My baby girl was born November 2nd.
I know they say the babies should sleep on there own but it's so hard being a new mom again the second time around feels like the first ! Then she makes all kinds of noises even the smallest of squeaks I pop out my sleep to make sure she ok. We have a baby bed that you can put in the bed for the baby to sleep so you don't roll over the baby but trust me that's the least of our worries.
Its tough but we said when she makes a month we will put her in her bassinet. Luckily she sleeps through the night.
Re: Where does your newborn sleep ?
She snores and makes all sorts of noises that DD1 never made so I get very little sleep but I suspect it will ease up in a month or two.
Right now he's cluster feeding at night so I'm not really getting sleep then anyway. So I let DH sleep thru the night then he takes Zeke while I nap during the day. Idk what we will do when DH's paternity leave is up though
I coslept safely for more than 3 years with my daughter and will do the same with the little one if he's not a crib fan.
During the day I absorb all the newborn cuddles that I can. He goes in his swing when I need a break or to my mom while she's staying with us
And just a personal pet peeve, reading online isn't doing research. Unless you are reading national guidelines (the AAP is very clear that they strongly recommend against co-sleeping) or have access to medical journals, all you are doing is reading someone else's opinion.
Once again, please don't take my word for it. Look up the AAP recommendations on safe sleep and talk to your physician.
Our first coslept for 2.5 years and I'm kind of enjoying having my bed back so hopefully going to avoid cosleeping this time.
We all make our own choices with infant safely but before you go on the Internet and advise a stranger to do something that the vast majority of the medical community finds completely dangerous I would at least cite your source. Also, if "it can be done safely", how is that exactly? And how do you know it's safe? Have you found and actual study showing safety?
Here is the most recent Anerican Academy of Pediatrics statement on safe sleep. At the moment they are the most recognized authority on infant health in the United States. Hospital policies revolve around their policy statements and they are the legal standard that physicians are held to in a lawsuit. If your doctor told you that bed sharing is safe, I hope you got that in writing.
https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/early/2011/10/12/peds.2011-2284.full.pdf
Edited for spelling
Edited: for the hot mess I am this morn.
Also/ this was the share from George Taikei, a rather humorous commentary on the subject.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ItTnxuDjHPg
I've talked to professionals. I've done my research and at the end of the day I do what's best for my family.
Everything we do has risks. But flat out saying "it's not safe" ends up driving women to cosleep in unsafe ways.
I realize cosleeping works for many women and that's fine. It's just a personal preference for me and safer for my baby not to do it.
I realize that many people co-sleep and their kids are fine but there are also babies who aren't. If you are going to make the decision to co-sleep fine but if you are going to come on the Internet and say something can be done safely you have to realize that someone may read this and think that something is ok and then have a bad outcome. If you really think it's safe then post exactly how you are co-sleeping.
If you had come here and said that while co-sleeping has risk you have decided that this is what works best for your family and after discussing it with your pediatrician you are aware of the risks and doing what you can to minimize them then I would have left it alone because you are making a personal choice for your family. Instead, you came and said it can be done safely. Others may believe this and follow your lead without a pear understanding of the risks.
I realize I'm jaded because of what I do for a living but if you have ever worked a night shift in a pediatric ER than you have witnessed first hand a sleep accident and you understand the dread that comes with seeing an ambulance pull in at between 5-6 AM.
As to the comment above that not all physicians agree with the AAP. There isn't anything in this world that everyone agrees on, however, the AAP is the legal and ethical standard to which pediatrician are held. Their policy statements only come put after significant research. If your doctor disagrees with them the first question I would ask is what their qualifications and background are that would make them know more than the AAP.
Look up safe cosleeping practices and do what works best for your family. ♡
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Co-sleeping has risk. I have decided that this is what works best for my family and after discussing it with my pediatrician I are aware of the risks and doing what I can to minimize them. Once again, it's up to the parent ( or the preferred wording, a parents personal decision).
Good?
I get it, I do. Co-sleeping and the risks are scary which is why personally, I choose to never sleep in the bed with DD. On the couch I feel safer as I'm more propped up with a better set up so she can't fall off the edge at all and I can minimize blankets and pillows. I know this isn't the best but I am just not able to function in a nurturing, of sound mind manner off of 2 hours sleep at night.
So here's a thing about research. You can find any form of data to back anything you want. There's so many factors from whose funding said research to what the personal agenda of the researchers is that might skew how results are received or processed.
https://neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/
This article talks about some benefits of co sleeping (and ironically how couch co sharing is dangerous- again my decision).
https://cosleeping.nd.edu/articles-and-presentations/articles-and-essays/
This site has presentations,articles, journals ect all discussing the pros and cons of co sleeping. Some say it's okay, others say it's not.
Again. At the end of the day, to each their own.
My little one slept on his own for the first week and now after he wakes up for his first feeding he refuses to sleep on his own. Any tips?
None of the articles linked in those sites were studies, they were opinion articles. They also did not cite a single research study. While opinions articles are often used to justify actions, they aren't actual evidence. My other concern is that with the exception of the article in Pediatrics in Review, they were all authored by the same author and were not published in medical journals big instead in online publications. These do not have the same standards for acceptance of publications as medical journals. The only actual population based studies that I have ever read overwhelmingly caution against bed sharing.
Pediatric in Review is an excellent journal and the points made in that article were very valid. It stated that while bed sharing can't be recommended it also recognizes that many parents are going to do it anyway and recommends physicians discuss with parents ways to minimize risk. I can agree with that article. It's the same argument in teaching sex Ed vs abstinence only.
While it may seem nitpicky, my biggest concern with comments was the use of the word safe.
No no I totally agree and have researched extensively (we swaddle Dd) but I can't tell you how many nurses at my birth center say that swaddling is now not okay and a SIDs risks. I was using those as examples for how people say many many different things ( ie, pacifiers are okay and you should use them versus pacifiers cause nipple confusion and bad teeth alignment -don't use them). Unfortunately this morning I was eh on the composition front.
I appreciate you are an advocate of cosleeping but to claim it is 'safe' is by your own admission false as 'everything we do has risks'.