So, our family has a situation. My cousin is getting married, and his sister is throwing a shower. There have been issues with finding a venue that is affordable, among other things. I finally offered for them to use my house and even shared the wonderful caterers we use, in order to make things easier. We are a shoes off house, always have been and family knows this. I keep disposable slippers for all guests needing them at the door.
My cousin throwing the shower does not think this is a big deal. But if you were invited to a shower at someone's home, Is it odd to be asked to remove your shoes? Bottom line is, having it in my home would be the one thing enabling them to give the shower all together... But I'm really not willing to allow shoes, I have a little guy and another on the way. This would make my skin crawl. Thanks for your honest opinions!!!
**** I know it's not a baby shower, but still, I know women are brutally honest on here
Re: Shoes-off house for shower?
Personally I wouldn't make people take their shoes off. If I offered my house for a shower I would be prepared to clean the house to my standards afterwards.
ETA if the shower is in a time of nice weather be prepared for people to show up in sandals, in which case they might walk around your house barefoot. That grosses me out more.
Even with that though, I'd probably still be annoyed. It feels weird to dress up and then not have shoes on.
But again, some of this depends on if this is the norm where you life. If it IS, less people will be annoyed. If it's not the norm, then more people will be annoyed and some may even refuse. What are you going to do if that happens?
I think as long as you don't make people leave their manolos outside in a hallway But again, my perspective is that it's weird to wear shoes in someone's house!
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I guess that is why it doesn't bother me to take my shoes off. I have been doing it for so long, at pretty much everyone's homes (even non-family members), that it just happens instantly. I got tired of people wearing shoes in my house and put a simple "Please remove your shoes!" sign on the door, and now people take them off without so much as a word. We live in the PNW, so it is raining and muddy for 9 months out of the year. Add in pine needles getting tracked in, leaves stuck on shoes, etc....and it really can do a number on your floors (especially if you have a little one crawling around on the floor).
So for me, I would find it a little odd to have it written in the invite. Put if there was a little decorative sign that mentioned removing shoes, I would do it and wouldn't even side-eye it. Honestly, even if there wasn't a little sign, I would still probably do it because it is more comfortable to be barefoot or in socks (or tights) anyway.
Just from an outfit perspective - I have a pair of jeans that are super short and I only wear them when I wear tall boots. If I happened to wear that outfit and then found out, showing up at the house, that I had to take my boots off, I'd feel like I look like a fool and, honestly, be embarassed. But if I knew ahead of time, I would pick a different outfit all together.
This is assuming that she's in an area where this isn't the norm, which I AM assuming as she's asking/ is concerned.
Also, I really don't think you can control people... they do what they please. Previous posters have already mentioned people stepping outside to smoke or to take a phone call, that will result in them going outside and coming back in without thinking about their slippers/socks/bare feet being dirty... and thus negating your solution. And if anyone refuses to take their shoes off (maybe they have a reason; their shoes make their feet smelly, they have ugly toes, they have a medical condition, etc.), what are you going to do? Ask them to leave? You might upset your guest of honor by doing that, and then ruin the event.
Sounds to me like you are very particular about your home, and that's perfectly fine. But I wouldn't host a party there, it's just too problematic. Save yourself the stress. There's got to be another venue possibility just keep looking.
I understand this isn't the same everywhere and if it is the norm to leave shoes on where you are then I would either host it somewhere else or clean the carpets after. If someone came into my home and left their shoes on I wouldn't say anything.
Just as a personal aside, I was raised in a house where your shoes came off at the door, no exceptions, so the request would never offend me. I do, however, think that the house slippers (if you're planning on asking everyone to wear them) might be a step too far.
But outside of bad weather, I don't take my shoes off at the door. I wear them to my room and take them off there and then when I'm getting ready to go out, I'll put my shoes on. And like today- we had people over and we were going to be going in and out a lot, so I had shoes on. But once they were gone, comfy clothes came on and shoes came off.
to add- when we have guests over, I"m actually surprised at the number of people who take their shoes off when they come in my house. And I KNOW they don't have an official shoes off house either. It's just more that there's no rule about it and no one MAKES their guests take their shoes off.
Our baby shower is being hosted at our house and we will let our guests do whatever they are comfortable with. If the weather ends up being wet, most people will remove their shoes. We have a mixture of wood/tile/carpet so the majority of our floors can be cleaned up afterwards.
I also try not to stress so much about the little things like having shoes in the house for one day, the really nasty stuff is pretty minute and will likely not kill you or make you sick.
All of this. We are no shoes but I don't ask people to take them off if we throw a large party. We clean the floors afterward. I also have 2 kids and as far as I know they have never gotten sick from our floors