I wont put it on here (since this is a new account to remain more private), but think of it as something along the lines of Matilda, Freya, Lilith. It was female, spelled correctly, it was in the high 600's when she was born, not something that you hear a lot. And sounded a little more like a adult name, than a name for a small child to them.
That's fair. The only person I've met outside family with DD's name was a girl I went to college with. I think if I met a child with her name I would question if it would transition into adulthood well (like Annie, or other ie/ey names)
My UO: I'm sick and tired of all the paranoia out there. Some of it directed at pregnant women (don't eat any fish because it will kill your baby), all women (never walk alone anywhere or you will get raped/murdered), or just everyone (if you don't always leave your door locked in three ways and all your windows locked with all your drapes closed always, you will get robbed and murdered-even if it's daylight. Yes, I had people tell me I was tempting fate by leaving windows open to cool house at night). These are just a few examples. Yes, I understand stranger danger to a point for sure, but I don't think living in a bubble or concrete bunker is good for anyone. It irks when when my family members compulsively share Scrooge articles on Facebook. End rant.
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UO: I know it's not cool to wish death on people, but with the heartbreaking passing of David Bowie and Alan Rickman, both at 69, I would like to point out to whoever is in charge that Donald Trump is 69 as well. *coughs* Rule of 3 *coughs*.
UO: I know it's not cool to wish death on people, but with the heartbreaking passing of David Bowie and Alan Rickman, both at 69, I would like to point out to whoever is in charge that Donald Trump is 69 as well. *coughs* Rule of 3 *coughs*.
UO: I know it's not cool to wish death on people, but with the heartbreaking passing of David Bowie and Alan Rickman, both at 69, I would like to point out to whoever is in charge that Donald Trump is 69 as well. *coughs* Rule of 3 *coughs*.
HAHA...too bad it didn't work out the rule of three (when it came to age), and instead just a bunch of people (of random ages) passed away. Bowie, Alan Rickman, Lemmy Kilmister, Rene Angelil (Celine Dion's husband), Angus Scrimm.......
My UO is that boy's names on girls bother me. For a couple reasons.
First, it's not really unisex if you're only using traditionally male names on girls. You're not naming your son Alice or Julia, you're (general you) naming your daughter James or Avery.
Second, Emerson (and other -son names) and Mackenzie (and other mac- names) literally mean "son of..." Ryan means "little king". (I guess that only matters if you care about name meanings)
Third, and selfishly, boy names are SO HARD for me, and some of my favourites seem to have gone to the girls. I don't want to name a little boy Avery and then have Avery become the next Kelly/Ashley/Meredith/Robyn.
Fourth, and worst of all in my opinion (here comes my feminist soap box) is when someone says "I wanted my daughter to have a strong name so I named her _insert masculine name_". What are we telling our daughters when we say strong name=male name? Why isn't Eleanor considered as strong as Emerson?
I'm with @DobbysSock on the fact that using traditionally male names for girls is not "gender neutral." It's part of the whole culture of girls being encouraged to do "boy" things but shunning boys who participate in traditionally female activities. It's bullshit and until you're totally cool with your boy named Sue wearing heart leggings to kindergarten we haven't found true gender neutrality.
@elenabrent "My name is Sue! How do you do?! Now you're gonna die!" That song always makes me laugh.
You hit what I was trying to say right on the head. I have to admit I'm not innocent of it either - it's a really pervasive societal norm that I hate, but acknowledge affects me to a certain extent as well. I hate this fact, but I would be more internally comfortable with my daughter having a short hair cut, wearing jeans and a baggy t-shirt to school, and playing rugby than I would with a son wanting to wear sparkly pink shoes and a tutu to school and wanting to dance ballet. Granted, I would totally love and support him and let him be who he was, but internally I would worry about whether he would be bullied or targeted because of it. All I can hope is that our generation of kids will be more tolerant of people who fit somewhere outside of typical gender norms and stereotypes.
Alright, you guys in for a big UO? This doozy is pulled straight from my life.
I have no problems burning bridges with my 'friends' who pulled 180's personality and lifestyle wise and then get all judgmental. 2 years ago you were some loser screaming at a dancer in a strip club parking lot because she wouldn't by you a hotdog, and now you've swapped alcohol for Jeebus and workout supplements and extreme right wing ideals that justify shooting black kids, banning Muslims and deporting everyone 3 or more shades browner than your wanna-be Aryan self, so you are soooo much better than everyone else.
Vomit. Stop using your brand new religion to justify being a gross human being. Jesus would hate your lack of compassion, prejudice, and vanity.
@DobbysSock I think it's already happening. I have students that are boys who wear sparkly clothes or high heels or paint their nails and the other kid's couldn't care less. Granted it's a really sheltered Montessori environment, but it's nice to see and gives me some hope for the future.
I think the baby name board is great. You know why? Those women come from different parts of the US (world), have broad backgrounds, and different thoughts. They give you a non biased point of view on how general society will react to your kids name.
There has been countless studies on names and social hierarchy. Meaning a child's name will set them up for school, life, interviews. ... if you care to admit it or not, most of society will hear a name and will have a premade picture of that child/person in their head. That stuff is real. And it effects your kid. Giving them a weird, mispelled (unique spelling) or very stereotypical name has lasting impressions for them.
As for the popular names, that is different. Many of those women are honest when they say 'do you want your kid to be 1 of 7 Graces in their class'?
A name should help them stand out, but not awkardly.
My daughter's name is Ainsley. This baby is Rylan (boy or girl). Im keeping it on the down low mostly because I don't really want to hear people's opinions of it. Internet strangers are one thing but I don't need criticism from people I know.
I love girls with boys names. Ainsley is traditionally a boys name.
Alright, you guys in for a big UO? This doozy is pulled straight from my life.
I have no problems burning bridges with my 'friends' who pulled 180's personality and lifestyle wise and then get all judgmental. 2 years ago you were some loser screaming at a dancer in a strip club parking lot because she wouldn't by you a hotdog, and now you've swapped alcohol for Jeebus and workout supplements and extreme right wing ideals that justify shooting black kids, banning Muslims and deporting everyone 3 or more shades browner than your wanna-be Aryan self, so you are soooo much better than everyone else.
Vomit. Stop using your brand new religion to justify being a gross human being. Jesus would hate your lack of compassion, prejudice, and vanity.
And Jesus was a tan dude ha. people that think that way are disgusting.
Re: UO Thursday
That's fair. The only person I've met outside family with DD's name was a girl I went to college with. I think if I met a child with her name I would question if it would transition into adulthood well (like Annie, or other ie/ey names)
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Someone didn't give the "age of 69" memo.....
First, it's not really unisex if you're only using traditionally male names on girls. You're not naming your son Alice or Julia, you're (general you) naming your daughter James or Avery.
Second, Emerson (and other -son names) and Mackenzie (and other mac- names) literally mean "son of..." Ryan means "little king". (I guess that only matters if you care about name meanings)
Third, and selfishly, boy names are SO HARD for me, and some of my favourites seem to have gone to the girls. I don't want to name a little boy Avery and then have Avery become the next Kelly/Ashley/Meredith/Robyn.
Fourth, and worst of all in my opinion (here comes my feminist soap box) is when someone says "I wanted my daughter to have a strong name so I named her _insert masculine name_". What are we telling our daughters when we say strong name=male name? Why isn't Eleanor considered as strong as Emerson?
Eta: almost put this as a FFFC.
Eta: ugh, words
(ETA: Couldn't resist a Johnny Cash joke)
You hit what I was trying to say right on the head. I have to admit I'm not innocent of it either - it's a really pervasive societal norm that I hate, but acknowledge affects me to a certain extent as well. I hate this fact, but I would be more internally comfortable with my daughter having a short hair cut, wearing jeans and a baggy t-shirt to school, and playing rugby than I would with a son wanting to wear sparkly pink shoes and a tutu to school and wanting to dance ballet. Granted, I would totally love and support him and let him be who he was, but internally I would worry about whether he would be bullied or targeted because of it. All I can hope is that our generation of kids will be more tolerant of people who fit somewhere outside of typical gender norms and stereotypes.
I have no problems burning bridges with my 'friends' who pulled 180's personality and lifestyle wise and then get all judgmental. 2 years ago you were some loser screaming at a dancer in a strip club parking lot because she wouldn't by you a hotdog, and now you've swapped alcohol for Jeebus and workout supplements and extreme right wing ideals that justify shooting black kids, banning Muslims and deporting everyone 3 or more shades browner than your wanna-be Aryan self, so you are soooo much better than everyone else.
Vomit. Stop using your brand new religion to justify being a gross human being. Jesus would hate your lack of compassion, prejudice, and vanity.
ETA good for you for stepping away from that crap of poison people like that spew
They give you a non biased point of view on how general society will react to your kids name.
There has been countless studies on names and social hierarchy. Meaning a child's name will set them up for school, life, interviews. ... if you care to admit it or not, most of society will hear a name and will have a premade picture of that child/person in their head.
That stuff is real. And it effects your kid.
Giving them a weird, mispelled (unique spelling) or very stereotypical name has lasting impressions for them.
As for the popular names, that is different. Many of those women are honest when they say 'do you want your kid to be 1 of 7 Graces in their class'?
A name should help them stand out, but not awkardly.
I love girls with boys names. Ainsley is traditionally a boys name.
ETA: @quartz02 I forgot to tag you.
people that think that way are disgusting.
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