Hi there. First, let me just say that I tried a search to see if I could find an answer to my question, but I'm not very proficient yet with this site, so I didn't find anything to my satisfaction. A lot of users jump on you for starting a discussion on an old topic, so I apologize if I'm doing that. I'm still getting a hang of these message boards. Second, my actual question: How have those who have chosen to formula feed from the start dealt with aggressive lactation consultants in the hospital after giving birth? I've heard some horror stories from friends who were positively bullied (even those who actually wanted to and tried to breastfeed had some appalling experiences), and now I'm paranoid about being berated and made to feel guilty during what will be a very special, happy but also vulnerable time in my life. When I was trying to decide between two OBs that I liked equally, I actually based my decision on their admitting privileges. The one I rejected had admitting privileges to a certified "family friendly" hospital that has no staffed nursery (baby stays overnight with Mom, even if she's post-op from a C-section, even if she's exhausted and begging for an hour to herself in order to recover her energy, etc., etc.), and which is extremely aggressive in pushing breast feeding. The hospital where I will be giving birth is not formally "family friendly," and it's the top neo-natal hospital in the state and one of the best in the country, but their website proudly touts the fact that they offer free lactation consultations to every new mother who delivers there, while offering barely a vague word about supporting formula feeding. I know this is pretty typical, given the current climate. I've scoured reviews to see what kind of support women who have chosen to formula feed have received at my hospital of choice, but all the reviews I've seen were written by breastfeeding mothers who lauded the hospital for their BF support. After numerous horror stories (lactation consultants who will not leave your room until they physically watch you attempt to breast feed, lactation consultant who literally grabbed a woman's breast without asking for permission and forced it to the baby's mouth - a prospect I find particularly horrifiying because I'm pathologically modest and hate to be touched by strangers, to the point where I can't even enjoy a massage - and lactation consultants who have left women in tears by their bullying tactics), I've become rather afraid of not being forceful enough in sticking up for myself. I've told my husband that I intend to pack a bottle of pepper spray to chase them out of my room, and he laughs because he thinks I'm kidding (I'm only sort-of kidding). Am I being too paranoid? Do you get the experience that you create by either advocating for yourself effectively or not? If the horror stories are not exaggerations, how did some of you ladies deal with the bullying and the judgment? Every time I try to do a Google search on this issue, all the results I get are lavish praise for lactation consultants, so not very helpful in dealing with those who might possibly overstep their bounds. Any advice is welcome, even if it's to tell me to calm down and not psych myself out over this. Thanks!