@cMichelle0423 our in laws live 1 hr away and my parents live 4, our plan was to always call them when I started pushing because we didn't want them to be there, or constantly contacting us. My husband called everyone when I was wheeled in for my emergency c section (fetal distress during cervical ripening at 41+3), no one even knew I was in the hospital because it was an outpatient induction at this point.
Never feel bad about wanting to make the day about you, your partner and your new baby.
Oh I definitely don't lol with our last LO we didn't tell anyone I was in labor until an hour or two after he was born. The only person who knew was my mil and she only knew because she had to watch our oldest while we went to the hospital. This cause SO much drama with my FIL and his girlfriend because they said we "robbed them of the experience". They also found out through someone else that we were at the hospital. My FIL's girlfriends mother works at the hospital and we just so happened to run into her on our way to L&D and im positive she called or texted them about seeing us, not knowing we didn't plan on telling them. My son is now 19 months and they literally finally got over it just a few months ago lol so that's why I have to carefully plan how we handle the situation this time.
@cMichelle0423 our in laws live 1 hr away and my parents live 4, our plan was to always call them when I started pushing because we didn't want them to be there, or constantly contacting us. My husband called everyone when I was wheeled in for my emergency c section (fetal distress during cervical ripening at 41+3), no one even knew I was in the hospital because it was an outpatient induction at this point.
Never feel bad about wanting to make the day about you, your partner and your new baby.
Oh I definitely don't lol with our last LO we didn't tell anyone I was in labor until an hour or two after he was born. The only person who knew was my mil and she only knew because she had to watch our oldest while we went to the hospital. This cause SO much drama with my FIL and his girlfriend because they said we "robbed them of the experience". They also found out through someone else that we were at the hospital. My FIL's girlfriends mother works at the hospital and we just so happened to run into her on our way to L&D and im positive she called or texted them about seeing us, not knowing we didn't plan on telling them. My son is now 19 months and they literally finally got over it just a few months ago lol so that's why I have to carefully plan how we handle the situation this time.
This friggin kills me. "Robbed of the experience?" News flash: it ain't about you, pal.
My honest advice is to simply tell NO ONE when you're in labor, and make phone calls when the baby is here. Anyone who doesn't like it will just have to get the f over themselves.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married 2010
TTC: Feb 2014, BFP 7/14/14, CP 7/18/14
BFP 3/10/15 - DD #1 born 11/19 TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17 BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
@cMichelle0423 our in laws live 1 hr away and my parents live 4, our plan was to always call them when I started pushing because we didn't want them to be there, or constantly contacting us. My husband called everyone when I was wheeled in for my emergency c section (fetal distress during cervical ripening at 41+3), no one even knew I was in the hospital because it was an outpatient induction at this point.
Never feel bad about wanting to make the day about you, your partner and your new baby.
Oh I definitely don't lol with our last LO we didn't tell anyone I was in labor until an hour or two after he was born. The only person who knew was my mil and she only knew because she had to watch our oldest while we went to the hospital. This cause SO much drama with my FIL and his girlfriend because they said we "robbed them of the experience". They also found out through someone else that we were at the hospital. My FIL's girlfriends mother works at the hospital and we just so happened to run into her on our way to L&D and im positive she called or texted them about seeing us, not knowing we didn't plan on telling them. My son is now 19 months and they literally finally got over it just a few months ago lol so that's why I have to carefully plan how we handle the situation this time.
This friggin kills me. "Robbed of the experience?" News flash: it ain't about you, pal.
My honest advice is to simply tell NO ONE when you're in labor, and make phone calls when the baby is here. Anyone who doesn't like it will just have to get the f over themselves.
My in-laws live in Texas, we are in Southern California. They aren't going to be here for the birth, because as you ladies know, you can never be exact with the birth of a child. Am I mad or upset? Not really. I personally think this is best because I prefer not to have an audience waiting to see the newest family member. But, to each his own, I suppose.
@cMichelle0423 Wait, she worked at the hospital and called or texted telling them that you were there? I'm pretty sure that qualifies as a HIPPA violation.
@cMichelle0423
Wait, she worked at the hospital and called or texted telling them that you were there? I'm pretty sure that qualifies as a HIPPA violation.
@cMichelle0423 Wait, she worked at the hospital and called or texted telling them that you were there? I'm pretty sure that qualifies as a HIPPA violation.
@cMichelle0423
Wait, she worked at the hospital and called or texted telling them that you were there? I'm pretty sure that qualifies as a HIPPA violation.
My thoughts exactly. She could get in a boat load of trouble for that.
I worked as a claims officer in insurance and reality is your in laws wouldn't be able to claim under travel insurance for cancelling their trip just because your kid was born. They can only claim if they had a death with a direct relative.
You may feel they are distant but some parents and families are more independent. My dad is european and when a chil is born they may visit after a few days if you invite them but then they leave you on ur own as they don't wanna impose and feel you need time on ur own to learn how to do things.
My mum is asian and in her culture ur mum would come and invite herself over and be like ur maid for a month or more and do everything like take care of baby, clean the house, do housework, cook etc and be like a luxurious maid etc...
Other families would tell you to suck it up....
It seem u n ur hubby would like ur in laws to be there for the birth but they may see it as u being grown ups and independent and they decided that time was a good time for them to travel and thats their right.
My dad lives in australia and i live in malaysia and me and hubby paid for my dads ticket to come about a week after i am due for a week. If we hadn't he wouldn't have flown over. He would just wait till we flew back to perth around june this yr as i'm due in 2 days time.
My dad is very loving but he says that as grown ups, we need our own time and he can always see baby on skype and pics etc until we meet face to face and i am ok with that
Re: In Laws Missing birth of first grandchild.
My honest advice is to simply tell NO ONE when you're in labor, and make phone calls when the baby is here. Anyone who doesn't like it will just have to get the f over themselves.
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
My in-laws live in Texas, we are in Southern California. They aren't going to be here for the birth, because as you ladies know, you can never be exact with the birth of a child. Am I mad or upset? Not really. I personally think this is best because I prefer not to have an audience waiting to see the newest family member. But, to each his own, I suppose.
Wait, she worked at the hospital and called or texted telling them that you were there? I'm pretty sure that qualifies as a HIPPA violation.
I agree. This would bother me a lot.
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Baby boy born 01/2016
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You may feel they are distant but some parents and families are more independent. My dad is european and when a chil is born they may visit after a few days if you invite them but then they leave you on ur own as they don't wanna impose and feel you need time on ur own to learn how to do things.
My mum is asian and in her culture ur mum would come and invite herself over and be like ur maid for a month or more and do everything like take care of baby, clean the house, do housework, cook etc and be like a luxurious maid etc...
Other families would tell you to suck it up....
It seem u n ur hubby would like ur in laws to be there for the birth but they may see it as u being grown ups and independent and they decided that time was a good time for them to travel and thats their right.
My dad lives in australia and i live in malaysia and me and hubby paid for my dads ticket to come about a week after i am due for a week. If we hadn't he wouldn't have flown over. He would just wait till we flew back to perth around june this yr as i'm due in 2 days time.
My dad is very loving but he says that as grown ups, we need our own time and he can always see baby on skype and pics etc until we meet face to face and i am ok with that