DH = Not my favorite person right now.

Mrs.Froggianna

He is attempting to get Luke to sleep by CIO.  Without having read up on any strategies (i.e., Ferber) or having a plan (only let him CIO so long before trying something different).  So I get to sit in the living room and listen to him scream while DH attempts to get him down.

Thank GOD we've got a pedi appointment this afternoon so she can give us (read: him) some guidance on when it is age appropriate to CIO, and what we can do now that will work.  I love my DH, but sweet lord can he be stubborn!

joyco

huh.  I think it's a man thing.  Jay tries to let them CIO too and I just want to hit him and say, "HEY, you effing idiot, the kid is 4 months old, how would YOU like it if you needed something and the only person who can do that for you IGNORES you?"  Jerk.

Sorry your hubby is the same way.  Tell us what the pedi says though!  I have read that 6 months is the best time to start CIO, so I'm curious what your pedi says.

HnyBear

It can be a nightmare and a blessing at the same time.  DH wanted to do CIO when the pedi gave us the thumbs up at 4 months.  However, I just wasn't ready for that.  I was holding out until we hit 5 months (he was still getting up 4-5 times per night).  So, although it was a nightmare that he kept pushing for it, once it was time to put it in action, I'm so glad he was there.  The first night was really bad, but he stayed on patrol all night and let me sleep (with headphones on).  So, hang in there, eventually, you may be glad that he can stand the crying.     

mcurban

Mrs.Froggianna:

Thank GOD we've got a pedi appointment this afternoon so she can give us (read: him) some guidance on when it is age appropriate to CIO, and what we can do now that will work.  I love my DH, but sweet lord can he be stubborn!

Be careful with this. Many, many pedis will tell you that 4 mos is plenty old to CIO. Unless you already have talked to you pedi about this, DH might come out as the "winner." 

You know I'm Ferber's biggest fan, but I have to agree w/ you on this. You can't go into it randomly and it will just confuse Luke further if he's just letting him cry and then doing other things. 

Let me know if you want me to loan you our Ferber book so that DH and/or you can read it to see if it's something y'all want to try. 

bobcatsteph

Haha...I think the calling ahead is a good idea. I would definitely be upset about that situation too. I hope y'all are able to work together to come up with a solution that you're both happy with.

Happy 4 months to Luke!!

balihaigirl

Just noticed Luke is 4 mo today (same as Caroline)!  Yay, happy 4 months!  And I agree that 4 months seems too young to CIO.  I hope your pedi will agree with you on that.  I'm sorry!!!

Mrs.Froggianna

joyco:

I just want to hit him and say, "HEY, you effing idiot, the kid is 4 months old, how would YOU like it if you needed something and the only person who can do that for you IGNORES you?"  Jerk.

My thoughts exactly!!!

Thanks ladies.  I'm not opposed to trying a form of CIO, like Ferber, but I do think we need to know what we're doing before we try to do it!  We're both at our wits end trying to get him to sleep (esp. DH whose patience is about thatlong), but if the pedi suggests that DH is right--letting Luke CIO till he's hysterical is OK then we'll be looking for a new doc. 

Abrooks

I had that exact same fight at 4 months old.  DH was trying to figure it out but had as of yet to pick up any book on the matter.  Good luck.  I super puffy heart Ferber.  But - random, unplanned CIO at 4 months is not the best approach, Mr. Froggi.

Duckie07

That's gotta be tough.  Sorry you're having troubles in the sleep department.  Hopefully you'll find a solution soon.  ((hugs))

libbyann

Ooh, I'd punch him. DH know not to even mention CIO if he doesn't want to be knocked out. He politely lets me deal with getting him to sleep

Sorry you're having so many issues! Hopefully you can get some sleep help soon.

AmethystBride

I swear men latch onto one thing and then they just roll with it!  When Little Man was just a few weeks old, DH and his best buddy were constantly talking about "are you gonna let him cry it out?  Just let him cry it out."  Um, how 'bout NO? Finally I had had enough and gave them a verbal biitch slapping about how inappropriate CIO was at that age and they just needed to quit their rambling on about it because it was not happening. 

I'm sorry you have to hear your poor little guy cry like that.  Hopefully the pedi can give your DH some guidance.

**hugs**

mcgee

Today is just not a good day for husbands in general, I think. I could have written the same subject line for multiple reasons today.

abbysmom1005

Ughh! That sucks.  Yeah Ferber is one thing, but as PPs said random unplanned CIO is not ok at 4 months old. 

FeistyFille

Definitely a man thing...   DH has tried this too (while I tried not to cry) even though I kept telling him it was too early for that.   Ugh.  GL!

spideyswifey

mcgee:

Today is just not a good day for husbands in general, I think. I could have written the same subject line for multiple reasons today.

This.

Good luck! I think Mr.Luke will be a sleeping champ w/out CIO in no time!

FWIW, our pedi says NO to CIO until 6 months, at least. She also suggested Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child.

sundot

DH did the same thing about two weeks ago and I was completely out-of-sorts. I wanted to support DH because he is ds's father, too but I simply could not. When it was over I explained to DH that I thought it was cruel the way he did it (not the Ferber way) and DH said he understood my perspective--he didn't agree but he understood. Anyway, we are now doing Ferber, the two of us--on the same page. (I hope this helps in some way). Good Luck!!

daisybride1

Im a bit late on this thread, but hey whatev.  I just gotta plug the Ferber meth.  Awesome is all I can say.  We threw this into effect right when DD hit 6 months.  I highly recommend that whatever you do though, you and DH both need to be consistant with it. Thanks to Ferber, DD has slept through the night for 9 days straight.  I havent felt this rested since before I was pregnant.  Def.  do some research on your plan, and again, both of you MUST be on board for whatever method you go with.  Good luck!

Kristen0709

mcgee:

Today is just not a good day for husbands in general, I think. I could have written the same subject line for multiple reasons today.

This.

SaraLouiseBride08

Kristen0709:

mcgee:

Today is just not a good day for husbands in general, I think. I could have written the same subject line for multiple reasons today.

This.

Ditto.

Good luck, MrsFroggi!