I think I'll say something at my annual review in Jan/Feb as well. I feel like my manager will be supportive. Last time I told after I had an u/s at 10 weeks. But since I work nights and rarely see her, my next meeting with her will probably be a good time.
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
I work in a private day nursery, and have only been in this company just over a month. I'm afraid if i say anything before my probation period ends (probation period is 3 months) then they wont want to keep me on. And then I may struggle finding work in another nursery. I plan to go back to work very soon after as i can bring my child into nursery with me so I'm hoping they will be abit more understanding. This is my first pregnancy though so i have no idea what to expect.
I had my first in February, and for the first time I failed my wellness exam. Good cholesterol too low, bad cholesterol too high and waist size just over the cutoff at 35 inches. So, I had to sign up for this Naturally Slim program. Now I will have to tell HR before January 18th when it begins. Can't be on a diet specifically to lose weight when you're pregnant!
I have contemplated this over the past few days. I have already told one co-worker, whom I'm very close to. Due to health risks, I felt it was necessary to at least let one person know, since I spend the majority of my time at work. I am hoping to wait until after the first trimester to tell my boss and HR. However, since this is my first, I'm not sure when I will really start showing. Since it is winter, maybe I'll be able to conceal it longer. No matter when I decide to spill the beans, they will be supportive. They are always incredible when it comes to family and health.
Congratulations ladies! Good luck with work!
first time momma -a heart at peace gives life to the body-
I'm in a salaried position, but at this company they treat salaried employees just like hourly (if you leave more than an hour early, you have to use PTO). I haven't really figured out what happens if I run out of PTO... Do they stop paying me? Decrease my salary for the week? It doesn't really feel like a salaried position sometimes because of this.
aw, that's terrible. sounds like an excuse for your company to pay you nothing for any hours worked over 40 but penalize you for working anything under. the flexibility of a salaried position should extend both ways.
i told my bosses about a week after my bfp, at around 5 weeks. my clinic has been my baby (up until now!) and my work is my second family so the idea of guarded secrecy never really occurred to me.
I told my immediate supervisor, and I will tell the company officially after the new year, so we can start planning around me taking a couple months off.
I'm in a salaried position, but at this company they treat salaried employees just like hourly (if you leave more than an hour early, you have to use PTO). I haven't really figured out what happens if I run out of PTO... Do they stop paying me? Decrease my salary for the week? It doesn't really feel like a salaried position sometimes because of this.
aw, that's terrible. sounds like an excuse for your company to pay you nothing for any hours worked over 40 but penalize you for working anything under. the flexibility of a salaried position should extend both ways.
We are similar in the state, we must use leave hours for any time taken off and can only account for actual time worked on our timesheet. However, they do encourage us to count hours worked past 40, so some weeks I work more and it makes up for some of the weeks I work less (within a calendar month). Or if I am traveling for work I end up with a lot of hours but then can take some time off when I return.
I'm friends with my boss on FB, so probably when we announce there. More than likely 11 or 12 weeks. I have an amazing boss and I know she will be supportive. Plus, I need to give her enough time to figure out a plan on covering my accounts while I'm out on leave, as I'm sure she will need to hire one or two more people for our department.
I accepted a job in September that begins August 1st. Obviously, with an August 24th due date, I won't be able to start on time. Plus, with a long commute, it would be too difficult to start later with a baby at home/in daycare. So as soon as I hit 12 weeks, I will let them know I need to take back my acceptance. Not the best professionally, but not much I can do about it now. I also plan to let my current employer know at 12 weeks.
I was originally going to wait as long as I could (DH's idea). But I am a jabber jabber and I couldn't keep it to myself. Been too exhausted and sick, and I would rather just tell the truth. So, everyone in my office knows, but corporate doesn't know yet. I'll wait until 12 weeks or so to tell them...unless my supervisor tells them first.
It's a personal decision and I think it depends on how comfortable you are with your boss. I had a mc in October and didn't tell my boss about the pregnancy before hand. Like many others I was going to wait until the 12 week mark. He found out because I called him balling in the car as I was driving to the doctor when I left the office mid-day with no warning. This pregnancy I told him right away and I am thankful that he knows. Praying for a sticky baby this time around but now he won't be surprised if something happens again and my company has ample time to plan for my maternity leave. Plus he is very understanding if I'm extra tired, nauseous, or have a sudden doc appointment.
I am really nervous to tell my boss because I just started at this company a month and a half ago, and I'm the only woman in the office besides for the receptionist (who is older) so they clearly don't have experience dealing with pregnancies and maternity leave
I'm 9 weeks and change. I told today-we are doing a ton of planning for 2016 (I work in organizational development) so I wanted to be transparent while setting project deadlines.
I was planning on waiting as long as possible, but had to tell yesterday. I'm being verbally attacked and bullied at work by coworkers, I'm worried the stress could cause complications and with a previous loss, I just couldn't take it anymore.
So, I used to think that telling my work asap was a good idea... But unexpectedly today, I realized how nice it was to be surrounded by nice people (I like my coworkers) who don't treat me like a pregnant lady. They just treat me as me; they don't fawn over me, treat me extra nice, or give me unwanted pregnancy advice. They don't feel obligated to make small talk about the baby's sex, due date, or whatever. And, I kinda like that.
I didn't realize how much I had been thinking about pregnancy and, conversely, how nice it was to think and talk about something else. It reminds me that yes, pregnancy is a big deal in my life, but I am still ME with interests outside pregnancy and friends who also have interests outside babies.
Now, I wish I could keep my work a sanctuary from all things pregnancy, just to help keep a balance in my life.
I will need to tell work eventually. But now, I think I will wait as long as I can. Thoughts?
I have my first appt on 1/7, so will wait until after that. I want to go meet with HR first so I can get a better understanding of our leave policy and figure out how long I will be gone. My direct supervisor is awesome and a mother of 3 so I know she will be super excited for me. That said, a lot of my work will have to get passed on to other people in my office and we are already going through a lot of transition right now so that make me nervous to tell her. Don't know how to tell our Director, super awkward guy with no kids...maybe just send an email? Anyways, I am thinking about telling my boss around 10 weeks (or as long as I can hold out) but waiting to tell the rest of my office until 14 weeks or so.
I have my first appt on 1/7, so will wait until after that. I want to go meet with HR first so I can get a better understanding of our leave policy and figure out how long I will be gone. My direct supervisor is awesome and a mother of 3 so I know she will be super excited for me. That said, a lot of my work will have to get passed on to other people in my office and we are already going through a lot of transition right now so that make me nervous to tell her. Don't know how to tell our Director, super awkward guy with no kids...maybe just send an email? Anyways, I am thinking about telling my boss around 10 weeks (or as long as I can hold out) but waiting to tell the rest of my office until 14 weeks or so.
I am in the same bus. My co-workers and my direct supervisor is great! But I have no idea how to tell the rest of the office and our head honchos. Our CFO is totally awkward and I am for sure not looking forward to him walking in here and asking me awkward things... #pregnancywins
first time momma -a heart at peace gives life to the body-
My first appt is 1/15. I will most likely tell my boss the week after that. Our company is very small and they will definitely notice me going to an appt every month. Plus, I've worked here for almost 9 years so it is kind of like family. I'm excited to share the news, but am not excited to go through the maternity leave talk again. Since we are under the FMLA minimum employee #, we really have no maternity leave options. Fun.
I already told my boss. I'm 5 weeks but also go on blood thinners in 2 weeks. I let my boss know so that she was aware she is sending someone at higher risk for injury/internal bleeding into the field. I am not telling my mother until 16-20 weeks. I told her right away the first time and literally ever person in my hometown and where I went to high school knew the next week (she can't keep her mouth shut). It made miscarrying my twins even more difficult because for months after I still had people congratulating me. I had to relive my worst moment over and over and over again. All because someone I trusted had to tell everyone.
I'm 7.5 weeks. I just told both my bosses because they are truly understanding and awesome! I have my first U/S on the 15th when I will be about 9 weeks. My coworkers are great too, and it's hard not to spill the beans, but I'm trying to wait until I'm 12 weeks to let them know. Although, I'm pretty sure they think something is up with my constant potty breaks and mini naps.
I am so torn, I want to keep this pregnancy low key irl this time around. I feel like I should tell my boss after the first trimester so she can be prepared but I just like having this be my husband and I's (and all of you) little secret.
Hoping to keep it quiet until at least 14 weeks after I get my genetic testing back. But my counterpart at work just announced her pregnancy and she is a week behind me. She's been here for years and I'll be here a year and a half when I go out on leave so now that's my biggest concern. It's going to be a big strain to have 2/5 people in out department out at the same time and for so long.
I told my boss today, at 9w3d. I was planning to wait a little longer, but we were reviewing 2015 and planning for my travel this year and I had to tell her so we can start to plan. I didn't know how nervous I was to tell until I realized I was about to say it! Luckily, she was so happy for me and supportive. It's such a relief to have her know.
Ok. Weird question but how did you all tell your boss? I can't decide what words to use. I don't want to make it sound like I'm sorry about it but I do know that my news will create a very big issue as I lead a large team on a complicated part of the business. My boss will be understanding but also likely to panic.
"Hi boss. Thanks for making time to meet. I have some exciting news. I'm pregnant!"
Ok. Weird question but how did you all tell your boss? I can't decide what words to use. I don't want to make it sound like I'm sorry about it but I do know that my news will create a very big issue as I lead a large team on a complicated part of the business. My boss will be understanding but also likely to panic.
"Hi boss. Thanks for making time to meet. I have some exciting news. I'm pregnant!"
I told my boss this week. I had to leave early for a doctors appointment and used that as a segue to tell her it's because I'm pregnant. With my first baby I did a horrible job and led with I have bad news. I'll be missing 6 weeks next November. I was trying to be funny but all she heard was that I had bad news and she thought I was quitting. She was very relieved it was a baby and told me never to lead with "I have bad news."
I'm 11.5 weeks today. I really want to tell my boss next week because im tired of everyone looking at me funny at my client lunches when I don't order a drink. However, my raise and bonus discussion isn't until end of next month. I will be 17 weeks at that point. Being in the corporate world dominated by men im nervous my raise and bonus will be affected by my news. That's why I want to wait until after but I'm nervous Im going to be showing.
Also is it weird to bring up after I find out my raise? I mean it's pretty much saying hey thanks by the way I'm pregnant. Doesn't sound right. I'm nervous.
I'm probably going to tell this week (9 weeks) because I work on the third shift alone and plan on letting them know I won't be comfortable working on my own once I'm farther along (I'm really clutzy and it kind of freaks me out if I fall and am alone) which means moving to whatever shifts they have open on the first and second. My shifts are harder to find someone to fill so I want to give them plenty of time to find someone and get them trained.
I am a caregiver for triplets. 7 year old boys, who LOVE the idea of me having a baby. The job is great and pays even better, so I have time to save as a single mother at the moment, until daddy returns. I told them as soon as I found out because the Dad of the triplets was a special forces medic in the army and delivered 40+ babies. Its really fun because as my first pregnancy, im still learning the process in which the baby is born but the boys always ask me questions almost like a quiz but are basically learning along with me!! I love my job and couldnt be more excited!
I decided to tell my direct supervisor right away, who was excited as heck and almost screamed in excitement. She is really good at keeping secrets (working in the A&D Rehab scene, you gotta be!), so she hasn't told a soul. I also told a select handful of coworkers that are really really close, but no one else. I am applying for a new coordinator job, so I am trying to keep it on the down-low until I find out if I get the job or not. I am also waiting until about 12 weeks, since that is when I am telling the rest of the family (parents know, no-one else). And my friends.
I felt it was easier to tell because then she could be a support whether I have a loss or carry to term. It is nice to know I can take time off I need to for appts or if I am sick. And I have that support for my emotional needs, too. She is a lot more patient with my memory glitches now that she knows there is a baby sucking up my brain cells! And, I am sure she will be understanding & compassionate in the case of a loss.
Funny thing, one of my guy coworkers is like a brother to both hubby and me. Naturally, he was a choice for at-work support/get to know early. He has been checking on me, making suggestions for my nausea/tiredness, and once even asked if my juice was pasteurized/made sure I was eating healthy (hard to cover for coworkers, did the "yeah, I know. Thanks for helping me try to stick to my healthy living lifestyle change" thing). He is that kinda sweet guy to his friends, so no weirdness there. He even covers for me if I need to step away from my desk, too, which is a perk of having a good coworker/friend that knows.
I'm waiting until just before the second trimester. We want to tell friends and family on Valentine's day which will be about 12 weeks and I need my employer to know first.
But I just got a HUGE promotion and raise with a lot more responsibility. I went from managing a team of 14 to managing an entire warehouse of about 150 employees and managers. And I'm diabetic so I'm going to be at the doctor close to once a week. And one of my office staff just announced her pregnancy and we're due less than a week apart.
It's just horrible timing workwise but I still couldn't be more excited!
I started a new job in November and found out I was pregnant Christmas Eve, but I don't think I can hide it much longer because this is my 3rd pregnancy (1 was a mc), and I'm already showing and super nauseated 24/7. I'm 9 weeks now and plan to tell my boss this week. I'm a pediatric ICU nurse so there are certain things I'm not able to do, Like xrays
I just told my boss on Friday (at exactly 11 weeks), and it couldn't have gone better. I was/am concerned because we have a small office (only 5 employees), and one other woman is due just five weeks before me. However, I've worked here a lot longer and have a very good relationship with my boss, so I was happy at how genuinely happy he seemed to be for me. He hugged me and asked a bunch of questions, and then told me that he wouldn't ask me about my plans for after the baby is born, but that I should come talk to him about my plans when I'm ready.
I'm 10w4d today, and have my first OB appt tomorrow (I have a FET baby, so I've been going to the RE until now). I think I'll probably tell him after my NT scan and/or before I have to travel the first week of February, just in case....we are actually good friends and make the best of our weeks away, so for me to not be drinking while we're at our meeting will be very suspicious.
Re: Working Mamas - When are you telling your job/boss?
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
I plan to go back to work very soon after as i can bring my child into nursery with me so I'm hoping they will be abit more understanding.
This is my first pregnancy though so i have no idea what to expect.
Congratulations ladies! Good luck with work!
-a heart at peace gives life to the body-
i told my bosses about a week after my bfp, at around 5 weeks. my clinic has been my baby (up until now!) and my work is my second family so the idea of guarded secrecy never really occurred to me.
Baby #1 - DD 8/29/16
Baby #2 - EDD 4/6/18
Met: 2005 | Started Dating: 2009 | Married: 2013
Surprise Pregnancy #3; BFP: 01.11.2020; Due Date: September 19, 2021
But unexpectedly today, I realized how nice it was to be surrounded by nice people (I like my coworkers) who don't treat me like a pregnant lady. They just treat me as me; they don't fawn over me, treat me extra nice, or give me unwanted pregnancy advice. They don't feel obligated to make small talk about the baby's sex, due date, or whatever. And, I kinda like that.
I didn't realize how much I had been thinking about pregnancy and, conversely, how nice it was to think and talk about something else. It reminds me that yes, pregnancy is a big deal in my life, but I am still ME with interests outside pregnancy and friends who also have interests outside babies.
Now, I wish I could keep my work a sanctuary from all things pregnancy, just to help keep a balance in my life.
I will need to tell work eventually. But now, I think I will wait as long as I can. Thoughts?
-a heart at peace gives life to the body-
"Hi boss. Thanks for making time to meet. I have some exciting news. I'm pregnant!"
Seems totally awkward.
"Hi boss. Thanks for making time to meet. I have some exciting news. I'm pregnant!"
Seems totally awkward.
Also is it weird to bring up after I find out my raise? I mean it's pretty much saying hey thanks by the way I'm pregnant. Doesn't sound right. I'm nervous.
I felt it was easier to tell because then she could be a support whether I have a loss or carry to term. It is nice to know I can take time off I need to for appts or if I am sick. And I have that support for my emotional needs, too. She is a lot more patient with my memory glitches now that she knows there is a baby sucking up my brain cells! And, I am sure she will be understanding & compassionate in the case of a loss.
Funny thing, one of my guy coworkers is like a brother to both hubby and me. Naturally, he was a choice for at-work support/get to know early. He has been checking on me, making suggestions for my nausea/tiredness, and once even asked if my juice was pasteurized/made sure I was eating healthy (hard to cover for coworkers, did the "yeah, I know. Thanks for helping me try to stick to my healthy living lifestyle change" thing). He is that kinda sweet guy to his friends, so no weirdness there. He even covers for me if I need to step away from my desk, too, which is a perk of having a good coworker/friend that knows.
I am sure you will make a great decision for you!
Good luck!
But I just got a HUGE promotion and raise with a lot more responsibility. I went from managing a team of 14 to managing an entire warehouse of about 150 employees and managers. And I'm diabetic so I'm going to be at the doctor close to once a week. And one of my office staff just announced her pregnancy and we're due less than a week apart.
It's just horrible timing workwise but I still couldn't be more excited!
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016