I have not told a single person Im pregnant.

on3in2015

I have not told a single person Im pregnant, not even my husband. Im 7 weeks pregnant today...

I jokingly told my husband once that I wasn't going to tell anyone even him when Im pregnant again till I get my first ultrasound. Our first daughter was stillborn, I have since had two children that where followed by 2 losses in a row in this last year. Even though I said it jokingly I can't find it in myself to say "Im pregnant" aloud. Im so scared of losing this baby too. 

I had my mother and father in law visiting earlier this week and my parents are visiting this week which is so difficult. Morning sickness has began in the last 3 days, getting worse with each day. I don't know how much longer I can pretend Im not sick and tired. I just can't tell anyone.

alileecam

I understand the fear of telling people just to have to go back and tell them it didn't work out. I told my family really early when I first got pregnant, and a few friends, only to turn around days later and have to tell them that I was miscarrying. When I was pregnant the second time, I waited and waited and waited. I couldn't even tell my husband until I'd taken tests several days in a row, and practically no one else knew until I was in my second trimester. 

I think it would help a lot if you tell your husband. Your husband experienced those losses with you, and you should give him a chance to support you this time through your (hopefully healthy) pregnancy. You don't have to run around telling everyone. But I think that you would feel better and have a lot of comfort if you share the news with him. Someone else mentioned the mantra "Today I'm Pregnant" here recently (sorry for not citing who/where it was said), and that is helping me. Today I am pregnant; I can't let myself be worried sick about loss even though sometimes it's hard to not be totally scared of it. 

I really hope everything works out for you. With two kids, you probably need even more than emotional support from your husband right now--if you tell him, you might get a break (or even a nap!) out of the deal. 

on3in2015

Thank you for the response. Im sorry for your loss. Ill have to start getting myself used to the idea of telling him. Ill try to plan something nice. I hope with all my heart this baby is nice and healthy. I really like that mantra as well. Sometimes it hard to live in the moment when your so far ahead of yourself. 

mrsb8244

First I want to say I'm so sorry for your losses. You will be in my thoughts and prayers that this baby is healthy and safe. I agree that telling DH might give you the support emotionally any physically that you need. Also, from a medical standpoint it would be good if he knows just in case something bad were to happen. Obviously I hope nothing bad happens but just in case. Good luck!

nekedfeet

I'm so sorry for your losses. This is doubtlessly hard and I completely understand- I went through a necessary termination at 14wks and it was awful. This time around it has been very hard to get excited and want to share, but I'm right there with you- soon it's going to become very hard to hide the fact that I really, really want to throw up half the time. My husband and best friend know, but im not really ready to share with most people. Your husband will understand your fear and help you, I'm sure. Best of luck!!

RNMegan0711

I'm so sorry for the losses that you have experienced and I completely understand being afraid to let yourself fully commit to the idea of being pregnant again, let alone letting anyone know and possibly have to face heartbreak again. With that being said, I agree with Pp's ^.. I think telling your husband would only help you. He's your one and only best friend and partner through life, I'm sure he will want to be standing by you through this. Good or bad. You both need each other. Thoughts and prayers for a happy and HEALTHY next nine months for you.

adiaz132003

I agree you should tell DH. He's there to be your rock. And I would think he would be a tad upset if he wasn't told. It's his child too and they want to be there for you during pregnancy to help with whatever you need, physically or emotionally.