@steephers123 - So I was talking to a friend yesterday about how I've been on edge for the past month or two and just find it really hard to keep my cool, even over stupid little things. She emailed me an article from Newsweek about how some cat owners tend to have more anger issues due to the same parasite that prevents pregnant women from cleaning out the litter box. She says maybe that's a correlation (I doubt it considering I've been able to keep my temper under control pretty well prior to this pregnancy. I sincerely think I'm having a much harder time with the extra hormones this time around.) and suggests that I keep my cats in another room.
I'll keep my cats, thank you very much, as well as the supposed corresponding anger issues. They're too cute and cuddly. Not to mention, since I'm kind of embracing my inner bitchiness right now, I totally identify with the cats and their attitudes. I still won't, however, clean out the litter box. Blech.
@UnwritteN12 Yes!! I will accept that could be true because, science, but they are wonderful in their cute and cuddly bitchiness! I gave up cleaning the litter box last pregnancy and somehow it just stayed on DH's list of daily chores, I don't know how that possibly happened
HAHA @AnnaS930 and @runningisrad I doubt anything you post is under the category of the "weird" that I mentioned. I actually forgot about the abortion comment but I was alluding to a new discussion with currently 0 replies. I guess I wasn't alone in my thoughts?
I knew exactly what/who you referred to @mom2adoodle and, it wasn't you at all @AnnaS930. The post is a bit weird and I even read it to DH and we were both like, wud? Nothing wrong with it, really. It's just not something I was expecting here I guess.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom I debated reading it to DH too because I just didn't understand. It's not a bad weird, just a "huh?" head cocking weird lol. But I know the intention was nice. I was just thrown off and searched the board for other threads to see if it was a spin off or what I was missing lol.
@mom2adoodle exactly, when I reread my post I thought maybe weird is a strong word, it's more like "odd". I read the title and was like, oh this is a thing? It's just out of the ordinary.
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You took the words right out of my mouth. I hate jelly beans and Peeps. I'm not big on Cadbury eggs, either, honestly.
On the subject of cats vs dogs, I'm firmly in Camp Cat (we have four inside cats and two feral outside cats). DH loves dogs and has wanted one our entire marriage, but I really am not a dog person and he's not home enough to take care of a dog if we did have one, anyway. I love animals and don't mind dogs, exactly, I just don't want one as a pet and would take a cat to play with over a dog any day of the week.
I gotta do some better searching, this is going over my head. I want to have a "oh, that's different" moment too! Must find must find... I have an inkling, but didn't open the post
I gotta do some better searching, this is going over my head. I want to have a "oh, that's different" moment too! Must find must find... I have an inkling, but didn't open the post
Quoting myself, does a bigger AW exist? I'm back to say "oh... that's different"
I saw the thread you guys are talking about, too, and had a "huh" sort of reaction to it. It just seemed out of place, I guess. I've been watching to see if it would get any replies.
My FFFC is that I'm unconsciously overindulging in my emotional irritability. I realize I do this after the fact, when I've calmed down, but I feel so bad and don't like it! Sorry for the long post!
Yesterday we decided to tour the L&D at my local hospital because my dad (doctor) is in town and this was the last tour we could catch before he left. We wanted him there for his medical opinion on what would benefit me and what to ask.
In the afternoon, before the tour, I got the devastating news that my favorite aunt passed away. She was a big part of my life growing up and she's always been the kindest, smartest woman I've ever known. All I have for her are loving, sweet feelings so her death was a big blow to me.
We were still going to the tour until my DH picked me up a few minutes late and, when I checked with my dad and brother, he told me they were at the supermarket less than 10 minutes before the tour started. DH was upset because he knew my dad wasn't going to make it and we decided to take the next tour an hour later. DH and I had dinner near the hospital and told them so they could come join us but they decided not to (even though they texted me that they were on their way). When they called us to say they were at the hospital waiting for us, we went straight away.
After waiting and waiting for them to come to the lobby because they went to the NICU, we called them because the tour was starting. After many rounds of "but where are you because I'm standing right here", we found out they were at the wrong hospital across town. I got so upset that we just left and didn't do the tour as we were only doing it so my dad could come.
I sobbed uncontrollably in the car (I'll admit, the emotions from my aunt's passing were probably to blame) and DH was so sweet and stood by me and even took me to BRU to cheer me up. I didn't want to see them and, when I did, I acted cold because I was so upset. After thinking about it, I feel so sad because I never did flat out tell him where to go when telling him about the tour (even though we had told him and my brother multiple times that we're giving birth at that hospital) and thought that it was an honest mistake. My dad never apologized for missing the tour, he just had a "aww, bummer" mentality. But I feel that there's no way I'd ever act like that if I weren't pregnant.
Again, sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and, if you didn't, can't blame ya!
@mom2adoodle Oh, I know what you're talking about now. I was scratching my head trying to figure that one out too. Not really sure how a discussion like that works exactly.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom - I'm so sorry. I lost my aunt earlier this month as well and she was, and will always be, one of my favorite people in the world. It's never easy. Add everything else to that and it sounds like yesterday was a recipe for disaster. And I think it really is a (mostly) unconscious thing. Like I mentioned in another post, I normally have a pretty good handle on my temper. Not currently though. And, the entire time I was ripping DH a new one a couple of nights ago, a little voice in the back of my head was saying "Shut up. Shut UP. SHUT UP! You're overreacting! SHUUUTTTT UPPPP!". I've done my share of groveling the past couple of months.
But again, I'm really sorry about your aunt. I hope that you find some sort of comfort in the wonderful memories that you obviously have for her.
@UnwritteN12 thanks so much. I do feel I was kind of silly and I tend to lash out in other areas when I'm grieving. I did this with my miscarriage and now again. The hormones don't help!
My FFFC is that yesterday a girl jumped in front of a train here in DC and there was no mention of it on the news for hours. The media was more obsessed with the Trump Cruz beef than what happened to this young lady. Thank God she survived, unhurt b/c the train stopped in time. There should have at least been an acknowledgment for the driver or an update on why she did it, something. It's sad that people are hurting in this world and no one seems to care.
So I have the social grace of a farty rhino, but if we're talking about the thread I suspect it kinda made me wince. One thread on that is enough -- more than enough.
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@AlwaysAuntNeverMom so sorry for your loss. I lost my Aunt in Dec and she was literally my second mom. Emotions are there to remind us that we are human. No matter what the source, you can only be honest about how you feel. Especially as a PGAL sometimes the hurt is multilayered and when mixed with disappointment hurt even more. Try to reschedule the tour when you are feeling better and see if you can make a mini video for your Dad. Hugs and prayers.
Prof=Mom oh wow! It's so disconcerting when you see how people's focus in life changes and moves away from our humanity.
And on the reply (saw it after I'd written this), thank you for the kind words. You couldn't be more right. It is hard to lose someone so close and I'm sorry about your loss as well. I guess I need to learn to deal with emotions of loss better. Great idea on the video!
My FFFC is that part of me doesn't believe the sex results from the NIPT test. I believe the rest of the results and that everything with the baby looks good. I just am having a hard time believing the sex they told me. And before I get flamed, DH and I would be happy with a healthy baby of either sex. Science tells me the test is right. Why can't I believe it???
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Yea, maybe I'm getting a bit more number living around DC but someone commits suicide by jumping in front of a train about 6 times a year or more. This barely makes the news and she only made a bit more news because she didn't die.
Ok, here's my fffc and maybe uo as well... About 6 months after my son was born I was introduced to an expensive baby clothes line called Kickee Pants. Its 100% bamboo, stretchy and super soft. Over the past 1.5 yrs I have collected so much of it from resale sites on FB, sales and some brand new that it's basically all my son wears. I know most parents are like "I would never spend more than $3 on a shirt for my child that's just going to get dirty and outgrown in 3 months" but I don't care. I love it, it's adorable, it my thing. I take super good care of it, wash it alone in cold water, line dry in the bathroom, store the ougrown sizes in well organized plastic containers which is a lot of extra work but I plan on reusing them for baby #2 (and maybe 3) and it's all still in really great condition. And there's a sample sale in the city I live in tomorrow that I bought a ticket to and plan on dropping some major mula at bc everything will be at least 50% off. People are seriously driving from hours away, some even flying to attend this thing. Im so excited
I have spent the last 43 minutes trying to find the post(er) @mom2adoodle mentioned at the beginning of this thread and have had zero luck. What started out as frustration is now completely irrational anger.
My FFFC is I really don't want to get into the Easter festivities this year. My husband is still gone (I will stop whining about it by next week) and I'm too tired to run into town to get Easter eggs, baskets and candy! I feel my kids get too much as it is throughout the year and feel this is just another reason for them to get more crap they don't need. I'm not overly religious, but I'm not feeling the commercialism either.
I havent found the post that everyone has been talking about and would like to read it.. Sounds interesting.
My UO is I have no problem spending extra money on nice clothes for my kids. Or maybe I should say shirts.. They aren't growing as rapidly and tend to stay in their shirts for a while but they wear the knees out in their pants, so I go cheap on those.
I also can't stand my dogs right now. I swear they are needier than my kids. I'm generally very loving towards them but lately they are in my nerves 24/7!! They want out every 20 minutes, they Drag their food bowls around after I've fed them wanting more, they smell even after I just have them a bath and their hair is everywhere and won't go away.. Wow I'm sorry everyone for all that.
Meh, I wouldn't worry about finding 'the post' anymore. The moment has passed Besides, however out of place or odd a post may seem, if it helps anyone or one person appreciates it, is good with me, as long as it's not against the TOU or something disrespectful.
My FFC may catch some flames. I'm getting a little fed up with the PC of "end mommy wars/ moms need to stick together" on every.single.topic out there. Some, I am all for (bf vs ff is a good example of a zone that should be judgement free). Others, like car seat safety, not so much! There needs to be a dialogue. Turning your 7 month old forward facing with a chest clip down by her crotch is not a parenting choice, it's a safety hazard. Also... If you post on FB "Help! My 11 month old won't drink juice, I have to force her. How do I make her like it?" And then add in the comments that you have never given her water... I will judge you. And I will nicely point out that forcing your baby to drink undiluted juice when she doesn't like it isn't good for anything.
I've obviously been in one too many FB comment wars lately.
My FFC may catch some flames. I'm getting a little fed up with the PC of "end mommy wars/ moms need to stick together" on every.single.topic out there. Some, I am all for (bf vs ff is a good example of a zone that should be judgement free). Others, like car seat safety, not so much! There needs to be a dialogue. Turning your 7 month old forward facing with a chest clip down by her crotch is not a parenting choice, it's a safety hazard. Also... If you post on FB "Help! My 11 month old won't drink juice, I have to force her. How do I make her like it?" And then add in the comments that you have never given her water... I will judge you. And I will nicely point out that forcing your baby to drink undiluted juice when she doesn't like it isn't good for anything.
I've obviously been in one too many FB comment wars lately.
I agree. Especially on the vaccination issue. As a FTM and a (soon to be) RN, I will NEVER accept "my child, my choice". No, not your choice. You and your special little snowflake don't have the right to put other people at risk. The pro-disease movement is one I will never relent against. I'm all for informed choice, but it straight up pisses me off when people get on their conspiracy theory trains, and compare their Google Degree to the knowledge behind my nursing degree. I have no respect for parents who don't vaccinate (UNLESS they have a legitimate medical reason, I don't believe in religious exemptions). Absolutely no respect. I think they're ignorant, entitled and the epitome of Western privilege. Unfortunately my MIL has now joined this crazy train. It also irks me to no end that they champion their "doctors" for being impartial and not influenced by capitalism; I go to my doctors website, it has information about her practice, services offered, insurance information. I go to Dr. Sears' website, oh look, here's his online store where he's schlepping a whole bunch of supplement crap. Every natural parenting or anti-vax website or anti-vax doctor website I've ever looked up has an online store. It's ridiculous. I also think it's an absolute tragedy that there's an anti-vax film being shown at the Tribeca Film Festival. Who's big idea was that? Last thing we need is these wingnuts treating their kid's meningitis with maple syrup to think their "issue" actually matters.
Edit: Lying on the couch with DH while I wrote this, he took one look at me and said "you're arguing with people on the internet aren't you?" Apparently I'm a tad confrontational... IDGAF
Re: UO + FFFC
I'll keep my cats, thank you very much, as well as the supposed corresponding anger issues. They're too cute and cuddly. Not to mention, since I'm kind of embracing my inner bitchiness right now, I totally identify with the cats and their attitudes. I still won't, however, clean out the litter box. Blech.
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On the subject of cats vs dogs, I'm firmly in Camp Cat (we have four inside cats and two feral outside cats). DH loves dogs and has wanted one our entire marriage, but I really am not a dog person and he's not home enough to take care of a dog if we did have one, anyway. I love animals and don't mind dogs, exactly, I just don't want one as a pet and would take a cat to play with over a dog any day of the week.
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Yesterday we decided to tour the L&D at my local hospital because my dad (doctor) is in town and this was the last tour we could catch before he left. We wanted him there for his medical opinion on what would benefit me and what to ask.
In the afternoon, before the tour, I got the devastating news that my favorite aunt passed away. She was a big part of my life growing up and she's always been the kindest, smartest woman I've ever known. All I have for her are loving, sweet feelings so her death was a big blow to me.
We were still going to the tour until my DH picked me up a few minutes late and, when I checked with my dad and brother, he told me they were at the supermarket less than 10 minutes before the tour started. DH was upset because he knew my dad wasn't going to make it and we decided to take the next tour an hour later. DH and I had dinner near the hospital and told them so they could come join us but they decided not to (even though they texted me that they were on their way). When they called us to say they were at the hospital waiting for us, we went straight away.
After waiting and waiting for them to come to the lobby because they went to the NICU, we called them because the tour was starting. After many rounds of "but where are you because I'm standing right here", we found out they were at the wrong hospital across town. I got so upset that we just left and didn't do the tour as we were only doing it so my dad could come.
I sobbed uncontrollably in the car (I'll admit, the emotions from my aunt's passing were probably to blame) and DH was so sweet and stood by me and even took me to BRU to cheer me up. I didn't want to see them and, when I did, I acted cold because I was so upset. After thinking about it, I feel so sad because I never did flat out tell him where to go when telling him about the tour (even though we had told him and my brother multiple times that we're giving birth at that hospital) and thought that it was an honest mistake. My dad never apologized for missing the tour, he just had a "aww, bummer" mentality. But I feel that there's no way I'd ever act like that if I weren't pregnant.
Again, sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and, if you didn't, can't blame ya!
Oh, I know what you're talking about now. I was scratching my head trying to figure that one out too. Not really sure how a discussion like that works exactly.
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But again, I'm really sorry about your aunt. I hope that you find some sort of comfort in the wonderful memories that you obviously have for her.
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And on the reply (saw it after I'd written this), thank you for the kind words. You couldn't be more right. It is hard to lose someone so close and I'm sorry about your loss as well. I guess I need to learn to deal with emotions of loss better. Great idea on the video!
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too nosy for my own good...
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I havent found the post that everyone has been talking about and would like to read it.. Sounds interesting.
My UO is I have no problem spending extra money on nice clothes for my kids. Or maybe I should say shirts.. They aren't growing as rapidly and tend to stay in their shirts for a while but they wear the knees out in their pants, so I go cheap on those.
I also can't stand my dogs right now. I swear they are needier than my kids. I'm generally very loving towards them but lately they are in my nerves 24/7!! They want out every 20 minutes, they Drag their food bowls around after I've fed them wanting more, they smell even after I just have them a bath and their hair is everywhere and won't go away.. Wow I'm sorry everyone for all that.
I've obviously been in one too many FB comment wars lately.
It also irks me to no end that they champion their "doctors" for being impartial and not influenced by capitalism; I go to my doctors website, it has information about her practice, services offered, insurance information. I go to Dr. Sears' website, oh look, here's his online store where he's schlepping a whole bunch of supplement crap. Every natural parenting or anti-vax website or anti-vax doctor website I've ever looked up has an online store. It's ridiculous.
I also think it's an absolute tragedy that there's an anti-vax film being shown at the Tribeca Film Festival. Who's big idea was that? Last thing we need is these wingnuts treating their kid's meningitis with maple syrup to think their "issue" actually matters.
Edit: Lying on the couch with DH while I wrote this, he took one look at me and said "you're arguing with people on the internet aren't you?" Apparently I'm a tad confrontational... IDGAF
Done.