May 2016 Moms

UO Thursday 4/28

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  • I hate it when people let their dogs hang around off-leash in their front yards or in park areas that aren't designated as off-leash areas. I am afraid of big dogs. Sure, I understand that most of these dogs are friendly, but they are animals and could attack unprovoked one day. I could be killed by one. My child could be killed by one. My own small dog was attacked by one once. I was jumped on by a harmless golden retriever once too, and it was fine, but it scared me and could have caused me to fall and hurt myself. And some people are just delusional about their dog's behavior too. The guy whose big dog picked my small dog up in it's mouth and thrashed it around claimed he was "just trying to play with her."
    Yes! I took DD to the park one day and this lady's little dog ran up and jumped on her! DD is not afraid of dogs so it didn't scare her much, but I had no idea if this dog was nice or not and what its intentions were. I'm also trying to teach her not to pet random dogs without me and without asking the owner first, so the whole situation was really unhelpful. 

    The lady is lucky I didn't kick her dog across the park. It was close. 
  • I'm sure this isn't an unpopular opinion, but....

    On another expectant mom board I'm on, a mom wanted to name her baby "Rigel" and asked what everyone thought of it. Someone asked how to pronounce it, and the mom said "I don't know". 

    Seriously?! I love unique names, but before you pick one you should probably learn how to actually pronounce it! 
    This just makes my head hurt. I think that being able to pronounce the name is probably rule number 1.
  • kami09 said:
    Also...it may be because I had such a bad experience, but I cringe when I see people wanting to be induced. All I can think of is...stop! You have no idea what you are wishing on yourself!!! (But for all of you that have to have one...it'll be fine!!!)
    This is exactly how I feel! It's one thing if it's for a medical reason, but I would never in a million years choose an induction! I will gladly go to 42 weeks before I let my doctor put me on that devil-juice pitocin again. 
    As someone who mentioned wanting my baby to just be here already, let me say I definitely would NOT say yes to pitocin or even someone trying to induce me right now (38+4). It's just hard to wait, especially if you're an inpatient planner like me!
  • I hope the board doesn't die :( I've looked at boards from up to the past year, and while they certainly aren't as active, there seem to be somewhat regular posts. 

    A lot of the older BMBs either moved to Facebook or were victims of the mass banning/exodus in January 2015 (I think that's when it happened).
    I almost feel like we messed up with this. Maybe we should've been looking to create a long term space to continue communicating during the second trimester. We now have just as many fly by posters and randoms as we had during the first trimester. I also really hope we continue communicating beyond May/ June. I'll need the support this fall. 
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  • kami09 said:
    Also...it may be because I had such a bad experience, but I cringe when I see people wanting to be induced. All I can think of is...stop! You have no idea what you are wishing on yourself!!! (But for all of you that have to have one...it'll be fine!!!)
    This is exactly how I feel! It's one thing if it's for a medical reason, but I would never in a million years choose an induction! I will gladly go to 42 weeks before I let my doctor put me on that devil-juice pitocin again. 
    What I would give not to have to be induced. I am terrified of the pain! 

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  • My other UO is (keep in mind I'm in the South) when people (mainly women) say Bless her/your/his heart or God love em but ((insert something bad about them)). Just bc you said bless them or God love them beforehand doesn't mean you get to say they smell like cat pee and it be ok. You're still talking shit.

    I just got home from the salon which was full of this.
    I literally LOL'd at this because I have a few southern friends and family members who do this all the time.
    Let me be honest I've uttered a "bless her/his heart" a few times, but sometimes it's just the perfect way to describe someone. My MIL for example.... God love her, she tries but her every attempt leaves me and my SIL saying, "bless her heart."
    Me: 31 | DH: 33
    DD: 05/14/16
    Baby #2 EDD: 12/23/19
  • My other UO is (keep in mind I'm in the South) when people (mainly women) say Bless her/your/his heart or God love em but ((insert something bad about them)). Just bc you said bless them or God love them beforehand doesn't mean you get to say they smell like cat pee and it be ok. You're still talking shit.

    I just got home from the salon which was full of this.
    I literally LOL'd at this because I have a few southern friends and family members who do this all the time.
    Let me be honest I've uttered a "bless her/his heart" a few times, but sometimes it's just the perfect way to describe someone. My MIL for example.... God love her, she tries but her every attempt leaves me and my SIL saying, "bless her heart."
    Oh I'm with you. I say it but I make it clear if I'm talking shit. I guess when I say it I really mean someone/something needs to bless their hearts haha.
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  • I hope the board doesn't die :( I've looked at boards from up to the past year, and while they certainly aren't as active, there seem to be somewhat regular posts. 

    A lot of the older BMBs either moved to Facebook or were victims of the mass banning/exodus in January 2015 (I think that's when it happened).
    This. I have a Facebook group for DS, and he is almost 9! I seriously love those ladies because many of us we're all first time moms together and we have been through a lot and a few of us also have second and third children all around the same age. Still very active years down the road. I also have a group for DD, while the BMB is barely active the Facebook group gets a lot of posts. I even have cloth diaper friends from TB/eco friendly family from before there was even a CD board. 
  • I'm on a few Facebook moms groups, but I honestly prefer the forum format than the Facebook format for that kind of thing....
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  • This might just be me ranting but....

    According to pretty much everyone around me cloth diapering is not popular. I tell people we are going to give it a try and see how we like it (I say nothing about why we are trying or anything bad about disposables) and all I hear is that cloth is too hard/too messy/too much time/gross. Now I really want to make it work just because I'm annoyed with the comments. (we have a stash of disposables we got as gifts and have no problems using them, just thought we would try and save some money by doing part time cloth)

  • missnc77 said:
    When I initially got pregnant, I asked my friends for recommendations on where to go. I had nothing against midwives, it's just the names I got were for OBs, I picked one, and I ended up with an OB. I knew very little initially about the differences other than having the impression midwives were much more on the granola side of things. Participating on thebump and reading another pregnancy forum has been enlightening. To be honest, if I get pregnant again, I think I'll stick with the OB route. I get the fear of interventions and having an unnecessary c-section, and I know there are good/bad midwife practices and good/bad OB practices, but it just seems like going to a midwife brings an added level of stress and pressure for a perfect pregnancy. I can't give specific examples outside of the whole "I may be classified as high risk and can't continue to see my midwife if so :(" type of posts, but it's just an overall feeling/impression.

    After picking my second OB after moving based on a recommendation, I began hearing that she's c-section happy. This makes me really nervous, but I also learned that she's one of the best in the state when it comes to c-section. So perhaps it's not that she's c-section happy, but rather women who have to get a c-section go to her because of her reputation. I've made peace with the rumors and decided to put my trust into her that if there's no reason to have a c-section, she's not just going to suggest I have one. And if I do end up needing one for whatever reason, I know I'm in good hands. Guess I'll find out soon.
    I totally get where you are coming from on this just wanted to offer a little from the other side. I started out with an OB, wasn't thrilled with the care I was receiving, and switched to a midwife. It was like night and day! Also, I haven't had to deal with any stresses about being able to continue with them (in the event of a complication) because they are affiliated with Yale Hospital and my birth center is actually just a floor in the hospital, so it ended up being the best of both worlds. I am getting my granola, low intervention birth with some of the best docs in the NE just a few floors away. I'm not sure how common this sort of setup is unfortunately!
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  • I think I missed out on the FB group from this board - I'm on one on FB but it's not from here - I remember making a request to join and remember the posts of people putting their emails and full names on the forum, but I never got added (that I know of).

    I sincerely hope that this board goad beyond May/June too because my husband works night shifts and it gets boring at home!  That being said, I do hope that some of the "fly by night" posters that have recently surfaced either become serious members or leave the forum.  Sometimes it's annoying to see all the posts that we've discussed already being brought up because they waited until the last minute to join....

    I assume I'll be flamed for this one, as I know there are some true fans out there, but I seriously don't get the fascination with Beyoncé.  I like her old music, both with and post- Destiny's child, but I can't get into it anymore.

  • jenl1681 said:
    I hope the board doesn't die :( I've looked at boards from up to the past year, and while they certainly aren't as active, there seem to be somewhat regular posts. 

    A lot of the older BMBs either moved to Facebook or were victims of the mass banning/exodus in January 2015 (I think that's when it happened).
    This. I have a Facebook group for DS, and he is almost 9! I seriously love those ladies because many of us we're all first time moms together and we have been through a lot and a few of us also have second and third children all around the same age. Still very active years down the road. I also have a group for DD, while the BMB is barely active the Facebook group gets a lot of posts. I even have cloth diaper friends from TB/eco friendly family from before there was even a CD board. 
    I probably would be more active on a Facebook group- I have a hard time keeping people straight in the forum setting- but anytime facebook is brought up it seems to cause a huge issue so I just haven't bothered bringing it up again. 
  • @TXmamatobe (quoting refuses to work for my account apparently) I feel like her music started being more aggressive a few years after being married to Jay-Z.  I'm not blaming him, that's just the time frame that I noticed. 
  • @TXmamatobe (quoting refuses to work for my account apparently) I feel like her music started being more aggressive a few years after being married to Jay-Z.  I'm not blaming him, that's just the time frame that I noticed. 
    I couldn't agree more!  It seems manufactured to me.
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  • missnc77 said:
    When I initially got pregnant, I asked my friends for recommendations on where to go. I had nothing against midwives, it's just the names I got were for OBs, I picked one, and I ended up with an OB. I knew very little initially about the differences other than having the impression midwives were much more on the granola side of things. Participating on thebump and reading another pregnancy forum has been enlightening. To be honest, if I get pregnant again, I think I'll stick with the OB route. I get the fear of interventions and having an unnecessary c-section, and I know there are good/bad midwife practices and good/bad OB practices, but it just seems like going to a midwife brings an added level of stress and pressure for a perfect pregnancy. I can't give specific examples outside of the whole "I may be classified as high risk and can't continue to see my midwife if so :(" type of posts, but it's just an overall feeling/impression.

    After picking my second OB after moving based on a recommendation, I began hearing that she's c-section happy. This makes me really nervous, but I also learned that she's one of the best in the state when it comes to c-section. So perhaps it's not that she's c-section happy, but rather women who have to get a c-section go to her because of her reputation. I've made peace with the rumors and decided to put my trust into her that if there's no reason to have a c-section, she's not just going to suggest I have one. And if I do end up needing one for whatever reason, I know I'm in good hands. Guess I'll find out soon.
    I completely agree with this. I think there's such a stigma when it comes to Ob's that people think they're automatically going to use more interventions. I've been lucky that my Ob is totally against unnecessary interventions. He doesn't even do cervical checks and refuses to do an induction for a non-medical reason until 42w0d. So really, you can get the best of both worlds! 
  • I was wary about joining a FB group when it first became a topic of conversation back when it was still 2015, but now that we've spent the last several months all chatting on a regular basis I'm a lot more comfortable with that idea, especially now that we're all getting to be near the end of our pregnancies (if we haven't already reached that point). We've also already stopped hearing from some of those who've had their babies already. Which is understandable - I know that in my own case, I'll probably be too busy/exhausted/both to bump as regularly as before - but I'd really hate to never hear from some of you again. Having a facebook group would narrow things down to one account (for me anyways), and possibly make things a tiny bit easier for keeping in touch in the long run. 

    But as long as we're having a conversation about it again - if we do start up a group/join the one that was already made/whatever, could we have rules for it (if there aren't already)? Like, maybe all of us vote to have one or two people who are comfortable with it to be the head admin(s) for it (preferably one of us who has been here for a long time and is undoubtably for sure a Real Pregnant Person), and they get to sort of screen who is and isn't allowed. They don't have to use their own profile - they can make a dummy account to share and create the group with if they are uncomfortable with inviting people from their personal pages. This way it's just us regulars, and not the random people who miiiiiiight be pregnant but also probably aren't. Also, it would have to be a private and unsearchable group, methinks. But all in the name of internet safety, right? Or am I making things too complicated?
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  • @amberraysofdawn that's one of the pluses, and a big factor in why my other groups moved to Facebook. TB isn't private and anyone can search or stalk. With the Facebook group it can be secret etc 
  • doozer1345doozer1345 member
    edited April 2016
    My last UO (I think)...I don't have FB and refuse to get one. I think it's unsafe and honestly makes me feel like a stalker bc my life isn't interesting enough to comment on daily/weekly.

    ETA: I always end up looking through other people's stuff and that's what makes me feel like a stalker.
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  • yogahhyogahh member
    edited April 2016
    kami09 said:
    Re:Beyoncé...but not exactly about her music. I have yet to listen to the new album, butall I'm seeing is "Becky with the good hair" & all the names being dragged through the mud. Not saying the other woman is blameless, but you know who should be getting most of the heat?? Freaking JAY Z!!! You know, the guy who cheated on his wife...
    So being as obsessed with both bey and jay as I am... I don't think he cheated. At first I did, but now I find it odd that 1) he would allow her to record something so personal when they both are private and 2) it is just a story to make money for Tidal since it is bombing. 

    Although Rachel Roy didn't do anyone any favors with her tweet. And my one dress by her is hitting the donation bag now!

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  • dsmith211 said:
    I'm sure this isn't an unpopular opinion, but....

    On another expectant mom board I'm on, a mom wanted to name her baby "Rigel" and asked what everyone thought of it. Someone asked how to pronounce it, and the mom said "I don't know". 

    Seriously?! I love unique names, but before you pick one you should probably learn how to actually pronounce it! 
    This just makes my head hurt. I think that being able to pronounce the name is probably rule number 1.

    At least she could spell it  ;)
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