Some baby item advice from FTM with 10 week old

Knottie4978096

I'm a clueless FTM taking care of a 10 week old son. Here's some (unsolicited) advice that I know I'd really like to have had before hand....

Breastfeeding is really really really hard and keeping up feeding a newborn every 2 hours, 24 hrs a day is next to impossible if you require more sleep than 30 min cat naps several times per day. Just something to take into consideration (and no, you're not a failure if you can't keep up).

Don't purchase newborn clothes. People will buy them for you anyway. Start with 3 month old and avoid garments that go over their head. At 3 am that cute onesie isn't when your baby screams as somethings going over their head. And they wiggle, a lot. Garments that wrap are awesome - and sleepers that zip. 

Also, don't stock up on breastfeeding or bottles/formula supplies. The hospital pushes breastfeeding, but the fact is most moms end up switching to formula by 6 months - and likely you'll go through several kinds of formula if you choose to switch before you find one that your baby likes.

sign up for as many samples as you can get. The formula companies were great and sent me more samples when I needed the hypoallergenic formula. Same with breast pads, newborn diapers, wipes. The trial sizes are perfect for when you start venturing out with baby.

Get the minimum you think you'll need and have gift cards ready for when you get home and realize that you need something very different than what everyone told you. You'll want to get out of the house anyway. 

The ge milk tea tastes nasty and if you find yourself consuming all kinds of weird food trying to increase your milk supply, it probably isn't going to happen. Prepare yourself for that outcome- it's rough if you have your heart set on EBF and for whatever reason that just doesn't happen. It's ok and formula fed babies sleep through the night better (one huge benefit about formula they don't tell you). In the end, be happy and buy products that make your life easier. Newborns are rough.

noelietrex

This post feels extremely negative towards breast feeding. While I understand that it doesn't always work out, this makes it sound impossible. I'm going to continue to prepare to EBF/pump and ignore advice stating "formula fed babies sleep through the night better" as that's not necessarily true at all...

JessicaB0627

DD wore newborn for 3 months (started out in preemie). BF did not work out for us either, but formula did not make her sleep better at night. She wasn't STTN until close to 1. Everyone's situation is different. 

oneliloaktree13

This post is really unhelpful and the glass slipper doesn't fit everyone there Cinderella.

Nerdchild

Point 1) I know women who have successfully breastfed for more than 6 months, women whose milk dried up much sooner because they pumped exclusively and did an early formula switch, and women who did formula from jump. Moot point. 



Point 2) Those 'over the head' onesies are also designed to come down around the shoulders. True story. You see those little flaps on either side of the neck hole? Yup, those fold down around the shoulders and slide right down the body. 



Point 2.5) I was born nearly a month late and was still in newborn clothes for the first couple of months. My husband was nearly a month early and went straight into 3 month clothes. That's like saying 'don't buy anything yellows because all babies are born white and it clashes with their skin tone'. No factual basis. 

oneliloaktree13

ugh, I hate when my kid's skin tone doesn't match the yellow onsies.

PhoebeJune1984

STM: I found most of this information pointless. My DD came out at 9 pound and still wore NB clothes for awhile, and we didn't get a ton from showers or anything because we were Team Green....so we bought whatever the heck we wanted. I also had zero issues with putting clothing over her head, but that is probably because I didnt worry about it and didn't stress about it. Its only an issue, if you make it an issue. I had my heart set on BF-ing, and realized I just didn't want to do it and would rather pump. I offered one type of bottle, she took it. By three months, we realized she had a milk protein intolerance and had to be on special formula. I still ended up using all of my BF-ing supplies, because I still pumped and froze, then re-introduced my BF later on and she was able to take it. She didn't sleep any better than when she was BF....she slept the exact same....she was already sleeping 12-13 hours on BM, and she was sleeping 12-13 hours on formula. 
 

Beverly0628

Unsolicited advice posts generally don't go over well on TB, OP.

While BFing a newborn can be hard at first, it is not "nearly impossible." If that was your experience, I'm sorry, but it isn't reasonable to assume that everyone's newborn journey is/will be like yours.

The fact is not that most moms end up switching to formula around 6 months. There are plenty of women who BF past 1 or 2 years. If you want to FF, awesome. If you want to BF, sweet. If you want to BF and FF, right on. A fed baby is a happy baby. There is no right way or single path to doing so. 

As as for the notion that FF babies are automatically better sleepers simply because they are FF, that is ridiculous. My BFed 3 month old is a chunker at 14lbs and sleeps 11 hours straight every night. I know moms of FF babies that are still getting up multiple times in the night. Conversely, some of my BFing friends are up all night with their LOs too. Sleep or no sleep has little to do with what a baby is fed, most of the time, and more to do with temperament, weight, age, and other factors. 

I'm glad that you found some things that are working for you, OP, but it's important to remember that there is no one universal baby experience.

Nerdchild

stillcozy

Sorry you are having a negative experience but this isn't helpful and honestly doesn't have much bearing on other FTM's. I suggest you find some support of other moms of newborns because this felt you just came here to vent and try to jade the rest of us.

I'm a FTM but don't wear any rose colored glasses about taking a newborn home. It's hard all of it but I know it's worth it as well and I know your child has no bearing on what my child will be like and vice versa 

Knottie4978096

see, this is why I was mislead. Partly it's this board. I'm not at all negative against breastfeeding, quite the opposite actually. But the reality is that you WILL have to feed every 2 hrs around the clock and that really isn't doable for quite a lot of people. You just don't find them posting the reality of the situation on these boards. Yes, everyone's experience is different, but saying that most women don't breastfeed past 6 months is actually a fact, not something I made up. Are there breastfeeding superstars? Yes, I know some. As for the onesies, yes, I know they go down over their shoulders, but they don't go on that way. And at 3 am struggling with a sleeping infant, it's just easier to avoid the head thing and get onesies that wrap. im posting just in case there are other moms out there who are all alone taking care of an infant by themselves may need some products that make life easier for them.

PhoebeJune1984

While you were doing your research on when most mom's stop breastfeeding, did you also bother to factor in how many of those moms are working moms that would love to continue BF-ing, but cannot due to their schedule, lack of BF-ing love at the workplace, etc? Most of my friends that had to stop around 6 months, BF for the first 4 months while they were home, and then tried their hardest to continue for 1-2 months after going back to work full time, until they realized they really couldn't keep up. They all said that they would have kept going with BF-ing, if they weren't working. My friends that are the most successful, are the ones that are home all day with their kids. That being said, I have a couple of friends that still fought tooth and nail to make it to a year, even with work, and busted their ass doing so. Besides, you may be cluster feeding in the beginning, but after a couple of months it starts spacing out and you are having longer stretches between feedings. 

  

Nerdchild

I'm a FTM and even I know about the existence of sleep-sacks and swaddles. Every registry building tool suggests them. Why bother doing a onesie AND a swaddle/sleep-sack. Babies can't regulate their heat well, and all those layers sounds like a quick way to overheat a newborn. 

stillcozy

Knottie4978096 said:

see, this is why I was mislead. Partly it's this board. I'm not at all negative against breastfeeding, quite the opposite actually. But the reality is that you WILL have to feed every 2 hrs around the clock and that really isn't doable for quite a lot of people. You just don't find them posting the reality of the situation on these boards. Yes, everyone's experience is different, but saying that most women don't breastfeed past 6 months is actually a fact, not something I made up. Are there breastfeeding superstars? Yes, I know some. As for the onesies, yes, I know they go down over their shoulders, but they don't go on that way. And at 3 am struggling with a sleeping infant, it's just easier to avoid the head thing and get onesies that wrap. im posting just in case there are other moms out there who are all alone taking care of an infant by themselves may need some products that make life easier for them.

Then post this in a post partum group... Your experience has clearly jaded you  maybe next time wait until someone asked a question related to this topic instead of starting your own  unsolicited advice thread that is purely negative! There is absolutely nothing uplifting or supportive in your thread 

givemepenguinss

Knottie4978096 said:

see, this is why I was mislead. Partly it's this board. I'm not at all negative against breastfeeding, quite the opposite actually. But the reality is that you WILL have to feed every 2 hrs around the clock and that really isn't doable for quite a lot of people. You just don't find them posting the reality of the situation on these boards. Yes, everyone's experience is different, but saying that most women don't breastfeed past 6 months is actually a fact, not something I made up. Are there breastfeeding superstars? Yes, I know some. As for the onesies, yes, I know they go down over their shoulders, but they don't go on that way. And at 3 am struggling with a sleeping infant, it's just easier to avoid the head thing and get onesies that wrap. im posting just in case there are other moms out there who are all alone taking care of an infant by themselves may need some products that make life easier for them.

STM here. Three. It's every three 3 hours. And it's only for a few months. You get used to being awake every three hours, and then baby starts sleeping for longer stretches at night.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, but if you need support, don't post under the false pretense that you're being helpful. 

suchaglencoco

I feel like 10 weeks of being a mother doesn't make you an expert on anything except your old child. 

delujm0

You know a little advance research on breastfeeding would have been really helpful OP.  I suggest it to everyone who is interested in trying it.  I'm a FTM of a now 10 month old, who works full time, and my kid has only ever had breastmilk, no formula.  I knew to expect to have to cluster feed at first.  I knew I'd be 100% in charge of night feeds and it would suck.  I knew it would hurt for a few weeks.  Because I was prepared.  And my EBF 3 month old was sleeping 10 hours overnight.  She only wakes MOTN during the standard regressions and when teething, and it's temporary, a few days to a week at most.

Your post is not helpful to anyone because your experience has nothing to do with anyone else's.  But it's an opportunity for me to suggest that moms who want to try BF read up on it first so I'll take that.  Kellymom.com is a great resource as is the book The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding  (though it was a bit hippy-dippy for me, it had good info).  It doesn't work out for everyone but it CAN work, and knowledge is power.

Nerdchild

Guys, I should probably go give the ladies in the TTC board a heads up that they will be up to pee, like, every three hours. 

They also might puke, they can't drink alcohol, and you know all of those adorable clothes they wear?  Who wants to pull one of those over their swollen tits and belly!?  They should just get a size XXXL mumu, soooooo much easier than trying to dress like a human. 

Don't stock up on prenatals, because the ones you first try might make you sick, give you constipation, or make you turn purple and sprout fur. 

Oh, wait, I'm not out to ruin anyone else's pregnancy experience by telling a bunch of strangers how to think and feel about their very individual pregnancies.

oneliloaktree13

Wait, no one told me I was going to have to stay up with crazy hours with a new born?! Omg, I totes feel lied to, this is so not like training my puppy.

Knottie4978096

Keep it up ladies, it only shows how horrible this board really is in terms of advice and that you should carefully choose your pediatrician carefully and reach out to an in-person mom group. Since doing this, I've gotten so much better information, including a very common theme of, "I never made it past xx (6 weeks to 3 month ranges) breastfeeding and no one tells you how much it hurts or when to give up when you just don't get/have way too much milk." I feel very sorry for other moms who fall victim to these posters who don't represent most moms/the real world. Take advice with a grain of salt and always do what's best for you.

suchaglencoco

I'm sorry, but I feel like I got a lot of education from this boards. I knew bf would be hard. I knew when we decided to stop and go to formula that my boobs would hurt. I also didn't rely on an online forum for all of my information when it came to having children. 
And if this board is so terrible, why do you keep returning and arguing? Seems like you'd delete your app and spend that time with your lo.

GinnyJ2012

This is my third baby. My first never stopped eating/comfort nursing and was a horrible sleeper. So forget "feed every two hours" he truely never stopped. My second was sleeping 6 hour stretches starting at a few weeks old and during the day nursed every 3-4 hours. He gained weight well and his pediatrician was happy with how things were going. My first nursed for 14 months, and my second 7 months because he wanted real food. 

Im sorry you feel this board doesn't provide good information, but I've found that most women on these boards say "do what's best for you and your baby" when it comes to feeding. Weather it's breast milk or formula as long as baby is fed. 

As as far as clothes, eh I've never had an issue with pulling clothes over baby's head, even at 3am. Sure they may fuss but that doesn't really bother me. Though I prefer sleepers with zippers to snaps! 

Advising people to not buy certain size clothing is silly. Not everyone has people who buy them gifts for the baby. My boys both wore NB sizes for a few weeks and 0-3 months were way too big. 

I think that it wasn't so much what you were saying, but how you said it. Instead of saying "this is my experience with breastfeeding, and I prefer these types of clothes" you presented everything as facts for across the board. 

oneliloaktree13

Is anyone here going to be upset if I trust my pediatrician over some random person on this board?

Nerdchild

GinnyJ2012 said:

I think that it wasn't so much what you were saying, but how you said it. Instead of saying "this is my experience with breastfeeding, and I prefer these types of clothes" you presented everything as facts for across the board. 

Preach!

O.P. It's extremely judgey of you to imply that women who take easily to breastfeeding aren't "real women"/'real moms".  I bet you would feel awful if someone implied that you weren't a "real woman" because you didn't succeed in breastfeeding.  Shame on you for passing judgement on your fellow moms.

splsmama2016

Knottie4978096 said:

Keep it up ladies, it only shows how horrible this board really is in terms of advice and that you should carefully choose your pediatrician carefully and reach out to an in-person mom group. Since doing this, I've gotten so much better information, including a very common theme of, "I never made it past xx (6 weeks to 3 month ranges) breastfeeding and no one tells you how much it hurts or when to give up when you just don't get/have way too much milk." I feel very sorry for other moms who fall victim to these posters who don't represent most moms/the real world. Take advice with a grain of salt and always do what's best for you.

Uh..... What?? Most of the women on these boards are full time working moms. How more "real world" can it get? 
As far as choosing a pediatrician, I'm fairly certain most moms would do their fair share of research on doctors in their network and area, and will find one that follows their beliefs. And yeah, BF does hurt. I thought that was a given?
As a FTM, I already know and am anticipating being awake around the clock for the next 21+ years (because what parent doesn't worry about their adult children?). When it comes to feeding, your child will alert you as to when they need food. I personally am not the kind of person to wake someone if they are ok. So who knows? She may be awake every 3 hours (typical) or she may sleep for more before she's hungry. Then again, she could turn out to be the devils child like I was and just never want to be alone! Who knows? Everyone's experience is 100% different. 

Good For you for finding a group of people who take your opinions and "advice". I'm glad you were able to find what works, for YOU and your child. 

goldie987

Yeaaahhh, I'm a FTM and nothing you said is a surprise to me at all.  I've done my reading about breastfeeding from places other than an internet site, I anticipate being a sleep deprived shell of a person for the first few weeks while my baby gets big enough to not need to eat every 2-3 hours.  I anticipate struggling with BF like my mom did and dealing with swollen, uncomfortable breasts when my milk comes in.  I have located local BF groups for in person support should I need it.  It's called being prepared and reading up on what's to come, not a difficult concept.  

Im sorry you struggled, but coming into a group of 3rd trimester women and basically saying give up now, don't even bother trying to breast feed because I failed isn't okay.  You're FF and that's 100% fine, no need to justify yourself and your choices which is what it seems like you're trying to do here. 

stillcozy

Wait you mean because this board and especially July (probably others but I can't speak for them) aren't all rainbows and sunshine and actually talk about hey it's going to be rough but you will get through it makes us "not real women?". Please excuse me while I gag myself with a spoon after you insinuated such a rediculous idea. 

Anyone can use the search bar on breastfeeding and see a million different experiences some good and some bad. And honestly I feel really sad you chose to go into parenthood thinking it would be easy. I've done my research, I'm in a breastfeeding class, I'm going to attend a newborn and labor one because I want to be informed. I already know that it can be painful, difficult and draining I also know that it won't last forever. It is incredibly unfair for you to judge a woman who was able to breastfeed their child easily and label them "unrealistic" because it's not. Some people have a more difficult time that is truly unfortunate and if I do myself I won't go and call a bunch of ladies unrealistic and say they are blind to go into with a positive mindset.

nothing about giving birth or raising a child is "easy" but we are all choosing to do it. There will be things that come to me easier then others and some will have things be easier for them then it will be for me. I hope I never ever shame them for that like you have. Instead I hope to share my highs and lows with these incredible women that you seemed to have missed being apart of for which I am sorry for you. Sorry you are having a rough time but maybe it's time to admit your experience is purely your own and it is wrong to so harshly judge soon to be and new moms. 

MississippiCatfish

Three kids, all EBF. My LO is 8 weeks, and it is easy, despite feeding every 2 hours during the day (I mean...I just...sit there while he eats). I BF my first 2 until a year, neither ever had formula. It was was easy. I had a little pain with latching for the first couple weeks with each child, and one case of mastitis. Otherwise, no problems and super convenient. Yes, BF is really hard for some, but not at all for others. I don't mean at all to brag, I'm very fortunate to have had good experiences and it's not because of anything I did. Future moms need to know that it isn't necessarily awful and you could be really successful! I was TERRIFIED to BF and it's been one of the simplest part of motherhood. I don't think we need to fall to either extreme. 

splsmama2016

Lindsayleigh1989 said:

Wait you mean because this board and especially July (probably others but I can't speak for them) aren't all rainbows and sunshine and actually talk about hey it's going to be rough but you will get through it makes us "not real women?". Please excuse me while I gag myself with a spoon after you insinuated such a rediculous idea. 

Anyone can use the search bar on breastfeeding and see a million different experiences some good and some bad. And honestly I feel really sad you chose to go into parenthood thinking it would be easy. I've done my research, I'm in a breastfeeding class, I'm going to attend a newborn and labor one because I want to be informed. I already know that it can be painful, difficult and draining I also know that it won't last forever. It is incredibly unfair for you to judge a woman who was able to breastfeed their child easily and label them "unrealistic" because it's not. Some people have a more difficult time that is truly unfortunate and if I do myself I won't go and call a bunch of ladies unrealistic and say they are blind to go into with a positive mindset.

nothing about giving birth or raising a child is "easy" but we are all choosing to do it. There will be things that come to me easier then others and some will have things be easier for them then it will be for me. I hope I never ever shame them for that like you have. Instead I hope to share my highs and lows with these incredible women that you seemed to have missed being apart of for which I am sorry for you. Sorry you are having a rough time but maybe it's time to admit your experience is purely your own and it is wrong to so harshly judge soon to be and new moms. 

THIS!!!!! All of this! Except the July part, since there's a few of us from June but still, ALL OF THIS! 

Knottie4978096

Keep the flames coming. The private messages speak otherwise. Notice how I never said any of the things you ladies are saying I said, or implied. I merely said, don't buy a lot of newborn clothes and despite that you plan to breastfeed, be prepared for the alternative. And yes, there are many moms who aren't as fortunate as the few of you to have it all - be sensitive to others who may have a different experience or opinion. The PMs to me speak volumes, some of these women feel you are bullying people (myself included). I merely said, don't go and spend a bunch of money on supplies and stuff until you really need them, including formula, (some women think they need it on hand just in case). Sign up for samples, try stuff out and yes, breastfeeding may not work out for you. I hope that all the attention on this board gets the information out, despite "how I said it". And notice how I never said any of those things some of you came out and said I was implying. Go ahead and think what you'd like but unless I said those words, coming to a conclusion about what you think I said is just silly and very immature. As always, do what is best for your family and breastfeeding is absolutely no picnic in the park and expect to be completely clueless and have to figure things out for yourself, because "everyone's different". Oh, and expect the homeless woman in the park to single you out and chastise you for bottle feeding because..... That's why she's homeless. You know, if we were men, this post wouldve
 gone so much different (and better).

totsabounding

suchaglencoco

Knottie4978096 said:

Keep the flames coming. The private messages speak otherwise. Notice how I never said any of the things you ladies are saying I said, or implied. I merely said, don't buy a lot of newborn clothes and despite that you plan to breastfeed, be prepared for the alternative. And yes, there are many moms who aren't as fortunate as the few of you to have it all - be sensitive to others who may have a different experience or opinion. The PMs to me speak volumes, some of these women feel you are bullying people (myself included). I merely said, don't go and spend a bunch of money on supplies and stuff until you really need them, including formula, (some women think they need it on hand just in case). Sign up for samples, try stuff out and yes, breastfeeding may not work out for you. I hope that all the attention on this board gets the information out, despite "how I said it". And notice how I never said any of those things some of you came out and said I was implying. Go ahead and think what you'd like but unless I said those words, coming to a conclusion about what you think I said is just silly and very immature. As always, do what is best for your family and breastfeeding is absolutely no picnic in the park and expect to be completely clueless and have to figure things out for yourself, because "everyone's different". Oh, and expect the homeless woman in the park to single you out and chastise you for bottle feeding because..... That's why she's homeless. You know, if we were men, this post wouldve
 gone so much different (and better).

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Did I miss something here? Why are you randomly slamming some homeless woman and claiming she's homeless because she was bottle fed?
(That's how I took whatever that nonsense is, to mean.)

stillcozy

Knottie4978096 said:

Keep the flames coming. The private messages speak otherwise. Notice how I never said any of the things you ladies are saying I said, or implied. I merely said, don't buy a lot of newborn clothes and despite that you plan to breastfeed, be prepared for the alternative. And yes, there are many moms who aren't as fortunate as the few of you to have it all - be sensitive to others who may have a different experience or opinion. The PMs to me speak volumes, some of these women feel you are bullying people (myself included). I merely said, don't go and spend a bunch of money on supplies and stuff until you really need them, including formula, (some women think they need it on hand just in case). Sign up for samples, try stuff out and yes, breastfeeding may not work out for you. I hope that all the attention on this board gets the information out, despite "how I said it". And notice how I never said any of those things some of you came out and said I was implying. Go ahead and think what you'd like but unless I said those words, coming to a conclusion about what you think I said is just silly and very immature. As always, do what is best for your family and breastfeeding is absolutely no picnic in the park and expect to be completely clueless and have to figure things out for yourself, because "everyone's different". Oh, and expect the homeless woman in the park to single you out and chastise you for bottle feeding because..... That's why she's homeless. You know, if we were men, this post wouldve
 gone so much different (and better).

QFP 

just curious if you have so many messages agreeing with you where their likes on your posts or comments? And if we are such "bullies" by not encouraging mommy wars and comparison posts and not wanting someone who doesn't like their own situation filling this board with negative posts then yes please go play with the "men". or better yet go find a post partum board! where you can actually get and give solicited advice.... But you have now insulted us in an incredibly sexist way and that I have zero tolerance for. And honestly if you did have anything to say it has lost zero wort claiming men would have handled this better....

totsabounding

I'm sorry, I can't stop laughing...if we were men...

goldie987

My phone blows and won't gif properly so *insert spongebob now that we're men gif here*

blissylissy86

I just can't get over the fact that we will be feeding our babies every two hours. Regardless if you had NO OTHER information in the 9 months of baking this baby, surely you would have heard that before. 

suchaglencoco

OP, this is a serious question. Did you read any pregnancy or baby book? I feel like everything I've read anywhere states that one should expect their newborns to get up every 2 hours to eat, some even more frequently than that.

splsmama2016

Knottie4978096 said:

Keep the flames coming. The private messages speak otherwise. Notice how I never said any of the things you ladies are saying I said, or implied. I merely said, don't buy a lot of newborn clothes and despite that you plan to breastfeed, be prepared for the alternative.

Uh.... Unfortunately you did.

Knottie4978096 said:

Don't purchase newborn clothes. People will buy them for you anyway. Start with 3 month old and avoid garments that go over their head. At 3 am that cute onesie isn't when your baby screams as somethings going over their head. And they wiggle, a lot. Garments that wrap are awesome - and sleepers that zip.

Also, we don't "have it all". THAT is a severe overstatement. I doubt theres anyone here who does!! A LOT of us are just financially stable enough to not worry every single second of every single day. We also stress ourselves out about the lack of sleep we are about to endure, cracked, sore and bleeding nipples, messy houses, exploding diapers, spouses that are irritated because they haven't been laid in weeks and they won't get any for ANOTHER few months.... And, what makes you think that nobody else is going through what you are? 

Nerdchild

@suchaglencoco I'm really peeved about the random attack on a homeless woman too.  I'm a researcher with a major university hospital, currently working on a study that focuses on the aging homeless population in my area.  I can tell you that the kind of derogatory speech the o.p. is using is well documented in linguistic and social anthropology as creating exclusive 'otherness' for disadvantaged populations as a way to justify the ongoing mistreatment by local and state legislature, housing authorities, law enforcement, and health care providers.  I'm supposed to care about the opinions of a bunch of internet randos, but we can disregard the input of a homeless woman 'because she's homeless'?!

edit: clarification.  I get blind-rage-typing when some speaks negatively about disadvantaged populations.

maddmama

Men would be better at this conversation about pregnancy and raising babies than all of us pregnant women/ mothers .. Can't get past that. 

Nerdchild

maddmama said:

Men would be better at this conversation about pregnancy and raising babies than all of us pregnant women/ mothers .. Can't get past that. 

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