would fake a whole life for a year, on a pregnancy board at that! So much dedication.
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I loved how everyone said they knew she was fake because she didn't have a FB page. I swear I'm real everybody (even though I don't now, nor have I ever, had a Facebook page)
I felt this way for a long time. I don't put super personal stuff on there, and really figured it was no big deal. Then like a month ago I had one of those "suggested friend" things pop up and it was the same (super creepy) guy with 2 different Facebook accounts/different names. It was weird, and when I looked at the extended list he had at least SIX different accounts, different pictures but obviously the same person. It really creeped me out that Facebook thought I should know that guy even though we had zero common friends.
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I will say, it's not that hard to lock all your profile stuff down. People only have your wee picture and your name, you can and probably should set everything else to private. You don't have to allow your entire profile to be exposed when you join the group. I also considered an alternate profile, it's not hard to keep FB queued in one app and then another loaded in a browser window. We shall see.
It is still waaaaay too early but I would definitely support a favebook group maybe after we've all delivered. Let's be honest there have to be a few crazies in here! They'll be weeded out before delivery or not long after!
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TK had a suspiciously similar user in suspiciously similar circumstances not all that long ago. Now that I'm reading this again, I'm really wondering if it's her. Tone is not quite right though.
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4! I'm an O14 gal. I know Sweetlyuntied and I changed our screen names (and we are still in the FB group for that). I overshared way too much and didn't really want that to be searchable for a new group. (sorry ladies, I may overshare again in time!)
We had a girl that went a little cray on GBCB (which became Then Comes Family forum). But was this the post about the admin that stole the money for the PB glider???? If not that was a good one too.
ETA: now I'm also really curious if I'd recognize your old screen names!
DD born Oct 2014 via C-Section (footling breech)
Baby #2 (AND #3...SURPRISE!) Due Nov 17, 2016. Found out it was twins at 18+5!