I have two girls ages 4 and 3. My 4-year-old pushes my buttons to a point I lose my s*#!. I don't have as big of an issue with my 3 year old. And I fly off the handle to a point I scare myself. One big issue with have is her pooping her pants. She knows better. She makes sure she is out of my view or in her room during nap to poop. She will not go to the potty or alert me she needs to go. This ONLY happens at home! Never at school. It infuriates me and I can't keep my cool because this has been an on going issue. Her sister doesn't do it and she is younger. I scare myself when I react to her doing this. Just so we are clear, I do not harm her. I do get more aggressive but I've never hurt her. But, sometimes, I feel like I might. Does anyone have advice to help me from flying off the handle? Or to approach this differently? I try to step away before I react but she continues to push and push. Anyone have more issues with one child than another?