UO Thursday

LadySamLady

Let's hear those Unpopular Opinions ladies!

laurenmdrn16

In my line of work this is definitely an UO, but I honestly think that kids today need to build up more resiliency. All this coddling from parents, teachers, and yes, school nurses is just making a generation of people who just can't. I have over 50 visits a day from kids who have a paper cut or bumped their knee or their eye feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and I like my job, but I have so much case management, reporting to DPH and the state, care plans, safety protocols, updating health policies, meetings etc to do during the day along with medications and specialized nursing treatments. I can't believe that kids can't handle a paper cut so small I can barely see it. And then the parents get all up in arms if I don't call and discuss Suzie's belly ache for 30 min while I have a line of kids outside my office and am getting the "look" from my principal because kids are missing "learning time". 

So I say unto you, future parents, teach your kids to rub a little dirt in it, walk it off, and self-soothe. It is so sad to see kids who just can't deal with normal everyday life. 

yogahh

laurenmdrn16 said:

In my line of work this is definitely an UO, but I honestly think that kids today need to build up more resiliency. All this coddling from parents, teachers, and yes, school nurses is just making a generation of people who just can't. I have over 50 visits a day from kids who have a paper cut or bumped their knee or their eye feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and I like my job, but I have so much case management, reporting to DPH and the state, care plans, safety protocols, updating health policies, meetings etc to do during the day along with medications and specialized nursing treatments. I can't believe that kids can't handle a paper cut so small I can barely see it. And then the parents get all up in arms if I don't call and discuss Suzie's belly ache for 30 min while I have a line of kids outside my office and am getting the "look" from my principal because kids are missing "learning time". 

So I say unto you, future parents, teach your kids to rub a little dirt in it, walk it off, and self-soothe. It is so sad to see kids who just can't deal with normal everyday life. 

Love this, and agreed!! We are raising a bunch of whimps.

nsouplynn

I don't understand the whole getting married legally first, then the couple acts like they are still engaged while planning for a wedding later. Wouldn't that be perceived as fake? 

angelrx4

nsouplynn said:

I don't understand the whole getting married legally first, then the couple acts like they are still engaged while planning for a wedding later. Wouldn't that be perceived as fake? 

I was in a wedding last year where a month before the wedding I noticed my friend was wearing her wedding band.  I asked her about it.  She whipped out her phone to show me her wedding pictures.  They got married a week before.  I'm sorry, but I was good enough to be in your wedding and spend a crap ton of money but then you have a top secret ceremony and don't even tell me about it?

angelrx4

I also agree that we are raising a bunch of wimps.  If MIL is around and DD trips, falls, etc, MIL runs over and sweeps her up.  When DD falls, I ask her if she's okay.  If she's crying or has a visible bruise/wound I will help her.  Otherwise I tell her to jump up and shake it off. 

wsgjmw1

I got my hair dyed this week. After feeling fat and gross for a month I have no regrets getting my hair done. Every woman has to do what works for them, and after all I have given up, I am not going to stop dying my hair. IMO it is not a big deal . . . Happy thursday!

swflJD

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

angelrx4

I don't like scary Halloween stuff.  Halloween parties, cute trick or treaters, great.  Haunted hay rides, mazes etc. with people trying give me a heart attack or pee my pants?  No thanks.

jessiedee13

wsgjmw1 said:

I got my hair dyed this week. After feeling fat and gross for a month I have no regrets getting my hair done. Every woman has to do what works for them, and after all I have given up, I am not going to stop dying my hair. IMO it is not a big deal . . . Happy thursday!

I'd just like to say I'm jealous! The smell of hair salons in general makes me so nauseous while I'm pregnant I can't even go get my hair cut, much less colored!

LadySamLady

laurenmdrn16 said:

In my line of work this is definitely an UO, but I honestly think that kids today need to build up more resiliency. All this coddling from parents, teachers, and yes, school nurses is just making a generation of people who just can't. I have over 50 visits a day from kids who have a paper cut or bumped their knee or their eye feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and I like my job, but I have so much case management, reporting to DPH and the state, care plans, safety protocols, updating health policies, meetings etc to do during the day along with medications and specialized nursing treatments. I can't believe that kids can't handle a paper cut so small I can barely see it. And then the parents get all up in arms if I don't call and discuss Suzie's belly ache for 30 min while I have a line of kids outside my office and am getting the "look" from my principal because kids are missing "learning time". 

So I say unto you, future parents, teach your kids to rub a little dirt in it, walk it off, and self-soothe. It is so sad to see kids who just can't deal with normal everyday life. 

Pip pip! I'm with you.

I love this blog post: https://patch.com/california/alameda/bp--please-dont-help-my-kids

Quote: "It is not my job — and it is certainly not yours — to prevent my children from feeling frustration, fear, or discomfort. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn that those things are not the end of the world, and can be overcome or used to their advantage."

Bluejay3030

laurenmdrn16 said:

In my line of work this is definitely an UO, but I honestly think that kids today need to build up more resiliency. All this coddling from parents, teachers, and yes, school nurses is just making a generation of people who just can't. I have over 50 visits a day from kids who have a paper cut or bumped their knee or their eye feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and I like my job, but I have so much case management, reporting to DPH and the state, care plans, safety protocols, updating health policies, meetings etc to do during the day along with medications and specialized nursing treatments. I can't believe that kids can't handle a paper cut so small I can barely see it. And then the parents get all up in arms if I don't call and discuss Suzie's belly ache for 30 min while I have a line of kids outside my office and am getting the "look" from my principal because kids are missing "learning time". 

So I say unto you, future parents, teach your kids to rub a little dirt in it, walk it off, and self-soothe. It is so sad to see kids who just can't deal with normal everyday life. 

I agree with this! I taught my almost 2 year old daughter to come get a kiss on minor injuries to make them better... But now she comes to me asking for a kiss for EVERY bump, even when we both know she's fine. I often wonder if this is setting her up to be a wimp or if it's ok since she's not even 2. Parenting is hard, guys!!!

sarawifenow

Ok...so I effing hate pizza. Like I literally cannot stand it. It is one of H's favorite foods so I try to give in but I just hate it!

TheThornBird

laurenmdrn16 said:

In my line of work this is definitely an UO, but I honestly think that kids today need to build up more resiliency. All this coddling from parents, teachers, and yes, school nurses is just making a generation of people who just can't. I have over 50 visits a day from kids who have a paper cut or bumped their knee or their eye feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and I like my job, but I have so much case management, reporting to DPH and the state, care plans, safety protocols, updating health policies, meetings etc to do during the day along with medications and specialized nursing treatments. I can't believe that kids can't handle a paper cut so small I can barely see it. And then the parents get all up in arms if I don't call and discuss Suzie's belly ache for 30 min while I have a line of kids outside my office and am getting the "look" from my principal because kids are missing "learning time". 

So I say unto you, future parents, teach your kids to rub a little dirt in it, walk it off, and self-soothe. It is so sad to see kids who just can't deal with normal everyday life. 

Along those lines, the whole "Everyone gets a trophy/sticker/A+" movement drives me nuts. I've worked in animal behavior for many, many years, and while I am absolutely positive reinforcement-based, reinforcing EVERYTHING leads to kids that have no resiliency. Once they grow up and are in the real world, they will A. Do the bare minimum (since that always worked in the past!) and B. Give up the first time they fail. You think a potential employer or spouse is going to be interested in that? Heck no. 

Failure and disappointment are a part of life. Teach your kids to learn from it, move past it, and not base everything they do off of the need for an external reward. 

Jesse835235

laurenmdrn16 said:

In my line of work this is definitely an UO, but I honestly think that kids today need to build up more resiliency. All this coddling from parents, teachers, and yes, school nurses is just making a generation of people who just can't. I have over 50 visits a day from kids who have a paper cut or bumped their knee or their eye feels weird. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and I like my job, but I have so much case management, reporting to DPH and the state, care plans, safety protocols, updating health policies, meetings etc to do during the day along with medications and specialized nursing treatments. I can't believe that kids can't handle a paper cut so small I can barely see it. And then the parents get all up in arms if I don't call and discuss Suzie's belly ache for 30 min while I have a line of kids outside my office and am getting the "look" from my principal because kids are missing "learning time". 

So I say unto you, future parents, teach your kids to rub a little dirt in it, walk it off, and self-soothe. It is so sad to see kids who just can't deal with normal everyday life. 

Amen sista!  I wish I could hit love it more than once.  Every time my niece comes over, she asks for a band aid for a scratch or something silly.  I just tell her that she doesn't need a band aid for that.  Truthfully, I'm pretty sure we don't even have any at our house.

I think the constant fawning over kids' minor injuries just teaches them that they should be dramatic for the attention.  Maybe the next generation will have thicker skin because we're all fed up with the constant coddling and participant ribbon mentality.

beenabee

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

I used to think the same thing till me and my SO, soon to be DH, were constantly posting the same things and announcements then having to check multiple different posts to see people's responses. For example when we got engaged we both posted about it but it would be easier to just have it on one shared account, same thing with announcing we're expecting. We're going to be announcing soon and don't want to both post about it when we mainly have the same friends so why not create a page for the both of us to post and update family/friends together. Just a thought

missnc77

BrunetteBabe722 said:

   

I used to think the same thing till me and my SO, soon to be DH, were constantly posting the same things and announcements then having to check multiple different posts to see people's responses. For example when we got engaged we both posted about it but it would be easier to just have it on one shared account, same thing with announcing we're expecting. We're going to be announcing soon and don't want to both post about it when we mainly have the same friends so why not create a page for the both of us to post and update family/friends together. Just a thought

So, let one person post and tag the other, then the same post shows up on both facebook pages and captures all the likes and comments. You can be individuals but still share similar news.

jessiedee13

sarawifenow said:

Ok...so I effing hate pizza. Like I literally cannot stand it. It is one of H's favorite foods so I try to give in but I just hate it!

I get looked at like a crazy person when I say this to people! Just...bleck. not my thing. I eat because it's easy and most of the bday party parents around here just have pizza but my limit is one tiny piece! I'm just not a fan either. Glad to see I'm not alone!

yogahh

jessiedee13 said:

sarawifenow said:

Ok...so I effing hate pizza. Like I literally cannot stand it. It is one of H's favorite foods so I try to give in but I just hate it!

I get looked at like a crazy person when I say this to people! Just...bleck. not my thing. I eat because it's easy and most of the bday party parents around here just have pizza but my limit is one tiny piece! I'm just not a fan either. Glad to see I'm not alone!

I'm having pizza for lunch. And for dinner tomorrow (Friday night tradition). Not sure how I would live without it!!

LadySamLady

I really don't like sushi. I don't like the taste of seaweed or the texture of raw fish. I just can't hang.

beenabee

missnc77 said:

BrunetteBabe722 said:

   

I used to think the same thing till me and my SO, soon to be DH, were constantly posting the same things and announcements then having to check multiple different posts to see people's responses. For example when we got engaged we both posted about it but it would be easier to just have it on one shared account, same thing with announcing we're expecting. We're going to be announcing soon and don't want to both post about it when we mainly have the same friends so why not create a page for the both of us to post and update family/friends together. Just a thought

So, let one person post and tag the other, then the same post shows up on both facebook pages and captures all the likes and comments. You can be individuals but still share similar news.


And having a shared account doesn't make you any less of an individual than people who have seperate accounts. What's the point of both having accounts that we barely use except to post news which is always the same. We'd rather post it on one account

missnc77

@BrunetteBabe722 Hey, you do you. I just wanted to let you know there's an easy way for two people to have individual facebook accounts but have the exact same shared post to both pages.

lest12

I don't think people over a certain age (or generation, maybe?) should have facebook.  As in, my grandmother, my MIL, my aunts, uncles, etc.  They've made it really boring and I don't think they get the social etiquette that comes along with social media.

 

vinerie

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

I will add to this UO by offering my own in saying that I give digital side-eye to people who make their profile pictures them and their SO. It is YOUR FB page. Your own picture should be the profile pic. Put pictures of your SO up on your page, but the profile pic should be you! 

Jesse835235

vinerie said:

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

I will add to this UO by offering my own in saying that I give digital side-eye to people who make their profile pictures them and their SO. It is YOUR FB page. Your own picture should be the profile pic. Put pictures of your SO up on your page, but the profile pic should be you! 

That doesn't bother me much as long as the profile owner is actually in the profile pic.  Which leads me to my UO -- I find it annoying when people ONLY have their profile pictures of their kid.  They're not in the picture, just their kid.  I vow never to do that! :P

Knottie75019262

I can't stand all the acronyms around here.

BuzzBee614

I vent about my problems with DH to my best friend. It doesn't change the way she thinks about him and stops me from murdering him.

Almost every article about marriage says never to talk about problems with your friends but seriously if I did that I'd kill my husband. Talk therapy works so much better for me and actually makes issues less bad between us.

BabyBliss2012

sarawifenow said:

Ok...so I effing hate pizza. Like I literally cannot stand it. It is one of H's favorite foods so I try to give in but I just hate it!

Do you always hate it? Or just now cause you're pregnant?? I think this is the craziest thing I've ever heard!! I never heard anyone say they hate pizza. Haha

BabyBliss2012

@BrunetteBabe722 I think it's super cute to have a joint account!

tgortney

I hate baby showers, going and probably for myself. It's so awkward. You get a whole group of people together, who probably don't all know each other, and expect them mingle and make small talk. While eating crappy snack foods (frozen fruit, cheese and crackers etc :-W ) then you open gifts right in front of them... Then we all go home. Not exactly how I want to spend a weekend afternoon...

mrsjlopez12

My UO is about personal space. When I'm in line at a public place ex: post office. The person behind me better be at minimum two -five feet away from me. Today in line a lady was like half a step from me. I wanted to say girl back up! I can't breathe. I also don't like hugging new people and barely do my family and in laws. I enjoy my personal space!

Also I love pizza it's life! I don't care for baby showers all that much. I like seeing cute themes but the food is always crap! MH hates the co Ed ones in his family. I have helped host. He says you end up spending a ton of money helping and then I have to go and it's a bunch of dry sandwiches and nasty finger foods. My first SIL's was like that anyway. My second SIL is having hers at the end of the month and of course I offered to help. She is having tamales and other yummy food so hopefully MH will be happier. It's also CO ED. If I have another one it will be about the food. Come Hungry leave happy!

beff12

Jesse835235 said:

vinerie said:

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

I will add to this UO by offering my own in saying that I give digital side-eye to people who make their profile pictures them and their SO. It is YOUR FB page. Your own picture should be the profile pic. Put pictures of your SO up on your page, but the profile pic should be you! 



That doesn't bother me much as long as the profile owner is actually in the profile pic.  Which leads me to my UO -- I find it annoying when people ONLY have their profile pictures of their kid.  They're not in the picture, just their kid.  I vow never to do that! :P


Eeek I always thought I'd never put up a pic of just my kid as my profile pic, and then DD had the cutest pic from her first birthday and I couldn't help it!

kami09

Jesse835235 said:

vinerie said:

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

I will add to this UO by offering my own in saying that I give digital side-eye to people who make their profile pictures them and their SO. It is YOUR FB page. Your own picture should be the profile pic. Put pictures of your SO up on your page, but the profile pic should be you! 



That doesn't bother me much as long as the profile owner is actually in the profile pic.  Which leads me to my UO -- I find it annoying when people ONLY have their profile pictures of their kid.  They're not in the picture, just their kid.  I vow never to do that! :P

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YES about the joint accounts. Ew. I want to direct message you, but is your husband going to read it first?!

I will do pics of DH and I if I look awesome. I'm not a huge picture taker so I really don't have one of just me anyways.

& I did the pic of my baby without me in it...I felt so fat and my baby is adorable!!!

Edit: I have no idea what happened here. I apologize. Lol

mrszoess

I hate that baby showers are only for women. it's his baby too! we are having a coed one (I just haven't told him yet) because I think it's nice to have everyone together.

yogahh

vinerie said:

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!          

I will add to this UO by offering my own in saying that I give digital side-eye to people who make their profile pictures them and their SO. It is YOUR FB page. Your own picture should be the profile pic. Put pictures of your SO up on your page, but the profile pic should be you! 

Mehhh mine is of us. It's my fav wedding pic. I know a girl that keeps making her profile pic wedding pics.. Of herself. Which I think is odder as I e get to see a pic of them together from their wedding.

thismakes4

Parents need to stop making their kids wimpy.
Pizza is amazing.
I don't have a facebook but I really wouldn't care who did, who shared, or who was in the picture if I did have one.
I prefer coed baby showers and if you're putting one on you should really have good food... It's really not that hard to have some decent food.

My UO is people shouldn't have so many animals unless they are farmers or seriously treat them like they are a part of the family. I can't stand seeing untrained dogs in a person's yard and never with the owner.

doozer1345

I really hate when people call the police to parent their children. We get calls from people asking for officers to come over bc their (as young as 7 yo) child won't go to school, are smarting off, won't give them their phone. WTF?! IMO this has fed the fear for police starting at young ages. Even before this job I would have never thought to call police to parent my child. We get a crazy amount of these kind of calls.

m6agua

From the way this is going my UO would be I like baby showers. I've been to co-Ed ones along with normal ones. I've been to one with lots of games and ones that are more about visiting. I co-hosted my BFFs this past June, she was involved in the planning and pitched in (she likes things her way). The food is always amazing at the ones I've been to and I know a good amount of the people. I have a lot of aunts (my mom has 9 sisters) and cousins.

mrszoess

doozer1345 said:

I really hate when people call the police to parent their children. We get calls from people asking for officers to come over bc their (as young as 7 yo) child won't go to school, are smarting off, won't give them their phone. WTF?! IMO this has fed the fear for police starting at young ages. Even before this job I would have never thought to call police to parent my child. We get a crazy amount of these kind of calls.

I work for CPS and we get calls like this from the SCHOOLS. certain administrators are worse than others lol

doozer1345

swflJD said:

My UO: shared Facebook accounts are pathetic!  WTF!?  Are these people so co-dependent upon their SO that they can't have their own digitally separate identities?  Or can they not trust their SO?  I mean, are you really so paranoid that your SO is going to look up a random ex from high school or college and start an online affair with him/her?  If so, maybe you should reconsider your entire relationship. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I I find it so annoying when an old fried randomly pops up as JaneandJack Lastname.  I know Jane, but I don't know Jack, so I don't want to see Jack's stupid posts my news feed!   

I moderate a wives page for my husbands job and have some wives who can't participate bc they refuse to get their own FB. Mostly the excuses are bc they're afraid of infidelity either on their part or their DH's part... I mean that's acceptable in your marriage?? To me that's a huge red flag of a problem.     

dshannah

My UO: I want to smack anyone who touches my belly and talks to my kid. My sister in law did it yesterday and omg I wanted to punch her! I am still really irate about it. I laughed it off and let her finish her convo with my belly, but every time I think back on it I get so freaking mad!!


A slightly more unpopular opinion:

There is nothing wrong with being fat. You can be fat and healthy, fat and beautiful, fat and smart, fat and amazingly disciplined. So why are we all obsessed with weight gain and not other, real markers of health or beauty or self worth? Here and on other boards and in real life I keep seeing this shit about people (including pregnant women!) being so deathly afraid of gaining weight that they can't enjoy life or feel comfortable in their own skin or enjoy being pregnant and that is so freaking sad and also infuriating.