Not a stranger but my MIL just texted me "Dilated yet??"
WTF do I really have to update my ILs about the status of my cervix until I go into labor?
My mom just asked me this after my OB appointment yesterday. I told her, "We are not going to start talking about my vagina," to which she asked, "Well, is your cervix thinning out?" I stuck to my guns and told her, "We are not having this discussion. Period. Now, drop it!" Since it's my mom, I was tempted to just give her the info and be done with it, but I know she can't STFU when it comes to telling everyone, and I don't want people sitting around having conversations about my vagina! Just before my sister had her baby a few months ago, my mom went around telling anyone and everyone who would listen, "She just lost her mucus plug" or "She's dilated to a 3 (or whatever # it happened to be at the time)." I found it all to be so inappropriate that she's getting nothing from me until she gets the call that I am headed to the hospital to have this baby.
For those of you following my weekly saga at home, YES, my aunt did send me her weekly "Are you dilated yet?" text this afternoon. I've never had anybody so interested in my cervix, its so bizarre.
Not a stranger, but my grandmother. I apologize in advance, but this is a direct quote: "I called because I saw on the news that Christie Turlington and that colored singer named their baby Luna. There are going to be thousands of little baby girls named Luna born this year I bet. I guess yours will just fit right in. Unless you change her name..."
Not a stranger but my MIL just texted me "Dilated yet??"
WTF do I really have to update my ILs about the status of my cervix until I go into labor?
MIL asked me this Sunday. Do people realize they're asking about the circumference of our vaginal openings?
I have a coworker that won't stop asking me if I'm dilated. I have to walk past her to go to the bathroom, breakroom, etc. and she asks me from her desk.....so that I have to answer to everyone around that's listening at that point. Ugh.
Not a stranger but my MIL just texted me "Dilated yet??"
WTF do I really have to update my ILs about the status of my cervix until I go into labor?
MIL asked me this Sunday. Do people realize they're asking about the circumference of our vaginal openings?
I have a coworker that won't stop asking me if I'm dilated. I have to walk past her to go to the bathroom, breakroom, etc. and she asks me from her desk.....so that I have to answer to everyone around that's listening at that point. Ugh.
@jessib899That's awful! Depending on how close you are with her, I would pull your co-worker aside and explain to her just how inappropriate her questions are - especially when she's shouting them across the office - and I would politely tell her to stop asking. Or, you could just shoot an email to HR and let them deal with that awkward conversation. Either way, I wouldn't just let it go. You have a right not to be harassed in your workplace, and if your co-worker is harassing you (even unintentionally), it needs to be addressed.
Not a stranger, but my grandmother. I apologize in advance, but this is a direct quote: "I called because I saw on the news that Christie Turlington and that colored singer named their baby Luna. There are going to be thousands of little baby girls named Luna born this year I bet. I guess yours will just fit right in. Unless you change her name..."
Not a stranger, but my grandmother. I apologize in advance, but this is a direct quote: "I called because I saw on the news that Christie Turlington and that colored singer named their baby Luna. There are going to be thousands of little baby girls named Luna born this year I bet. I guess yours will just fit right in. Unless you change her name..."
Not a stranger but a pretty good friend - we haven't met in a while cos we live in different countries but when we text every week or so she would ask - "not long more right?" Or "when is baby coming", when I've told her at least I don't know, 5 times in the last two months (when asked only) I don't expect her to remember the exact date but look at the text history! And she was one of the first I told when I was just like 6 weeks pregnant too!!!!! Just venting. It's all good intentions I shouldn't be upset!
I bought an exercise ball at target and the cashier said "I think I know what this is for! Inducing labor right? It worked for my two friends!" i mean, that IS why I was buying an exercise ball but I think I'm officially becoming an indoor cat from now until baby time.
Changing into my clothes after my prenatal swim class tonight, an older woman came in and asked me how far along I was, and then went into the bathroom stall to use the toilet, and did not stop talking for five minutes about all the complications of her daughter-in-law's pregnancies. I had to interrupt her to tell her I was leaving. I guess she was sweet, but like so many of you have said, I don't get why strangers feel the need to tell you about scary pregnancies or deliveries to someone who's about to go through it. So unnecessary.
Changing into my clothes after my prenatal swim class tonight, an older woman came in and asked me how far along I was, and then went into the bathroom stall to use the toilet, and did not stop talking for five minutes about all the complications of her daughter-in-law's pregnancies. I had to interrupt her to tell her I was leaving. I guess she was sweet, but like so many of you have said, I don't get why strangers feel the need to tell you about scary pregnancies or deliveries to someone who's about to go through it. So unnecessary.
It's like when you tell someone that you are scared of flying, and they proceed to tell you about the horrible turbulence of 1978. Thanks - Not!
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I took the twins to play at a "Little Town Center" type place today, and the cashier said, "this place may put you into labor." Next time someone says that, I'm going to say, "oh, my contractions are already 2 min apart!"
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Not something that was said to me, but when FIL told his mother (so DH's grandma) that he would be our ride to the hospital, she didn't say anything, she just gave him four GINORMOUS old towels.
Apparently, she had some epic water breakage with her fourth and people were thinking they needed to build an arc or something, so she wanted us to be prepared.
It's finally gotten warm enough for the pools to open where I live and I am so excited! However, I quickly realized that my cute, pre-pregnancy bikinis were not going to be very appropriate for my now 8 month preggers body. So, I headed to target and tried on all of the very cute bathing suits they had of all types. Not only did I immediately regret my decision but I almost had a complete self esteem break down when two very skinny and pretty girls picked up a bathing suit that I had I my hands and one made the comment "The official " I'm not confident with my body cover up". While I don't think they knew someone around them was contemplating buying that bathing suit, I literally wanted to cry.
I just went in all bleary eyed to drop off my latest breast milk deposit, and one of the night L&D nurses says to me "girl, you would not even know you birthed twins two weeks ago." Guess this breastfeeding thing really does make the baby weight fall off.
A little girl in the store nowhere near me yelled "DO YOU HAVE A BABY IN YOUR BELLY?" I was a bit startled and so I said nothing. I would have had to yell to respond
Literally just had this convo with someone on FB chat.
Lucy: Yo, is this address still current for you?
[Address] (Might need to send you a birth announcement soon - due to give birth today though it doesn't look like baby will actually come today. :P)
Friend: It is! I love that you send me things. I need to start sending you more things. When do you think the baby will be due if not today?
Lucy: If I only knew, LOL! We thought something was happening yesterday, but it was a false alarm (which apparently happens a lot). Hope it won't be much longer because this 'any day now' business is kinda stressful.
Friend: I bet. It must be impossible to make plans when you could be having a baby at any time. LOL. I don't think I ever asked, but have you thought of names?
Lucy: Not really. We figured we would just call it "Number 1", then if we ever have a second baby, that'll be "Baby A" ('cause you can't call a baby "#2, LOL!).
OK, so I didn't actually say that last bit...but I'm tempted. I'm due today. I have no idea when he/she will actually show up, but, yes, we have names picked out. I know it was just another way of asking what our name choices are, but really. And I don't want to make any plans, I just want to have my baby!
Today at church, a lady asked if I was having a boy or girl. After I said boy, she immediately looked at my husband and said, "Oh, I know you must be so proud!"
I've had several comments along this line.. Even when I'm by myself, and I tell people I'm having a boy, they make a comment about how my husband must be so excited/proud/happy.
1. DH and I really did not have a gender preference. Yes, he is excited about having a son, but I'm sure he would be equally as happy if we were having a girl.
2. Women (aka me) can actually be excited about having a boy, too.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Today at church, a lady asked if I was having a boy or girl. After I said boy, she immediately looked at my husband and said, "Oh, I know you must be so proud!"
I've had several comments along this line.. Even when I'm by myself, and I tell people I'm having a boy, they make a comment about how my husband must be so excited/proud/happy.
1. DH and I really did not have a gender preference. Yes, he is excited about having a son, but I'm sure he would be equally as happy if we were having a girl.
2. Women (aka me) can actually be excited about having a boy, too.
My husband wanted a girl our first time (we ended up with the most wonderful little boy)
While walking around our neighborhood, a neighbor we have never met said "Better get home soon that thing's coming any minute!". Thanks.
Also, I'm tempted to tell people that I'm out of my favorite beer the next time I pick some up for DH at the grocery store, with all the looks I get....
A little girl at DD's school asked me if I have a baby in my belly this morning. She asks this at least twice a week, so I just said yes. And then right before I left she asked how many babies there were in my belly. Just one ya little turd! Nothing like a 4 year old to make you feel good about yourself!
A little girl at DD's school asked me if I have a baby in my belly this morning. She asks this at least twice a week, so I just said yes. And then right before I left she asked how many babies there were in my belly. Just one ya little turd! Nothing like a 4 year old to make you feel good about yourself!
Well hey, my ob this morning told me that I "looked" pre-eclamptic. I asked her what that meant and she said "some people with pre-eclampsia just LOOK like they have pre-eclampsia, you can tell without running any labs or taking their bp, they just look puffy...even your eyelids are swollen". Well thank you, ma'am, you're so very sweet.
@JessicaB0627 I said "well, thanks! You're so sweet". She's fairly blunt, which I typically appreciate, but I already knew my everything was swollen, she definitely didn't have to be blunt about that!
I just went to Starbucks because for some reason I was dying for a Java chip frapp with raspberry in it. I knew I could get a tall and still have some caffeine left for the day and not have to feel too guilty. I've been craving coffee for months so I occasionally splurge and just try not to think about all the sugar in lattes and frappucinos. Anyway, I order and the barista, who I believe may be developmentally challenged, warned me that it has coffee in it. I thanked her and told her it was OK, as long as I don't have much more caffeine today, and she was very friendly and we chatted. Well, I guess she got distracted and forgot the raspberry and now I'm really sad. Gotta give her props though, I'm 39 weeks and feeling huge, and she goes "what, you must be like 7 months, right?" Thanks, lady! We can be friends!
Over the weekend, I bought a couple comfy pairs of capris/cropped yoga-type pants for post-pregnancy. And the lady at the cashier was checking me out and started making chit-chat about how she liked them and blah blah. So I told her "Yeah, I wanted to get some comfortable stuff for after I have the baby" and she looks at me and goes, "...That's ambitious. You think you're gonna drop that much that quick, huh?"
It's not like they were skinny jeans. They were by no means ~ambitious~ in terms of size. These were some dumpy old cropped stretchy pants, give me a break.
Over the weekend, I bought a couple comfy pairs of capris/cropped yoga-type pants for post-pregnancy. And the lady at the cashier was checking me out and started making chit-chat about how she liked them and blah blah. So I told her "Yeah, I wanted to get some comfortable stuff for after I have the baby" and she looks at me and goes, "...That's ambitious. You think you're gonna drop that much that quick, huh?"
It's not like they were skinny jeans. They were by no means ~ambitious~ in terms of size. These were some dumpy old cropped stretchy pants, give me a break.
I cannot believe somebody said that to you. Let alone a retail employee. What did she think you were going to say? "Wow, you're totally right, guess I don't need to buy anything from your store now"?
My grandmother today took one look at me and goes "you look like you gained ten pounds since I saw you on Friday". She then started laughing and assured me it was all in my bump. Thankfully she's the one person who could say this without me caring so at least I got a good laugh with her
Over the weekend, I bought a couple comfy pairs of capris/cropped yoga-type pants for post-pregnancy. And the lady at the cashier was checking me out and started making chit-chat about how she liked them and blah blah. So I told her "Yeah, I wanted to get some comfortable stuff for after I have the baby" and she looks at me and goes, "...That's ambitious. You think you're gonna drop that much that quick, huh?"
It's not like they were skinny jeans. They were by no means ~ambitious~ in terms of size. These were some dumpy old cropped stretchy pants, give me a break.
that is offensive! and her point of expertise was.....?
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I definitely had some obnoxious guy yell out of their car at me today - 'So when are you due? Next Tuesday?' in kind of a rude tone. Probably bc I was walking into Target and god forbid he had to stop for a few extra seconds while I crossed the road. Not that the guy was too far off on the date, I just thought it was pretty irritating that sometime actually thought it appropriate to yell out their car at me.
Over the weekend, I bought a couple comfy pairs of capris/cropped yoga-type pants for post-pregnancy. And the lady at the cashier was checking me out and started making chit-chat about how she liked them and blah blah. So I told her "Yeah, I wanted to get some comfortable stuff for after I have the baby" and she looks at me and goes, "...That's ambitious. You think you're gonna drop that much that quick, huh?"
It's not like they were skinny jeans. They were by no means ~ambitious~ in terms of size. These were some dumpy old cropped stretchy pants, give me a break.
What...the.... Major props to you for the fact that security WASN'T called.
I cannot believe somebody said that to you. Let alone a retail employee. What did she think you were going to say? "Wow, you're totally right, guess I don't need to buy anything from your store now"?
(I mean, they were from the clearance rack of JCPenney, BUT STILL! lol)
Not strangers, but my coworkers each told me yesterday that they were shocked that I still came to work yesterday- they were apparently all sure LO would arrive over the weekend (due 1 week from today). Of course, they've also told me the specific dates they all want me here through so they don't have extra work on their plates this month.
Over the weekend, I met a friend for lunch. When I told her how far along I was (dilated, effaced, etc), she practically jumped from the table, visibly concerned. She told me she didn't feel comfortable being there with me when I could go into labor any second... Yeah, no kid here yet!
Re: Comments from Strangers Thread
me: about a week and a half.
stranger in elevator: well in that case you look good.
"I called because I saw on the news that Christie Turlington and that colored singer named their baby Luna. There are going to be thousands of little baby girls named Luna born this year I bet. I guess yours will just fit right in. Unless you change her name..."
What is it with people?!
Totally odd but it made my day.
i mean, that IS why I was buying an exercise ball but I think I'm officially becoming an indoor cat from now until baby time.
It's like when you tell someone that you are scared of flying, and they proceed to tell you about the horrible turbulence of 1978. Thanks - Not!
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
It took everything inside of me not to say, "I could say the same about you."
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Apparently, she had some epic water breakage with her fourth and people were thinking they needed to build an arc or something, so she wanted us to be prepared.
Not everyone can breastfeed - Mammary Hypoplasia/Insufficient Glandular Tissue Awareness
Lucy: Yo, is this address still current for you? [Address] (Might need to send you a birth announcement soon - due to give birth today though it doesn't look like baby will actually come today. :P)
Lucy: Not really. We figured we would just call it "Number 1", then if we ever have a second baby, that'll be "Baby A" ('cause you can't call a baby "#2, LOL!).
OK, so I didn't actually say that last bit...but I'm tempted. I'm due today. I have no idea when he/she will actually show up, but, yes, we have names picked out. I know it was just another way of asking what our name choices are, but really. And I don't want to make any plans, I just want to have my baby!
Not everyone can breastfeed - Mammary Hypoplasia/Insufficient Glandular Tissue Awareness
I've had several comments along this line.. Even when I'm by myself, and I tell people I'm having a boy, they make a comment about how my husband must be so excited/proud/happy.
1. DH and I really did not have a gender preference. Yes, he is excited about having a son, but I'm sure he would be equally as happy if we were having a girl.
2. Women (aka me) can actually be excited about having a boy, too.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
While walking around our neighborhood, a neighbor we have never met said "Better get home soon that thing's coming any minute!". Thanks.
Also, I'm tempted to tell people that I'm out of my favorite beer the next time I pick some up for DH at the grocery store, with all the looks I get....
It's not like they were skinny jeans. They were by no means ~ambitious~ in terms of size. These were some dumpy old cropped stretchy pants, give me a break.
I cannot believe somebody said that to you. Let alone a retail employee. What did she think you were going to say? "Wow, you're totally right, guess I don't need to buy anything from your store now"?
that is offensive! and her point of expertise was.....?
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Major props to you for the fact that security WASN'T called.
(I mean, they were from the clearance rack of JCPenney, BUT STILL! lol)
Over the weekend, I met a friend for lunch. When I told her how far along I was (dilated, effaced, etc), she practically jumped from the table, visibly concerned. She told me she didn't feel comfortable being there with me when I could go into labor any second... Yeah, no kid here yet!