Host my own shower?! (Update in comments)

Uniquewayz

I had a girls night for my last baby... I called it the last hooray before babygirl gets here.. I just wanted to hang with my girls and have good food...
Maybe you can do something like that, either way I hope you have an amazing day! And have a chance to get closer with the ladies...

skruhmin

This is the thread that doesn't end, yes it goes on and on my friend...

sarahufl

ashleyrobertson0113 said:

Yikes... When I started this post, this is so not what I was expecting it to turn into. I was just hoping for some suggestions and ideas on how to still have a shower like event without seeming gift grabby because I really truly don't give a flying-f about gifts at all and just wanted a fun celebration with some of the new friends I've met without pushing hosting onto one of them if they haven't offered to do so. But really? I mean I get that the bump boards are typically snarky and bitchy. But good grief ladies, can't we just agree to disagree about it and move on already? It's getting a bit childish as this point.

I'll agree that the boards are generally snarky but I won't say they are bitchy. That often seems like recourse for those who get responses they don't like/don't agree with and who can't accept it. I know you want to "still have a shower like event without seeming gift grabby" but that there is a catch 22. Don't have a shower, don't mention shower, don't mention a registry. If you truly want to simply celebrate, then do that! Go out for a meal or go get pedicures or something. Of course you're entitled to disagree, this is just my (and I'd venture to say the majority's) opinion.

Thank you for being able to disagree without being rude about it! Haha. What do you think would be a good way to express that I want to go out and celebrate but don't want it to be considered a "shower" and that gifts aren't expected? That seems to be where I'm running into an issue with wording/etiquette.

Don't mention gifts at all. Just invite people to your event.