Pregnant after 35

Weekly Check In 4/22

I have a friend in town and I don't want to forget check in so I am posting it tonight!

How far along are you? 

How are you feeling?

Any baby news (tests results/scans/upcoming appointments?)

Rants/Raves/Questions:

GTKY: In honor of Prince...What is your favorite concert you have ever been to? Do you remember your first concert ever? Have your music tastes change over the years?
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Re: Weekly Check In 4/22

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  • @Wyattnash00 I'm so sorry you had a crummy appointment, but I think it was smart of you to put Dr. Google away.  I'm sorry the NP was so nonchalant about it all, that really isn't cool nor helpful when you are the one pregnant and being told something wasn't "normal".

    @redheadbride15 I know what you mean about the weather!  This has been our first solid week of the 70s and I'm loving it!!  Enjoy it!
  • @Piperella I don't think becoming a mother turns a non morning person into a morning person. It's not that simple. That secretary sounds annoying as hell. I'd scowl at her too!
    Me: 40  DH: 43
    Married 5/30/15
    TTC #1 June 2015
    BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
    TTC #2 May 2017
    BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
    BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
  • Thanks ladies:)

    I thought the same thoughts @redheadbride15, called back in the afternoon yesterday to see if I could speak with my dr, spoke to a different nurse. She went over everything again in a much better way, said my dr had a cancellation this am if I wanted to come on...no babysitter. I put a call in this am to dr. The nurse did say if they were super worried i would hear from my dr, this is merely precautionary, put me at ease a bit.

    @piperella, I've never been a morning person, the thing that changes when you have kids is that you're just now responsible for someone else at terrible hours:) got to love unwanted advice!
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • @createillumination -- so glad your a/s went well! Hooray! A huge milestone. Also, thanks for sharing that you were feeling movement and then hadn't for a while due to the anterior placenta. That has been happening to me too. I logically know it is due to the anterior placenta, but it still messes with my head a little. 

    @MollySm -- LOVE the avett brothers. Jealous!
  • @sporty1216 I'm not too familiar with Gillian Welch, but I love her song "Time(The Revelator)". I actually just had to YouTube it and listen to it. Sounds like an amazing show. 

  • @jilligan14 I had the clear drink (lemon lime flavored) and it really wasn't bad. It just tasted like flat Sprite with too much syrup. Very disappointing if you ordered Sprite, but not bad at all for something medical. I had to drink it in the car on the way to the doctor, so I was so worried it would make me nauseous. When I tasted it, I was like, "that's what I was so worried about?"
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15
      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)

    BFP 2/16/18
      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18
      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks 
    •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)

    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.

    BFP 9/24/18  • 
    CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













  • Finished the anatomy scan at long last. We are 99% sure we are having a girl!

    However, they also found some troubles. It looks like she may have a hole in her heart and also a cyst in her brain. Additionally, the umbilical cord only has one artery instead of two. Together, these things may point toward a chromosomal issue--perhaps downs. She is also measuring quite small. 15th percentile. We are obviously praying that baby girl is healthier than it appears right now, but we are trusting that God is in control and has chosen her specifically for our family. 

    I have an echocardiogram scheduled for two weeks from now so we can take a closer look at the heart. So, we'll know more then. 

    We are struggling to know how to feel. Obviously, we are thrilled to have a baby girl and we are absolutely in love with her. But these are some things we didn't anticipate (who does, right?) and we're just trying to figure out how to feel for now. Lots of waiting and praying. 
  • @Sporty1216 congratulations on your girl! And I'm so sorry they found a couple of things to be concerned with. I'm praying for you both and i hope the echo gives you some better answers. I think your positive attitude will help carry you through and I think you are right that she has come to you for whatever reason and I pray for the best possible outcome for you. Reach out if you need anything in the meantime. Hugs!! 
  • So much information @sporty1216. Awesome news about baby girl!! My son has a hole in his heart, wait until you get all the information at the echo.  Did you guys know of any possible  issues before the a/s? Praying for all good things for baby girl, always here for questions and venting, DONT Google anything!
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • I'm so excited you're pretty sure it's a girl, @sporty1216!  I'm sorry they have found some potential issues, I can only imagine the feeling once you hear it. I'm hoping at your future scan you'll get more information and a better picture of what is going on with her.  I have a friend who was told a bunch of things at her a/s, and today he is the happiest little baby ever (with almost none of the issues brought up from the a/s).  I'll be thinking about you the next couple of weeks, and hoping that your little girl continues to grow strong.
  • @Sporty1216  - That is a lot to take in!  I hope the echo helps give you some clarity.  
    BabyFruit Ticker

    BFP 3.8.16  EDD 11.20.16

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  • Hey @Sporty1216. Excited to hear you're having a girl :) I was so excited to know what you were having even though I would have been happy to hear either result! Sorry that there are some questions left after the ultrasound. It must be hard to process when you really don't know what the answers will be.  Good to know that your faith is strong. Praying that everything is ok and I hope you guys don't worry to much in the next couple of weeks.
  • @Sporty1216 congrats on your girl! I'm sorry that there were some concerns that came up with the scan, but I also think your attitude is amazing and admirable. As others have pointed out, these findings only raise the possibility of Downs or another chromosome disorder but they don't mean that for sure. There are lots of babies born with holes in the heart that are otherwise totally healthy, and the cysts in the brain are also nonspecific. All that being said, I know you will love this baby girl no matter what! You'll be in my thoughts!
    Me: 40  DH: 43
    Married 5/30/15
    TTC #1 June 2015
    BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
    TTC #2 May 2017
    BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
    BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
  • @Sporty1216 congrats on your baby girl! I am sorry to hear that there are possible issues with your LOs a/s. And waiting for more tests is nerve-racking especially when they have given you a lot of things to think about. Hoping for the best for you and your family and keeping you all in my thoughts.
  • You're amazing @Sporty1216 and your baby girl is so lucky to have you as a mom! We're here for you!
    Me: 40  DH: 43
    Married 5/30/15
    TTC #1 June 2015
    BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
    TTC #2 May 2017
    BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
    BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
  • @Sporty1216 I'm so sorry to hear there were troubles! I really, really hope everything turns out to be okay with your little girl. Can they do a cell-free dna test? I don't know if insurance only covers that in the first trimester. I want answers for you! I know how hard it is to wait and wonder. Sending you lots of love.  <3<3<3
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15
      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)

    BFP 2/16/18
      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18
      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks 
    •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)

    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.

    BFP 9/24/18  • 
    CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













  • @CarrieandRoy -- they can do the cell-free test but because it's not actually diagnostic, we decided to skip it. We just aren't sure that hearing a percentage of how at risk we are (or not) will help us much right now, though I can see how for some that would be a comfort. We could also probably do an amnio, but because it does pose a slight risk to mom and baby, we are gonna skip that too. We're feeling, at least right now, that we'll just do non-invasive diagnostic tests and see where those take us.

    A friend texted me last night that they had a similar situation with their daughter. In the end, everything turned out fine, but I'm curious to hear more about her experience. I think they took a more "wait and see" approach too, so I'm curious to hear their strategies for keeping calm, preparing for possibilities, etc. 

    One day at a time, right?
  • Oh wow, this is a lot to take in. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and deal with all the uncertainty. I hope everything ends up being okay but it sounds like you have the right attitude in taking one day at a time. I'll be praying for you and your precious little girl!
    ME: 36 (PCOS), DH: excellent SA
    NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
    m/c @ 7w (4/22/14), m/c @ 6w (11/19/14)
    11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
    Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
    12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
    1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
    EDD: 8/10/16 
    8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
    5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
    Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
  • @Sporty1216, just wanted to add my support. I am thrilled that you're going to have a baby girl and wish you so much strength as you continue your journey! It sounds like you and DH are feeling all of the emotions and processing this as best as you can. I will keep everything crossed that your girl is as healthy as possible. It sounds like whatever happens, she's a lucky girl to have you as her parents.

     
  • How far along are you? 22w+

    How are you feeling? Feeling big, but still overall pretty well

    Any baby news (tests results/scans/upcoming appointments?) Just waiting for our regular midwife appointment in a couple of weeks at 24w. Scheduled a follow-up u/s at 32w to take another look at baby's brain to check on the cyst.

    Rants/Raves/Questions: We have been traveling/hosting visitors a lot over the past several weeks and I'm exhausted. We finally have a stretch of 2 weekends at home before the crazy travel schedule starts up again. Going to soak up as much R&R as possible while it lasts. Also, my DS was out of daycare this past week and he has been acting out the past few days. He's not good with transition or when his routine gets out of whack, so I know where it's coming from, but still, it's been challenging for this tired mama.

    GTKY: In honor of Prince...What is your favorite concert you have ever been to? Do you remember your first concert ever? Have your music tastes change over the years?

    First concert was U2 when I was 14. Hard to decide on a favorite concert, but a couple good ones in recent years were Neko Case, Anais Mitchell, Carolina Chocolate Drops. Going to see Ani DiFranco in a few months for the first time in years, so I'm excited about that. My music tastes have always been and remain very eclectic. I would pretty much consider myself a music whore. I'll listen/dance to the trashiest pop music but also appreciate folk music, indie rock, rap, classic rock, etc. It's more about how the music makes me feel.
  • @jilligan14 I always see Ani difranco when she comes to town and we just saw her at a great venue in February and she was awesome. I hear ya with visitors in town, I had a friend in town for the week and it was exhausting! Rest up mama! 
  • lickasticklickastick member
    edited April 2016
    Nice one @Sporty1216! Total thumb sucking for sure. I didn't get any good photos at our a/s scan either. His head was snuggled up to my bladder and he wouldn't move it for a profile pic. We got the best photos at the 11 week nt scan.

    I've been thinking about you today and sending lots of love your way and feeling everything is going to work out.
  • Thanks, @createillumination ! I really appreciate it. I can't say enough how much everyone's support has helped. I think DH and I are both feeling optimistic. I'll be glad to get to our appointment on 5/9 and see what we learn there. Hopefully there is less going on than they suspect. Baby was transverse and not cooperating at all, so the pics they were able to get were not great. Funny that your guy was snuggled up to your bladder! They have minds of their own, even this young. ;) hope you and your friend had fun, even though visits are tiring! 
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