Okay, SUPER important postpartum question that is unrelated to how miserable the experience is going to be:
I have heard rumors that the hospital will let you bring wine with you for after you've delivered. Is this true?!
I would imagine it depends on the hospital. I have no idea if mine while. The hospital DHs cousin delivered at 6 weeks before me apparently gave them a farewell breakfast including champagne when she was discharged...mad jealous.
Um say what?! Definitely need to add that to my list of questions for our hospital tour... Can a girl get some eggs Benedict and a mimosa please?!
Don't ask. Just bring some in your bag. It's not like they check your bag. Besides, it's better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission.
My fiancé says that all the time... Last time was when he was about to pass out drunk, and decided to blow raspberries on my stomach to tickle the baby.
I have another: how long until you had the energy to leave the house? I'm seriously afraid of being cooped up for long periods of time while I recoop!
This! All of this! Although I don't ever want people to come to my house. Ever. I would like to feel up to leaving when the occasional whim strikes up!
I have another: how long until you had the energy to leave the house? I'm seriously afraid of being cooped up for long periods of time while I recoop!
I never stayed cooped up in my house. We left the hospital and immediately went over and had dinner at my sisters. I don't think I spent one day laying in bed (looking back on it, probably would have been a good idea for the first couple days). I had a 3rd degree tear so I was in a good amount of pain but it's my personality to be up and moving. I just like to feel normal again as soon as possible.
I have another: how long until you had the energy to leave the house? I'm seriously afraid of being cooped up for long periods of time while I recoop!
I think I went to the mall (without baby) with my friend for a few hours when DD was maybe a week old. I knew I was going back to work after 6 weeks so I made sure to go out without her for a few hours once or twice a week. It made the transition back to real life a little easier.
We didn't take DD anywhere public until she was three weeks old. Even then it was only to BBB or BRU. First super public place (aquarium) was the day before I went back to work.
Wow, I'm feeling really unprepared. So, if I labor in the hospital for 24+ hours or need to be induced, I can't eat that whole time? If this is the case, I will be hoarding snacks for every time the staff looks away. How can a body handle that much activity with no fuel?!?
That used to be the case. But now more studies are coming out saying women need to eat during labor.
I have another: how long until you had the energy to leave the house? I'm seriously afraid of being cooped up for long periods of time while I recoop!
We went to target on our way home from her 1 week old blood draw appointment. It was cold and flu season, but we needed diapers and DH was at work. I was tired, but not too tired to have to stay home.
We went out for a fro-yo date for about an hour while my mom was home with DD a few days after coming home. We took DD to a parenting class we were taking at 9 days old (her due date) and then to church at 2 weeks. I was up to it pretty quickly, but since DD was a little early we wanted to wait til after her due date to be around lots of people, and even then she stayed in her carrier with the cover closed (ours has a "peep hole" so people could see her without touching.
We went out for a fro-yo date for about an hour while my mom was home with DD a few days after coming home. We took DD to a parenting class we were taking at 9 days old (her due date) and then to church at 2 weeks. I was up to it pretty quickly, but since DD was a little early we wanted to wait til after her due date to be around lots of people, and even then she stayed in her carrier with the cover closed (ours has a "peep hole" so people could see her without touching.
Oh and if anyone is interesting, this is the link to the pattern for the car seat canopy. It was really nice to know no one was going to be able to touch anything but her toes easily for those first few weeks. Luckily it's at least after cold/flu season though! https://www.pinterest.com/pin/519180663266731228/
I went to target with the baby once I was cleared to drive 2 weeks post c section. We had other outings as well before that when my husband was home and could drive us.
With DS I was able to tie to my shoes, shave my own legs and wear heels until the day I gave birth.
Another fun one is your armpits, nipples and other areas will get darker. It will go back to normal but I remember DH comparing me to something on National Geographic.
With DS I was able to tie to my shoes, shave my own legs and wear heels until the day I gave birth.
Another fun one is your armpits, nipples and other areas will get darker. It will go back to normal but I remember DH comparing me to something on National Geographic.
I tried wearing boots with a 2" heel a few weeks ago and that shit is not happening again. Combat boots have ruined my ability to wear stilettos
Anyone who compares me to something out of National Geographic gets punched. This is my new rule. You are a better woman than I am.
Let me think... -I was planning a home birth but ended up with an emerg cs and my son spent 1 week in the nicu. I was not prepared. I barely had a hospital bag. I only packed enough for a day and barely any baby stuff (I was in denial that I may need to use it). - I stank for months. My pits would smell as soon as I got out of the shower. - I bled for 8 weeks - I received a lot of iv fluid so I was bloated beyond belief. I could only fit leggings over my calves and could only wear my single strap birks in the loosest hole. - the pain from the surgery was horrible and nothing could touch my incision. Pants wearing was a challenge. - I cried a lot. I had major birth trauma and broke out into tears as soon as I was alone. - despite everything it was still a very happy time. They are worth every second of trouble. - my 20 month old has been sleeping on me for the past 3 hours. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
While you guys are on the subject of shoes something I was never told is that after having a baby my feet will permanently be larger. Lots of $$$ down the drain on heels and flats I had pre-pregnancy. Not sure how many women here have also experienced this, but it's sad.
While you guys are on the subject of shoes something I was never told is that after having a baby my feet will permanently be larger. Lots of $$$ down the drain on heels and flats I had pre-pregnancy. Not sure how many women here have also experienced this, but it's sad.
Oh man, I asked my mom about this because I heard of it and she told me she ended up walking barefoot the last month of her pregnancy because she couldn't fit anything but that her shoe size did go back down luckily. I can NOT afford going up a shoe size, I already have HUGE feet and I cannot deal with this
Did you get maternity photos? If so, are you glad or do they just collect dust? If not, do you wish you had?
I'm not big on the traditional hands all over the belly photos, but DH and I have never actually had nice, professional pictures taken together and it might be nice to have an excuse to get some taken.
@AmadorRose I didn't do maternity pictures or fancy newborn pictures and I really regret it now. I thought they were were cheesy and too expensive so I skipped them, but the only pregnancy pictures I have now are selfies from HDBD from my last BMB. We decided to just buy the newborn pictures the hospital does, which were fine, but I do wish we splurged on nicer newborn pictures. I don't really have any pics of me & DS from those very first days and I regret it now.
Did you get maternity photos? If so, are you glad or do they just collect dust? If not, do you wish you had?
I'm not big on the traditional hands all over the belly photos, but DH and I have never actually had nice, professional pictures taken together and it might be nice to have an excuse to get some taken.
No and no.
We did buy photos from the professional photographer that took day 1 pics of DD. I had to fight DH on getting them but he is so glad he caved. We have two of them hanging in the house. I would suggest making sure you have anything you might want baby photographed wearing or with in your hospital bag. A friend of the family knit is a pumpkin cocoon set and I'm so glad I remembered it. Hands down my favorite picture of her
No maternity photos but yes newborn photos. I really don't like the typical maternity photos. I think something cute that just looks like a cute couple pic where you happen to be pregnant is adorable enough.
If you're not into the newborn photo thing look into lifestyle style photo shoots.
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
To be completely honest, I think traditional maternity photos are just plain weird. I have no desire to document myself at the most unflattering time of my life. Didn't have them with first, will not have them with this or any future ones. Nope nope nope.
Newborn photos are most adorable. We only got the hospital ones with DS, don't know what we'll do this time.
@AmadorRose I do hobby photography, mostly for family, so my SIL and I traded off the camera for maternity pictures. We have a few hung and I'm glad we did because I didn't take any until after I was in the bed at the hospital, so they're the last real picture I have where you can see my belly.
We did a professional first year package (newborn, 4, 8, and 12 mo) with DD with a photographer who sells digital copies (not prints). Most are family pictures because I wanted to be sure to actually be IN some. I'm so glad to have them and they are a major part of our stairway gallery.
I want to do them now, while my bump is still cute... I'm afraid if I wait til after Christmas I will look like a whale and hate everything about them. But newborn pictures are a must for us too... Have you looked at newborn session ideas??? Wth is up with wrapping your newborn up in a cloth, and suspending it precariously from a branch??? (I'll try to find a pic and post it in a minute)
We aren't big picture people but I don't want to look back and regret not having them done. I'm doing weekly photos of the pregnancy just because it'll be cute to scrapbook and journal each week, but the only maternity photo I've ever liked was my sister's with her fourth...and it had her other kids' hands touching her belly. It was only cute because I know them. I find myself gravitating toward snapshots of real life more than posed photos - the only problem with snapshots is that I'll probably never be in them, which happens to many mothers and they regret it.
We aren't big picture people but I don't want to look back and regret not having them done. I'm doing weekly photos of the pregnancy just because it'll be cute to scrapbook and journal each week, but the only maternity photo I've ever liked was my sister's with her fourth...and it had her other kids' hands touching her belly. It was only cute because I know them. I find myself gravitating toward snapshots of real life more than posed photos - the only problem with snapshots is that I'll probably never be in them, which happens to many mothers and they regret it.
I like pictures for a reason... Not as an all the time thing. However both myself and my fiancé are kinda AWish so I guess for us that time is really a whenever, as long as I have control over it. I just hung up 12 pictures of the two of us and turned it into a giant wall clock today...
I want to do them now, while my bump is still cute... I'm afraid if I wait til after Christmas I will look like a whale and hate everything about them. But newborn pictures are a must for us too... Have you looked at newborn session ideas??? Wth is up with wrapping your newborn up in a cloth, and suspending it precariously from a branch??? (I'll try to find a pic and post it in a minute)
Just so everyone knows - this is a composite shot (multiple digital images combined into one) and if your photographer actually tries to hang baby from a branch with no one holding them... RUN. Bad photographer! Here's how they do these:
I want to do them now, while my bump is still cute... I'm afraid if I wait til after Christmas I will look like a whale and hate everything about them. But newborn pictures are a must for us too... Have you looked at newborn session ideas??? Wth is up with wrapping your newborn up in a cloth, and suspending it precariously from a branch??? (I'll try to find a pic and post it in a minute)
They do multiple shots where the parents usually carry or hold the babies in safe positions and the photographer edits them out. No danger
I want to do them now, while my bump is still cute... I'm afraid if I wait til after Christmas I will look like a whale and hate everything about them. But newborn pictures are a must for us too... Have you looked at newborn session ideas??? Wth is up with wrapping your newborn up in a cloth, and suspending it precariously from a branch??? (I'll try to find a pic and post it in a minute)
Just so everyone knows - this is a composite shot (multiple digital images combined into one) and if your photographer actually tries to hang baby from a branch with no one holding them... RUN. Bad photographer! Here's how they do these:
Did not see your post, but this was exactly what I meant
@mrstrax and @elasticheart13 That's cool! It's good to know they aren't just having baby tied up on a tree! Lmfao. I should have figured they do something like that >.> I still think it's weird looking though... O.o
I want to do them now, while my bump is still cute... I'm afraid if I wait til after Christmas I will look like a whale and hate everything about them. But newborn pictures are a must for us too... Have you looked at newborn session ideas??? Wth is up with wrapping your newborn up in a cloth, and suspending it precariously from a branch??? (I'll try to find a pic and post it in a minute)
This is why we are having ours done on 12/13. I'll be 23 weeks and a cute little bump.
We didn't get maternity pictures done with my first pregnancy bc I had no interest getting professional pics of myself in that stage. No regrets here! Id rather get professional pics of my husband and I either pre or post pregnancy, not during.
We did get newborn pics done of my son when he was a week old and I love them! I definitely recommend getting them done. It goes by so quickly and they're only that little for such a short time it seems.
Don't break your budget, but I can't imagine regretting having photos taken of your LO. They are so little for such a short period. You don't need anything fussy or expensive, for me it was just about preserving the image of a special and fleeting time.
Re: FTM questions for STM
We didn't take DD anywhere public until she was three weeks old. Even then it was only to BBB or BRU. First super public place (aquarium) was the day before I went back to work.
Another fun one is your armpits, nipples and other areas will get darker. It will go back to normal but I remember DH comparing me to something on National Geographic.
Anyone who compares me to something out of National Geographic gets punched. This is my new rule. You are a better woman than I am.
Edit because my coffee hasn't kicked in yet.
-I was planning a home birth but ended up with an emerg cs and my son spent 1 week in the nicu. I was not prepared. I barely had a hospital bag. I only packed enough for a day and barely any baby stuff (I was in denial that I may need to use it).
- I stank for months. My pits would smell as soon as I got out of the shower.
- I bled for 8 weeks
- I received a lot of iv fluid so I was bloated beyond belief. I could only fit leggings over my calves and could only wear my single strap birks in the loosest hole.
- the pain from the surgery was horrible and nothing could touch my incision. Pants wearing was a challenge.
- I cried a lot. I had major birth trauma and broke out into tears as soon as I was alone.
- despite everything it was still a very happy time. They are worth every second of trouble.
- my 20 month old has been sleeping on me for the past 3 hours. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm not big on the traditional hands all over the belly photos, but DH and I have never actually had nice, professional pictures taken together and it might be nice to have an excuse to get some taken.
We did buy photos from the professional photographer that took day 1 pics of DD. I had to fight DH on getting them but he is so glad he caved. We have two of them hanging in the house. I would suggest making sure you have anything you might want baby photographed wearing or with in your hospital bag. A friend of the family knit is a pumpkin cocoon set and I'm so glad I remembered it. Hands down my favorite picture of her
If you're not into the newborn photo thing look into lifestyle style photo shoots.
Newborn photos are most adorable. We only got the hospital ones with DS, don't know what we'll do this time.
We aren't big picture people but I don't want to look back and regret not having them done. I'm doing weekly photos of the pregnancy just because it'll be cute to scrapbook and journal each week, but the only maternity photo I've ever liked was my sister's with her fourth...and it had her other kids' hands touching her belly. It was only cute because I know them. I find myself gravitating toward snapshots of real life more than posed photos - the only problem with snapshots is that I'll probably never be in them, which happens to many mothers and they regret it.
Did not see your post, but this was exactly what I meant
We did get newborn pics done of my son when he was a week old and I love them! I definitely recommend getting them done. It goes by so quickly and they're only that little for such a short time it seems.