UO Thursday | 4.7

ShallowSeas

You got them,  let's hear them!

grannysmith912

I can start! I have a feeling this won't be too unpopular in this board (I could be wrong), but judging from my Facebook feed it's at least unpopular in the world at large.

I can't stand the cheesy/cutesy pregnancy announcement and gender reveal ideas that are all over Facebook and Pinterest. I understand that it's a super special time in anyone's life, and that it's sometimes tricky to come up with a unique idea, but I'd argue that if you got your idea from Pinterest, there's an 80% chance that it's going to be far more lame and annoying than it is sentimental—not to mention that everyone has probably already seen the same thing done many times before.

ShallowSeas

@grannysmith912
I'm with you on the gender reveals.  I get wanting a cute pregnancy announcement...because I want to and plan on doing one,  but I've seen some that are just over-the-top.  

Speaking of announcements, I'm not sure if this is a UO or not, but it doesn't seem to be the norm so I'm putting it here: We are not waiting until 12+ weeks to announce.  Initially we considered it, and I completely understand why so many people wait that late.  Kudos to those that actually can. I just can't keep this secret any longer.  At my RE appointment yesterday, I had an u/s done and my doctor said everything looked great and if we wanted to tell everyone, we could feel comfortable at this point to do so.  So we are.  We told our parents last night that they could tell whoever they wanted.  H and I are waiting to tell our friends until this weekend.  We bought a pair of newborn Converse shoes that we want to post a picture of to announce. 

Can I also just say how amazing it feels to have this 'secret' out to our ENTIRE families now? H and I received a few "congratulation' texts last night from cousins, aunts, and uncles who our parents told, and its so nice to have people acknowledge and celebrate this pregnancy. I've been waiting for that and it feels good.

DunkinDecaf

@ShallowSeas yeah we couldn't wait until 12 weeks either. I probably won't do an announcement on social media or anything until we find out the sex but we told our immediate families as soon as we found out and after we saw the heartbeat on the u/s we gave them the go-ahead to tell anyone they'd like. We'll be seeing a lot of our family for the Boston Marathon on the 18th so I'm sure many of them will find out then.

DunkinDecaf

My UO is a bit of a running joke around our house. I loathe orange popsicles. DH hates grape (my fav) and we've been having an ongoing argument about it for over 10 years.

MissAmeliaPond

grannysmith912 said:

I can start! I have a feeling this won't be too unpopular in this board (I could be wrong), but judging from my Facebook feed it's at least unpopular in the world at large.

I can't stand the cheesy/cutesy pregnancy announcement and gender reveal ideas that are all over Facebook and Pinterest. I understand that it's a super special time in anyone's life, and that it's sometimes tricky to come up with a unique idea, but I'd argue that if you got your idea from Pinterest, there's an 80% chance that it's going to be far more lame and annoying than it is sentimental—not to mention that everyone has probably already seen the same thing done many times before.

Haha I completely agree. DH is severely against posting any photos of our future offspring or announcing this pregnancy on social media. He asked me if people sent pregnancy announcements via regular mail before social media. No sweetie, no they didn't. It's called a birth announcement. We will be doing that. 

Of course we'll tell family and friends we're pregnant at some point (once I'm more comfortable and less scared of another loss), but it'll probably be via face time and text messages. 

grannysmith912

@SRose109 I love both orange and grape! But at least that way y'all can split one of the variety pack boxes without having to compete for either flavor!

Thewizardofrhythm

My UO is I hate housewives. Make that Bravo in general. I know people love it. My best friends and I are in contact all day on a chat and they talk about them incessantly. I can't understand. I actually tried to watch them on my last maternity leave and I just ended up getting really anxious because of all the arguing. I don't like drama. At all. But I'm also a very direct and confrontational person. I don't feel the two are synonymous. I'm a lawyer, so my main skill is effectively arguing topics without making it personal or emotional. Why would anyone want to watch grown women, who are incredibly dumb by the way, argue with each other like 6th graders?

talkthewholetime

I happen to love facebook pregnancy announcements. That's a UO for sure.

DunkinDecaf

@MissAmeliaPondI actually did have one friend who mailed a "we're pregnant!" announcement in addition to doing a birth announcement later. It was a pretty cute picture, but I still can't see wasting time and money on a project like that.

g8rmama_16

More than just the pregnancy announcements and reveals, I can't stand when someone has a new baby and posts 20 pictures a day of the same shot of their baby laying there and then reposts every motherhood article and meme that ever existed. That is how you get unfollowed with a quickness. 
A coworker of mine (a man) posted delivery shots of his wife with the new baby that included her legs up in stirrups in the background with doctors still up to their elbows in her. Is that necessary to share with the whole world? And while I am all for breastfeeding, they also posted the requisite family shot in the hospital bed with the older son, but she was boob out breast feeding. Could you just do the family picture when the baby is finished? Or save that one for your private album? I get saving the memories, but there is an over sharing line that some people quickly cross. And why are you taking pictures instead of savoring the first moments with your new son?

MissAmeliaPond

@Srose27 sounds like that person decided to do that after pregnancy announcements became a thing on social media? It definitely was not commonplace prior to 2000.

DunkinDecaf

@MissAmeliaPondYeah it was just last year. I don't think they're commonplace even now (given that I've only recieved one ever).

LikeICantEven

I can't watch singing or reality sh*t on TV. American Idol, Dancing with the Stars, The Voice, any of that crap. I could not be less interested. Never been caught up in that. I don't understand the appeal of watching someone sing horribly, dance, run around an obstacle course, it's just not entertaining to me. I can't get caught up in the competitive side either, Survivor, blech. The Bachelor. NFW.

m6agua

ShallowSeas said:

@grannysmith912
I'm with you on the gender reveals.  I get wanting a cute pregnancy announcement...because I want to and plan on doing one,  but I've seen some that are just over-the-top.  

Speaking of announcements, I'm not sure if this is a UO or not, but it doesn't seem to be the norm so I'm putting it here: We are not waiting until 12+ weeks to announce.  Initially we considered it, and I completely understand why so many people wait that late.  Kudos to those that actually can. I just can't keep this secret any longer.  At my RE appointment yesterday, I had an u/s done and my doctor said everything looked great and if we wanted to tell everyone, we could feel comfortable at this point to do so.  So we are.  We told our parents last night that they could tell whoever they wanted.  H and I are waiting to tell our friends until this weekend.  We bought a pair of newborn Converse shoes that we want to post a picture of to announce. 

Can I also just say how amazing it feels to have this 'secret' out to our ENTIRE families now? H and I received a few "congratulation' texts last night from cousins, aunts, and uncles who our parents told, and its so nice to have people acknowledge and celebrate this pregnancy. I've been waiting for that and it feels good.

I hate lying and I hate secrets. This is our second pregnancy and hopefully first take home baby. Because of my loss I really wanted to tell everyone earlier with this one. I told my BFF and 2 out of state good friends right away. We told our families at just under 6 weeks. We planned on telling everyone by 6-7 weeks and then posting on social media (we have a lot of friends/family out of town/state so it is difficult to call/text everyone). However right after we found out I was pregnant our closest friends (husband and wife) suffered a miscarriage. Now we put everything on hold until we tell them first. We plan on telling them sometime in the next couple weeks and then will probably put out our social media announcement around 12 weeks. I cannot wait until it is no longer a secret.

Also I like the pregnancy announcements on social media as long as the person isn't overbearing with posts like those who do the pyramid scheme things (i.e. jamberry, younique, etc.).

For the gender reveal, I don't get the separate AW parties. However DH and I plan on doing a special reveal at 4th of July if we know the sex by then. A little background. Every year our closest family and friends get together at my parents lake house for 4th of July (probably about 30+ people) over the course of a week/weekend. We do a big fireworks show (we spend about $1,500 on fireworks), go out on the lake, hand out by the fire, and just have a good time. As long as we know the sex by then we plan on "revealing" to everyone with either smoke bombs or fireworks. I don't plan on posting it on social media.

My UO: I hate artificial grape flavor anything. Doesn't matter what candy/food it is I am not eating it. I bought jolly ranchers to help with ms and gave all the grape ones to DH.

doraleigh35

@ThewizardofrhythmI am right there with you. I can't stand the TV shows about real housewives, sports wives, kardashians etc. women fighting and being mean/catty as a source of entertainment is NMS.

@talkthewholetime I like the FB announcements too. We don't post much on FB or social media, but I'm looking forward to posting this! 

@ShallowSeas we told our parents when we found out and a few friends. Extended family found out after our u/s last week and we will probably post on FB after the NT u/s. 

My UO is coffee. I can't stand the taste or smell. People think I'm weird. My theory is that I made it through for 4 years of college without it and am surviving just fine in adulthood.

MrsBigTime

This may get me flamed (sorry!!):

It totally skeeves me out when dogs sleep in bed with their owners. Especially big dogs. Maybe those owners are meticulous and wipe their paws thoroughly before they get into bed, but I just can't get over the germ factor. And the thought of my dog fighting for my warm slice of mattress?? No way, Jose! 

lr407603

My UO is using the ultrasound photo in your pregnancy announcement on social media.  I'll show it to my close family and friends but don't feel like I need to show it to the entire world.

TrulyBlessed22

MY UO is kinda along the same lines as @HeyBooHey.  I think BF is wonderful and have no problem seeing someone BF in public or in their home.  I also understand that their is a movement to make public BF more accepted BUT what I don't care for are the photos of Mothers BF their child on social media...meaning my and Family and Friends on there (not viral post as those are different and usually have a story behind them).

Why does my News Feed have to have your Boob in it??  Why?!?  You BF and that's AWESOME but why do you feel the need to take a pic of your nipple in your childs mouth and post it for all of us to see?  I feel like more than anything you want us to see the boob because clearly you can simply tell us your BF instead of putting a photo up of your boob.  IDK, it just bothers me.  My cousins wife is known for this and I have seen her boobs WAY more than I ever wanted to.  If you want us to see your Boob then just post a big cleavage shot like the rest of the AW's on there but keep the BF photos to yourself for your keepsake because I feel like they're not about the baby and BF.  I'm sure many will disagree but that's why I put it in UO  

grannysmith912

talkthewholetime said:

I happen to love facebook pregnancy announcements. That's a UO for sure.

I don't actually mind people announcing on Facebook—we're actually planning to announce on Facebook too in a few weeks here! It's more the trite, overdone posts (i.e., the ones that come up immediately if you search 'pregnancy announcement' on Pinterest) that I was getting at.

TucknBoom

MrsBigTime said:

This may get me flamed (sorry!!):

It totally skeeves me out when dogs sleep in bed with their owners. Especially big dogs. Maybe those owners are meticulous and wipe their paws thoroughly before they get into bed, but I just can't get over the germ factor. And the thought of my dog fighting for my warm slice of mattress?? No way, Jose! 

Especially big dogs? What would be getting on my big dog that wouldn't get on my little dog? 

ficbot

I have one cousin who is not on Facebook and did not hear that we were engaged until she saw us at the annual family Hanukkah party. Baby is due in November and will be here by the next party. Husband is amusing himself with the idea that we'll just show up with it and she'll be like omg, where did that come from? :-) 

my UO is the fancy baby clothes. Unless you are specifically taking it out somewhere dressy, is there any practical reason the baby can't wear the footie sleepers all day for the first few months? When they are playing and moving around more, sure. But newborns?

MrsBigTime

TucknBoom said:

MrsBigTime said:

This may get me flamed (sorry!!):

It totally skeeves me out when dogs sleep in bed with their owners. Especially big dogs. Maybe those owners are meticulous and wipe their paws thoroughly before they get into bed, but I just can't get over the germ factor. And the thought of my dog fighting for my warm slice of mattress?? No way, Jose! 

Especially big dogs? What would be getting on my big dog that wouldn't get on my little dog? 

I didn't say I was rational, ha!

Mksbc

I guess my UO is I don't understand why people care how other people announce their pregnancy or the sex of their baby.  If it really upsets you, unfollow them on Facebook or politely decline an invite to the gender reveal party.  But I don't understand why it would seriously upset you.  It just seems overly judgmental - it's exciting news and I feel like you should just be happy for them regardless of if the announcement is cheesy in your opinion.  

ShallowSeas

Possibly another UO: I'm team iPhone. I've had an iPhone for several years, but this past weekend, H and I got new phones and decided to switch from iPhone to Android to get the Samsung Galaxy s7. I miss my iPhone. Luckily we have 14 days to return them for another phone if we decide we don't like it.  We don't, and we'll be going back to the iPhone. IPHONE I'M SO SORRY I BETRAYED YOU.

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt

I think the amount of time, energy, and money people put into weddings is insane. I cannot imagine spending the equivalent of the downpayment for a nice house on a party.

LikeICantEven

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt said:

I think the amount of time, energy, and money people put into weddings is insane. I cannot imagine spending the equivalent of the downpayment for a nice house on a party.

I was 24 when I got married. DH and I paid for 95% of it ourselves. I planned it in under 3 months and under 5k and I wish to God we had just eloped or put it towards a house. I loved my wedding, it was so much fun but the amount of stress and how long it took to pay it off....yeah. I feel compelled to shove my unsolicited advice down newly engaged people's throats and at least give them the argument to spend it on a killer trip or save it.

We pretty much are both introverts and did the big family wedding for everyone else. I took a 2 hour nap every day on my Honeymoon, that is how stressful and overwrought I felt when it all said and done. I weep that my dress cost $800 and that is considered a good deal! 

We legit spent 5k, on one day. ONE DAY.

tigerfish227

ShallowSeas said:

Possibly another UO: I'm team iPhone. I've had an iPhone for several years, but this past weekend, H and I got new phones and decided to switch from iPhone to Android to get the Samsung Galaxy s7. I miss my iPhone. Luckily we have 14 days to return them for another phone if we decide we don't like it.  We don't, and we'll be going back to the iPhone. IPHONE I'M SO SORRY I BETRAYED YOU.

I'm sorry but I had to giggle about this because I work for a cell phone company and the transition goes both ways. Once you pick an OS you should stick with it unless you absolutely hate it. I've had people switch from Android to iPhone and hate iPhone just as much as you seem to hate Android. I'm sorry the sales rep you worked with didn't make sure you got the right phone in the first place.

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt

@HomeyDontPlayThat  Our wedding cost $500 (for food for the 25 guests and the license. My MIL made my dress, that was her gift to us, and my dad is a minister.) and we still sort of wish we'd just gone to city hall. 

comealongponds

My UO is that I'm open to signing a retroactive pre-nup (kind of...it's more complicated than that) in order to protect myself and DH from our SIL-to-be. She's a bit of a gold digger and is clinging to a shitty relationship for the payoff; BIL has literally said he just doesn't think he'll ever find someone else. Solid. BIL is proposing next week...I give them five years, and that's probably being generous.

LikeICantEven

comealongponds said:

My UO is that I'm open to signing a retroactive pre-nup (kind of...it's more complicated than that) in order to protect myself and DH from our SIL-to-be. She's a bit of a gold digger and is clinging to a shitty relationship for the payoff; BIL has literally said he just doesn't think he'll ever find someone else. Solid. BIL is proposing next week...I give them five years, and that's probably being generous.

That's so sad. What a horrible way to treat someone you once loved (hoping at some point she did)

GreenEyedUnicorn

ShallowSeas said:

Possibly another UO: I'm team iPhone. I've had an iPhone for several years, but this past weekend, H and I got new phones and decided to switch from iPhone to Android to get the Samsung Galaxy s7. I miss my iPhone. Luckily we have 14 days to return them for another phone if we decide we don't like it.  We don't, and we'll be going back to the iPhone. IPHONE I'M SO SORRY I BETRAYED YOU.

Once you go iPhone you can't go back! 

Thewizardofrhythm

ShallowSeas said:

Possibly another UO: I'm team iPhone. I've had an iPhone for several years, but this past weekend, H and I got new phones and decided to switch from iPhone to Android to get the Samsung Galaxy s7. I miss my iPhone. Luckily we have 14 days to return them for another phone if we decide we don't like it.  We don't, and we'll be going back to the iPhone. IPHONE I'M SO SORRY I BETRAYED YOU.

is anyone not? its blows the competition out of the water

therealvday

Eyebrow waxing. HATE IT. It is hard on your skin, usually poorly shaped and it hurts.

I'm team eyebrow threading. Once you thread, you never go back.

ShallowSeas

@Thewizardofrhythm
It really does.  I don't know why I made this mistake but I'm glad I can fix it!

grannysmith912

therealvday said:

Eyebrow waxing. HATE IT. It is hard on your skin, usually poorly shaped and it hurts.

I'm team eyebrow threading. Once you thread, you never go back.

My only experience with threading was in high school, and it was the first time I had the hair removed from my upper lip. I guess the lip is more sensitive than the eyebrows anyways, but lord almighty it hurt so bad! I've never been able to convince myself to try it again. (Now I just do all my own plucking; it doesn't last as long, but I can handle one hair at a time!)

hellopartyof5

@therealvday i HATE threading, its way too painful.  

Thewizardofrhythm

therealvday said:

Eyebrow waxing. HATE IT. It is hard on your skin, usually poorly shaped and it hurts.

I'm team eyebrow threading. Once you thread, you never go back.

me too!

hFab14

therealvday said:

Eyebrow waxing. HATE IT. It is hard on your skin, usually poorly shaped and it hurts.

I'm team eyebrow threading. Once you thread, you never go back.

Totally agree! It's quick, easy, cheap and has a 0% chance of burning you. 

thatlauragirl

Maybe it's because I don't have a daughter, but I see no issue with parents who get their baby's ears pierced.

aquasocks

My UO is that I don't think it's a good idea to post pics of myself or my kids on the bump, I just don't know you people! 

Eta: I don't think it's like super dangerous or anything, but I like the anonymous aspect of the bump.