@LadySamLady I'm in the same boat! My SO is totally fine with it but I'm weirded out by it. He says it's not that much different than DTD, but I beg to differ. I feel awkward and uncomfortable.
Ugh my OB recommended perineal massage at my appointment yesterday. I can barely reach to wipe after I pee, there is no way I can reach to do it but I feel awkward about having my H do it. He's being really kind and willing to do whatever he possibly can to help but I just can't. Am I being silly?
I showed DH the video on how to do perineal massage and he gave me the most horrified look! I'm not going to make him do that and I definitely can't do it myself. I didn't with DD either, so I'm just going to cross my fingers that I don't tear horribly!
Just throwing it out there that I kinda dislike April Fools Day. I have a tendency to be naive about pretty much everything. I just got an email at work which if true kinda sucks, but if not it would kinda be a really good April Fools joke since it's been joked about before.
Of course no one on my team wants to ask if said email is a joke or real and I'm certainly not... So now I have to wait till Monday to see.
I hate April Fools Day. Someone posted on Facebook that they won the Publishers Clearing House $7000 a week for life and I almost cried. Because I'm supposed to win. Wtf is wrong with me?! Lol
@ladysamlady, I feel the same. I cant ask DH to do that. It is too clinical. I feel like a lot of the romance has already been killed during this pregnancy (how many times can I just let a fart rip in front of this man before I loose any sex appeal to him)... so asking him to do anything like that is just a step too far for me.
Yep, I tried having DH help me with the massage last pregnancy and it felt so awkward and clinical to me...I think he was trying to make it more like sexy-time, but it just made it worse and I ended up laughing instead. I can't be touched there while laughing, so that was the end of that and I reached the best I could myself in the shower.
Okay I just got done saying I hated April Fools, but I texted my sister (who is due May 1st) & said, "I either just peed myself like crazy or my water just broke.." & she said "omg what does it smell like? I'll come down and smell it if you want me to".....?!?! WTF. hahaha
Ugh my OB recommended perineal massage at my appointment yesterday. I can barely reach to wipe after I pee, there is no way I can reach to do it but I feel awkward about having my H do it. He's being really kind and willing to do whatever he possibly can to help but I just can't. Am I being silly?
I showed DH the video on how to do perineal massage and he gave me the most horrified look! I'm not going to make him do that and I definitely can't do it myself. I didn't with DD either, so I'm just going to cross my fingers that I don't tear horribly!
*QBF*
I'm taking the cross my fingers approach with tearing, too. Good luck to us!
I broke down and asked MH to shave my private area because it was just too much for me to handle. So I am no longer a hippy dippy hairy lady. I shaved my arm pits and then as much of my legs as I could. But, yeah, having MH take care of the downstairs was super weird, mostly because he got totally serious about it and was asking what "style" I wanted like I was at some fancy salon. I busted out laughing and said he's the only one (other than my OB) who is going to see it so he can do whatever he wants. He got this super mischievous look on his face, but honestly I don't care. It feels fine and my OB didn't say anything during the swab for Group B strep so I assume he didn't do anything too funky.
So apparently someone went around my neighborhood late last night or early this morning including our street and burglarized 10 different cars. So everyone in the neighborhood has been alerted to keep an eye out for suspicious activity in the neighborhood. It's kind of disconcerting bc I'm assuming they just went up and down the street looking for open cars and they probably tried ours. I kinda feel violated a little bit about it. Not to mention I have the weirdest sleep cycle lately and took the dog out to go to the bathroom real quick at like 2 this morning and even though I didn't, I could have potentially crossed paths with this person.
DH saw the notice we got from the HOA and said I'm now officially off dog bathroom duty. Kinda glad bc I'm certainly creeped out.
Pascal86 so there with u. My midwife always gives me a sample pot the size of a pen.... I'm sure she laughs her head off each time she says " I would like a sample of urine today".... No u don't, u just want me to pee all over myself..... I need a bloody bucket!!!!
@dsmith211 That's awful-- I'm glad you're off of bathroom duty though! At our previous residence, my car was broken into...it definitely makes you feel violated.
So...anyone else worried they won't fit much longer? (Don't worry, I was parked when I snapped this earlier and not driving.) I have about a finger's width of space after LO's latest spurt.
@ladysamlady, I feel the same. I cant ask DH to do that. It is too clinical. I feel like a lot of the romance has already been killed during this pregnancy (how many times can I just let a fart rip in front of this man before I loose any sex appeal to him)... so asking him to do anything like that is just a step too far for me.
Yeah, I think you are right in the "clinical" part of it. DH said he would do it, but I would almost feel more comfortable with a doctor doing it. What happens after? Do you then switch to sexy-time from clinical-time? Has someone had their S/O do this for them and how did you manage it?
So...anyone else worried they won't fit much longer? (Don't worry, I was parked when I snapped this earlier and not driving.) I have about a finger's width of space after LO's latest spurt.
I just had a meeting in a classroom and the chairs were bolted to the ground. I had to SQUEEZE in behind the table because I couldn't scoot the chair back. I felt soooooo awkward! I was able to adjust the chair up and down, so I put it way down so my belly could jut out under the table, but then at the meeting I was sitting several inches below everyone else. I felt like an adult in a kids' chair at an awkward family dinner!
Maybaby0519
Just curious why you'd decline the post-delivery pitocin? I can understand refusing pit during labor, but I am not sure of your rationale after delivery? Not judging here - your body, your choice!!
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Maybaby0519
Just curious why you'd decline the post-delivery pitocin? I can understand refusing pit during labor, but I am not sure of your rationale after delivery? Not judging here - your body, your choice!!
I agree. It is common practice with my doctor because it greatly reduces the risk of hemorrhage.
Maybaby0519
Just curious why you'd decline the post-delivery pitocin? I can understand refusing pit during labor, but I am not sure of your rationale after delivery? Not judging here - your body, your choice!!
I agree. It is common practice with my doctor because it greatly reduces the risk of hemorrhage.
This. I'm delivering at a birthing center and while they won't give it to induce, they will give it to deliver the placenta after if it doesn't come on it's own in a timely manner since the risk of possible infection or hemorrhaging goes up the longer you wait. Hearing that was enough for me to make my choice.
You can always ask for pit to be given IM rather than through the IV if that is what is bothering you. My sister was considering this option because she doesn't like to be "hooked up to anything".
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
@JennyS86@jessicab0627 I'm pretty stubborn and it partially has to do with the fact I don't want to be hooked up but also because it makes me feel like I'm being rushed. If things aren't progressing and I'm having problems delivering it I totally understand receiving pitocin. I know it is common practice these days, but unless it's medically necessary I would prefer to go without. I did agree to having a port put in just in case and if my dr feels the need I won't resist or argue, I just have my mind set on certain things. Mind you, I may change my mind because it was the first time it had been brought to my attention that it is now common practice to administer this after baby is here.
So...anyone else worried they won't fit much longer? (Don't worry, I was parked when I snapped this earlier and not driving.) I have about a finger's width of space after LO's latest spurt.
I was feeling the same way until I readjusted my steering wheel the other day. I just realized that it is telescoping (so it moves back and forward, not just up and down) - which is convenient right now with my ever-growing belly. The problem is that, even though I have plenty of room for my bump, I can barely reach the steering wheel with it pushed all the way in now. I feel like a T-Rex with short arms! I need some of those pole grabber things to drive with!
Not sure where else to ask this but have any STMs out there used Bamboobies nursing pads? If so, did you like them?
@LadySamLady I love Bamboobies!! I thought I would just use disposables, but they hurt, felt nasty, and I hated them. When I switched over to these it was so much better. I had to switch them out multiple times a day though in the very beginning, so you should get several pairs to get you through the day.
Not sure where else to ask this but have any STMs out there used Bamboobies nursing pads? If so, did you like them?
I want to know this too!!
Not a STM...but a FTM 10 days removed. Granted I haven't tried any others but I liked the first pair I got enough to order some more. I do find they tend to slip a bit if I am wearing them with just a cami, but in a more structured bra they stay put. They are really soft and I don't ever notice them.
Today I went to the craft/ fabric store and brough DH along (something I usually avoid). I needed to buy fabric to cut and make cloth wipes for LO. DH picked out Patriots fabric and at first I had no clue why. Until he explained that he wanted to make sure his daughter knew right away that in Indy we wipe ass with Tom Brady. He's so excited to change diapers now!
I have nothing of importance to add here other than to ask why the heck are there so many threads about random crap when we have a 'random' thread? Losing my mind
I don't think there is anyway around the random posts. A lot of people seem to not visit frequently and just post their question without even realizing there is this random thread.
I think the difference is not so much in what gets posted but in what you want your post to do. Because everything is random, right? So unless this is the only thread that anyone ever posts in, someone is always going to be posting something out there that could plausibly also go in here.
If you want to start a focused conversation, for instance, this is probably not the best place to do it. If you're soliciting quick opinions, or just want to make a random comment, then this thread is fine.
Also, if you want your post to get more attention it seems best to put it on the main page.
Maybe I've been thinking about this too much, but when the "Everything Random" thread was initially posted, I was like, "So what's the main board for?" and I've been thinking about it ever since:)
Ugh my OB recommended perineal massage at my appointment yesterday. I can barely reach to wipe after I pee, there is no way I can reach to do it but I feel awkward about having my H do it. He's being really kind and willing to do whatever he possibly can to help but I just can't. Am I being silly?
I don't think you're silly for feeling awkward about that BUT I don't think it's weird for you to ask him to give you a hand (couldn't resist). I couldn't imagine having to do those massages!! I'm in your struggling to wipe club for sure!
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
I've started doing perineal massages as part of my post-bath routine (after getting out of the tub, before getting dressed). I find it easiest to lie on my back, stick my legs in the air, and reach around my butt. I would never in a million years ask my husband to help; few things make me squeamish, but that's one where just resigning myself to the tearing seems almost less bad.
Anyway, so far it's been, uh, interesting. I'm not really sold on this making a difference yet (it sure doesn't feel like it will), but I just started, so I guess we'll see.
I'm gonna talk to my dr on Monday about perineal massage. I just know it's one of those things I'll do once them never think of again. Like kiegels...
Im nervous about Mondays appt. I think it's time for the strep b test and I DO NOT want a swab in my butt!! I hope she doesn't try to slip it in there like my college boyfriend tried once. I smacked him so hard. I really don't want to have to smack my dr too
I'm gonna talk to my dr on Monday about perineal massage. I just know it's one of those things I'll do once them never think of again. Like kiegels...
Im nervous about Mondays appt. I think it's time for the strep b test and I DO NOT want a swab in my butt!! I hope she doesn't try to slip it in there like my college boyfriend tried once. I smacked him so hard. I really don't want to have to smack my dr too
The strep b(utt) swab isn't too bad. They barely get the innards.
Don't worry about the Strep B test, y'all. They barely put it in your butt at all (at least, my doctor didn't) Less invasive than wiping your own butt, IMHO. It was a few inches into the vagina and then a quick wipe of the butthole. No big deal.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
I hate April Fools Day. Someone posted on Facebook that they won the Publishers Clearing House $7000 a week for life and I almost cried. Because I'm supposed to win. Wtf is wrong with me?! Lol
I broke down and asked MH to shave my private area because it was just too much for me to handle. So I am no longer a hippy dippy hairy lady. I shaved my arm pits and then as much of my legs as I could. But, yeah, having MH take care of the downstairs was super weird, mostly because he got totally serious about it and was asking what "style" I wanted like I was at some fancy salon. I busted out laughing and said he's the only one (other than my OB) who is going to see it so he can do whatever he wants. He got this super mischievous look on his face, but honestly I don't care. It feels fine and my OB didn't say anything during the swab for Group B strep so I assume he didn't do anything too funky.
DH saw the notice we got from the HOA and said I'm now officially off dog bathroom duty. Kinda glad bc I'm certainly creeped out.
DS: Born 5-17-16
I just had a meeting in a classroom and the chairs were bolted to the ground. I had to SQUEEZE in behind the table because I couldn't scoot the chair back. I felt soooooo awkward! I was able to adjust the chair up and down, so I put it way down so my belly could jut out under the table, but then at the meeting I was sitting several inches below everyone else. I felt like an adult in a kids' chair at an awkward family dinner!
DS: Born 5-17-16
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
My sister was considering this option because she doesn't like to be "hooked up to anything".
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I was feeling the same way until I readjusted my steering wheel the other day. I just realized that it is telescoping (so it moves back and forward, not just up and down) - which is convenient right now with my ever-growing belly. The problem is that, even though I have plenty of room for my bump, I can barely reach the steering wheel with it pushed all the way in now. I feel like a T-Rex with short arms! I need some of those pole grabber things to drive with!
He's so excited to change diapers now!
DD: 05/14/16
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
I think the difference is not so much in what gets posted but in what you want your post to do. Because everything is random, right? So unless this is the only thread that anyone ever posts in, someone is always going to be posting something out there that could plausibly also go in here.
If you want to start a focused conversation, for instance, this is probably not the best place to do it. If you're soliciting quick opinions, or just want to make a random comment, then this thread is fine.
Also, if you want your post to get more attention it seems best to put it on the main page.
Maybe I've been thinking about this too much, but when the "Everything Random" thread was initially posted, I was like, "So what's the main board for?" and I've been thinking about it ever since:)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Anyway, so far it's been, uh, interesting. I'm not really sold on this making a difference yet (it sure doesn't feel like it will), but I just started, so I guess we'll see.
Im nervous about Mondays appt. I think it's time for the strep b test and I DO NOT want a swab in my butt!! I hope she doesn't try to slip it in there like my college boyfriend tried once. I smacked him so hard. I really don't want to have to smack my dr too