Weekly Randoms go here...

splsmama2016 · February 2016

What did I just read?!? And without coffee?? Lol.

WinniethePoohsPants · February 2016

I'm letting my DS play with my phone right now so I can finish reading this crazy thread...

hockeyfan42 · February 2016

@fishwife799 Good idea re: LBs!! I'll be a scheduled CS, but I'd still participate if that counts. If not, I understand.

@NicknShan

WinniethePoohsPants · February 2016

Just finished reading and @NicknShan

Image: https://media.giphy.com/media/tbWkFP5zvuXrG/giphy.gif

That is some serious crazy.

Sydvicious08 · February 2016

They need to sell that story to the soap network. Would make great soap opera fodder!

BabyboyS2016 · February 2016

@alysemciver I held down my finger on the linked and copied it, then pasted it into the URL

HBamama2B · February 2016

Cant bump. Gone 'crazy ladies who bump' fishing. So far into so many threads and just having so much fun/ fear imaging who is the birth buddy. Don't tell me, I want to be surprised!!!

CourtJack · February 2016

If it wasn't for that amazing and crazy bump drama - I would've lost my MIND today.

A massive reminder why I moved to midwifery care vs. that of an OB. I waited for an hour to see the OB today at the hospital. My apt was at 12:45 and I got to see him at 1:45 - for a grand total of like five minutes. I really hope all these stupid tests come back fine and I can just go back to my midwife and her super comfy couch, with 10 minute wait times and 20 minute appointments.

*disclaimer - I know that it's just the way hospitals work and that doctors are insanely busy - not blaming them - I just forgot how much different OB care is from midwifery care (in my case).

**additional disclaimer - this is day 3 of my toddler being sick and me being up at 5am with her. I might be slightly cranky.

HBamama2B · February 2016

I feel exactly the way I did after chewing through The Lord of The Flies book in 9th grade. Just looked up from my desk and realized there weren't gangs of children trying to murder each other.

Sorry @nicknshan that that happened to your group and that your buddy broke your/the group's trust. Yikes. im a bit terrified of the buddy system now...

gray51015 · February 2016

Another random for today, the thought of the "nose frieda" makes me gag... I can't imagine really using that thing.

CourtJack · February 2016

gray51015 said:

Another random for today, the thought of the "nose frieda" makes me gag... I can't imagine really using that thing.

lol. It's on the top of my list! Seriously - trying to get snot out of a baby's nose with a stupid bulb syringe SUCKS.

fishwife799 · February 2016

So I haven't read the link. I've got a terrible headache today and can't focus on it. That really sucks that your lb was bat shit and you had to deal with it. It really is true that you never know with people on here. My experience was all positive and my lb and I still talk regularly.
So if you wanted to do it more incognito we can just do it through this thread and try to avoid all the randos. I could just have you guys pm me if you want to participate. I'll make a list as it goes along. I'll set a deadline (I'm thinking March 9th since that is vday for me and I'm very late in the month) and when we reach that I will pair people up. I will try to do people with opposite due dates in hopes you aren't in labor at the same time. You can also send me requests like someone trying for a vbac may want to pair with someone who has already had one. Or if you are a FTM and want to have a STM. Just let me know in the pm.
Like that thread I shared the relationship can be as little or as much as you want to make it so hopefully everyone didn't get scared away

let me know what you all think and I can start keeping track of it.

fishwife799 · February 2016

@Emztron500 I don't even have that option. Oregon has a law against boutique places. All scans have to be done by a licensed sonographer and at the request of a physician. But I think it's gonna be fun. I will be honest that I thought I saw a ball sack for a second on there so I'm definitely thinking it may be a boy. But I'll just have to wait to find out

MamaNicoleof3 · February 2016

Holy cannoli, you ladies have been chatty today! I want to read the BSC thread, but fear I'll get sucked in

I'm game to have a labor buddy...as long as they're regular and not lame arse drive by poster weirdos.

samsonator · February 2016

Wow!!! I was down for a labor buddy but am a little freaked out now. I need time to process, haha.

My random is that people are annoying me about us being team green! My mom's obsessed with the heart rate and asks me like every other day if we've changed our minds about finding out. Then today I sent her our ultrasound pics and she's convinced it's a girl because she "could see hair" and "the baby was photogenic ". Yaaaaa okkaaayyy.

WinniethePoohsPants · February 2016

@fishwife799 sent you a pm!

VikingGirl12 · February 2016

gray51015 said:

Another random for today, the thought of the "nose frieda" makes me gag... I can't imagine really using that thing.

Freaking loved ours with DS! The bulb syringe they give you in the hospital is the best thing ever but it's hospital grade and you can't buy them anywhere. I accidentally melted it in the microwave so I turned to nose Frida. So easy to clean and gets all that junk out. In laws refused to use it when they watched him as a baby tho...

fishwife799 · February 2016

gray51015 said:

Another random for today, the thought of the "nose frieda" makes me gag... I can't imagine really using that thing.

Team none freida here too. The thing is amazing. I thought it was gross too and hesitated but it worked way better than anything else I tried.

Sydvicious08 · February 2016

Lb sounds fun.

fishwife799 · February 2016

So I've started cleaning up the spreadsheet. I'm not even done with the A's and I have already taken off 18 people!!

catherinekate · February 2016

@fishwife799 Am I on that spreedsheet? I don't remember ever putting my name in a thread talking about spreedsheets. If not, my EDD is June 29th and I'm team green. If I am, then--oops, sorry, carry on.

Can I make a suggestion re: the LB idea? Can we match ppl up by country? I assume if LBs move into texting that most of us don't have free int'l texting. In my case, I've got country-wide and I assume that's true for most ppl.

eta: words are hard

MrsAlliKat · February 2016

fishwife799 said:

So I've started cleaning up the spreadsheet. I'm not even done with the A's and I have already taken off 18 people!!

If you need a break and want someone to help, I'm happy to do that. You are so great at the organizing and keeping people up to date! Thanks to you for that!

MeganF08 · February 2016

This is my first weekly random post but not my first post...I'm probably still considered a rando even though I have participated on the board some.The whole rando vs. regular thing is stressing me out (I am going to blame pregnancy hormones). I wasn't active the first few months because 1) we were labeled high risk and weren't sure if the baby was going to make it (I avoided reading pregnancy books/buying things for baby/talking about baby because I didn't want to to get super excited and then lose our baby) and 2) I work long hours and am physically onsite with clients every day of the week. If I were caught hanging out on a pregnancy forum while they are paying for me to be here I would lose my job. At this point, I cannot focus on work AT ALL! I am so distracted by thoughts of LO and researching different things that I hardly get any work done anymore. That's why I have been much more active recently. I guess I'm just trying to figure out if it is too late to try to participate in this BMB or if there is a general understanding that sometimes people just aren't able to be as active right from the start?

DeePaddy24 · February 2016

MeganF08 said:

This is my first weekly random post but not my first post...I'm probably still considered a rando even though I have participated on the board some.The whole rando vs. regular thing is stressing me out (I am going to blame pregnancy hormones). I wasn't active the first few months because 1) we were labeled high risk and weren't sure if the baby was going to make it (I avoided reading pregnancy books/buying things for baby/talking about baby because I didn't want to to get super excited and then lose our baby) and 2) I work long hours and am physically onsite with clients every day of the week. If I were caught hanging out on a pregnancy forum while they are paying for me to be here I would lose my job. At this point, I cannot focus on work AT ALL! I am so distracted by thoughts of LO and researching different things that I hardly get any work done anymore. That's why I have been much more active recently. I guess I'm just trying to figure out if it is too late to try to participate in this BMB or if there is a general understanding that sometimes people just aren't able to be as active right from the start?

@MeganF08 I obviously can't speak for everyone, but I think there is a general understanding that some people join later, take some time to warm up (so to speak) to the idea of participating on a BMB, & have other requirements that prevent them from being active all the time. I think, for the most part, the randos are the people who pop in just for the sake of asking a question (that's probably been discussed a million times already), and then disappear...they don't even respond to any of the responses they've been given. Or, in the case of the spreadsheet, they ask to be added just for the sake of being a part of something, only to never participate at all from there.
If you feel comfortable posting more & being a more active part of our community, you are more than welcome. This is a really great, wonderfully supportive group of ladies...I think you'd like us!

NicknShan · February 2016

@MeganF08 of course you can participate. And you are not a rando. I recognize your name and gorgeous icon pic

They people that "regulars" consider "randoms" are the drive by posters that don't participate, and just ask repetitive questions.

At least - that's my definition.

I also think anyone can start posting on this board at any time. It's not too late to start joining on the daily threads or get to know people. We are just halfway through our pregnancy journey, but if this is anything like my last board, it will carry over for years after LO is born.

"Regular" posters aren't a group of mean girls that don't allow new girls to sit at our table. Or wear pink on Wednesdays. Regulars are those that welcome people that want to contribute at any time.

That's all my opinion anyway. That's how I look at it

WinniethePoohsPants · February 2016

NicknShan said:

@MeganF08 of course you can participate. And you are not a rando. I recognize your name and gorgeous icon pic They people that "regulars" consider "randoms" are the drive by posters that don't participate, and just ask repetitive questions.

At least - that's my definition.

I also think anyone can start posting on this board at any time. It's not too late to start joining on the daily threads or get to know people. We are just halfway through our pregnancy journey, but if this is anything like my last board, it will carry over for years after LO is born.

"Regular" posters aren't a group of mean girls that don't allow new girls to sit at our table. Or wear pink on Wednesdays. Regulars are those that welcome people that want to contribute at any time.

That's all my opinion anyway. That's how I look at it

MeganF08 · February 2016

Thanks @DeePaddy24 & @NicknShan

Just for the record though, if wearing pink on Wednesdays does become a thing I am totally down for that

Huskerfanz · February 2016

I recognize you, too @MeganF08!

Kballew10 · February 2016

MeganF08 said:

Thanks @DeePaddy24 & @NicknShan

Just for the record though, if wearing pink on Wednesdays does become a thing I am totally down for that

I just realized that I totally wore pink yesterday and didn't even realize. I feel as if I've missed an opportunity!

Random thought for the day: Jumbo marshmallows are the best thing ever... even at 8am!

CourtJack · February 2016

@MeganF08 I think the very fact that you're worried about whether or not people consider you a random-means you're not a random

apologies if I missed a post but is everything ok w your LO now? Are you still high risk?

TunieBee · February 2016

What is this spreadsheet you speak of?

gray51015 · February 2016

OK, OK, OK.. you guys convinced me. I will not knock the nose frieda for now, but I think I might make DH try it out first!

MeganF08 · February 2016

@CourtJack - We are both doing well now, thanks for asking. I had some issues getting pregnant and some very severe issues with my hormone levels right after. My doctor is excellent and has monitored everything very closely and I am feeling a lot more confident now. I have seen some of your posts about your LO too, I hope everything gets better for you as well.

fishwife799 · February 2016

@MeganF08 you aren't a random at all. I totally recognize your pic. I'm glad to hear your pregnancy is going well!

And just to be clear as I am looking through the sheet I'm looking at each person's post history and making a call. For instance if they only commented on the spreadsheet post back in October and haven't sincell I'll take then off. But say they posted then, not again toll January and have only posted a few times then I will leave them. I just don't see the point of keeping information for people who are drive by posters. I spend my time keeping track of everything (not complaining at all) and don't want to do it for people who don't participate. Also on my last BMB we had a girl joint after 20 weeks and she became one the most active posters and I'm still friends with her today. So I realize people will come later too and am more than welcoming.

@TunieBee to the post that's pinned at the top titled "Master due date spread sheet". It's just a way to keep track of everyone (who wanted to participate) and their due dates and what not. I am also keeping track of who is having what. Nobody is required to be put on there but it's fun to look at for many. Once babies start being born we will put their birth dates and names if people are willing to share them. I used it as a reference a lot on my last BMB if I couldn't remember someone's due date or anything like that. A lot of other bmb's do it too.

fishwife799 · February 2016

@catherinekate I will definitely take that into consideration when pairing people. I'm pretty sure we did on my last BMB too. That way if people started texting they could avoid those fees

Just make sure when you pm me that you want to have a labor buddy that you let me know what country you are in.

splsmama2016 · February 2016

@MeganF08 I see you participating quite often

I apologize for my comments previously about the randos/drive bys, and just want to point out that @NicknShan definition of what we consider a random is spot on.

As for my random, I'm really starting to get annoyed with waking up to the front of my shirt drenched..... No, I'm not sweating, I'm leaking.....

crdo · February 2016

@fishwife799: Thanks for tackling this!

GinnyJ2012 · February 2016

NicknShan said:

Ok. Here is a good summary post. It may take a good chunk of your day though. Read with caution.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12275703/jocelynb0911-made-the-whole-thing-up

Yikes I remember that going down! I was on August 14 while pg with DS2.