Stabby Sunday

rachswi

Because I'm tired and want to vent. Let it out, ladies!

We've gotten to the point with LO's sleep fights that it was time to sleep train. I decided on the Pick Up Put Down method because it seemed gentler to me since even though they cry, I pick him up when he starts crying and calm him down each time, then put him down when the tears have stopped so he can figure out how to put himself to sleep. I've explained how to do this with my husband and made it clear that if LO is just fussing and moaning that it's okay to leave him - crying is when he gets picked up. It is a trying process on me and it takes longer to get him down right now but in the long run, LO will get better at putting himself down without tears. (He's actually already getting better in the 3 days we've done it).

Zeke woke early from a nap today and was clearly exhausted so I decided to do PUPD to get him back to sleep. I got Zeke down and went to lay down myself. A few minutes later, Zeke started moaning. DH decided to take it on himself to "help" .... By taking Zeke out of his room and playing with him. So now I have an overtired baby who probably won't go back to sleep now and will be a monster to try to get to sleep tonight. 

bellie1223

I too am stabby about sleep times, although with no one in particular. We can't seem to find a method that works with our baby, except nursing/bottle to sleep, which I feel is just going to lead to bad habits. We've tried multiple sleep training methods, we've had a set bed time routine since she was born, and it's still hit or miss, especially with nap time!!! She usually sleeps at night 3ish hours at a time so at least I get some sleep, but I am so tired all the time!

Rant over. She'll sleep when she sleeps, I guess.

NovemberSno

I'm stabby because I have gained so much weight since I had LO. I actually Googled "I'm I addicted to food?" As if Google knows lol. I want to look myself again!  

snowflake143

Besides exhaustion, I'm stabby because every day I have a new joint out of whack, a new ache or pain. 90% of the time it's because I'm holding LO in just a slightly wrong position and didn't realize it until it's too late. I'd like to feel like I'm not a 70yo arthritic woman. I wish DH was a chiropractor...

doodleoodle

snowflake143 said:

Besides exhaustion, I'm stabby because every day I have a new joint out of whack, a new ache or pain. 90% of the time it's because I'm holding LO in just a slightly wrong position and didn't realize it until it's too late. I'd like to feel like I'm not a 70yo arthritic woman. I wish DH was a chiropractor...

This. This is another reason why I'm going to have to start sleep training. My LO isn't getting any lighter. Walking and bouncing with her for even 10 minutes is starting to hurt.

rachswi

I'm now stabbier because the pick up put down method isn't working but DH wants me to keep doing it (even though lo cried uncontrollably until I gave up and nursed him tonight). Never mind that DH won't learn how the method works so I'm having to do it all myself 

doodleoodle

@rachswi but he wasn't following it! Ugh so annoying 

rachswi

@doodleoodle exactly! He would rather I spend an hour trying to get him down doing pick up put down than try something else. I finally told him I'm not doing it if he won't help. I've also decided to just sleep train bedtime right now because I'd started dreading every sleep time 

doodleoodle

@rachswi good for you! I'm planning to start a gentle sleep training too. We've been bed sharing and LO is now starting to kick in her sleep and move around so it's really uncomfortable. DH also wakes her up sometimes so I feel like it's time to move her to her own room. I just feel like we would all get better sleep eventually... Not to mention I'm pregnant and I can't always be right next to her when she sleeps once the newest addition arrives. I don't want her to associate the change with her sibling either. I feel like that will only cause resentment. Someone on another board shared this link with me. I think you could modify it to fit your needs. That's what I'm planning to do. 
https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/08/10/how-to-gently-night-wean-a-breastfed-baby-or-toddler/