When I first told my best friend I was pregnant, she offered to throw me a shower and asked if another of my good friends would help. That friend agreed and asked if another good friend would help. So I have three co-hostesses. My problem is that the shower is supposed to be January 9th and I know the last friend to be added to the co-host list hasn't been contacted by the others and the invites haven't gone out. Would it be inappropriate for me to ask questions about what's going on?
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Let them handle it. Your job is to show up, look pretty and stuff your face.
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There is no etiquette rule that says baby shower invites should be sent out 4 weeks in advance. Seriously. I have memorized every Miss Manners book.
I'm sure you could find a way to politely ask. I did just a couple days ago. Its the actual truth, but my excuse was to see if they had gone out yet because my grandmother (stepfather's mother) decided last minute to fly here for Christmas (don't know how long she is staying) but I thought it would be nice to give her an invite while she is in town even though I know she won't be here for it- so I wanted to see if she would send me an extra to hand to her.
And I wanted to be a little nosey- my cousin is still looking for a small venue to fit 30 guests at, so my invites haven't gone out yet.
Yes, I realize you said time and location and I still contend that I find it odd that you wouldn't tell the MTB the time of day. Location - whatever. If you want it to be a surprise, have at it. Most showers I've been to have been at someone's home so there really isn't much special about it. But if you usually do nice venues, then I can see how that might be a nice surprise. But if the MTB knows the day, why not just tell her the time too? why does she need to wait until the guests find out?
I'm not saying this to be a jerk. I really just don't understand what's special about making the time of day a surprise.
Sorry hun. Hopefully things will get sorted out and quick!
After I got home from school, he sort of jumped on me about it (like I have any control over it) and told me I needed to ask yet another person to help. He's already asked this person to help and I've already told her it's under control now. So I hope it really is under control.
Ugh. I'm sorry it's going down this way. Try not to feel too bummed, though. A shower isn't such a big deal. People close to you, including these friends, will still celebrate you becoming a mom when the baby is born.
I'd be very careful about trusting these friends in the future, though. It's pretty crummy to offer a shower, then not plan it, and not even have the nerve to face up and tell the MTB that it's not going to happen.
They may still think they're going to pull it off, though. If the friend is really as much of a procrastinator as you say, 3 weeks out may still seem "do-able" to her.