UO

TheTamedShrew

It's Thursday, y'all! I feel like the board has been relatively quiet this week. Let's get opinionated!

JennM205

I'll start...this is tame but still unpopular (at least I think so)...

I hate champagne!  My Grandparents call anything out of a bottle "wine" so when we're at Thanksgiving and they ask if I want a glass of wine, I always say yes (duh) and when it sometimes turns out to be champagne, I'm SO disappointed!  Similarly, I'm not a fan of Moscato (if not liking champagne isn't unpopular, not liking Moscato definitely is, at least in my parts!)  I don't want my "wine" bubbly!  My sister says she "loves" wine to anyone who asks but if you probe for details, you'll find she drinks Moscato and that's it.  Not wine.  Sorry not sorry.

TheTamedShrew

This sh*t just pisses me right off. 


I mean, good for you for exercising constantly and most likely having an easy first trimester so that you could manage to keep that up, but do I really need to see your perfectly tanned tits and ass out all over the place? Could you be more full of yourself? Do you even think about what kind of damage this can do to the pregnant woman's body image when they see this? People like this and Maria Kang and this woman just annoy me so much. Why is a six pack your major priority during your pregnancy?

My point is, I'm not hating on all the #fitmoms and #fitpregos, but your pictures should promote your healthy lifestyle, not your lingerie or your abnormal amount of muscle tone.

Themaritimemama

I love Justin Bieber... And his new album is the bomb. 

@JennM205I am 100% a moscato girl... I don't really like "real" wine! Haha

JennM205

@Themaritimemama You go for your Moscato, girl!  (Well, in 8 or so months, anyway...)  Just as long as we're clear there's a difference between Moscato and wine. 

vampirina

@JennM205 WHAT?! You hate champagne?! I cannot.

I too hate moscato. I like sweet wines, but moscato always has an ugly syrup note to it that is just disgusting. Luckily for me, moscato isn't really popular among my friends - the white wine drinkers tend to stick to reisling (my fav), pinot grigio and occasionally sauvignon blanc. We have one lady in our circle who drinks Chardonnay, but she is the only one. I will admit that I'm pretty particular about my champagnes - I will not drink Andre's  or Cooks or any of the other ultra cheaper ones, and I'm also not a fan of anything extra-dry unless it's part of a champagne cocktail.

My UO (which may or may not be unpopular...)

Is that I actually like when my husband says "we're pregnant." Before I was pregnant it always bothered me. Like no, you, a man, are not burdened with creating and carrying a baby to full term. You do not have to give up alcohol, and roller coasters, and smoking cigars and anything else "fun." You do not have to deal with crazy food aversions/cravings or severe nausea or fatigue.

But once I was pregnant, hearing him say "we" made me feel like I was less alone in the pregnancy. And that if I was exhausted maybe he was too because he's expending so much more energy to take care of me (seriously, DH has stepped it up in terms of chores and errands lately!) And now I love it when he says "we're pregnant" because he's part of the experience, too, even if his experience is different from mine.

PSUBecky23

TheTamedShrew said:

This sh*t just pisses me right off. 


I mean, good for you for exercising constantly and most likely having an easy first trimester so that you could manage to keep that up, but do I really need to see your perfectly tanned tits and ass out all over the place? Could you be more full of yourself? Do you even think about what kind of damage this can do to the pregnant woman's body image when they see this? People like this and Maria Kang and this woman just annoy me so much. Why is a six pack your major priority during your pregnancy?

My point is, I'm not hating on all the #fitmoms and #fitpregos, but your pictures should promote your healthy lifestyle, not your lingerie or your abnormal amount of muscle tone.

Meh, I say good for her. Her priority is a healthy lifestyle. Who are we to judge?

618mom22boys

I've tried wine once in my life and it was nasty.  Hand me a Bud light, Budweiser, or even better the new root beer beers and I am good to go. 

TheTamedShrew

Is that her priority though? Because she could've instagrammed her meal choices, her abdominal workouts, or photographed her toned body in a tasteful outfit. That would be far more motivating to moms who are trying to live healthier rather than focusing on her boobs and the lack of cellulite and stretch marks because of her perfect genes.

camichael84

My UO is that I can't stand when people use euphemisms for the correct terminology of words like "sex, penis, and vagina". I'm speaking of message boards in particular, with the term "baby dancing" being my most disliked. I get that not everyone wants to use those words in front of children, but we're all adults here. Procreating adults. We should be able to call things by their actual names. 

Thurstobertay

@TheTamedShew Possibly another UO, but I'm also grossed out by her phone case. WTF is that and how is it remotely practical?

wlux

PSUBecky23 said:

TheTamedShrew said:

This sh*t just pisses me right off. 


I mean, good for you for exercising constantly and most likely having an easy first trimester so that you could manage to keep that up, but do I really need to see your perfectly tanned tits and ass out all over the place? Could you be more full of yourself? Do you even think about what kind of damage this can do to the pregnant woman's body image when they see this? People like this and Maria Kang and this woman just annoy me so much. Why is a six pack your major priority during your pregnancy?

My point is, I'm not hating on all the #fitmoms and #fitpregos, but your pictures should promote your healthy lifestyle, not your lingerie or your abnormal amount of muscle tone.

Meh, I say good for her. Her priority is a healthy lifestyle. Who are we to judge?

I'm with @PSUBecky23. @TheTamedShrew, you kind of come off as reverse body shaming. 

Do I look like that? No.  I don't think she is full of herself because she took this picture. 

JennM205

Thurstobertay said:

@TheTamedShew Possibly another UO, but I'm also grossed out by that phone case. WTF is that and how is it remotely practical?

LOL over here!  I didn't even realize that was her phone!!  Now I see it.

noelani42

TheTamedShrew said:

This sh*t just pisses me right off. 


I mean, good for you for exercising constantly and most likely having an easy first trimester so that you could manage to keep that up, but do I really need to see your perfectly tanned tits and ass out all over the place? Could you be more full of yourself? Do you even think about what kind of damage this can do to the pregnant woman's body image when they see this? People like this and Maria Kang and this woman just annoy me so much. Why is a six pack your major priority during your pregnancy?

My point is, I'm not hating on all the #fitmoms and #fitpregos, but your pictures should promote your healthy lifestyle, not your lingerie or your abnormal amount of muscle tone.

This picture just makes me mad because I'm jealous

618mom22boys

I just want her boobs!

camichael84

I love Moscato. It's sweet, so of course it tastes yummy. But I also like less sweet wines. Not dry, but wines that aren't practically juice. Also, I like champagne, but mainly for special occasions. It just seems more celebratory than a normal glass of wine.

TheTamedShrew

How am I body shaming someone by saying they have a perfect body? I'm saying it isn't necessary for her to flaunt it and it only makes it clear that her priority is collecting Instagram followers and not promoting healthy habits. My heart is with every pregnant woman who comes across this photo and has struggled with a negative body image or an eating disorder. She is beautiful, but not a standard that the average woman can hope for. Why not use her power and publicity for good and positive inspiration instead of gaining attention? That's all I'm saying.

mommytimesfour

The woman's body in that photo doesn't bother me as much as her choice of clothing (or lack of). To me, a pregnant body/baby bump is a beautiful and sacred image no matter what your body type is. The push up bra and thong underwear just don't match that imo. I've seen tasteful bra and panty maternity photos that I can stand and usually it involves ass and tits being mostly covered. Sexy lingerie just doesn't seem appropriate for documenting your growing bump, or at least not in a photo you share with the public. 

PSUBecky23

I think she's inspiring.

TheTamedShrew

That's exactly what I meant @JLmama118. I like lingerie too and I have a pretty fit body, but these types of photos are for DH's eyes only.

PSUBecky23

But who are we to judge for what another woman chooses to wear? If a woman wants to show off her body wearing lingerie, that's her decision to make.

AnnaS930

@TheTamedShrew and @JLmama118 - I'm taking it the exact same way. Sexy maternity photos are what they are, but not necessary to go public.

For me, it's not that I think it makes other women feel bad, it just takes away from the beauty of growing a child. I'd be a little weirded out if I found pictures like this of my mom someday, I try to think of that when I post to social media statuses/comments/pictures whatever.

mommytimesfour

PSUBecky23 said:

But who are we to judge for what another woman chooses to wear? If a woman wants to show off her body wearing lingerie, that's her decision to make.

I don't necessarily care enough about what this stranger does with her life, but once you post something on social media or wherever this photo came from publicly, you're pretty much asking for people's opinions. I think over sharing in general has become a huge deal these days and that's exactly what I think this is. Over sharing. Whether you're pregnant or not, I don't see it to be necessary or appropriate to share a photo of yourself in lingerie. Nothing is private anymore. 

diagonalley

I can't stand when pregnant woman use every 4 weeks to make them another month pregnant.  4 weeks does not equal a month at all this year, and when it does it's only one month.  When I think about my LMP and my due date, they are 9 months and not even a week apart.  How is it that someone thinks 36 weeks is 9 months pregnant when there's still 4 to go?  No.  You are not pregnant for 10 months unless you deliver at like 43 weeks.  

camichael84

PSUBecky23 said:

I think she's inspiring.

I disagree. Most women cannot even hope to look that good during pregnancy. Even having a healthy, fit pregnancy most women get bigger than that and many get stretch marks, noticable veins, cellulite, break outs, ect. Women should not look at that picture and think *that* is the goal and any thing less is unhealthy and abnormal. I'm not diminishing the hard work I'm sure she put into looking like that, but it's unrealistic for most women. I'm much more inspired by something like this:


I'm also skived out that she's posting langerie selfies. Whether she's pregnant or not.

vampirina

@camichale84 – YES! I hate the term baby dancing especially! And some of the others are just

marajay6

diagonalley said:

I can't stand when pregnant woman use every 4 weeks to make them another month pregnant.  4 weeks does not equal a month at all this year, and when it does it's only one month.  When I think about my LMP and my due date, they are 9 months and not even a week apart.  How is it that someone thinks 36 weeks is 9 months pregnant when there's still 4 to go?  No.  You are not pregnant for 10 months unless you deliver at like 43 weeks.  

I agree. I have a Facebook friend who did this. And even worse - she had a post around 32 weeks pregnant bragging about how active she still was at 8 months pregnant and gave it the hashtag #bedrestisforsuckers or something like that. I regret not putting her in her place with that post - I was just so mad that I had to close out of Facebook for a while. 

ElcaB

I hate any and all GoFundMe accounts. 

camichael84

@diagonalley I agree on the weeks thing, but I particularly can't stand when some women think that pregnancy lasts 10 months. You haven't even ovulated yet during the first two weeks of pregnancy. It's not even a full 9 months if you deliver before 41 weeks! 

PSUBecky23

marajay6 said:

diagonalley said:

I can't stand when pregnant woman use every 4 weeks to make them another month pregnant.  4 weeks does not equal a month at all this year, and when it does it's only one month.  When I think about my LMP and my due date, they are 9 months and not even a week apart.  How is it that someone thinks 36 weeks is 9 months pregnant when there's still 4 to go?  No.  You are not pregnant for 10 months unless you deliver at like 43 weeks.  

I agree. I have a Facebook friend who did this. And even worse - she had a post around 32 weeks pregnant bragging about how active she still was at 8 months pregnant and gave it the hashtag #bedrestisforsuckers or something like that. I regret not putting her in her place with that post - I was just so mad that I had to close out of Facebook for a while. 

That's grounds for unfriending.

kosmo86

While it's all well and good that she was able to maintain such a great body throughout her pregnancy, I have to agree that it annoys me. I feel like between supermodels, actresses and Photoshop it is already hard to keep up a positive body image, I don't need that when I am pregnant too!


My UO:
I stopped wearing makeup everyday about a year ago. I hated that when I wore makeup I was "normal" and if I didn't I "looked tired". I love putting on makeup but I really only do it when I go out to do something. I don't see the point wearing it at work since i sit at a desk all day.

LakeR2014

My UO is probably more for my DH then this board.   But I am so off sex right now.  Like my libido is stagnant at best.  My DHs is still as high as ever.   When it comes to bed, I'm hitting that bed and passing out.   He on the other hand is convinced that all I need is some 'warming' up.    I'm sorry babe but you playing with my overly sensitive nips and thinking my dry as a desert vagina is going to 'warm' up is not making me love you anymore.   Come back in a few weeks when I enter the 2nd tri.    I feel bad, because we had a really good sex life before the fatigue hit, but all I can think about now is sweet, sweet, sleep and honestly sex just seems like too much work.  

mhilpisch10

I am with all of you on the weeks pregnant!! 7 days in a week 7x4=28 are there 28 days in any month of the year? Those 2-3 extra daysx9 = 22(averaged) Not to mention the 2 added weeks in the beginning.  I'm 8 weeks pregnant that certainly does not equal 2 months. 

My unpopular opinion might be that I've completely just let our toddler come in bed and sleep with us in the middle of the night. I have no desire to sleep train right now. He's cute and adorable and I don't mind waking up next to him. Also, he naps in our bed or the couch and never his crib anymore. I don't care! 

SamiiWaters

I hate hearing pregnant women all "I was never sick...." or "I sailed through my first trimester!" 

My best friend is one of those women and I hate it. My body goes through hell and back in the first trimester (hyperemesis, extreme fatigue, IBS Related issues, etc) and she had nothing. In her words, "if I didn't have an ultrasound, I wouldn't believe I was pregnant."

I mean really?! Talk about life being unfair! 

Also, why does my toddler have to push all my buttons at once?! Why can't she pick just one or two? *sigh*

diagonalley

ElcaB said:

I hate any and all GoFundMe accounts. 

I was the recipient of a GoFundMe when my son spent most of November in the hospital which also meant me not working for that month or the following month while he recovered.  I was appreciative.  It's annoying that they take a percent (I don't think people realize that) but it was definitely helpful to make up for days unpaid.

SamiiWaters

ElcaB said:

I hate any and all GoFundMe accounts. 

I like the idea of GoFundMe. Especially for people like pp who need the help. But I hate that my newsfeed is constantly clogged with tons of them. Everything from "fund my wedding" to "I'm in college and need a car". 

jhems776

This is really for tomorrow's FFFC but I wish my work's New Mother's Room (pumping room) would double as an Expectant Mother's nap room.... I swear 20m would do me wonders.

Tippy05

jhems776 said:

This is really for tomorrow's FFFC but I wish my work's New Mother's Room (pumping room) would double as an Expectant Mother's nap room.... I swear 20m would do me wonders.

You're lucky you have one!  In my last office we had a nice room with a comfortable chair.  It was perfect!  In my current office I'll be shoved in the back of a file room.  It's going to be awful.  

wlux

Eh, I guess I just don't see the big deal if someone wants to post in fancy underwear while pregnant on her own Instagram, popular or not.

she's not shoving her boobs in my face. It's her own Instagram. She's promoting herself on her own platform. She has no responsibility to the public. I don't know.... I just think because she is probably genetically blessed with that insane body that she doesn't deserve such negativity over something like this...

AnnaS930

@jhems776 - Not during pregnancy, but as a new mom I spent a few 30 minute lunch breaks cuddled up in my car resting. I wasn't able to fall asleep, but it felt good regardless

TheTamedShrew

whitneylux said:

Eh, I guess I just don't see the big deal if someone wants to post in fancy underwear while pregnant on her own Instagram, popular or not.

she's not shoving her boobs in my face. It's her own Instagram. She's promoting herself on her own platform. She has no responsibility to the public. I don't know.... I just think because she is probably genetically blessed with that insane body that she doesn't deserve such negativity over something like this...

I disagree. Her pictures are all over the place due to the controversy she created, thus they are kind of "in my face". I accidentally came across her photos in an article that was shared on MY Facebook newsfeed. I'm not following her instagram. I was feeling particularly crappy that day, and just didn't need to see someone's perfect pregnant abs. All opinions, whether negative or positive, are only helping her claim to fame. She was already a well known fitness model with a substantial following on instagram, and knew what kind of reaction she was going to get. Her main goal was to promote herself and start trending. She could've focused on promoting her healthy choices, and been more concerned about how her pictures would affect others' self esteem, and how she could use her platform to inspire women and body positivity. I believe she DOES have a responsibility being in the public eye. I guess I'm just an idealist who believes that all those who are blessed (either genetically or financially) should be more helpful, humble, and less self-serving.