For moms that are done having children how did you know that you were done having children?

chowderswife

I know that this is different for everyone and is also very personal, however, I was wondering at what point you knew you did not need or want any more children whether it was after 1 child or until you had one of each. I have two beautiful daughters 18 months and 6 months and I feel like if I do not make a decision soon then I would be having a third child that won't be a part of their group. I always thought that I would only have two children but I think that my husband wants to have a son and he doesn't have that yet so he keeps bringing up in joking ways that he wants to try again, it is making me think that maybe I want to have another child. So how did you know for sure that you were done having children, thank you for any advice that  you can give?

Sarcasm101

chowderswife said:

I know that this is different for everyone and is also very personal, however, I was wondering at what point you knew you did not need or want any more children whether it was after 1 child or until you had one of each. I have two beautiful daughters 18 months and 6 months and I feel like if I do not make a decision soon then I would be having a third child that won't be a part of their group. I always thought that I would only have two children but I think that my husband wants to have a son and he doesn't have that yet so he keeps bringing up in joking ways that he wants to try again, it is making me think that maybe I want to have another child. So how did you know for sure that you were done having children, thank you for any advice that  you can give?

Well, if you do decide to try for a third baby, there is a 50/50 chance he will get a son. I think there is a big difference between wanting another child and wanting a child of a specific sex. Talk to your H, will he be okay having another girl?

For me, I don't care if I end up with all boys (I have a boy and an pregnant with another boy.) For me, resources are wants important. Do we have the time to give a third baby to attention it deserves? Do we have the finances to afford a third child? Do we have the space in our house? etc.

ginger819

I've known couples who have two boys and wanted desperately to have a girl. One couple ended up giving up after their third little boy, another took having 4 boys before they had a little girl. I think it should be about how many kids you want/can handle rather than boy vs girl. You never know how many you'd have to have to get the boy. 

DH and I always agreed on two babies. I think because we are both only children we wanted more than one, but still have the closeness we had with our parents (not that having more doesn't mean they aren't close, it's just easier to give more one on one time with one or two). We have one daughter now and are expecting another baby in August so we don't know what we are having yet. 

I do get wanting another to have a little boy if we have two girls, but for us we are just more comfortable with two no matter what we are having.