@yellowrose314 Sorry. I would have been really upset, too. I'm not keeping my GD secret, mainly because letting people know I'm on a carb restriction helps keep me on track with it. However, I wouldn't be down for DH announcing it to everyone. And I'd be even more angry if he was telling me how and what to eat. I'm sure your one piece of pizza with the crust cut off was well within carb limits. And as for cake, with my first my OB told me to still eat cake at my baby shower. A once in a while indulgence isn't going to hurt anything. I think it will be good for him to go to the appt with you and get more info, and it's great that he wants to. Also, the help with the decals and shelves was very sweet.
So my husband last night leaned over on the couch and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and I said "Thank you.. I love you" to which he replied "love you more!" ... we've always been one of those couples, that playfully argues about who loves who more, but this time I said "well.. I hate to be so brutally honest, but right now that might just be true" ... I'm a very happily pregnant woman, but I get quite irritated with my husband and don't feel "lovey" very much during pregnancy, we both understand that and it doesn't cause any huge issues, especially since we've been through it already and he knows I bounce right back when baby is born. His reply is "Yeah... and plus, right now there's more of you to love!"
Silence.. I side-eyed him and he quickly recovered with "Because there's 2 of you, You plus 1! You and Cooper!"
HA! NICE TRY! I laughed until my belly hurt and told him that his statement sounded an awful lot like my extra 30 pounds is what was more to love, and he laughed saying he could tell by the look on my face how it had been taken. He's lucky I was in a good mood... how did he think that saying "more of you to love" was the right thing to say to someone who talks to him pretty frequently about trying to be positive about a 30 pound weight gain?! hahaha. MEN, I tell ya... MEN!
@AnnaS930 I have to give your DH credit for a spectacular come back from what could have been a really bad faux pax. Also, DH was reading over my shoulder (because he's nosey) and says "Bravo sir, bravo", and told me to include this gif
@yellowrose314 - he's so lucky he caught me in a good mood. I'm glad your husband approved, it was a really sweet thing to say to cover up a terrible one!
Complaint - my hubs attitude in general the last week or so. I get, he works, he's busy, he's apply for med school, we have a lot going on.
But damn dude. I'm gained 30lbs, I can't have a drink, it's a million degrees outside, and we need to move in the next six weeks (right in time for my due date). Did I mention I'm driving 4 hours to his hometown WITHOUT HIM (a friend is going with me) to a baby shower hosted by his selfish mother, who refused to reschedule, even though she knew there was a strong chance he wouldn't be able to go?
We all have stuff to worry about. I know I should be more patient, but I just do not have it in me to put up with his attitude, especially after working all day, then making dinner.
I am SO relieved. My fiancé's business prints all the shirts and banners for a large reggae festival every year. As a perk, we all get free VIP passes (which make it tolerable on account of the real bathrooms and places to sit in the shade). Last month, his partners decided that aims should be the designated driver for the whole fiasco. Ummmm ok? I'm over here barely being able to make it through a 6 hour block of time at the house without needing a nap and you want me to wander around in the heat all day and night and listen to music I'm not even a big fan of while you all enjoy yourselves then somehow drive your drunk butts home at 1 in the morning? So I've been stressing on it (without saying anything) for the last couple weeks and my fiance comes come yesterday and informs me that he told everyone that he definitely wasn't going to have me be the driver and that he would be doing it instead. (insert modern day knight in shining armor image) But even better, our other friend stepped up since he has a larger SUV and doesn't drink at all and volunteered to drive us all down and let me ride shot gun! woohoo! ok. that's the end of my relieving novel lol
DH is a saint tonight. He's preparing dinner and making me lunch without my help so I can have a nap. I didn't sleep well (back and hip pain) and have been exhausted all day. He's also baking me a cake or cupcakes for my birthday (it's on Saturday, but we are going to share some at work!) He's the best!
I'll keep my DH. He really amazes me and tries so hard. He caw knows how hard this pregnancy has been and he really does try to make everything better. My hands have all of a sudden swollen so much that I can't wear my wedding ring comfortably. So I asked him if I could just get an inexpensive ring for the remainder of the pregnancy because I would feel naked otherwise. He says he'll pick one up (who's going to really pay attention to a simple Wal-Mart band....it'll make me happy though). I text him the size I need and he comes back saying "I was going to get you a ring with a stretchy band". Alright asshat. So now I get to give him a hard time and, jokingly, tell him that now he has to go to Jared to get back in my good graces since they have a lovely selection.
I get home tonight and, all of a sudden, here come the kids with a box each with the signature golden brown wrapping paper from Jared. What the hell? I was joking. He proceeds to tell me that he had already bought these prior to today but, for various reasons, he wanted to give them to me now. His joke was, "I know you're not supposed to give push presents BEFORE the baby is born but...." Lol....of course I brought up the fact that I would not be pushing so this was more like a "Sorry they have to cut you open" present. Cue the tears as I get 3 boxes from him and the kids.... He's a keeper. Forget the charms even. He's a keeper anyway!
My DH let me sleep in until 10:40 today!!! I was battling insomnia and was more or less awake until 6:00 am. When DS woke up at 8 I told DH i had been up and asked if he could take him for 30 minutes so I could catch up. He let me sleep until I woke up!!!!!!! I honestly have not slept in that late since probably before I was pregnant with DS and it felt so good! Except I also feel like I just lost half my day lol, but still so worth it.
My husband has been awesome today. Most days he is pretty good but today he took care of DD and let me sleep in, made breakfast and lunch, also went to the store to pick up ice cream!
Ok, this is kind of in the sphere of this thread, and I felt weird about making a new discussion about it (no idea why), but I need sex advice...
Besides about a month long period where I wanted it all the time, my sex drive has been zilch the entire pregnancy. 1st tri I was doing my final RN clinical, which is stressful + nausea just made it not a possibility. For the last 2 months, I have had zero sex drive. No interest whatsoever, no interest in having solo sexy time. I am just so sore and uncomfortable 99% of the time, and so tired. I'm lucky if I get to read a page before bed, because I'm out like a light. DH has a very high sex drive; if he had it his way, every night we'd be doing it. So needless to say, he's feeling more than a little deprived.I have no energy or want to even help him out via foreplay type stuff, even if I don't get anything in return. I feel horrible, and I've been trying to be affectionate in other ways but I can tell he's feeling deprived. Not to mention the one or two times we have had sex in the last couple of months, I've been so incredibly sore after, and not in a good way. I feel really bad today because it's his birthday, and for the 7 years we've been together I always do something sexy or surprise him with something of that type on his birthday. But this year I straight up had to be like sorry, not going to happen, unless you're comfortable with the knowledge that while I would consent, I would not enjoy it at all; he said that's not what he wants at all. So we're at an impasse. I don't know what kind of advice I'm looking for, maybe just reassurance that this is normal; I wish I could have the drive to want to the entire pregnancy, but maybe that's not realistic. I just feel horribly guilty that I'm not meeting his needs, he's feeling deprived. I in no way feel that he would stray because of this, that's not a worry for me. I just feel like a jerk for not meeting his needs and feeling kind of selfish for shutting him down all the time.
@yellowrose314 - At least it sounds like he's not being a jerk about it. I've known men that are complete asses when their wives turn them down, no matter the reason.
TBH, I spent more than half if this pregnancy waiting for my sex drive to turn up. My first pregnancy I wanted it all the time until I was told that I was no longer allowed due to bed rest. I finally realized a month or two ago that that was not going to happen this pregnancy. I think DH and I have had sex maybe 3 or 4 times max. And, while I feel bad to an extent, I have to remind myself that DH would hate for me to feel like I have to put out, especially when I'm feeling completely craptastic.
I know it's hard not to, especially when you want to do everything you can to meet your DH's needs, but don't feel like a jerk. You've got the toughest job of the two of you right now....growing a little human!
@yellowrose314 This sounds like me to a tee right now. About the start of the second tri, I had a good couple weeks where I wanted sex, but basically zero sex drive otherwise. I have tried solo and it feels like absolutely nothing. I figure if I can't even make it feel good on my own when I'm not worried about positioning, him feeling good, etc., then I can't enjoy it together. I also feel guilty and have tried to please him in other ways, and I got so out of breath (LOL) and the feeling of my stomach hanging down while I did that......it was physically exhausting and so unenjoyable. I guess I just want to reassure you that I suppose it could be normal since we are going through the same thing!
@yellowrose314 You and I could pretty much trade places right now. Your DH sounds like mine too. Crazy high drive and I'm over here like....eh. I rarely regret doing it but sometimes it does feel like I'm mustering up the will to engage. I completely empathize with feeling a bit selfish, I'm right there with you! It's been like this the entire pregnancy unfortunately but I do try to give myself a chance to get in the mood. No, it's not about forcing oneself to do it but giving oneself time to see if it's something that could be enjoyable once getting started if that makes sense. I feel like if I never tried, I just wouldn't do it. But then we get started and it's not too bad lol. Is there another way you can help him feel less deprived? Not necessarily sexual but something you can do to show him he's special? I also think telling him how you're feeling would help. That way he doesn't think it's him but it's just something you're going through right now and that you're not especially happy about it.
I'm totally with all of you ladies. I have no interest in sexy time. I'm grateful that my DH doesn't push it at all...especially since my pelvis always feels like it's cracking in half.
Maybe it's payback for the copious amount of sex we had trying to conceive this baby.
@yellowrose314 I'm there with you, it's just not enjoyable. My DH has been through this before so he knows the drill. It WILL come back, I promise! But, if you plan on breastfeeding, be prepared that it could take until you wean before you fully feel like yourself (plusalso sleep exhaustion and time). I feel like genetically our bodies are saying "no thanks, we already did that and were successful so there's 0 point in doing this now" lol. Hang in there!
ETA on the bright side your DH might get some when you are close to your due date and desperate enough to push through it in hopes of going into labor . I know, super romantic.
yellowrose314 DH and I both have always had a high sex drive, obviously pregnancy hasn't been quite what he is used to. I would just like to add besides that it is completely normal (especially this late in the game) that men (should) be totally OK will the DIY route at this point. While they may have 'needs' they have known for a very long time how to take care of themselves. DH and I talk about it a lot and he knows that I want to in spirit but it just doesn't work out that way.
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Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@yellowrose314 - Just chiming in with the handful of others to say I'm with you. Have had nearly zero drive (though solo has been alright when the mood strikes) and have only had sex a handful of times since my positive result. I'm sure my husband feels a bit deprived but he isn't complaining so we just don't make a big thing of it. Your drive will come back, and you're not being selfish... carrying a baby is certainly not selfish at all, and enduring so many changes to your body and fatigue. Lighten up on yourself, he'll have plenty of other birthdays while you aren't knocked up!
I have to say ugly wise, that my DH has never really done anything specifically for me. When we spend time together watching a movie or playing a game or just being in the same room together, we both love it. But he feels like that is honestly enough and then acts as if I am "too hard to please" for wanting little more. I am not materialistic at all but the only time he's ever even gotten me anything was valentines day of this year and to be honest, it was more because he was in the dog house prior. I just want little more effort, is that too much to ask?
Was totally going to finish painting the nursery yesterday with DH, but
even after we turned the AC on the upstairs wouldn't get cool (we keep
the AC off upstairs because we don't use the upstairs area much right
now and we have to get a new condensation pipe installed, so in the
meantime it's hot as hades up there).
I got so hot while we were
prepping to paint that I got MAD and threw my hands up and said that I
wasn't going to deal with it that day and went downstairs leaving DH
bewildered behind me. I then spent the next hour angrily cleaning the
downstairs. DH realized I was mad and kept his distance for a little
while but then approached me and treated me like a normal, regular, non
angry human being. Even when I barked at him over something, he
responded like I hadn't and then I suddenly felt normal again.
I want to laugh because I think DH's response to me has recently become:
"If I act calm and normal then it will probably neutralize my ragey crazy pregnant wife's wild hate hormones."
And it works. That man deserves a hug and a vacation.
So this is a Good & a Bad.... Yesterday my fiance had a friend from work over to help do some construction on the house. Of course that turned into them working until 7, having a couple beers and finishing up the work around 10. I'm pregnant and just generally grumpy, so I went to bed at about 8 pm.
I'm sleeping (comfortably for once) until I wake up to the sound of a freaking shop vacuum. At 11pm. I put on some (super) stretchy pants and waddle out to the living room and there is my sweet love vacuuming away like he's going to get such brownie points in the morning when I wake up to a clean floor. ummmm thanks, but no. just no.
I say (yell) his name and he shuts off the vacuum and asks "did I wake you up?" I say nothing and watch the look of horror overcome his friend's face. Fiance realizes what a dumb question that is and quickly says "oh no, I woke you up I'm sorry" (or something along those lines...) I kinda blacked out as I imagined cutting off his dangly bits. Anyway.... I stormed back into the bedroom and proceeded to build my pillow fortress back up and spend the next hour listening to the "stuff you should know" podcast as I attempted to fall back asleep.
I guess the moral of my story is that cleanliness definitely does not rank higher on my pregnancy priorities than precious, precious sleep.
Oh man @bibliobebe that's totally me. I just have been so randomly ragey lately and my poor DH is like a deer in the headlights. I've found it best if I just say "I'm super upset right now but not at you" it really helps him although I'm sure he thinks I've gone crazy. Yesterday it was because that I got soap on a clean shirt I had just put on right before we had to leave.
So this is a Good & a Bad.... Yesterday my fiance had a friend from work over to help do some construction on the house. Of course that turned into them working until 7, having a couple beers and finishing up the work around 10. I'm pregnant and just generally grumpy, so I went to bed at about 8 pm.
I'm sleeping (comfortably for once) until I wake up to the sound of a freaking shop vacuum. At 11pm. I put on some (super) stretchy pants and waddle out to the living room and there is my sweet love vacuuming away like he's going to get such brownie points in the morning when I wake up to a clean floor. ummmm thanks, but no. just no.
I say (yell) his name and he shuts off the vacuum and asks "did I wake you up?" I say nothing and watch the look of horror overcome his friend's face. Fiance realizes what a dumb question that is and quickly says "oh no, I woke you up I'm sorry" (or something along those lines...) I kinda blacked out as I imagined cutting off his dangly bits. Anyway.... I stormed back into the bedroom and proceeded to build my pillow fortress back up and spend the next hour listening to the "stuff you should know" podcast as I attempted to fall back asleep.
I guess the moral of my story is that cleanliness definitely does not rank higher on my pregnancy priorities than precious, precious sleep.
Serioulsy LoLing at that! Kudos to him for trying. But sleep is definitely a priority!
Ok, this is kind of in the sphere of this thread, and I felt weird about making a new discussion about it (no idea why), but I need sex advice...
Besides about a month long period where I wanted it all the time, my sex drive has been zilch the entire pregnancy. 1st tri I was doing my final RN clinical, which is stressful + nausea just made it not a possibility. For the last 2 months, I have had zero sex drive. No interest whatsoever, no interest in having solo sexy time. I am just so sore and uncomfortable 99% of the time, and so tired. I'm lucky if I get to read a page before bed, because I'm out like a light. DH has a very high sex drive; if he had it his way, every night we'd be doing it. So needless to say, he's feeling more than a little deprived.I have no energy or want to even help him out via foreplay type stuff, even if I don't get anything in return. I feel horrible, and I've been trying to be affectionate in other ways but I can tell he's feeling deprived. Not to mention the one or two times we have had sex in the last couple of months, I've been so incredibly sore after, and not in a good way. I feel really bad today because it's his birthday, and for the 7 years we've been together I always do something sexy or surprise him with something of that type on his birthday. But this year I straight up had to be like sorry, not going to happen, unless you're comfortable with the knowledge that while I would consent, I would not enjoy it at all; he said that's not what he wants at all. So we're at an impasse. I don't know what kind of advice I'm looking for, maybe just reassurance that this is normal; I wish I could have the drive to want to the entire pregnancy, but maybe that's not realistic. I just feel horribly guilty that I'm not meeting his needs, he's feeling deprived. I in no way feel that he would stray because of this, that's not a worry for me. I just feel like a jerk for not meeting his needs and feeling kind of selfish for shutting him down all the time.
It's more normal to have no drive then it is to have an increase. He has options if he really needs relief. I honestly wouldn't feel to bad and he should attempt to understand give all that your body has going on in this process.
@UnwritteN12 He's actually super sweet about it, and feels bad even to ask me. He's never once held it against me, and is super understanding. @mom2adoodle There have been a few times where I have tried to get into it, make out sessions and what not and while I enjoy the closeness, I'm in no way turned on. That's not to say I don't find DH attractive, I find him incredibly attractive; it feels like I'm a car that's just constantly stalling out you know? @Shiva14 Haha funny you should mention that, DH brought that up last night, said "Sooo all those old wives tails for starting labour if you're overdue... we're just going to skip the tea and spicy food and go right to the good stuff? Right...?" I was like sure why not!
Thank you so much to all you ladies. We had a good talk last night after his birthday dinner and he is so incredibly understanding, and says he constantly feels like an asshole for even asking because he can see how uncomfortable I am just up and walking around, and he said some really beautiful things (that honestly make me want to cry typing because they were so sweet) about how he loves seeing me grow and how proud he is that I'm the mother of his child. I bawled like a baby. There are definitely times where I want to smack him upside the head, but I count myself very lucky that I found such a compassionate man.
Reviving bc you might see me on the news tonight accused of homicide (not really).
Im being induced on the 16th. We've known this for over a month. It's not a surprise. But not everyone in the family knows the exact day. My husbands cousin is "driving through" on the 20th on her way to North Carolina and wants to know if we're free for a visit. Shes communicating w him, not me. And he's not sure if we'll be free???! I'm like "I'm not sure if I'll be out of the hospital!" (Even though I very likely will be).
Gets better - so I ask him "is she trying to see if she can stay the night here without actually coming out and saying it? We don't even know if your parents will be here or not so I don't know how much room we'll have." And he says oh yes his parents AND BROTHER are coming on the 15th and they'll be here a week. I'm like - when did they say that?? Apparently Thursday and he fails to mention it. So I'm pissy about this and I feel justifiably so and he says to me "it's not like I was sitting on it or keeping it from you."
I want to strangle him! Yes, actually YOU WERE SITTING ON THAT INFO AND IT WAS 4 DAYS AGO AND YOU STILL HAVENT MENTIONED IT??!
I told him I'm not doing anything while his family is here and he can figure out where all these folks are staying in what room with what air mattress and what sheets. And I'm not cooking a damn thing so he better start working on that too. I'm so pissed. I've been asking for probably 4 months what his parents plan on doing when it comes to visiting after baby.
@jensou - Homicide, yes. However, I'd consider it justifiable homicide. I hope he's good at planning all that out because I'm with you on not doing a damn thing.
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His reply is "Yeah... and plus, right now there's more of you to love!"
Silence.. I side-eyed him and he quickly recovered with "Because there's 2 of you, You plus 1! You and Cooper!"
HA! NICE TRY! I laughed until my belly hurt and told him that his statement sounded an awful lot like my extra 30 pounds is what was more to love, and he laughed saying he could tell by the look on my face how it had been taken. He's lucky I was in a good mood... how did he think that saying "more of you to love" was the right thing to say to someone who talks to him pretty frequently about trying to be positive about a 30 pound weight gain?! hahaha. MEN, I tell ya... MEN!
But damn dude. I'm gained 30lbs, I can't have a drink, it's a million degrees outside, and we need to move in the next six weeks (right in time for my due date). Did I mention I'm driving 4 hours to his hometown WITHOUT HIM (a friend is going with me) to a baby shower hosted by his selfish mother, who refused to reschedule, even though she knew there was a strong chance he wouldn't be able to go?
We all have stuff to worry about. I know I should be more patient, but I just do not have it in me to put up with his attitude, especially after working all day, then making dinner.
I get home tonight and, all of a sudden, here come the kids with a box each with the signature golden brown wrapping paper from Jared. What the hell? I was joking. He proceeds to tell me that he had already bought these prior to today but, for various reasons, he wanted to give them to me now. His joke was, "I know you're not supposed to give push presents BEFORE the baby is born but...." Lol....of course I brought up the fact that I would not be pushing so this was more like a "Sorry they have to cut you open" present. Cue the tears as I get 3 boxes from him and the kids....
He's a keeper. Forget the charms even. He's a keeper anyway!
My DH let me sleep in until 10:40 today!!! I was battling insomnia and was more or less awake until 6:00 am. When DS woke up at 8 I told DH i had been up and asked if he could take him for 30 minutes so I could catch up. He let me sleep until I woke up!!!!!!! I honestly have not slept in that late since probably before I was pregnant with DS and it felt so good! Except I also feel like I just lost half my day lol, but still so worth it.
Besides about a month long period where I wanted it all the time, my sex drive has been zilch the entire pregnancy. 1st tri I was doing my final RN clinical, which is stressful + nausea just made it not a possibility. For the last 2 months, I have had zero sex drive. No interest whatsoever, no interest in having solo sexy time. I am just so sore and uncomfortable 99% of the time, and so tired. I'm lucky if I get to read a page before bed, because I'm out like a light.
DH has a very high sex drive; if he had it his way, every night we'd be doing it. So needless to say, he's feeling more than a little deprived.I have no energy or want to even help him out via foreplay type stuff, even if I don't get anything in return. I feel horrible, and I've been trying to be affectionate in other ways but I can tell he's feeling deprived. Not to mention the one or two times we have had sex in the last couple of months, I've been so incredibly sore after, and not in a good way. I feel really bad today because it's his birthday, and for the 7 years we've been together I always do something sexy or surprise him with something of that type on his birthday. But this year I straight up had to be like sorry, not going to happen, unless you're comfortable with the knowledge that while I would consent, I would not enjoy it at all; he said that's not what he wants at all. So we're at an impasse.
I don't know what kind of advice I'm looking for, maybe just reassurance that this is normal; I wish I could have the drive to want to the entire pregnancy, but maybe that's not realistic. I just feel horribly guilty that I'm not meeting his needs, he's feeling deprived. I in no way feel that he would stray because of this, that's not a worry for me. I just feel like a jerk for not meeting his needs and feeling kind of selfish for shutting him down all the time.
TBH, I spent more than half if this pregnancy waiting for my sex drive to turn up. My first pregnancy I wanted it all the time until I was told that I was no longer allowed due to bed rest. I finally realized a month or two ago that that was not going to happen this pregnancy. I think DH and I have had sex maybe 3 or 4 times max. And, while I feel bad to an extent, I have to remind myself that DH would hate for me to feel like I have to put out, especially when I'm feeling completely craptastic.
I know it's hard not to, especially when you want to do everything you can to meet your DH's needs, but don't feel like a jerk. You've got the toughest job of the two of you right now....growing a little human!
Maybe it's payback for the copious amount of sex we had trying to conceive this baby.
ETA on the bright side your DH might get some when you are close to your due date and desperate enough to push through it in hopes of going into labor
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I got so hot while we were prepping to paint that I got MAD and threw my hands up and said that I wasn't going to deal with it that day and went downstairs leaving DH bewildered behind me. I then spent the next hour angrily cleaning the downstairs. DH realized I was mad and kept his distance for a little while but then approached me and treated me like a normal, regular, non angry human being. Even when I barked at him over something, he responded like I hadn't and then I suddenly felt normal again.
I want to laugh because I think DH's response to me has recently become:
"If I act calm and normal then it will probably neutralize my ragey crazy pregnant wife's wild hate hormones."
And it works. That man deserves a hug and a vacation.
I'm sleeping (comfortably for once) until I wake up to the sound of a freaking shop vacuum. At 11pm. I put on some (super) stretchy pants and waddle out to the living room and there is my sweet love vacuuming away like he's going to get such brownie points in the morning when I wake up to a clean floor. ummmm thanks, but no. just no.
I say (yell) his name and he shuts off the vacuum and asks "did I wake you up?" I say nothing and watch the look of horror overcome his friend's face. Fiance realizes what a dumb question that is and quickly says "oh no, I woke you up I'm sorry" (or something along those lines...) I kinda blacked out as I imagined cutting off his dangly bits. Anyway.... I stormed back into the bedroom and proceeded to build my pillow fortress back up and spend the next hour listening to the "stuff you should know" podcast as I attempted to fall back asleep.
I guess the moral of my story is that cleanliness definitely does not rank higher on my pregnancy priorities than precious, precious sleep.
@mom2adoodle There have been a few times where I have tried to get into it, make out sessions and what not and while I enjoy the closeness, I'm in no way turned on. That's not to say I don't find DH attractive, I find him incredibly attractive; it feels like I'm a car that's just constantly stalling out you know?
@Shiva14 Haha funny you should mention that, DH brought that up last night, said "Sooo all those old wives tails for starting labour if you're overdue... we're just going to skip the tea and spicy food and go right to the good stuff? Right...?" I was like sure why not!
Thank you so much to all you ladies. We had a good talk last night after his birthday dinner and he is so incredibly understanding, and says he constantly feels like an asshole for even asking because he can see how uncomfortable I am just up and walking around, and he said some really beautiful things (that honestly make me want to cry typing because they were so sweet) about how he loves seeing me grow and how proud he is that I'm the mother of his child. I bawled like a baby. There are definitely times where I want to smack him upside the head, but I count myself very lucky that I found such a compassionate man.
Im being induced on the 16th. We've known this for over a month. It's not a surprise. But not everyone in the family knows the exact day. My husbands cousin is "driving through" on the 20th on her way to North Carolina and wants to know if we're free for a visit. Shes communicating w him, not me. And he's not sure if we'll be free???! I'm like "I'm not sure if I'll be out of the hospital!" (Even though I very likely will be).
Gets better - so I ask him "is she trying to see if she can stay the night here without actually coming out and saying it? We don't even know if your parents will be here or not so I don't know how much room we'll have." And he says oh yes his parents AND BROTHER are coming on the 15th and they'll be here a week. I'm like - when did they say that?? Apparently Thursday and he fails to mention it. So I'm pissy about this and I feel justifiably so and he says to me "it's not like I was sitting on it or keeping it from you."
I want to strangle him! Yes, actually YOU WERE SITTING ON THAT INFO AND IT WAS 4 DAYS AGO AND YOU STILL HAVENT MENTIONED IT??!
I told him I'm not doing anything while his family is here and he can figure out where all these folks are staying in what room with what air mattress and what sheets. And I'm not cooking a damn thing so he better start working on that too. I'm so pissed. I've been asking for probably 4 months what his parents plan on doing when it comes to visiting after baby.