Oct 2016 HDBD- real bumps

LikeICantEven

Yeah, I need to say this. There is a rampant air of disbelief and knee jerk tendency to side eye when a woman says she is showing sooner than what is considered generally, "normal" and it really bothers me.

Yes, the babies are very small at this point. They themselves are not the sole reason for that blump most of us are sporting. Yes, constipation and bloat are part of this. But there is a lot of other stuff going on in the abdominal cavity that causes is to protrude. Placenta, your intestines being pushed out and up, amniotic fluid, thickened uterus, it goes on an on. All due to... BEING PREGNANT. It's something that normally would not exist without the presence of pregnancy. 


Now, I'm not ranting about this because anyone is being attacked, I just see a lot of hesitation for women to get excited or to accept that it's their new body because of all the other things going on. But the way I see it, be damn proud of the fact that your body is doing what it's supposed to be doing right now. For most of us, it's an unfamiliar state. Most of us have tried for years and dealt with infertility and losses and now we are still at this stage, holding our breaths waiting for it to feel, "safe" so we hold back a bit of joy and pride in our bumps. I hate that. It sucks. I feel it too. I feel that impulse to annotate any proclamation of a bump with, "it's just bloat. it's poop. it's the 6 slices of pizza I had for breakfast." It's like when someone compliments your shoes and you go on that automatic rant of how much you scored them for and where you bought them. I wish we didn't feel the need to excuse our rationale away. 

Bottom line, none of us are built the same. We are all shapes and sizes, we all have different metabolisms, we all put weight in different places and our bodies are all certainly going to show signs of the pregnancy in drastically different ways. Holding onto some average concept of when it's okay to call it a bump and not a blump seems so discouraging. 

I'm sorry if this comes off preachy, I'm really not trying to be a snot about it. It's just been in the back of my mind while on these boards for a bit and I wanted to float that thought out here. Here's a cupcake for bothering to read my page long post. 

ShallowSeas

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

Yeah, I need to say this. There is a rampant air of disbelief and knee jerk tendency to side eye when a woman says she is showing sooner than what is considered generally, "normal" and it really bothers me.

Yes, the babies are very small at this point. They themselves are not the sole reason for that blump most of us are sporting. Yes, constipation and bloat are part of this. But there is a lot of other stuff going on in the abdominal cavity that causes is to protrude. Placenta, your intestines being pushed out and up, amniotic fluid, thickened uterus, it goes on an on. All due to... BEING PREGNANT. It's something that normally would not exist without the presence of pregnancy. 


Now, I'm not ranting about this because anyone is being attacked, I just see a lot of hesitation for women to get excited or to accept that it's their new body because of all the other things going on. But the way I see it, be damn proud of the fact that your body is doing what it's supposed to be doing right now. For most of us, it's an unfamiliar state. Most of us have tried for years and dealt with infertility and losses and now we are still at this stage, holding our breaths waiting for it to feel, "safe" so we hold back a bit of joy and pride in our bumps. I hate that. It sucks. I feel it too. I feel that impulse to annotate any proclamation of a bump with, "it's just bloat. it's poop. it's the 6 slices of pizza I had for breakfast." It's like when someone compliments your shoes and you go on that automatic rant of how much you scored them for and where you bought them. I wish we didn't feel the need to excuse our rationale away. 

Bottom line, none of us are built the same. We are all shapes and sizes, we all have different metabolisms, we all put weight in different places and our bodies are all certainly going to show signs of the pregnancy in drastically different ways. Holding onto some average concept of when it's okay to call it a bump and not a blump seems so discouraging. 

I'm sorry if this comes off preachy, I'm really not trying to be a snot about it. It's just been in the back of my mind while on these boards for a bit and I wanted to float that thought out here. Here's a cupcake for bothering to read my page long post. 

YAS!

muybueno

@HomeyDontPlayThat I've said basically the same thing in previous posts- I couldn't agree more. It's all pregnancy related and there's no "magic moment" when it goes from bloat to bump.